Pregnancy Client FAQ

Home   I am Pregnant   Pregnancy Client FAQ

Frequently Asked Questions

How can you help me?

Our caring, compassionate staff will give you accurate information on all your options so you can make the best decision for you and your child. We can also help you with pregnancy related expenses, consistent counseling and support throughout your pregnancy, and wonderful families from which to choose should you decide to make an adoption plan. Our services are free to birth families, and we will come to you, wherever you are, in Colorado.

If you do not live in Colorado we can help you find support services in your area, relocate you to Colorado, counsel with you by phone, and assist you should you want to make an adoption plan with one of our approved families.

Do I have to be firm in my adoption decision before talking with a counselor at Hope’s Promise?

No. Our job is to give you accurate information about all of your options and help you examine each option in light of your situation. We are here to help you sort out your feelings and make a plan that is right for you.

Do I have to pay for your services?

No. All services to pregnancy clients are free.

Is there someone I can talk to? Will you come to me?

Yes!  You are welcome to schedule an appointment at one of our offices, but it is not required. We can also meet you at a place convenient for you. Please call 303-660-0277 to speak with a pregnancy counselor and schedule a free appointment. Trained counselors are on call 24 hours a day to serve you. If you prefer to contact us by email, click here. Please be aware that email inquiries will be responded to during normal business hours so if it is an after-hours emergency please contact us by telephone.

What if I decide to parent?

There are no obligations. We want to help you make an intentional choice about your future and your child’s future. We understand adoption is not right for everyone, but it is right for some. We hope the counseling and decision making process will help you become a better parent than if you had not honestly looked at all of your available options. If you choose to parent, we can help find community resources to help you.

What is adoption?

Adoption is the legal transfer of rights and responsibilities from the birth parents to another individual or couple who is willing to assume them. It is a permanent decision. It is a good choice, in many situations, for all parties involved.

What is an adoption plan?

An adoption plan is a loving, selfless parenting plan that some birth families make when they do not feel prepared to parent at this time in their life. It is a loving choice with which both you and your child can live. It helps ensure your child has the safe and stable home you want for them.

What is open adoption?

Open adoption is an adoption where full identifying information has been shared between the birth family and adoptive families (last names, addresses and telephone numbers). The parties have personal contact with one another before the baby is born, and they have the option to continue with personal contact after the child is placed with the adoptive family. Open adoption varies from one case to another based on the degree of openness the birth and adoptive parents want to share.

Do you do open adoptions?

Yes, most of our domestic placements are open. The degree of openness, however, is mutually agreed upon between the birth and adoptive families.

What is semi-open adoption?

Semi-open adoption means that full identifying information has not been shared, and that ongoing contact between the birth and adoptive families will be done through a third party, such as a licensed adoption agency. Birth families can still select an adoptive family, but may request that identifying information not be shared.

What is closed adoption?

Closed adoption means that full identifying information is not shared between the birth and adoptive families, and they do not plan to meet or have any further contact with one another.

Can I choose what kind of adoption I want to have?

Yes. Open, semi-open, and closed adoptions are all options in Colorado. This is a personal decision.

What if I don’t live in Colorado, can I still work with Hope’s Promise?

Yes you can. We can help you relocate to Colorado for the duration of your pregnancy and the delivery of your child. We can assist with travel arrangements, housing, and finding medical care, in addition to the counseling and support services provided by our agency. If you want to remain in your state of residence, you can select one of our waiting adoptive families (profiles are available on this web site). We can counsel with you by phone and email, and help you find services in your state to assist with the adoptive placement.

Can I choose an adoptive family?

Yes. We believe it is an important part in making a good plan for you and your child. We have wonderful, qualified families from which to choose. You can see some of these waiting families on this web site. If you have selected an adoptive family, we can help you complete a designated adoption by providing the state required services for you and your designated adoptive family.

When can I choose a family?

We recommend that you choose a family when you are ready. One of our pregnancy counselors can help you with this.

How do I select an adoptive family?

This is a great question! We think it’s best to discuss this with your Hope’s Promise counselor. She knows you, and she knows the adoptive families in our waiting pool. You may wish to consider whether or not you want them to live in Colorado or out of state (or if it even matters), the degree of openness you want, whether or not you want your child to have other siblings, and the lifestyle you want for your child. Perhaps religious and educational values are important to you. We have profiles of wonderful families from which to choose. After selecting a family from their profile, we will schedule a match meeting, if you choose. You can meet them and decide if they are right for you.

How do you screen adoptive families?

We take this responsibility very seriously and communicate that to each family that applies to Hope’s Promise to adopt a child. We complete a Homestudy on each family. That means we compile a detailed, confidential file on the family which includes references, employer verification, financial information, criminal records checks, family background information, and other documents that help us determine whether or not they are able to provide a safe and stable home for a child. We also conduct extensive personal interviews (about 10 hours over five meetings), and we visit their home. We also provide each family with a minimum of 16 hours of adoption education.

Do I have to sign a contract to work with Hope’s Promise?

No. In fact, we do not believe it is ethical for any agency to ask you to sign a contract to work with them. We are here to serve you and help you make a good decision for you and your child.

Do I need a lawyer?

No, in most cases you do not. Colorado is an “agency state”. That means that any person who wants to make an adoption plan for their child or any person or couple that wants to adopt a child must go through a licensed child placement agency like Hope’s Promise. We will complete all legal steps necessary for your adoption. We believe this makes it easier for you since you will be working with your counselor. However, in the event unusual or adversarial legal issues arise with your case, we do have an excellent agency attorney.

I haven’t told my family that I’m pregnant, will you help me talk to them?

Of course. We know this can be a very scary time. We will work with you to determine the best way to tell your family about your pregnancy.

Do my parents have to know?

Legally they do not. However, if you are under 18 years of age, some Colorado judges require that your parent or legal guardian be advised and consent to your adoption plan. Please call us if you have more specific questions. If you are over 18 years of age, your parents do not need to know. We are not required to notify them, and we will keep your case completely confidential.

What rights do grandparents have?

In the state of Colorado, grandparents have no rights if you make a voluntary adoption plan for a newborn baby.

Can I see my baby after he or she is born?

Absolutely! Whether or not you see and/or hold your baby in the hospital is completely up to you. We will work with the hospital staff to ensure that your wishes regarding your hospital stay are met.

What services do you provide after my child is placed for adoption?

We are here for you as long as you need us. We provide on-going counseling, referrals, and overall support to you and your family for as long as you need us.

I think my parents may struggle with my adoption decision, can you help them?

Yes we can. We offer counseling services to all members of the pregnancy client’s family (including your parents). The counseling is free, and we will come to them (in Colorado). We understand that many grandparents struggle and grieve, both for you and their grandchild. This is not the way most parents plan to become grandparents. Their issues may be different than yours. We can counsel with them independently, or with you, whatever your family prefers.

Do I have to tell the birth father?

To make an adoption plan, the birth father must be notified that you believe he is the father of your child and that you are making an adoption plan for this child. However, if you do not wish to have contact with him, your counselor can notify him on your behalf. We have no obligation to notify his parents, wife (if he is married), or any other family member. We will work very closely with you to make this notification process as easy and safe as possible. We know this may sometimes present concerns. Our laws have been established to protect all parties. Please call so we can better answer your individual questions.

What if I’m not sure who the birth father is, can I still make an adoption plan?

Yes, and this is more common than you might think.

I don’t have medical insurance, can you help me?

Yes. If you do not have medical insurance through your parents or your employer, we can help you submit a Medicaid application. If you are not eligible for Medicaid, and if you make an adoption plan, your medical expenses can be paid by the adoptive parents.

Can you help me with financial assistance?

Yes. In Colorado, we can help with pregnancy related expenses. Please be sure to bring this up with your counselor.

If you have questions we have not addressed, please give us a call at 303-660-0277. We look forward to visiting with you.