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In this brief video, Dr. Karyn Purvis explains what sensory processing is and why an understanding of it is vital for parents of children from early childhood trauma. Please [accept marketing cookies](javascript:Cookiebot.renew()) to watch this video. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Dr. Karyn Purvis, empowered to connect, sensory processing --- ### [Through the eyes of a caseworker](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/through-the-eyes-of-a-caseworker/) **Published:** June 1, 2026 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Content:** ## *On what it means to walk beside a child through the hardest chapter of their life* May 2026 One thing every [Hope’s Promise](http://www.hopespromise.com) caseworker will tell you, without hesitation: the children they serve are the bravest people they have ever known. Those children didn’t choose any of this. They didn’t choose to leave their home, their school, their neighborhood, the smell of their own kitchen in the morning. They didn’t choose the circumstances that brought them into foster care. And yet every single day, they get up and they keep going. They adapt. They trust again, even when trust has hurt them. That kind of courage takes a caseworker’s breath away. Their role — the role of every Hope’s Promise caseworker — is simply to make sure those children don’t have to do any of it alone. > *“A child in foster care is already carrying the heaviest thing imaginable. Our job is not to add to that weight. It’s to walk beside them so that they can carry it a little more easily.” -Hope’s Promise caseworker* What that looks like in practice is different every single day. Some days it’s sitting in a courtroom and making sure a child’s voice is represented. Some days it’s helping a foster family understand the trauma behind a behavior that looks like defiance but is really a child asking: *are you going to leave me too?* Some days it’s sitting with a birth parent who loves their child with everything they have and is fighting — really fighting — to find their way back to them. Hope’s Promise calls it family time when children visit with their biological parents. And it is exactly that — time that belongs to the family, sacred and important, a thread of continuity in a life that has been disrupted. Caseworkers show up for those moments not to supervise from a distance but to be present, to support everyone in the room, to help keep that connection alive. Because children need to know their story didn’t start in foster care. They had a life before. They have people who love them. And that matters. There is something worth naming honestly this Foster Care Awareness Month — not to make caseworkers the center of the story, because they are never the center of the story — but because it shapes how they show up for the children they serve. When a child is reunified with their family, it is a beautiful thing. It is what every caseworker worked toward. It is the right ending. And there is a particular kind of tenderness that comes with watching a child walk back into their parent’s arms after months of hard work by everyone involved — the child most of all. In that moment, the caseworker steps back. Quietly. As they should. When a placement changes suddenly — which sometimes happens overnight, without warning — a child experiences that disruption acutely and deeply. That is always the primary concern. And in those same moments, a caseworker feels it too. The weight of a relationship that didn’t get a proper goodbye. That is named not to compare it to what the child experiences — there is no comparison — but because honesty about what caseworkers carry is part of understanding why they keep showing up. > *“We are bonded to these children and families in a way that is hard to describe to anyone who hasn’t lived it. Not because of what we give — but because of what the children let us see.” -Hope’s Promise caseworker* Children let caseworkers see them at their most vulnerable. They let them into the private interior of their family. They trust them with the hardest parts of their story. That is not something a caseworker takes lightly. Ever. ## What a caseworker carries — always in service of the child - **The child’s whole story** Their history, their triggers, their favorite things, their fears — held carefully so every decision is made with the full picture of who this child is. - **Three relationships at once** Child, foster family, and birth family — each needing presence, each deserving dignity, all held simultaneously without losing sight of the child at the center. - **The transitions** Reunifications, placements, case closings — each one a new chapter for a child. A caseworker works to make those transitions as safe and supported as possible, then steps aside. ## The ongoing hope Even when outcomes are hard, a caseworker carries hope forward — to the next child, the next family, the next chance to make sure someone doesn’t have to face this alone. Consider a little boy named Adam. He’s been through more than any child should face. And after months in Hope’s Promise’s program, he told his caseworker that he wants to work for Hope’s Promise someday. Because, he said, he doesn’t ever want a kid to feel alone. That is what this work is for. Not for the caseworker. For him. For every child who comes through Hope’s Promise’s doors carrying a weight they never asked to carry — and who, with the right people walking beside them, begins to believe that they are worth fighting for. That their future is still wide open. That they are not alone. Hope’s Promise caseworkers are extraordinary people. Not because their role is harder than the child’s — it isn’t, and it never could be. But because they choose, day after day, to enter into the hardest moments of a child’s life and stay. To absorb the uncertainty, the heartbreak, the abrupt endings, and still show up the next day ready to do it again. For the next child. With the same whole heart. *To every Hope’s Promise caseworker – thank you for making sure our children are never alone. You are, in every sense of the word, our superheroes.* This Foster Care Awareness Month, Hope’s Promise invites everyone to see the full picture: the children who endure the unimaginable with breathtaking resilience, and the caseworkers who walk beside them with everything they have. Together, that is what Hope’s Promise looks like in practice. That is the promise kept, every single day. *Written in honor of the children we serve — the bravest people in the room — and the caseworkers who refuse to let them walk alone.* *Foster Care Awareness Month, May 2026.* Learn more about our Foster Care Program **[HERE](http://www.hopespromise.com/foster-care/)**. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/02d6feecc545f12d7593514f4ee58d845de8f3d0b7c73b87ec834bc8e1dc3d27?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Stephanie Krug [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/stephanie/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/stephanie/) **Categories:** Blog, Uncategorized --- ### [The boy who never wants a kid to feel alone](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/the-boy-who-never-wants-a-kid-to-feel-alone/) **Published:** May 7, 2026 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Content:** *Adam’s story — and a promise kept* Last week, during family time with his siblings and his biological dad, something shifted in a little boy named Adam, a child navigating the foster care system. The Hope’s Promise caseworker was there, as she had been at every visit, walking alongside the whole family with consistent foster care support. But what happened after that visit is the part that will stay with you. Adam pulled his Hope’s Promise caseworker aside. He told her something he’d been thinking about. He wanted to work for Hope’s Promise. His caseworker, the kind of person who makes every child feel like the most important person in the room, didn’t smile politely and move on. She sat down with Adam, and together, in his own words and in his own handwriting, they built something remarkable. They built a résumé. **Adam’s actual résumé — written in his own handwriting**: ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Blog-entry-event-pictures-16.jpg "Blog entry event pictures (16) | Hope's Promise")When his caseworker asked why he wanted to work for Hope’s Promise, Adam answered without missing a beat: *“Because I’m a foster kid and I don’t ever want a kid to feel alone.”* In one sentence, this child said everything. He has lived it. He knows the weight of walking into a new house carrying a bag of belongings. He knows what it feels like when someone doesn’t show up — and he knows, because of his Hope’s Promise caseworker, what it feels like when someone does. He wasn’t just applying for a job. He was telling us: *what you did for me matters. I want to do it for someone else.* That is the entire mission of Hope’s Promise, spoken aloud by a child who lived it. A boy who listed “babysitting,” “mechanic,” and “finding stuff” as his qualifications, and whose most important qualification, the one that doesn’t fit on any line, is a heart that refuses to let another child feel invisible. **Adam is now an official honorary Hope’s Promise staff member**, because the most important person on our team is a little boy with a big dream and an even bigger heart. Stories like Adam’s are at the heart of foster care. They reflect why consistent support, stable relationships, and compassionate caseworkers matter for children navigating the system. At Hope’s Promise, our mission is to ensure that every child in foster care feels seen, supported, and never alone. In honor of Adam, and every child who has ever needed someone to show up, *we show up.* That is the promise. That has always been the promise. Happy Foster Care Awareness Month. Go find your Adam. And when you do, help him write his résumé. \**Names and identifying details have been changed to protect the privacy of children in our care. Adam’s résumé is the original, created by him with love and* with purpose. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/02d6feecc545f12d7593514f4ee58d845de8f3d0b7c73b87ec834bc8e1dc3d27?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Stephanie Krug [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/stephanie/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/stephanie/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Foster Care --- ### [2019 Adoption Tax Credit FAQs](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/2019-adoption-tax-credit-faqs/) **Published:** May 27, 2020 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** NCFA has been a strong advocate of the Adoption Tax Credit (ATC) since its inception, because it is a fiscally responsible way to help more American families who want to provide a permanent, loving home to children in the U.S. and around the world. **Content:** *By National Council for Adoption* NCFA has been a strong advocate of the Adoption Tax Credit (ATC) since its inception, because it is a fiscally responsible way to help more American families who want to provide a permanent, loving home to children in the U.S. and around the world. In fact, [we continue to advocate for the ATC to become refundable again](http://adoptioncouncil.org/publications/2020/01/adoption-advocate-no-139), so that more families can be helped. We are not tax experts, but fortunately, you don’t need to be one to understand the basics of this credit, which thousands of families claim every year. We’ve put together a list of FAQs to help you get started and provide an update on some of the numbers from our 2019 [Adoption Advocate](http://adoptioncouncil.org/publications/2019/06/adoption-advocate-no-132) which provides a more in-depth look at the ATC. *1. How does the Adoption Tax Credit work?* The Adoption Tax Credit covers taxpayers’ tax liability up to the maximum amount of the credit (for 2019 is $14,080. For most families, The Adoption Tax Credit increases their refund because they generally get their withholding back and child tax credit becomes additional child tax credit once their tax liability has been covered. *2. What Are Qualifying Adoption Expenses?* Qualified expenses are any expenses necessary for the adoption. For example, court fees, agency fees, attorney fees, travel, meals, paperwork expenses, and any other expense that is required. The only expense that does not qualify are birth mother expenses. *3. Are temporary foster care expenses prior to finalizing adoption considered Qualified Adoption Expenses (e.g. childcare, clothing, furnishings, lodging, food, etc.)?* No. *4. How is the adoption tax credit related to individual tax withholdings?* Some taxpayers adjust their withholding on their W-4 when they know they have the Adoption Tax Credit to cover their tax liability. *5. If a child was adopted through the state and though the parents did not have any expenses, the child does receive adoption subsidy and is considered special needs. Do the parents qualify for the adoption tax credit?* Yes, if a child is declared special needs according to that state’s criteria they will qualify for the full amount of the credit with no expenses necessary. *6. If my income was too high the first year, but is below the cut off limit for this year, can I carry forward the credit from the first year or prior years?* If adoptive parents’ income is too high the year the adoption was finalized, they are disqualified from taking the Adoption Tax Credit altogether. In cases where adoptive parents are eligible to claim it the first year, then the remainder can be carried forward up to five years. *7. When can adoptive parents claim the Adoption Tax Credit?* It depends on the type of adoption. Foster care and intercountry adoptions must be final before you are able to claim the Adoption Tax Credit. For example, in order to claim the credit on your 2019 taxes, the adoption must have been finalized on or before December 31, 2019. An adoption finalized in 2020, would be claimed when filing 2020 taxes. Domestic adoptions can either take the credit when the adoptions are final or the tax year following expenses being paid. *8. Do families who experience an [adoption disruption still qualify for the adoption tax](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/adoption-tax-credit-2026/) credit?* You can claim the Adoption Tax Credit for domestic adoptions that have failed or are not final. However, whatever credit you receive will go against your next successful one. *9. What is the income eligibility criteria for the adoption tax credit?* The income phase-out ranges for 2019 are $211,160 – $251,160. As long as the taxpayer’s Modified Adjusted Gross Income is under $211,160 they are eligible, if they meet all of the other criteria. For more information, please visit the IRS’s website: --- ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption --- ### [Kenya Connection Trip 2025](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/hopespromise-kenya-connection-trip-2025/) **Published:** April 1, 2026 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Content:** ## Where the *Broken* Is Made Beautiful by Emma Jamieson | Hope’s Promise Kenya Connection Trip Eight days in Nairobi, a journal of orphan care, radical welcome, and a faith that cannot be contained. Every year, Hope’s Promise sends teams to Kenya to walk alongside children, families, and local leaders transforming Mathare Valley, one of Nairobi’s largest and most densely populated communities. This is the story of our 2025 Connection Trip, eight days that changed us forever. Day 1 — Arrival ## Welcomed Into the Open Arms of Kenya We arrived to the open arms of the Karau family, the heart behind Hope’s Promise Kenya, and stepped into Sanctuary of Hope, where they have raised 24 children who are now young adults ages 18 to 25. No orientation session could have prepared us for what genuine welcome feels like in this culture. Kenya’s hospitality and culture come alive in every moment, from warm handshakes with new and old friends to the welcoming smiles of locals guiding us through vibrant markets. Each day ended in the peaceful comfort of Little Sisters Hostel, where our team rested and recharged. Traveling through Kenya is an experience defined by generosity, community, and unforgettable human connection. What can one simple smile or one kind word do? What might it look like for all of us to carry this kind of welcome, one that points us to the God who generously welcomes us all. ✦ ✦ ✦ Day 2 — Mathare Valley ## Walking the Ground That Statistics Cannot Describe The numbers about Mathare Valley, roughly 600,000 people living within six square miles, cannot capture what it smells like, what it sounds like, or what it does to your chest when you witness it firsthand. You cannot understand Mathare from a distance. You have to walk it. Our 13 year old guide took us by the hand and led us through the crowded, winding paths, past local vendors, lines of hanging laundry, and the patchwork of metal homes that stretch as far as the eye can see. In the middle of it all, we stepped into a small church, lifted our hands, and sang together. This is the context of Hope’s Promise Kenya’s orphan care work. It is not a set of statistics, but a living, breathing, and resilient community that refuses to be defined by hardship. ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/image-1.png "image | Hope's Promise")✦ ✦ ✦ Day 3 — Kuza Camp Begins ## Shining Like Embers in the Ash Someone had warned us the night before that you cannot truly understand life in Mathare until you have spent the night there. We had only walked its streets, yet we already felt the weight of it. Still, that morning, children whose lives are rooted in Mathare made their way to school for the first day of Kuza Camp, arriving full of joy. They led us in worship, singing with a depth that felt like the voice of the soul. They held our hands as if we were long lost family. Their eyes carried a light that was impossible to forget as they shared about what they love, their passions, and their dreams. These Kuza children come from difficult circumstances, yet like Adam and Eve, they are filled with the very breath of God, full of dignity, purpose, and life. This is the vision that drives **Hope’s Promise** orphan care: to see and honor the extraordinary, vibrant spirit dwelling in every child, beneath whatever surface hardship they carry. ✦ ✦ ✦ Day 4 — Kuza Camp, Day Two ## God Is Good. God Is Faithful. God Is Generous. Bwana asifiwe. Praise the Lord. You hear these words constantly in Kenya, at the end of every story and at the beginning of every day, and they never sound hollow. These are people who may have little by the world’s standards, yet they overflow with gratitude for all that God has done. For three days, we sang the same worship songs, repeating each line again and again. The Lord is on the throne. I surrender. Somehow, these words did not lose their meaning. Instead, they grew deeper with every repetition. Connection trips like this one exist not only for the children served by **Hope’s Promise Kenya** teams, but also for those who come to learn. They invite us to slow down and experience truths we may have been rushing past for years. ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/image-2.png "image | Hope's Promise")✦ ✦ ✦ Day 5 — Home Visits ## Is Your Heart Big Enough? We visited a sixty year old grandmother whose daughter had left her children in her care. Each day, she walks down from the slum and goes door to door asking for any kind of work, sometimes returning with a few precious shillings and sometimes with nothing at all. Her home is a single room with a bed, a table, and a sofa, leaving almost no space to stand. She saves every shilling. She pays the rent. Nothing more. But her grandson is bright-eyed and in school. He loves math, English, and art. And she will tell you without hesitation: her God is big enough. This is the face of **orphan care in Kenya**, not an institution, but a grandmother whose heart refuses to let a child fall. And it is the network of support that **Hope’s Promise** helps build around families just like hers that makes the difference between a child who thrives and one who doesn’t. ✦ ✦ ✦ Day 6 — Kuza Camp, Day Four ## Standing in the Gap Together American and Kenyan. Black and white. Rich and poor. Young and old. These distinctions were present every day of our **Kenya connection trip**, and they mattered. Yet they did not divide us. The Kuza staff welcomed us with open arms into a world that was not our own. They carry these children with pride and deep care, and what a gift those children are. Change happens one child at a time, one person at a time, one act of love at a time. This is how the world is renewed. This is the heart of Hope’s Promise. It is not simply a program, but a community of people, men and women who bring their own stories, challenges, and passions to the steady and faithful work of caring for the vulnerable. ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/image.png "image | Hope's Promise")✦ ✦ ✦ Day 7 — Talent Show Day ## To See and Name the Image of God The final day of camp was talent show day, and it became something more than entertainment. It became an expression of honor. Every child who stepped onto the stage was celebrated for their dance, their handmade bracelet, or simply their bright smile. Every staff member was thanked by name, out loud, in front of the entire community. Gifts were given and received. Words were spoken that may stay with these children for the rest of their lives. It is such a simple thing, a breath, a clap of the hands, yet it carries profound meaning. To call out the dignity in another person. To say, I see you. You matter. Honor is both simple and profound. It begins with a word, a small action, and the willingness to recognize the value in someone else. ✦ ✦ ✦ Day 8 — Last Day in Kenya ## The Broken Is Made Beautiful There is Lisa, a young woman who grew up in Mathare and now lives independently while running her own business. There is Mathare Worship Center, a small church that has become a home for orphans, single mothers, leaders, and believers who are quietly transforming their community from within. And there is our team, a small group of Americans who traveled across the world and found family. We came expecting to give, yet were overwhelmed by how much we received. Hope’s Promise Kenya Connection Trips are not charity tours. They are meaningful encounters. They are invitations into a story much larger than ourselves, a story of lives being restored, of communities being strengthened, and of hope taking root. Through Christ, with Christ, and in Christ. What is broken is made beautiful. ### Join a Kenya Connection Trip Walk the streets of Mathare. Sing with Kuza kids. Stand in the gap. Learn how you can be part of Hope’s Promise orphan care work in Kenya by clicking [here.](https://www.hopespromise.com/global-orphan-care/trips/) ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/02d6feecc545f12d7593514f4ee58d845de8f3d0b7c73b87ec834bc8e1dc3d27?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Stephanie Krug [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/stephanie/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/stephanie/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Hope's Promise, Kenya, Orphan Care --- ### [What You Need to Know About the Adoption Tax Credit in 2026](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/adoption-tax-credit-2026/) **Published:** February 17, 2026 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Content:** Source: [National Council for Adoption](https://adoptioncouncil.org/) Adopting a child is one of the most profound decisions a family can make — and it’s no secret that the process can come with significant costs. The good news? The federal Adoption Tax Credit (ATC) exists specifically to help families like yours navigate those expenses, and for 2026, it’s more valuable than ever. Whether you’re just beginning to explore adoption or you’re in the final stages of finalizing your placement, understanding the ATC can make a real difference in your financial planning. Here’s what you need to know. --- ## What Is the Adoption Tax Credit? The Adoption Tax Credit is a federal tax benefit that helps offset the out-of-pocket costs of adopting a child. Unlike a tax deduction — which simply reduces your taxable income — a tax credit is subtracted directly from what you owe the IRS. That makes it far more powerful, dollar for dollar. The credit is adjusted for inflation each year, and it’s now permanent law, meaning it isn’t scheduled to expire. That said, “permanent” doesn’t mean untouchable — future legislation could still change it — so it’s wise to take full advantage of it while it’s available in its current, generous form. --- ## How Much Is the Credit Worth? The maximum credit amounts for recent years are: - **2026** (filed in 2027): **$17,670 per child** - **2025** (filed in 2026): **$17,280 per child** - **2024** (filed in 2025): **$16,810 per child** - **2023**: $15,950 | **2022**: $14,890 | **2021**: $14,440 The credit is calculated *per child*, which is great news for families adopting more than one child in the same year — you may be eligible to claim the credit for each child separately. --- ## Big News: The Credit Is Now Partially Refundable As of July 2025, the Adoption Tax Credit became partially refundable — a significant development for many families. Previously, if your federal tax liability was less than the full credit amount, you simply lost the difference. Now, if your tax liability falls short of the full credit, you can receive up to an **additional $5,000 back** for adoptions finalized in 2025, and up to **$5,120** for adoptions finalized in 2026. This means more families — especially those with lower tax liabilities — can actually benefit from the full value of the credit. --- ## Do You Qualify? Income plays a role in eligibility. For 2026, here’s how it breaks down based on your Modified Adjusted Gross Income (MAGI): - **Below $265,080**: Full credit available - **$265,081 – $305,079**: Partial credit available - **Above $305,080**: Credit is not available For 2025, the thresholds are slightly lower: full credit below $259,190, partial credit up to $299,189, and no credit above $299,190. --- ## What Expenses Qualify? Almost any expense that is necessary and reasonable for completing an adoption can qualify, including: - Court and attorney fees - Agency fees - Home study costs - Travel and meals during the adoption process - Dossier preparation - Re-adoption expenses for internationally adopted children One notable exception: birth mother expenses generally do not qualify. Also worth noting — families who adopt a child with **special needs** through the state foster care system may qualify for the **full credit amount even with zero qualifying expenses**, as long as the child is declared special needs under their state’s criteria. --- ## When Can You Claim It? The timing depends on the type of adoption: - **Foster care and intercountry adoptions** must be finalized before you can claim the credit. - **Domestic adoptions** offer a bit more flexibility — you can claim the credit either after finalization or in the tax year following the payment of qualifying expenses. If you’re adopting through an agency like **[Hope’s Promise](http://www.hopespromise.com)**, your social worker can help you track expenses and documentation throughout the process so you’re well-prepared come tax time. --- ## Hope’s Promise: A Partner for Your Entire Adoption Journey If you’re considering adoption in Colorado — whether domestic, international, or through foster care — **[Hope’s Promise](http://www.hopespromise.com)** is a trusted partner with more than 35 years of experience. Our services span the full adoption journey — from your initial consultation and home study to post-placement support. We also offer **free options counseling** for women and men facing unintended pregnancies, and our orphan care programs support vulnerable children in Kenya, Vietnam, Nepal, Zimbabwe, and beyond. For families pursuing adoption, Hope’s Promise will help ensure you have the documentation you need — home study, receipts for qualifying expenses, and final judgement of adoption — to successfully claim the Adoption Tax Credit. --- ## What Paperwork Do You Need to Claim the Credit? When it comes time to file, be sure you have: - **All adoptions**: Final Judgement of Adoption - **Foster care adoptions**: Subsidy Agreement declaring the child to have special needs per your state’s criteria - **Domestic and intercountry adoptions**: Home study and receipts for all qualifying expenses --- ## A Few Other Things to Keep in Mind **Carry-forward rules**: If your tax liability is lower than the total credit in year one, you can carry the unused portion forward for up to five years — but only if you were eligible to claim it in the first place. If your income was too high to claim the credit in the year the adoption was finalized, you cannot carry it forward. **Second-chance adoptions**: If you’re adopting a child who was previously adopted by another family (who already claimed the ATC for that child), you can still claim the credit — just be prepared for the IRS to request additional documentation. **Disrupted adoptions**: If a domestic adoption falls through, you may still be able to claim expenses — though any credit received will be subtracted from what you can claim in a subsequent successful adoption. --- ## Ready to Take the Next Step? The Adoption Tax Credit is one of the most meaningful financial tools available to adoptive families, and when paired with the right agency support, your path to growing your family becomes a little more manageable. If you’re in Colorado and ready to begin your journey, **[Hope’s Promise](http://www.hopespromise.com)** is here to walk alongside you — every step of the way. Visit [hopespromise.com](https://www.hopespromise.com/) to learn more or register for an upcoming information meeting. --- *This blog post is for informational purposes only and is not intended as tax or legal advice. Please consult a qualified tax professional for guidance specific to your situation.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/02d6feecc545f12d7593514f4ee58d845de8f3d0b7c73b87ec834bc8e1dc3d27?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Stephanie Krug [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/stephanie/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/stephanie/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption Tax Credit --- ### [Almost Home: Reflections from Vietnam](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/almost-home-reflections-from-vietnam/) **Published:** October 20, 2025 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Content:** by Penny Taylor ## Finding Purpose in the In-Between I’m sitting in the airport terminal, waiting for our final flight home from Vietnam, and I’ve found myself captivated by the art of people-watching. Around me, travelers have settled into their own rhythms—some buried in books or typing away on laptops, others scrolling mindlessly through their phones or browsing overpriced souvenirs in the gift shops. There’s something oddly comforting about this liminal space where everyone processes their journey differently. No one way is better than another; it’s simply fascinating to observe how we each choose to spend these in-between moments. After a week of profound experiences, I find myself ready to simply be—to disengage and let my mind rest. We’re almost home. ## A Week That Changed Our Perspective This past week transported us from the comfortable predictability of our American routines into something entirely different. We stepped into a world where a remarkable community of pastors, social workers, and families have built their entire lives around one central purpose: serving Christ with every resource they have. Their generosity isn’t the kind you see once in a while—it’s woven into the fabric of their daily existence. These families pour out their time, energy, and material resources without reservation, investing deeply in the communities surrounding them. Their days are filled with purpose: walking alongside people in addiction recovery, studying Scripture with diligence to preach with power, practicing instruments for hours to lead worship with excellence, and perhaps most movingly, caring for the most vulnerable among them—orphaned children from remote Hmong communities nestled in the mountains of Northern Vietnam. ## The Mirror of Comparison Throughout our journey, a common theme emerged in our team’s conversations. Again and again, someone would express amazement—even bewilderment—at the level of commitment these Vietnamese families demonstrate. And inevitably, that observation would turn inward, becoming a mirror reflecting our own lives back home. By comparison, many of us felt our American lifestyles seemed lackluster, even comfortable to the point of complacency. It’s a sobering realization: we have one life to live, one chance to make our days count, and the way we choose to spend our time carries eternal significance. These aren’t just philosophical musings—they’re truths that confronted us daily as we witnessed radical, joyful obedience lived out in real time. ## The Tension of Going Home Now, as I sit here waiting to board, I can feel a renewed passion stirring in each of us. We’re returning home with a desire to live more intentionally, to align our calendars and our choices with what truly matters. The question is: will it last? I know myself well enough to recognize my natural tendency. Within days—maybe even hours—of returning home, the gravitational pull of my old routines will begin tugging at me. The comfortable patterns, the easy distractions, the “normal” life I left behind will be waiting, ready to absorb me back into its rhythm as if I never left. But here’s the perspective shift I can’t shake: as Christians, we are almost “home” in the truest sense. Our time on this earth is limited, a brief chapter in the context of eternity. This reality should fundamentally shape how we spend our days. ## Living in Light of Eternity The families we met in Vietnam seem to grasp this truth in a way that has transformed their everyday lives. They understand that loving God and loving others isn’t just a Sunday morning activity—it’s the purpose that drives every decision, every sacrifice, every moment of service. When we truly internalize that we’re sojourners here, that our real home awaits us in eternity, it reframes everything. Suddenly, the temporary comforts and distractions that consume so much of our attention seem less important. The opinions of others, the pursuit of more possessions, the endless scroll through social media—these things fade in significance when held up against the eternal weight of how we love God and serve others. ## The Challenge Ahead So here’s my prayer—for myself and for everyone on this journey: May we spend our limited time well. May we love others with the same unreserved generosity we witnessed this week. May we not let the fire of inspiration cool as we settle back into our routines. The Christians in Vietnam have shown us what radical obedience looks like, not in extraordinary moments, but in the faithful, daily grind of following Jesus. They’ve challenged us to ask ourselves: What would my life look like if I truly believed my time here is short? How would I spend my days differently if I lived with eternity in view? These aren’t easy questions, and the answers will require real sacrifice. But as we prepare to board this final flight, I’m convinced of one thing: we’re not meant to stay the same. This week was meant to change us, to recalibrate our hearts toward what matters most. We’re almost home to our houses, our beds, our routines. But more importantly, we’re almost Home to eternity. May we live like we believe it. --- ### Scripture Reflection **Matthew 22:37-39** *“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.”* **1 Peter 4:10-11** *“Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms. If anyone speaks, they should do so as one who speaks the very words of God. If anyone serves, they should do so with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever. Amen.”* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/02d6feecc545f12d7593514f4ee58d845de8f3d0b7c73b87ec834bc8e1dc3d27?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Stephanie Krug [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/stephanie/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/stephanie/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Hope's Promise, Orphan Care, Orphans, Vietnam --- ### [A Sacred Encounter at Home of Hope 5](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/sacred-encounter-home-of-hope-hanoi/) **Published:** October 11, 2025 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Content:** by Penny Taylor The streets of Hanoi pulsed with their characteristic energy as our team navigated through the maze of businesses and the constant stream of motorcycles weaving between pedestrians. Our destination was a humble home tucked away in this bustling neighborhood—the residence of Thien and Hoa, the devoted parents who lead Home of Hope 5 in the [Hope’s Promise](http://www.hopespromise.com) Vietnam Orphan Care Program. ## A Warm Vietnamese Welcome From the moment we arrived, Hoa’s hospitality enveloped us. Her warm smile lit up her face as she quickly guided our group through the house to a gathering space in the back. True to Vietnamese tradition, she brought out beautifully arranged trays of fresh fruit and poured steaming coffee from a thermos—simple gestures that spoke volumes about her servant’s heart. The atmosphere shifted as the children began leading us in worship, their small hands skillfully playing instruments with a joy that seemed to transcend their circumstances. In that moment, music became a universal language connecting all of us in the room. ## Hearts Open, Stories Shared As we settled in, Thien and Hoa began opening their hearts to us. They shared the story of God’s unmistakable calling on their lives—a calling to open their home and hearts to children who had nowhere else to go. With evident love, they spoke about each of their six children: two biological and four adopted. Each child has their own story, their own personality, their own place in this carefully woven family tapestry. They also talked about their active ministry at their local church and painted an honest picture of daily life—the beautiful moments of breakthrough and connection, balanced against the very real challenges that come with raising six children, especially those who have experienced trauma and loss. ## When the Room Quiets After some time, most of our team left to work on a project with the children, their laughter and chatter fading as they moved to another part of the house. Beth and I remained behind with Thien and Hoa. Sometimes the most meaningful connections happen in smaller, quieter spaces where vulnerability feels safer. We asked a simple but important question: “How can we be praying for your family?” ## The Weight She Carries What followed was deeply moving. Hoa began to speak—at length, in Vietnamese—without pausing for translation. We sat there, watching her face, trying to understand through expression what words couldn’t yet tell us. First, she spoke about the weariness that had settled into her bones. Two of the children require extra attention—struggling with both schoolwork and behavioral challenges that demand constant patience, creativity, and energy. Any parent knows this exhaustion, but for Hoa, it was compounded by what she shared next. As she continued speaking, her eyes began to glisten with unshed tears. The pain etched on her face was palpable, and those of us who couldn’t understand Vietnamese felt the agonizing tension of knowing something deeply significant was being shared, yet not knowing what. We waited, holding space for her grief. ## A Diagnosis, A Fear, A Faith When Jennifer finally translated, the weight of Hoa’s words landed heavily on our hearts: Hoa had recently been diagnosed with Lupus. But in a testament to her character, Hoa’s first concern wasn’t for herself. Her worry centered entirely on her children. What would happen to them if her health declined? Would she have enough time to raise them to independence? Could she see them through to adulthood, equipped and ready for life on their own? When we asked how we could best support her during this challenging season, her answer was immediate and simple: “Prayer.” ## The Ministry of Presence and Prayer Before we left that back room, we had the profound honor of praying with Thien and Hoa. We laid hands on them and lifted their burdens before the throne of grace. In the grand scheme of things, it might not seem like much—just words spoken in faith, tears shed in solidarity, hands held in unity. But prayer is never “just” anything. When we truly connect with the Heavenly Father and bring His children’s needs before Him, we’re participating in something eternal. We’re offering what might seem like a small cup of cold water, but to weary travelers on a long journey, that refreshment can mean everything. Prayer is the lifeline. Prayer is the anchor. Prayer changes things—if not circumstances, then hearts. If not the timeline, then the strength to endure it. ## A Word for the Journey As I reflect on our time with Thien and Hoa, I’m reminded of Paul’s words from his prison cell, words that seem to speak directly to Hoa’s situation: > *“For I know that through your prayers and God’s provision of the Spirit of Jesus Christ what has happened to me will turn out for my deliverance. I eagerly expect and hope that I will in no way be ashamed, but will have sufficient courage so that now as always Christ will be exalted in my body, whether by life or by death.”* > — Philippians 1:19-20 Paul understood what Hoa is learning: that our circumstances—even the difficult ones, even the frightening diagnoses, even the uncertain futures—can become platforms for Christ to be exalted. Through prayers and God’s provision, deliverance comes. Perhaps not always in the form we expect, but always in the form we need. --- **Join us in praying for Thien and Hoa:** - For wisdom and strength as they parent six beautiful children - For healing and management of Hoa’s Lupus diagnosis - For the children who struggle academically and behaviorally, that they would experience breakthroughs - That Christ would be exalted in their home, whether in healing or in perseverance - For daily grace, moment by moment, as they walk this journey of faith Sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is pray. Will you join us? ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/02d6feecc545f12d7593514f4ee58d845de8f3d0b7c73b87ec834bc8e1dc3d27?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Stephanie Krug [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/stephanie/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/stephanie/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Connection Trip, Hope's Promise, Orphan Care, Orphans, Vietnam --- ### [My Life-Changing Mission Trip to Zimbabwe: A Call to Advocacy for Orphaned Children](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/zimbabwe-mission-trip-orphan-care-advocacy-hope-promise/) **Published:** August 27, 2025 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Content:** *A firsthand account of Hope’s Promise Orphan Care Ministries’ Connection Trip and why every child’s story matters* by Maddie Pringle ## Introduction: Why I Went to Zimbabwe In May 2025, I embarked on a journey that would forever change my perspective on global orphan care. As part of a team from Hope’s Promise Orphan Care Ministries (HP), I traveled to Zimbabwe on what the organization calls a “connection trip” – a mission designed to help participants understand the global orphan crisis firsthand. Hope’s Promise exists to strengthen families through ethical, Christ-centered foster care, adoption, and global orphan care. Their core belief is simple yet profound: every child matters to God, and change begins with one child at a time. Rather than removing children from their home countries, HP focuses on placing orphaned children with relatives or trusted caregivers within their own communities, honoring God’s design for family as the safest environment for children to grow and thrive. ## The Reality of Global Orphan Care: What I Witnessed in Zimbabwe ### Confronting Poverty and Injustice Reading about poverty in statistics and news articles is vastly different from walking among it. The air, the faces, the weariness mixed with hope – these experiences become part of you. Zimbabwe, under corrupt leadership and crushing poverty, presents a reality where many people aren’t dreaming of a better future – they’re simply surviving each day. As someone who has always been patriotic and believes deeply in the American Dream, visiting Zimbabwe revealed how absent liberty, freedom, and justice are for millions of people worldwide. This realization was both heartbreaking and humbling, especially as someone who serves in the US Army because of my belief in these fundamental rights. ### Prince’s Story: A Testament to Resilience One story that will never leave my heart is that of 16-year-old Prince. Living in rural Mutare with his mother Merium, his blind grandmother (Gogo) Loveness, and 4-year-old brother Christian, Prince’s daily routine illustrates the harsh realities facing many Zimbabwean children. Their home consists of a one-room shelter, a small cooking hut, and a garden. Each morning, Prince walks 3 kilometers to fetch water, then travels 8 kilometers to school. Despite being sponsored by Hope’s Promise, he carries the responsibilities of a son, brother, and provider while still being just a boy whose childhood has been stolen by circumstance. What strikes me most about Prince is not his hardships, but his response to them. He excels in school, maintains a radiant smile, and dreams of becoming a pilot one day. When we asked for his prayer requests, he didn’t ask for relief from his burdens or for his circumstances to change. He simply asked for a bicycle – just a bike to make his daily journey easier. Prince’s faith, quiet strength, and abundant selflessness shattered my heart. In a world that has given him so little, he gives everything. ## Discovering Joy Beyond Comfort: The Gogo Olive Experience ### Finding Hope in Unlikely Places One of the most powerful moments of our trip occurred at Gogo Olive, a local ministry that employs formerly imprisoned women. As we arrived, we were greeted with loud African singing and dancing that literally shook the floor and brought tears to my eyes. These women – many imprisoned unjustly – radiated a joy that seemed impossible given their circumstances. Gogo Olive provides these women with: - A renewed sense of purpose - Tangible skills they can use to generate income - Connection with the Gospel message Witnessing their joy taught me what happiness looks like when it’s not tied to material comfort. They have little reason to be joyful by worldly standards, but they have Christ, which they know is enough. ## The Church as Community Foundation ### Faith as the Lifeblood of Zimbabwean Communities In Mutare, faith isn’t confined to Sunday services – it serves as the lifeblood of the entire community. The church supports families, ministries, and organizations in a vast network of care and support. Paul and Lydia Neshangwe, Hope’s Promise’s country coordinators and pastors at a local Presbyterian church, beautifully describe their role using an umbrella metaphor: - The church serves as the handle - Ministries like Gogo Olive, Call to Care, Waneini Rehabilitation Center, Peplow School, and Cortex Health form the protective fabric - The child remains safe and protected underneath This model demonstrates a culture where faith and community are inseparable, creating a support system that extends far beyond traditional church walls. ## How This Mission Changed My Perspective ### Personal Transformation Through Service This mission fundamentally changed me. Returning to American life, I found that some of my old priorities now feel trivial. I’m frustrated by our culture of entitlement, especially when contrasted with the stories and strength of those we met: Abigail, Emily, Dean, Prince, Loveness, and so many other precious lives. The experience serves as a constant reminder that every child of God in Zimbabwe has a story that deserves to be heard and a life that matters infinitely. ## Taking Action: How You Can Make a Difference ### Supporting Global Orphan Care Initiatives The mission didn’t end when our plane landed back in America. I carry Zimbabwe with me daily – the names, sounds, dust, dancing, smiles, and tears. More importantly, I’m committed to continuing to tell these stories and advocating for change. ### Prayer Requests for Zimbabwe I ask you to join me in praying for: - **Provision for families** like Prince’s who struggle daily with basic needs - **Increased support** for Hope’s Promise so they can serve more children - **Our team** as we continue in purposeful reflection and advocacy - **God’s kingdom to flourish** in Zimbabwe despite challenging circumstances ### Getting Involved Locally I encourage you to: - Keep Zimbabwe in your hearts and prayers - Consider supporting organizations like Hope’s Promise Orphan Care Ministries - Share these stories with others who might be moved to action ## Conclusion: Every Child’s Story Matters The 153 million children worldwide who have lost one or both parents represent more than statistics – they’re individuals with dreams, hopes, and incredible potential. Through organizations like Hope’s Promise, we can support ethical, community-based solutions that keep children in their home countries while providing the care and support they desperately need. Zimbabwe taught me that advocacy isn’t just about raising awareness – it’s about carrying these stories with us and allowing them to transform how we live, give, and serve. Every child matters to God, and change truly does begin with one child at a time. *To learn more about [Hope’s Promise Orphan Care Ministries](http://www.hopespromise.com/orphan-care/) and their work in Zimbabwe and other countries, visit their [website](http://www.hopespromise.com) or contact them directly about connection trips and support opportunities.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/02d6feecc545f12d7593514f4ee58d845de8f3d0b7c73b87ec834bc8e1dc3d27?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Stephanie Krug [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/stephanie/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/stephanie/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** child welfare, Christian missions, community development, faith-based organizations, global orphan care, Hope's Promise Orphan Care Ministries, international adoption alternatives, orphan advocacy, poverty awareness, Zimbabwe mission trip --- ### [Setting the Record Straight on Adoption in America](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/setting-the-record-straight-on-adoption-in-america/) **Published:** June 19, 2025 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** At Hope’s Promise, we believe that accurate information about adoption is essential for supporting children, birth parents, and adoptive families. We’re sharing this important article by Ryan Hanlon, president of the National Council For Adoption, which was originally published in The Hill. As an organization committed to ethical adoption practices, we feel this piece provides valuable clarity on common misconceptions in the adoption conversation. *By Ryan Hanlon, as published in The Hill* Former Transportation Secretary Pete Buttigieg recently sparked a conversation about adoption with comments that described “a list for white kids” and “paying a deposit on a fetus.” While he offered some thoughtful reflections on parenting, these particular remarks — and the media response they generated — highlight a dangerous trend: the use of adoption as a proxy in broader cultural battles, often without context or accuracy. As someone who has worked with hundreds of adoption agencies and professionals across the country for decades, I can confidently say that these terms misrepresent how private adoption works. More importantly, when media narratives confuse or conflate key facts, the real harm falls on children and families. ## The Crucial Distinction Between Private and Foster Care Adoption One of the most common forms of misinformation happens when conflating private domestic adoption with statistics from the U.S. foster care system. This conflation leads to false conclusions about racial disparities. Private domestic adoption, which typically involves the voluntary placement of infants by their birth-parents, is a fundamentally different system from foster care, where children are placed due to abuse, neglect, or other issues. The motivations, processes, and challenges differ profoundly between the two. Using data or dynamics from the foster care system to critique private adoption is not only misleading — it’s comparing apples to oranges. ## Addressing False Claims About Race-Based Pricing Even more concerning are recent assertions that some adoption agencies have begun to lower the cost associated with adopting Black children. This is an unfounded and damaging claim. No credible agency bases its fees on the race of a child. To suggest otherwise is to malign the ethical professionals who work tirelessly to ensure every child is placed in a loving home. The comments demonstrate ignorance on two essential aspects of private domestic adoption: 1. In most cases, birth parents are choosing the adoptive parents 2. There are far more hopeful adoptive parents waiting than there are newborns placed for adoption each year Both of these points are worth a brief examination. ## The Evolution of Birth Parent Autonomy Adoption has changed dramatically in the last few decades, from past practices where expectant mothers had very little, if any, role in choosing the adoptive parents, and even whether or not to place the child for adoption. Historically, her parents or other authority figures often made those decisions. That has shifted dramatically, with most moms now choosing the adoptive parents and usually maintaining a relationship with their child and the adoptive family after the placement (an “open adoption”). For mothers who do place for adoption, fewer than one-third say race is an important factor in choosing adoptive parents, but for those who want, they can factor racial considerations, or any other preferences, into their decision-making. ## The Reality of Adoption Supply and Demand In the U.S., only about 25,000 private domestic adoptions happen each year, yet hundreds of thousands of parents would be thrilled to grow their families this way. Because of this mismatch, there is no shortage of qualified families who are eager to adopt children of any race, ethnicity, and other attributes. These two factors — the birth parents being in the decision-making role of choosing the adoptive parents, coupled with the overabundance of hopeful adoptive parents relative to the number of newborns placed — create a dynamic in which birth parents can be choosy about who they want to be the parents for their child. It also means that adoption agencies would have no reason or incentive to charge less money for the placement of a Black child. ## Acknowledging Real Challenges It is true that private domestic adoption, like all aspects of child welfare, faces real challenges, ranging from inconsistent pre- and post-adoption support to the need for stronger oversight and accountability. There is an essential place for conversations about race in adoption as well. Constructive criticism is welcome and necessary, and reform efforts are needed. For example, the Federal Trade Commission recently sent warning letters to 31 entities suspected of predatory practices such as misleading adoptive parents about their success rates and suppressing negative reviews online. Such actions deserve public scrutiny and reform. But reform must begin with facts, not fiction. Mischaracterizations and sensational headlines about racial adoption lists both distract from real problems and stigmatize the people who have navigated the adoption process with good faith and integrity. Reducing adoption to a subject for culture-war shorthand risks alienating families who deserve understanding and support. If we want to improve adoption in the U.S., we must pursue thoughtful, informed dialogue grounded in reality, not rhetoric. The lives and futures of children and families are too meaningful for anything less. --- *Ryan Hanlon is president of the National Council For Adoption. This article was originally published in The Hill.* Find the original article [HERE](https://thehill.com/opinion/civil-rights/5279386-pete-buttigieg-misrepresented-how-private-adoption-works/). ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog --- ### [How to Choose an Adoption Agency: Key Considerations](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/how-to-choose-an-adoption-agency-key-considerations/) **Published:** January 8, 2025 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** **How to choose an adoption agency** is one of the most critical steps in your adoption journey. With so many options available, understanding the key factors that distinguish agencies can make the difference between a smooth, successful process and a challenging experience. This guide explores **how to choose an adoption agency** that aligns with your values, goals, and unique circumstances. ## **Why Choosing the Right Adoption Agency Matters** Your adoption agency acts as your partner and advocate throughout the process. They help you navigate the complex legal, financial, and emotional aspects of adoption. Choosing a reliable agency ensures that you: - **Feel confident** about the child’s welfare and ethical practices. - **Receive personalized support** throughout the process. - **Comply with international and domestic regulations.** ![Parents with Agent helping them Choose an Adoption Agency](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Untitled-design-2025-01-07T111506.375.png "| Hope's Promise")### **Key Factors to Consider When Choosing an Adoption Agency** Selecting the right agency requires careful research and a clear understanding of your priorities. Here are the essential considerations: #### **Accreditation and Licensing** - Ensure the agency is licensed in your state and accredited by organizations such as [the National Council for Adoption](https://adoptioncouncil.org/) or the [Christian Alliance for Orphans](https://cafo.org/). - Verify the agency’s compliance with the **Intercountry Adoption Act** if you’re pursuing an international adoption. #### **Experience and Expertise** - Choose an agency with **extensive experience** in the type of adoption you’re pursuing (domestic, foster care, or international). - Ask for case studies or success stories that demonstrate their expertise. For example, **Hope’s Promise** has helped countless families [adopt children domestically](https://www.hopespromise.com/domestic-adoption/), providing compassionate and comprehensive support. ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Untitled-design-2025-01-07T112152.905.png "| Hope's Promise")#### **Transparency in Costs** - Request a detailed **breakdown of adoption costs**, including agency fees, travel expenses, and post-adoption services. - Be cautious of agencies that are vague or reluctant to disclose fees. #### **Support Services** - Look for agencies that provide pre-adoption counseling, training, and post-adoption support. - Confirm the availability of bilingual staff or translators if you’re adopting internationally. ### **Checklist for Families: How to Choose an Adoption Agenc**y Here’s a quick checklist to guide your decision-making: - **Accreditation:** Is the agency licensed and accredited for the type of adoption you’re pursuing? - **Reputation:** What do reviews, testimonials, and references from other families say about the agency? - **Transparency:** Can the agency provide a clear **adoption costs breakdown** upfront? - **Support:** Does the agency offer pre- and post-adoption services? - **Experience:** How long has the agency been in operation, and what is its track record with international adoptions? - **Ethical Practices:** Does the agency follow ethical guidelines for child placement and birth family support? - **Communication:** Are the agency’s staff responsive, empathetic, and willing to answer all your questions? [Download checklist here.](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/Heres-a-quick-checklist-to-guide-your-decision-making-Accreditation-Is-the-agency-licensed-and-accredited-for-the-type-of-adoption-youre-pursuing-Reputation-What-do-reviews-testimonials-and-re.pdf)[Download](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/Heres-a-quick-checklist-to-guide-your-decision-making-Accreditation-Is-the-agency-licensed-and-accredited-for-the-type-of-adoption-youre-pursuing-Reputation-What-do-reviews-testimonials-and-re.pdf) ### **FAQs About Choosing an Adoption Agency** #### **How to choose an adoption agency for international adoption?** - Look for agencies accredited by the Hague Convention and experienced with your chosen country. - Evaluate their knowledge of specific country regulations and ability to handle unique challenges, such as travel and visa processes. #### **What should I avoid when choosing an adoption agency?** - Avoid agencies with unclear fees, poor communication, or a lack of accreditation. - Be wary of agencies that make unrealistic promises about timelines or costs. Read tips on ethical adoptions at [Adoption.com](https://adoption.com/). ## **Conclusion** **How to choose an adoption agency** requires diligence, research, and thoughtful consideration. By focusing on factors such as accreditation, transparency, and support services, you can find an agency that aligns with your needs. Remember, a successful adoption journey starts with making an informed choice. Looking for more stories, updates, and resources about adoption, foster care, and orphan care? Visit our main blog page at [Hope’s Promise Blog](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/) to discover more resources and join us in writing stories of hope together. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog --- ### [A Kingdom Prayer](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/a-kingdom-prayer/) **Published:** January 5, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** The Kingdom of God is like a baker whose job it is to bake and supply bread daily for his community. The baker bakes just enough bread for each day because any excess will be stale and will not be good or enjoyable. **Content:** By Lydia Neshwange, Zimbabwe Country Coordinator Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name, your kingdom come, your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us today our daily bread. Forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one. Matthew 6:9-13 The Kingdom of God is like a baker whose job it is to bake and supply bread daily for his community. The baker bakes just enough bread for each day because any excess will be stale and will not be good or enjoyable. The baker faithfully supplies the bread without fail because he knows that the whole community depends on that bread. The baker also chooses the best ingredients so that the bread provides the nutritional needs of the people. The Kingdom of God is a Kingdom of faith, faith in God alone to supply us our daily portion. God is the ultimate supplier of our bread, our needs as individuals and as a church. Yet many times we prefer to be supplied from the bakeries of the world and end up having too much cake in our possession, only to find that when they are not God given or God directed, the cakes cause us to be sick. Because we may fail to operate by faith alone we may also hoard bread in the form of possessions, positions, programs, people and their promises. We end up seeking salvation for our sorry situations in these excesses, yet we teach our children that any food taken in excess will give you a tummy ache. The Kingdom of God is like the church which goes about its daily mission in faith that God supplies what they need in the right portions and at the right time. The church that is not greedy for fast food success, or pop-star popularity, or politics style control. It is a church whose modus operandi is one of a faith-based peace of mind, a faith-based drivenness, and a faith-based dependence on God. This is what Jesus meant by, “Give us today our daily bread.” It is a humble yet confident request for security, God given security. Based on “faith alone.” ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Daily Bread, Faith, Kingdom of God --- ### [Threads of Love](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/threads-of-love/) **Published:** January 12, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** IMAGINE the Possibilities! Strive for GRACE! Stand TALL!  NEVER give up on the things you care passionately about! Don't be afraid to put down ROOTS! LOVE! **Content:** By Joann Briggs, 2017 Kenya Connection Team IMAGINE the Possibilities! Strive for GRACE! Stand TALL! NEVER give up on the things you care passionately about! Don’t be afraid to put down ROOTS! LOVE! These were just a few of the inspiring words that the Hope’s Promise kids in Kenya chose as their favorite words to live by, a display of all that they have learned over the years through the nurturing of house parents Pastor and Mama Karau. These thoughts and more were printed on the fabric of the quilt made by a friend of Hope’s Promise, Sue Briggs. Sue completed most of the work on the quilt, but it needed one finishing touch; to be hand stitched by the Hope’s Promise kids in Kenya. So, during the 2017 Kenya Connection Team Art Day, groups of three or four kids moved through various activity stations, one of which was a quilting station. As they reached this station, both boys and girls eagerly got into the spirit of lovingly hand stitching around the patterns of giraffes, lions, elephants, zebras, and umbrella trees. Esther K. exuberantly showed her love by creating a big loop of thread in her stitching. It was truly a labor of love as each child shared in the joy of sewing something special for their beloved house parents. Once completed they presented their work of art to Pastor and Mama Karau whose smiles beamed with joyful satisfaction at all that had been accomplished…in the making of the quilt, and in the transformed hearts of the children. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog --- ### [Once Lost, Now Found](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/lost-now-found/) **Published:** February 2, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** I once lived, moved and breathed right smack in the heart of the biblical parable of the lost sheep, albeit contextualized for Colorado Springs, Colorado. Now, in these parts, at least in the city, we don't herd many sheep; but we have cliffs, frigid winter nights, and hungry predators. **Content:** By Colleen Briggs I once lived, moved and breathed right smack in the heart of the biblical parable of the lost sheep, albeit contextualized for Colorado Springs, Colorado. Now, in these parts, at least in the city, we don’t herd many sheep; but we have cliffs, frigid winter nights, and hungry predators. And we adore our animals, especially our dogs. It all started with a post on an online message board: Extremely shy greyhound lost for two weeks, sighted two days ago near Palmer Park where a mountain lion roams. A search party on Saturday morning. I knew, sure as I recognize the difference between lost and found that our family was appointed to find that dog. My kids thought I was crazy, grumbling as I hurried them to throw on shoes and coats. My husband agreed, but he was kind enough not to say so. We commenced our search in a naturalized park. Wandering up a hill in a gully, peeking under bushes, peering out over forest stretching as far as we could see, our task loomed impossibly. Not only were we hunting for a lost dog, but a terrified creature who didn’t want to be found. Surely, we were caught in a needle-in-a-haystack riddle. The youngest kids’ complaints ratcheted up a notch. But somewhere out there, a skinny defenseless greyhound didn’t stand a chance with a mountain lion on the prowl and cold weather impending. We couldn’t give up. I received a text alert: someone spotted the dog in a nearby neighborhood! We tore down the hill, agreeing as we ran that the kids would set out on foot with our oldest teenage son while my husband and I combed the area by car. Why did I feel so compelled to get involved that day? The only reasonable explanation I can find is that I know a God obsessed with finding anything lost. I’ve witnessed his compulsion at the most extreme, like in the year 2000 when a fragile newborn lay abandoned in a Nairobi slum street. No one saw that baby except God, but He ensured a passerby noticed the barely perceptible movement and discovered the living being inside. Then, He made certain a couple halfway around the world in Colorado, two people who had never even set foot in Africa, found out about this baby; and He prompted them to do whatever it took to transform “abandoned” into “claimed,” “lost” into “found.” The joy of loving this baby, now an 18-year-old whom I call my son, never lets me forget for a day God’s absolute passion for what is lost. He’ll do whatever it takes. If you hang around God for long, you realize His love manifests in finding lost things. I think that’s why Jesus became so angry when the good religious people grumbled because he was hanging out with sinners. He perceived they couldn’t possibly know God if they didn’t understand his choice of companions. And He also recognized we humans just can’t wrap our brains around God’s love; it’s too fathomless, too high and wide for us to even begin to comprehend. So, He told a story about a lost sheep and a shepherd who wouldn’t give up. Not long after our family divided in our search for the greyhound, a text from our oldest son lit up our phones: I have the dog! We laughed in disbelief, pulled a U-Turn and high-tailed it to him. There he stood alongside a major six-lane street, cars whizzing by, clutching a gangly black dog. When he first glimpsed her, he called her name. She streaked the opposite direction, right into the racing traffic. Somehow, she careened safely across. When the cars cleared, our son followed and sprinted after her down the sidewalk, yelling for people ahead to grab her. Someone did. We herded our crew to the safety of a nearby parking lot. Caked in dirt and blood from light scrapes, the dog trembled with cold and fear. My son took off his jacket, wrapped it around her, and pulled her on his lap, stroking and calming her. If God’s love looks like anything, it’s this: the shepherd of Luke 15, lifting that mangy, grimy, shuddering sheep in his arms and slinging her over his shoulders. A similar scene played out that day seeing my son cradling a gaunt, bewildered greyhound who was once lost but now found. Because, you see, if you’ve met this God, you’ll start to care about lost things, too. Once you’ve tasted this love that refuses to give up when the search is on, you can’t settle for anything less. When you find yourself compelled by a higher source, join the hunt, and experience the joy of finding lost things, your heart explodes. You’ll do whatever it takes. I think of another scene. Our oldest son slips and slides down a slimy, rubbish-strewn hillside between rusty corrugated metal tin shacks, deep in a Nairobi slum where lost, abandoned and orphaned children live. He greets the ragged little kids, and they climb on him with leaky noses, urine stains, and the stench of the slum. They are grimy, sick, abandoned. But all my son sees is treasure waiting to be found. The parable worked its way into his heart, and he can settle for no less. --- *Colleen graduated from the University of Denver with a degree in* Fine Arts in 1993, but her wild journey of following Jesus around the world since then motivates her attempts to capture in words and images His passionate pursuit of each of us. Colleen witnessed first-hand His light shining brightest in the darkest corn*ers of the world, in places such as [*Mathare Valley slum of Nairobi Kenya ](http://colleenbriggs.com/2013/04/25/where-true-joy-can-be-found/)*and [*poverty-stricken mountain regions of Vietnam*](http://colleenbriggs.com/2013/08/14/a-secret-garden-that-changed-my-life-in-vietnam/)*.* *Colleen is married and has four children, two adopted from a Kenyan orphanage. Haunted by the children left behind they helped to pioneer two Hope Promise children’s homes in Kenya, now home to 24 former orphans. Colleen pursues Jesus full-time through painting, photography, writing and being home with her children. In images and words, she searches for “fragments of light” –* evidence of God’s relentless presence with each one of us, [*His ability to redeem suffering*](http://colleenbriggs.com/2013/07/12/enamored-with-a-single-dying-weed/)*, and His intent to give each one of us a hope and a future.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog --- ### [An Adoption Story: How God’s Love Is Revealed ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/adoption-story-gods-love-revealed/) **Published:** February 9, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** My son who joined our family through adoption celebrates his tenth birthday this February. Looking into his chocolate brown eyes, I’m still in awe of how God touched my heart through adoption. **Content:** By Adrian Collins My son who joined our family through adoption celebrates his tenth birthday this February. Looking into his chocolate brown eyes, I’m still in awe of how God touched my heart through adoption. Not only did God use adoption to transform me into a better mom, He showed me I was capable of more love than I thought existed. When my husband and I received the call that our son’s birth mother was in labor, we grabbed our baby essentials and headed out the door, elated to meet our new son. While driving to the hospital, my thoughts wandered to a few months earlier when his birth mother asked if I’d be willing to adopt her baby boy and I immediately said yes. After giving birth to three boys, I had a hysterectomy and was no longer able to give birth to another child. My husband and I spent months in prayer about expanding our family, and felt God answered those prayers when a family friend encountered an unexpected pregnancy and approached us about adoption. My husband and I were thrilled to welcome another boy into our family. At first, I felt confident I could handle another boy since our home was already well stocked with cars, trucks, and Nerf guns in every size and color. Also, I thought I could handle all the responsibilities that came with adoption because in the past I had placed a child for adoption. Having chosen adoption for my baby girl several years prior, I understood the hopes and dreams a birth mother has for her child. More than anything, I wanted to honor our son’s birth mom’s sacrifice by being the most loving mom that I could. At the hospital when his birthmother placed her son into my arms, I stared at him with both awe and wonder. But then questions of doubt began. Will I love him the same as my other children? Do I have enough love for everyone? What if I’m a disappointment? I put on a smile and prayed God would give me the love I needed for each of my children. After all, God is the author and perfecter of love. He promises that if we abide in Him, His love will be perfected in us. Before leaving the hospital, we held an adoption entrustment ceremony with our family, my parents, his birthmother and her parents, and our church pastor. I read a poem I’d written for the occasion, while my mom presented our new son with a brown and navy blanket that she’d knitted. His birth mom handed us an adorable stuffed monkey she’d bought as a baby gift and said, “Something for him to remember me by.” Her tears fell on the baby’s cheek as she leaned over to kiss him goodbye. Then, she made one request, “Please teach him about the love of Jesus.” My husband and I promised we would. It was our desire that a faith in God would permeate through our family. Ten years later, my son is now almost as tall as me, with a face full of freckles, deep brown eyes and ears that protrude adorably from underneath his baseball caps. The boxes of cars and trucks have come in handy over the years. “Someday, I’m gonna to be a race car driver,” he frequently tells me, and I smile at his big dreams. Other days, I frown at him, especially during supermarket tantrums or while mopping up muddy shoe prints from the floor. When I’m frustrated with him, I can hear the harshness of my own voice. In these moments, I worry he won’t know how much I love him. If I am brutally honest, there have been times I’ve wondered if he’d have been better off with his birth mom. She’d never raise her voice at him. She’d love him better than I could. Then, I’d wallow in thoughts of my inadequacy. But eventually, I remember that God didn’t ask me to be perfect. His grace is made perfect in our weakness. When I feel I don’t measure up, I can rest assured that God chose me as the best mom for all of my children, no matter how they joined our family. The other night, I walked into my son’s bedroom to tuck him into bed. He had an assortment of stuffed animals surrounding him, but the one he held close was the monkey given to him by his birth mom. And tucked under his chin, was my mom’s knitted blanket. Both gifts had begun to show their age; the monkey’s fabric had lost its softness and my mom’s blanket had been torn and re-sewn more times than I could count. Nevertheless, my son cherished them both. I noticed a children’s Bible sitting on his night stand, filled with stories that I’d read over and over to him. “Mom,” my son said, “I’m glad Jesus lives in my heart. Let’s pray for others to know him too.” I smiled and thought of the day his birth mom asked me to teach him about Jesus. As we prayed, I thanked God for our sweet boy, and for teaching me His love and grace through the journey of adoption. Knowing Jesus has transformed my life. Answering the call to adopt has transformed me into a more grace-filled and compassionate mom. **God Taught Me:** 1\) Adoption is a reflection of God’s love. Because He first loved us, he will equip us to love each of our children, whether they are children who joined our family by birth or adoption. 2\) When we become weary or feel unworthy as a parent, we can rest in God’s grace. He doesn’t ask us to be perfect, only to rely on Him to sustain us. 3\) Sharing the love of Jesus is the most important gift we can give to our children. Material provisions will fade away, but teaching our kids about God’s glorious deeds will have a lasting impact for generations. --- *Adrian Collins writes about the real-life complexities of being both a birth mother and an adoptive mother. She is a full-time homeschooling mom of five children; one daughter who was placed for adoption at birth, one son adopted at birth, and three biological sons. Adrian has been a mentor to birth moms who choose an adoption plan for their children, as well as a speaker, and bible study leader for new moms. She studied journalism at Point Loma Nazarene University in San Diego and has a deep-rooted love of classic literature. Married to her high school sweetheart for twenty-one years they currently reside in Castle Rock, Colorado. When she’s not teaching or writing, Adrian is actively pursuing her goal of visiting all U.S. National Parks with her kids. Adrian is working on her first memoir about hope and healing through the journey of adoption.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Birth Mother, God's Love --- ### [Butterfly-A Birth Mom's Transformation](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/butterfly/) **Published:** February 23, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** After all these years, my dad still calls me his Butterfly. I was given the name as a young child after I’d mastered every lyric to the Sunday School favorite, “If I were a Butterfly,” and knew all the hand motions by heart. **Content:** By Adrian Collins After all these years, my dad still calls me his Butterfly. I was given the name as a young child after I’d mastered every lyric to the Sunday School favorite, “If I were a Butterfly,” and knew all the hand motions by heart. My dad beamed with pride as I’d wrap together my big thumbs and flutter my fingers to resemble a monarch in flight while singing at the top of my voice. Each morning, my mom would twist my curly, blond hair into two pigtails, and I’d stare at my reflection in the mirror and wonder if I was like a real butterfly: *Bright. Delicate. Beautiful. Transformed.* There was a time, though, that I felt unworthy of the name my dad had chosen for me. When I was a junior in college, I learned I was pregnant. Recoiling in shame, I pictured my butterfly wings crumpling, and falling one by one to the floor. Raised in a Christian home, I strived to be the good Christian daughter, and worthy of God’s love. I attended a Christian college. I was appointed a Resident Assistant, a leadership position in the college dorm. I didn’t drink or smoke and refrained from foul language. I practiced abstinence with my long-distance boyfriend, most of the time. When I held the positive pregnancy test in my hand, I sobbed heavy tears and pleaded with God to show me what to do. Instead of listening for His answer, my mind churned with thoughts of everything I’d lose if I continued with the pregnancy: My leadership position. My reputation. My parent’s trust. I agonized and groaned until the pressure became too much, and I called my boyfriend to tell him I’d scheduled an abortion. But I couldn’t go through with it. Minutes before the procedure began, I watched as an image of my baby appeared on a screen, with tiny movements and a strong, beating heart. My eyes widened, and I leaped from the exam table and bolted out the clinic door. All I knew, was that my baby deserved a chance at life. When I announced my unplanned pregnancy to my mom and dad, I could see the disappointment in their eyes. I hung my head as they asked, “What are you planning to do?” I didn’t know yet. At my dorm, I grabbed a baggy t-shirt, a pair of leggings and an old sweatshirt that I wrapped around my waist to cover my growing baby bump. I’d hide my pregnancy for five long months, the entire Spring semester. Those months crawled with loneliness, and I spent much of the time on my knees, praying for God’s direction. Whenever I felt my unborn child stirring in my womb, I’d cradle my belly and whisper, “I love you little one,” and dreamed of life as a mom. Over time, those dreams faded and instead morphed into heavy tears with the realization I wasn’t prepared to be a parent. At the time, I wasn’t capable of giving my baby everything she deserved. In the end, my boyfriend and I made the heart-wrenching decision to move forward with an adoption plan. In the hospital, I held my newborn daughter and sang softly until her eyelids became heavy and she drifted to sleep. During my pregnancy, I’d wondered if she’d have my eyes. His nose. My freckles. His dimples. When I gazed upon her pink face, I knew she had been perfect and wonderfully made. Tears fell down my cheeks as my boyfriend, and I prepared to say goodbye. He gently scooped up our newborn, cradling her against his chest. Using the back of his shirt sleeve, he wiped away tears and whispered that he “didn’t expect it to hurt this much.” In silence, the two of us proceeded to change our baby into her going home outfit. I tucked her arms inside the pink gown sleeves while he clumsily tied the elastic ribbon at the bottom. Spreading out a white knitted blanket, I carefully swaddled her in it, just as the nurse had demonstrated. Then my boyfriend and I stood back and stared. She was breathtaking. Kneeling beside my infant daughter, I caressed her face with my hair and kissed her forehead, soaking her cheeks with my flowing tears. “I love you little one,” I told her. Silently, I asked God to watch over her until we met again. Then, it was time to let her go. It felt like my heart turned upside down as we drove away without our little girl. Five years later, my then-boyfriend, now-husband, answered a call that our daughter wanted to visit us. Tears welled up in my eyes as I turned to our six-month-old son sitting in his high-chair and said, “You’re going to meet your big sister.” An arrangement was made to meet our daughter and her adoptive parents at the local arboretum. Waiting outside the entrance gate with my husband and son, I bit my lip in nervous anticipation of seeing her. *Would I recognize her? Would she like me?* The moment I saw a little girl, dressed in a white shirt with a blue flower embroidered on the front and whitish blond hair that shone like diamonds, I knew she was our daughter. Pushing my baby boy in a stroller, I marveled at the resemblance between my daughter and son. Both had the same blond hair. Same light blue eyes. Same dimples when they smiled. When I gazed upon the two of them, I thought my heart would erupt in pink and blue confetti. At that moment I realized that God holds each of my children in the palm of His hand. Each story different. Each path unique. For my daughter, it was giving her life and touching her occasionally along her journey. For my son, it is being there to guild him every day. I too am loved and cherished by God and for too long have carried with me the burden of guilt and shame. With God’s grace and forgiveness, I finally let that burden go. I found the courage to share my story in hopes that it will help others in similar circumstances to make brave choices, not just easy ones. At one point my daughter took my hand, it felt as though my heart turned right side up again. I knelt down and looked into her eyes, shaped like mine. “I’ll always love you,” I told her. In the glistening afternoon sun, we watched as a butterfly floated towards us like it was sliding down a sunbeam from heaven. I smiled and pointed to its colorful wings, remembering my dad’s nickname for me. I am still a butterfly. God shone his loving face upon me and made me *Bright*. God held me securely in his hands because I am *Delicate*. In my brokenness, God made me *Beautiful*. Through His workmanship, I am *Transformed***.** --- *Adrian Collins writes about the real-life complexities of being both a birth mother and an adoptive mother. She is a full-time homeschooling mom of five children; one daughter who was placed for adoption at birth, one son adopted at birth, and three biological sons. Adrian has been a mentor to birth moms who choose an adoption plan for their children, as well as a speaker, and bible study leader for new moms. She studied journalism at Point Loma Nazarene University in San Diego and has a deep-rooted love of classic literature. Married to her high school sweetheart for twenty-one years they currently reside in Castle Rock, Colorado. When she’s not teaching or writing, Adrian is actively pursuing her goal of visiting all U.S. National Parks with her kids. Adrian is working on her first memoir about hope and healing through the journey of adoption.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Birth mom, God's Love --- ### [Want to Change the World? It Starts With You!](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/its-up-to-you/) **Published:** March 2, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** "Take me home. I'm to be given away" was the hand-written sign hanging around a small 3-year-old girl’s neck as she sat in the dirt in front of an outdoor market. She was alone, helpless, and terrified. Without the intervention, her fate was all but written.  **Content:** By Diane Elliot “Take me home. I’m to be given away” was the hand-written sign hanging around a small 3-year-old girl’s neck as she sat in the dirt in front of an outdoor market. She was alone, helpless, and terrified. Without the intervention, her fate was all but written. Thankfully a kind woman did see her sitting there, and no doubt was as confused as she was. Helping an abandoned little girl wasn’t part of the plan for this woman’s day. Despite the inconvenience, she stopped what she was doing, picked her up, and brought her to my friend, Doris. Doris had moved to Peru from Switzerland years before as a young single woman. After serving in Peru with the Peace Corps for a few years, she vowed she was going back to Switzerland and would never return. But then, the unthinkable happened – she fell in love with a brown eyed, dark haired orphaned girl, adopting her into her heart and home. For the next 20 years, she has personally raised or placed into families, dozens of previously orphaned children. God changed her heart because of one little girl. Victoria, the little girl from the market, is one of Doris’s children. #### **The Global Orphan Crisis** We don’t know why Victoria’s parent chose to leave her at the market that day, but many common contributing factors have laid the foundation to our current orphan crisis: poverty, war, poor healthcare, AIDS, dirty water, malnutrition, corrupt governments, and the list goes on! The global orphan crisis is real, hideous, utterly overwhelming, and to many, nearly invisible. There are more than 150 million children who have lost one or both parents and are vulnerable and at risk. That number is hard to comprehend until you compare it to something familiar to us such as the male population of the United States. Just think, every man or boy that lives in the U.S. represents one orphaned child around the globe. Overwhelming, isn’t it? While we can’t change everything, we must all do something! Visiting Haiti in 2012 was a life-changing experience for me. I was part of a small team who visited more than a dozen organizations who care for orphaned and vulnerable children. We saw, held, and talked with more than 300 children in a weeks’ time. We visited institutions, a baby hospital, adoption agencies, small orphanages, group homes, and small family homes. Our hearts were broken when seeing children in institutional care neglected, with few caregivers, or made to sit on little hard chairs for hours every day. Although a better option than living on the street or being sold into slavery (which frequently happens) it is still unacceptable. Then later when visiting a home with a loving environment and permanent placements, our hearts were filled with hope for the children they served. It was the most emotionally draining week of my life, and I walked away with three thoughts that I will never forget. #### **We are all CALLED** There are more than 40 verses in the Bible that specifically mention orphaned and fatherless children (let alone the thousands of verses about justice, compassion, and mercy). Specific topics are often paired in the verses with orphaned and fatherless children such as love, justice, protection, and the giving of money, clothing, and food to children and others in need. I had seen many of the verses before, but what came as a surprise is God’s simple yet profound solution to the crisis – YOU and ME! In every case, people are instructed to help orphaned children. God’s secret weapon is us! WE are the ones receiving the instructions from God, and it is through our faith and ACTION that we are the solution to the global orphan crisis. It is undeniable that God is calling each one of us to make a difference in the life of a vulnerable or orphaned child. It is our job to figure out how we are equipped and what we can contribute to this calling. For me, God made the message very clear while standing on a hill in Les Caye, Haiti called the “Redemption Project” which was funded by a man with a mission. Several years before my journey, a young man from Indiana visited an orphan care ministry in Les Caye, Haiti. He was touched when he saw the transformation of children who were once orphaned but were now part of permanent loving family homes. He and the staff hiked up to the same hill where I stood that day, and through the rough brush and weeds he had a vision of what more could be done. A family man himself, he went back to Indiana determined to raise funds so that the ministry could build an additional five family homes, a school, and a church. He had a hope and a future for more than 60 children who otherwise would not have likely made it past the age of five. He asked everyone he knew to be involved, and he wouldn’t take no for an answer! Within just a few years he raised all the money needed for the project, and I stood on the property where three of the homes were bustling with construction workers. What I didn’t tell you is that this young man had cancer and died shortly after the homes were completed. He didn’t live to see the fulfillment of his dream, but he provided the vision and resources needed to help the Redemption Project come to fruition. The last years of his life he dedicated all his efforts towards not only giving his biological children a future but 60 other children in Haiti as well. This man’s legacy touched me deeply. It was there at the Redemption Project that I, too, felt God’s call for me to dedicate the rest of my life to changing the future for orphaned children. How I live out that calling will look different throughout the years, but I know that this is the mission that God has created me for. I am called to be His hands and feet to the orphaned and vulnerable children. And, so are you! #### **Just help ONE** In 2010 Haiti was rocked by an earthquake. Many died, many were injured, many children were orphaned, and everyone was affected. One man who was a missionary from the United States found himself in the middle of ground zero serving the hurting. He and his team were overwhelmed and as traumatized as anyone. They had a working truck and were able to make their way to the Dominican Republic border to purchase food, medical supplies, and other necessities. They distributed more than a million dollars of aid to hurting people. I met him two years later and asked how he did it. He simply said this, “Help the person right in front of you, that’s all you can do!” Today I encourage you to pray that God will show you that little person right in front of you that you are to help. It could be as simple as [sponsoring a child](https://www.hopespromise.com/i-want-to-support-orphan-care-child-sponsorship/child-sponsorship/) through Hope’s Promise. It could be seeing a single parent in your church who needs a helping hand. Or, like me, it could take diligently searching and placing yourself in the places where you know God will speak to you. Going to Haiti, Ukraine, Siberia, and Peru on mission trips were all places where God spoke to me and shaped my heart to be more like His. Where do you need to go and what do you need to do to allow God to speak to you? In the meantime, pray that God will show you the ONE that you are to love on His behalf. #### **Children need permanent families** After seeing the best and worst orphan care practices in my travels, I concluded what God knew from the beginning of time; children grow best in loving, permanent families. While some may agree that it is more cost effective to use institutional care, it is one simple question that will convince you otherwise. Would you want your children or nieces and nephews to grow up in an institution? Of course not! Why do we accept anything less for the children who are orphaned, traumatized and need the consistent love of a mother and father? That’s why our passion at Hope’s Promise is to find a family for EVERY child. We do that through [adoption](https://www.hopespromise.com/adoption/adopt-a-child/) in the United States and indigenous permanent placements with our family homes in Kenya, Nepal, Vietnam, and Zimbabwe. The children we serve deserve nothing less! #### **It’s up to you** Looking back over my orphan care journey I’m amazed at all that God has shown me. The need is so great and, in my humanness, I am easily overwhelmed. But God has never been surprised by the plight of orphaned children, he foresaw it and created the perfect solution – YOU! God has prepared you for His service since you were a child. It is your compassion, your strength, and your voice that can make all the difference in the world for a vulnerable child. My only question to you is what is your next move? To whom will you speak? For whom will you advocate? Some of you have made a life-long decision to adopt. Others make a courageous decision to sponsor a child. Yet others raise your voice or pen to speak on behalf of those who have no voice. Whatever your calling, do it with all your heart, with intent and determination. And, if I, or Hope’s Promise can help you along this journey, please let us know! ***Photo by Jeffery Weeks*** ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** abandoned, Adoption, global orphan crisis, just help one --- ### [In Her Own Words: A Birth Mom’s Journey](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/words-birth-moms-journey/) **Published:** March 9, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** Sophia is a birth mother who placed her son for adoption through Hope’s Promise. She is now a vocal coach who teaches at a music studio. This is her story. **Content:** Edited by Meredith Bird Sophia is a [birth mother](https://www.hopespromise.com/i-am-pregnant/pregnancy-help/) who placed her son for adoption through Hope’s Promise. She is now a vocal coach who teaches at a music studio. This is her story. I’m a birth mom. My husband and I, as well as our families and many of our friends, are Christians. When I found out I was pregnant, I was newly married. My husband and I both wanted to have secure jobs before starting a family. At the time, only he had a job. We were barely making enough to pay rent and other expenses. Our friends and family told us, “God has a plan,” so we began to pray long and hard about what that plan was for our child. We realized there were many couples who had the resources and time for a child and would love to have children, while we were not prepared for a child yet. We weren’t praying for a child, but surely, someone else was. We had little support from our family and friends. Many of them said our decision was not of God, and there are some who still won’t talk about or acknowledge it. Our families had a narrow concept of adoption at the time. We met with one of the social workers at Hope’s Promise. She was very reasonable, presenting facts and options rather than trying to persuade us to make a certain decision. We ultimately put together a long list of our requirements for an adoptive family. We decided if we found the right couple who met most or all of our expectations, we would move forward. At one of the ultrasound appointments, we found out that we were having a boy. Immediately, I thought of the name Jackson, a name I had never considered and didn’t necessarily like. Looking at the adoptive family profile books, we narrowed our choices to two couples. Then we found out that both couples had just been matched with other children. The same day, we learned about another couple getting approved that week. These potential parents seemed confident, like they had their lives together. After spending a few hours with them over lunch, we were stunned to discover this couple met all of our requirements and expectations. We asked them, “If you had a son, what would you name him?” They both have names that start with J. Even their pets have names that start with J. They responded, “If we had a son, we would want to name him a J name, like Jackson.” We were amazed and felt it was confirmation of our decision. Our families weren’t happy about the [adoption](https://www.hopespromise.com/adoption/adopt-a-child/). Ultimately, though, we decided that just because we created the child didn’t mean our relatives or we must be in charge of his future. When the time came to give birth, the labor was very slow. I was induced, but every time I moved, the baby’s vital signs went down. The Doctors performed a cesarean section, and I lost a lot of blood. The first thing I saw coming out of surgery, however, was the adoptive father holding Jackson. I had never seen a man so in love with a child before. In the hospital, together with Jackson’s adoptive family, we performed a placement/entrustment ceremony. It was so powerful. The hardest moment for me was when my social worker came to our house with the legal relinquishment papers for me to sign. The papers would allow for an expedited relinquishment. This meant that we were signing away our rights as parents. Legal terms are blunt and hard, with no room for sentiment. We knew that from that day forward any relationship with Jackson would be determined by his adoptive parents. Hope’s Promise has been incredibly supportive and transparent throughout the process. Since Jackson was born, I have remained in contact with the social worker. I also participate in the annual Birth Mother Coffee and Connection, which has been an incredible experience. It is strange for me to know I am a mom, and yet not a mom. Other pregnant friends my age don’t want to hear my story since I chose adoption for my child. Attending the Birth Mother Coffee has helped affirm the fact that we are mothers even when we choose not to parent. Jackson’s adoptive parents have stayed connected with us, shared pictures, and communicate with us. He is now 2 years old, and our relationship with him is much like that of an aunt and uncle. He calls us by our first names, and we have great faith in his parents to make good decisions. We have been able to see him grow and to be involved in his life. The more I get to know them, the more confident I am about our adoption decision. I trust them to raise Jackson with love and care. --- *Meredith is an international adoptee from South Korea and was raised in Southern California. After earning her undergraduate degree in biblical studies and youth ministry from Azusa Pacific University, she is now pursuing a graduate degree in occupational therapy. She also teaches math to elementary and high school students in Castle Rock. In her spare time, she loves writing, art, photography, film and television production, music, and is an amazing volunteer with Hope’s Promise.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Adoption Process, Adoptive Parents --- ### [The Heart of Sponsorship](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/the-heart-of-sponsorship/) **Published:** March 9, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** The following is an interview with Dianna, who is a sponsor for two Hope's Promise children in Kenya. Dianna and her husband are adoptive parents and she also serves on the Hope's Promise board of directors. **Content:** Edited by Meredith Bird The following is an interview with Deanna, who is a sponsor for two Hope’s Promise children in Kenya. Dianna and her husband are adoptive parents, and she also serves on the Hope’s Promise Board of Directors. #### How did you end up sponsoring through Hope’s Promise? Several years ago, we heard about efforts supporting children abroad, which is important to us. We met at the home of a long-time family friend involved with Hope’s Promise, and they introduced us to [sponsorship](https://www.hopespromise.com/i-want-to-support-orphan-care-child-sponsorship/child-sponsorship/) details and prayed with us about getting involved. #### Where is your sponsored child from, and how did you select him? Over ten years ago, we began sponsoring David. We then chose also to sponsor Faith. They are both from Kenya; at the time, there were not as many countries to choose from. We don’t remember if we chose them or simply selected who was available at the time. #### Have you ever thought about going to Kenya to visit? We have thought about going, either as part of a mission trip or simply as a family travel destination. We have never been to Africa but visiting our sponsored children would be a great experience and a wonderful opportunity in the future. #### How has the relationship developed over the years? We do not write many letters; we receive regular updates from Hope’s Promise and keep up with how David and Faith are doing in school and spiritually. We pray for David and Faith and talk about them with our children. There is a call in my heart to sponsor kids, and God is trying to show me that it is more than just about money; it is being faithful to write letters and pray. #### Is sponsorship important as a Christian? 100%. It is in line with God’s heart. We are His means, His wallet, and His voice. It is not just a financial commitment, but a spiritual and prayerful one; we are not fully in unless we are praying for them as well. God is using us as a tool in the life of someone else. We do not do it for any sort of reward but because we know it is His will to love on orphans and kids who are in tough situations. #### Is there a verse that comes to mind when talking about helping to support orphaned children? There is not a specific verse that comes to mind. Sponsorship and service cannot be separate from my walk with the Lord. #### Does God care about how you spend your time and what ministry you’re involved with? People might find reasons not to believe in God, but this speaks to me as nearness to God and an outpouring of my relationship with him. I feel more uncomfortable not sponsoring than sponsoring. If I didn’t, I would feel unsettled. That’s just part of following God. #### What would you say to someone thinking about sponsoring a child? The things outside of ourselves are what make life more worthwhile. It may seem expensive to sponsor a child, but it is rewarding on so many levels. If you feel like God’s called you to sponsor a child, it is an honor that he would trust you with this responsibility. The reward, coupled with your relationship with the Lord, is the way you can bless another person. --- *Meredith is an international adoptee from South Korea and was raised in Southern California. After earning her undergraduate degree in biblical studies and youth ministry from Azusa Pacific University, she is now pursuing a graduate degree in occupational therapy. She also teaches math to elementary and high school students in Castle Rock. In her spare time, she loves writing, art, photography, film and television production, music, and is an amazing volunteer with Hope’s Promise.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Child Sponsorship, Kenya, Orphan Care --- ### [Agency State: Meant to Protect All Adoptive Parties](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/agency-state-meant-to-protect-all-adoptive-parties/) **Published:** March 23, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** After serving at Hope’s Promise for ten years, first as an intern, then as a caseworker and now Director of Adoptions, I’ve learned invaluable information about the process of adoption. **Content:** *Note: This month, our Hope’s Promise blogs will aim to help our readers “Understand the Issues” related to adoption. We are excited to share our stories and address the current issues in adoption.* By Rachel Bates After serving at Hope’s Promise for ten years, first as an intern, then as a caseworker and now Director of Adoptions, I’ve learned invaluable information about the process of adoption. There is nothing that makes me more passionate than helping others to **Understand the Issues** surrounding adoption. These include: - Adoption laws in Colorado, - Rights of birth parents, - Ethics for adoptive families, and - Safety and permanency for children. #### Adoption laws in Colorado When considering adoption in the state of Colorado, it’s important for families to understand that Colorado is an Agency State. This means that to relinquish a child, or to adopt a child, a licensed child placement agency must be used by all parties, including birthparents and adoptive families. Because Hope’s Promise is licensed by the state of Colorado, we must adhere to state standards. We have a yearly licensing inspection by the Colorado Department of Human Services who visit our offices and fully inspect our policies, procedures, and client files. Over the years, I’ve been reminded time and time again about the importance of not only having licensing standards but also being accountable to those standards. Although not perfect, Colorado’s agency state adoption laws were put in place to protect all parties, including the birthparents, the adoptive parents, but most importantly, the child. #### Rights of birth parents It’s important to understand the rights of birthparents. Birthparents have the right to be heard and to have someone advocating for their best interest. They have the right to receive support and counseling around one of the most difficult and important decisions they will ever make. Birthparents also deserve to know that the home in which their child will be raised is safe, happy, and trustworthy. In Colorado, one of the agency rules is to provide relinquishment counseling to each woman or man who chooses to legally relinquish a child regarding their legal rights and the adoption process. It is vital that birthparents understand, and have thoroughly discussed with a trained professional, their options related to their pregnancy. We give birth parents the opportunity to sit down and talk with a caring staff member about the grief related to their relinquishment decision, as well as positive and healthy ways to cope with their grief in the days, months, and years to come. It is of utmost importance that no birth parent feel alone through the adoption process. Every birth parent should understand their pregnancy options and legal rights so that they can feel confident in their decision. #### Ethics for adoptive families Many adoptive parents enter into the adoption process with little to no knowledge of what issues are involved in adopting and raising an adopted child. Adoptive parents deserve to be educated, supported, and to have their questions answered. Also, adoptive parents deserve to have peace of mind that the adoption process is final and legally binding. When given the privilege and responsibility of raising an adopted child, adoptive parents shouldn’t have to navigate the sometimes complicated waters of adoption alone. In Colorado, agencies are required to provide 16 hours of training to adoptive parents before they finalize their adoption. This training helps them understand birth parent issues, open adoption, trans-racial adoption, attachment, and medical issues for adopted children, along with many other topics necessary to help them feel empowered and to succeed as adoptive parents. #### Safety and permanency for children The most important issue related to adoption is that the child should ***always*** be the primary client in any agency and with an adoption professional. After all, the child is the innocent and helpless party in adoption. Every child deserves permanency in a forever family that will be the best place for them to grow up, as well as legal stability, emotional stability, and physical stability. At Hope’s Promise, whenever staff members encounter a difficult decision or difficult case, they remind one another to make sure the “child is first.” To ensure a child’s needs come first, our staff members will work tirelessly to navigate any laws that might seem complicated or unnecessary at first glance, issues that aren’t simply black and white, or any decisions that could have negative ramifications. These all pale in comparison to what we cherish most – and that is the child’s best interest. #### Working on behalf of every child State and agency laws are not meant to make things difficult, costly, or frustrating, although it might sometimes seem that way. They are made to support and protect those involved in the adoption process. It is essential that all parties—birthparents and adoptive parents—choose an agency with good ethics, a clean state supervisory record, and caring staff members who will always put the child first in every decision and circumstance. After all, it is our primary job to help every child find permanency in a loving, forever family. We at Hope’s Promise work hard every day on behalf of every child and all parties in the adoption process – it is the hallmark of what we do! If you would like more information, please see our website at [www.hopespromise.com](http://www.hopespromise.com) --- *Rachel earned a Bachelor of Arts in Social Work from Colorado State University. She was a caseworker eight years before becoming Director of Adoptions. Her sister was adopted domestically through Hope’s Promise over 25 years ago, and she has been involved in the gift of adoption ever since! She lives in the Denver area with her husband.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** adoption laws, Agency State adoptions, Colorado, rights and understanding the issues. --- ### [Rescued from the Woods](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/rescued-from-the-woods/) **Published:** April 13, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** First of all, I’m embarrassed that I even have to tell this story. I’m a 46-year-old mother of two, for crying out loud. Way too old to get lost. But standing alone in the forest, watching the sun slip behind the massive outcroppings of boulders, I knew the time for pride had passed. I started to shout. **Content:** By Carolyn MacInnes #### Being Lost First of all, I’m embarrassed that I even have to tell this story. I’m a 46-year-old mother of two, for crying out loud. Way too old to get lost. But standing alone in the forest, watching the sun slip behind the massive outcroppings of boulders, I knew the time for pride had passed. I started to shout. After setting out for a short hike, I somehow strayed miles from the trail. For nearly seven hours, I’d climbed up and down endless rocky peaks, searching for a path. I followed trails that led me in circles. Weeds tore up my ankles and ice compromised my footing. At times, hail and high winds battered my face. I stood in the same spot where I’d found myself hours earlier, with no better idea of how to free myself from this maze of forest. The magnificent stones and sprawling vistas that once awed me with their beauty were now my prison. I called out into the vastness, “Hello!” When the only response was the faint echoes of my own voice, my cries became louder and more desperate. I couldn’t remember a time I felt this alone. #### Utterly Alone No one knew where I was. I neglected to tell anyone I was on a hike. I didn’t think it mattered since I expected to be gone for only an hour. I could’ve mentioned the hike to my teenage daughter when she called a few hours into my adventure. But at the time, I believed I could get out on my own. How humiliating would it’ve been to admit that I was lost in the woods, near a reservoir where we frequently hiked? The sun was setting. My phone battery was stone cold dead. I made one more half-hearted attempt to turn on the phone. To my amazement, it showed three percent power! I dialed 9-1-1 and had just enough time to state my name, my general area, what I was wearing, and my husband’s number before my cell died. I wondered, *Had they received my coordinates? Would someone know where to find me? Should I stay put, or should I keep walking to avoid being trapped in the darkness?* #### Miracle of God’s Grace I scanned the sky for a rescue helicopter and listened for an ATV. Nothing. I walked on. Maybe there was some hidden path I’d missed. Nothing. I yelled and prayed. I thought of my family. I wondered if a person could survive in the snow-covered woods overnight. My thoughts turned to the cold night sky and I wondered where I’d sleep. And what creatures lurked around me. *Would this be the end of me, all because I’d been too stupid and prideful to tell someone where I was?* If felt like another hour had passed before a clear cry cut through the twilight. “Carolyn? Can you hear me? This is Search and Rescue!” No voice had ever sounded so sweet. I yelled over and over again until I was certain the person had heard me. A man appeared from the woods, heavily loaded with gear, and confirmed my identity. Was I okay? He asked. Thirsty? Hungry? Injured? He quickly radioed his teammates, as well as my anxious family, that I’d been found. He and his partner gave me some water and guided me with steady hands along the mile walk back to their vehicle. Despite their fatigue, they smiled and assured me, never once chiding me for my foolishness. When I reached the trail head, I spotted my husband and ran into his arms, shedding tears of relief. Over the years, I’ve felt lost many times. When loved ones left me. When depression overtook me. When parenting challenged me beyond my abilities. But my intense, tangible experience of being lost in the woods brought new meaning to the word. I also learned the definition of “rescue.” I’ll never forget the moment that rescue worker walked out of the trees and held out his hands to me. I’ll always remember hearing the joy in his voice and relaying the message that I’d been found. My nightmare was over. I would wake up in my own bed the next day. This was not the end of me. When I reflected on the resurrection of my cell phone in the woods, the skeptical part of me asked, “Was it just a glitch of technology that I was able to turn on a dead phone and make one more call in the middle of a forest? Could I have witnessed an actual *miracle*?” The spiritual side of me thumped my temple and said, “Really? You’re alive! It was a flat-out gift from God. Just say thank you.” I have…over and over. #### Are you looking for a miracle? I chose to share this story in case anyone else is looking for a miracle right now. Life is hard, for all of us, in so many ways. Raising a teenager and pre-teen is kicking my butt. Sometimes I just want to lie down in the forest and not get up. To let the wild animals hunt me down. But during my hike, I felt God was telling me not to give up. I was reminded that God alone has the power to shine His light through the dark woods where I’ve wandered. He is mighty to save. Help didn’t arrive after the first time I yelled, or even the twentieth. But I’ve heard it said that if God always met our expectations, He’d never have an opportunity to exceed them. He exceeds them, all right – by showing me his power and provision in ways too incredible to ignore. #### Tips for those who are lost For anyone who feels discouraged today, let me share a few hard-learned tips: - Keep walking, even when you don’t think you can take another step. (Isaiah 40:31) - Keep yelling. Don’t be ashamed to cry out for help. (Psalm 34:17) - Keep looking. Aid may come from the place you least expect it. It might be just over the next ridge. (Psalm 121:1-8) Keep believing. As long as you’re breathing, there is still time to change the ending of your story. (2 Corinthians 5:17) - Someone loves you and needs you, so don’t give up without a fight. - This is not the end of you. --- *Carolyn is a freelance writer and mother of two Russian adoptees. She studied communications at Harding University and received her MA in English from Abilene Christian University. She loves thrift shopping, traveling, drinking good coffee and spending time in the great outdoors of Colorado with her family.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Hike, Lost, Miracle, Provision, Save, Saved, Woods --- ### [The Mama Promise: Following the Shepherd’s Leading in Our Lives ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/the-mama-promise-following-the-shepherds-leading-in-our-lives/) **Published:** April 6, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** Anxiously, I waited for the nurse to return with the results. I felt disoriented and alone as I sat waiting in a cramped room of the local pregnancy center. The nurse returned and revealed that the test was positive. **Content:** By Traci Robinson #### \#An Unexpected Pregnancy Anxiously, I waited for the nurse to return with the results. I felt disoriented and alone as I sat waiting in a cramped room of the local pregnancy center. The nurse returned and revealed that the test was positive. For several moments, the room seemed to spin out of control. I was pregnant. I tried to catch my breath. As an unwed pregnant teen, I didn’t have a clue what to do next. The nurse asked what kind of decision I was leaning toward regarding my unexpected pregnancy. A look of confusion rippled across my face. I had no idea. I didn’t even know my options. The nurse handed me some papers, briefly explained how to make an appointment for an abortion, and sent me on my way. Scared and ashamed, I made a call to an abortion clinic just a few days later. The woman on the other end of the line didn’t inquire much about me, or my circumstances. I gave her my contact information in exchange for the appointment instructions. When I hung up the phone, I waited for some feeling of relief to pour over me. It did not come. The day before I was scheduled to have the abortion, I called to cancel the appointment. This time when I hung up the phone, I felt instant relief. I knew I couldn’t go through with an abortion, yet I still felt alone and lost. I needed someone to take the lead. Someone to guide me toward a better plan for my unborn child. Thankfully, someone did. That night as I laid on the floor of my childhood bedroom with a child growing inside me, I prayed. I asked God what He wanted me to do. I trusted that Jesus would take the lead. The very next morning at work, I noticed a bright yellow flyer for an adoption agency hanging on a bulletin board. The flyer hadn’t been there the day before. In fact, the bulletin board had remained empty for as long as I could remember. That morning was different. I knew the flyer on the board was an answer to my prayer. When I dialed the phone number to the adoption agency, I felt scared, but not alone. I had a reassuring peace that, while I still didn’t know what to do, I would connect with someone at the agency who would be willing to help me. Someone, who would act on my behalf and patiently walk me through the adoption process. #### \#A Mom Standing Proud On Mother’s Day, only eleven days after I’d placed my daughter into the arms of her adoptive mom, I sat in church. Tears streamed down my face as I reflected upon my choice to make an adoption plan for my baby girl, and imagined Jesus holding the three of us; myself, my newborn daughter and her adoptive mom, in His arms. I didn’t feel regret, but rather joy mixed with heartache. My tears flowed out of an exceptionally full heart within a heart wrenching loss. These conflicting emotions overlapped and welled up together as one. I deliberated as the pastor asked for each of the mothers in the congregation to stand and be honored. Should I stay seated or stand? I chose to stand alongside the other moms. As I hesitantly rose to my feet, I felt an overwhelming sense of pride. I was proud of my daughter. Proud of myself. Proud that God led me to adoption. I couldn’t deny that I was now, and always would be, a mom. I felt strongly that I’d been the very best mom to my daughter by making an adoption plan, regardless of how much it hurt. As I stood tall and proud in church, I came to realize the deep and unrelenting truth—just because I chose an adoption plan for my daughter, it didn’t make me any less of a mother. #### \#Understanding the Lord as my Shepherd I had truly lived out scripture that I now refer to as “The Mama Promise.” Isaiah 40:11 reads, “He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young.” He promises to be our Shepherd. Our Shepherd watches over and cares for His sheep, careful to keep them close and provide everything they need. He knows each sheep, and when one wanders from the flock, He leaves the ninety-nine to go after the one. He searches until the one is recovered, places the sheep upon His shoulders, and restores it to its rightful place within the flock. His promise goes further by vowing to “gently lead those with young.” This includes a girl who faces an unexpected pregnancy, an adoptive mom who struggles to answer questions from an adopted child, a new mom at her wits-end because her two-year-old won’t listen, a weary mom who waits up late for her teenage son to walk through the door, or a stepmom who listens gently as her step children cry over disappointment and broken promises. The Shepherd will lead every one of these mothers. His promise is for every kind of mama. I am thankful as I consider His leading. I am a birth mom, a mom, and a stepmom. He leads me every day in ways I have come to expect, and ways that still surprise me. I have learned time and again that He knows, far better than I, what my children need. I am reminded, as I watch how He carries them, that He also carries me. As moms who are “sheep with young,” let’s choose to follow the gentle leading of the Shepherd each day. As we follow His leading, we will find everything we need for God to sustain us in our different roles as mamas. --- *Traci studied at Rocky Mountain Bible Institute and went on to earn a Master’s Degree in Social Work from the University of Denver. She relishes the never-ending journey in discovering the Father’s redemptive heart as He leads her through motherhood and writing. Living in Arvada, Colorado, Traci is married to her soulmate, who also happens to be her eighth-grade boyfriend. She keeps busy with their sometimes chaotic, but always beautiful, blended family of eight.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Birth mom, God carries me, God leads me, Hope's Promise, loving Shepherd, mama, stepmom, unexpected pregnancy --- ### [Do What You can for Orphan Children](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/do-what-you-can-for-orphan-children/) **Published:** April 20, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** If you were to ask me how old I was when I first learned about orphaned children, or in what context, I wouldn't be able to recall for sure. Perhaps it began with “The Rescuers” - a cartoon movie about two mice who help an orphan named Penny escape from the terrible Madam Medusa. **Content:** By Penny Taylor If you were to ask me how old I was when I first learned about orphaned children, or in what context, I wouldn’t be able to recall for sure. Perhaps it began with “The Rescuers” – a cartoon movie about two mice who help an orphan named Penny escape from the terrible Madam Medusa. (Because of the namesake, this character captured my attention at a young age.) Or maybe it was a television commercial by the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption. I begged my parents to adopt a little sister for me, and I still remember my passionately indignant response when they said “no.” At that age, I didn’t understand the full spectrum of orphaned children’s needs; but the thought of kids without a mom and dad rocked me to my core. Why would parents decide not to keep their children? And why would grownups choose not to adopt if they could change the life of a child without parents? God was beginning to show me His heart of redemption for the fatherless. After I graduated from high school, I went on several short-term mission trips abroad, and I encountered orphaned and vulnerable children in person for the first time. The heaviness of poverty’s repercussions weighed on my heart like a ton of bricks. I returned home and tried to reconcile the life I knew against the backdrop of what I had seen. The only response that made sense to me was to become a long-term missionary and/or adopt someday. For several years I worked at a Christian nonprofit organization dedicated to helping children escape the grip of poverty, which only deepened my longing to “go” or to adopt one day. My husband and I will celebrate our fourteenth anniversary this year, and our journey has taken quite a few unexpected twists and turns. We are not missionaries abroad, nor have we adopted children. Maybe one or both these dreams are still yet to be, only God knows; but it is a possibility neither will come to fruition. I’ve wrestled with this realization over the years. If these doors close, why has God given me so many experiences related to poverty and orphans? Perhaps, like me, you’ve traveled overseas and met at-risk children in slums or one of Hope’s Promise’s family-style homes and you can’t figure out how to converge the realities of here and there. Not everyone is called to adopt or serve in a foreign country. But, this I know for certain, we are all called to defend the weak and the fatherless and uphold the cause of the poor and oppressed (Psalm 82:3-4.) Rather than lamenting what I can’t do to help orphaned children, over the past few years, my focus has turned towards finding a way to do something in this moment, here and now, where God has placed me. One of my favorite quotes is by Theodore Roosevelt: “Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.” This has become a mantra for me. Through God’s leading and provision, I joined two Hope’s Promise Kenya Connection Teams in 2011 and 2014 (even when I had a two-year-old and four-year-old at home!) These experiences opened the opportunity for me to lead a Country Support Team in Colorado Springs for five years. Our small group of eight gathered regularly, prayed, and fund-raised for Hope’s Promise in Kenya. The most beautiful way I see God working in my desire to converge my current situation, artistic and administrative giftings, and my heart for orphans has been in running a small business from home and donating part of my profits to Hope’s Promise. Additionally, my business has become a platform to share my testimony and tell others what God is doing through the organization. My local newspaper even ran an [article](http://gazette.com/colorado-springs-woman-blends-faith-philanthropy-creativity-in-business/article/1588393) on my business in 2016, and since then the editor has promoted my work at other times. (http://gazette.com/colorado-springs-woman-blends-faith-philanthropy-creativity-in-business/article/1588393) Through this art/business journey, I am also blessed to partner with my good friend and amazing artist Colleen Briggs. We sell our work together at backyard and home sales. We’ve also developed [art-related projects ](https://colleenbriggs.com/2015/09/03/shine-like-stars-collaborative-gallery-of-sanctuary-of-hope-kids-and-colleen-briggs/)for the Hope’s Promise Kenya kids and used them for fundraising at our events. (https://colleenbriggs.com/2015/09/03/shine-like-stars-collaborative-gallery-of-sanctuary-of-hope-kids-and-colleen-briggs/) I am amazed to see God’s multiplication of my feeble efforts in ways far beyond what I can imagine. I never expected this journey or the beauty that arises in the twists and turns. Our circumstances don’t need to be ideal before we act. God works outside the confines of our limited perspectives. If you are passionate about acting on behalf of orphaned and vulnerable children but don’t know where to begin, here are a few ideas to consider: **Pray:** Commit to praying for orphans and their caregivers, specifically the families Hopes Promise supports in Kenya, Nepal, Vietnam, and Zimbabwe. **Support:** Find out if there is a Country Support Team (CST) in your area. CST members get together monthly or quarterly to pray and raise funds for Hope’s Promise families in a specific country. If there is not a CST where you live, and you know several people who may be interested, consider starting one with Hope’s Promise guidance. **Give:** [Donate](https://www.hopespromise.com/i-want-to-support-orphan-care-child-sponsorship/child-sponsorship/) to Hope’s Promise for orphan care in any of the countries listed above. If you can’t give financially, consider volunteering your time or donating a silent auction item for a fundraising event (their Food Festival is on April 19th.) **Go:** Every Hope’s Promise Connection Team provides an opportunity to encounter orphaned children first-hand, see what God is doing in that specific country, support the caregivers who are daily serving children with complex needs. By bringing your newfound perspective back home, you will help others learn about ways they, too, can help. **Share:** Whatever your life experience, if God has touched your heart and moved in and through you to join His plan for orphan care, don’t keep it to yourself! God works in each of our hearts, and our personal journeys are important, but God wants us to share our experiences with the body of Christ and encourage others with our story. Some of the richest relationships in my life began from a common desire to help orphaned and at-risk children. Not only have I discovered and partnered with others who share my passion, but we have also become dear friends and share many deep life experiences. When did you first learn about the plight of orphans? How has God orchestrated your life to take action in some aspect of orphan care? No matter your location, abilities, or circumstances, He can use your story to make a difference in the lives of children around the world. The passionately indignant response I experienced as a child was just the beginning of the work God wanted to do in and through me regarding the fatherless. It is our charge to respond to God’s call in Psalm 82. Will you pray alongside orphan care advocates around the world and be willing to go (or stay) where He leads? --- *Penny is a creative small business owner and mother of two children. She has been married to her high school sweetheart Nick for 13 years and their family is enjoying country living since their recent move from Colorado Springs to Peyton, Colorado. When Penny is not busy with her family and a growing number of animals she enjoys running, writing, traveling, gardening, singing on the worship team at her church and participating in Bible studies.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** advocate, Hope's Promise, Kenya, missions, Orphan Care --- ### [Love Does Adoption](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/love-does-adoption/) **Published:** May 25, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** There is a growing stack of books on my nightstand that I intend to read one of these days. Some nights I manage to read a few pages. Most nights I barely skim a paragraph or two before my eyes glaze over and the book gets returned to the stack. **Content:** By Adrian Collins #### Inspirational Reading There is a growing stack of books on my nightstand that I intend to read one of these days. Some nights I manage to read a few pages. Most nights I barely skim a paragraph or two before my eyes glaze over and the book gets returned to the stack. Last week during my usual bedtime routine, I sleepily reached for the top of the stack and pulled the book, “Love Does” by Bob Goff under the bedcovers, expecting to read a few pages before drifting off to sleep. After hearing Mr. Goff speak at our home church, I immediately ordered his book upon leaving the auditorium. When the book arrived on my door a few days later, I promised myself I would start reading it that same evening. As with every other book in my stack, it didn’t happen. But when I finally picked it up and read the first pages, I couldn’t put it down. A particular section caught my attention and caused me to sit up in bed, rubbing my eyes while I read it over again. “It becomes clear that we need to stop plotting the course and instead just land the plane on our plans to make a difference by getting to the “do” part of faith. That’s because love is never stationary. In the end, love doesn’t just keep thinking about it or keep planning for it. Simply put: love does.” Memories of adopting our youngest son filled my mind as I poured over the words, “Love Does.” I whispered the two words aloud, careful not to wake my sleeping husband next to me. Like fitting two puzzle pieces together, I mentally paired these two words with “adoption,” to form one simple truth: Love Does Adoption. My eyes widened with the reality that God had poured this simple but profound truth into me during our journey of adoption. #### Giving family plans to God You see, when I got married I’d made plans for what my family would look like. I’d live in a white painted cottage-style home with a cherry-red door, and a giant tree swing would hang in the front yard where I’d push my two boys in denim overalls and two girls in matching dresses. My baby names were picked out. My maternity clothes were selected. Adoption was never part of the plan. After giving birth to three boys, my husband and I began to contemplate adding to our brood. An unplanned hysterectomy flattened my dreams of having additional children biologically, but I still felt a nagging urge to add to our family. “What do you think about [adoption](https://www.hopespromise.com/adoption/adopt-a-child/)?” My husband asked. I shook my head in protest. I wasn’t sure I could take another stroll down memory lane. Years earlier, I’d made an [adoption plan](https://www.hopespromise.com/i-am-pregnant/pregnancy-help/) for my baby girl when I was a junior in college. Despite knowing that I’d made the best decision for my daughter, the journey was filled with tears of heartache. Through the years, God cast threads of love and healing to bind together the broken pieces of my heart. Still, I didn’t know if the pursuit of adoption would re-open my past wounds and leave me in shambles. So, I brushed off the idea of adoption altogether. But every time I spotted a baby stroller or swing, my yearning for another child reappeared. I told God if He wanted us to move forward with adoption, He’d have to make it blindingly evident. Months later, I was approached by a family friend to share my adoption experience with her sister, Megan, who encountered an unplanned pregnancy. Despite the nerves that fluttered in my stomach, I promised to provide my honest insight about the adoption process. After speaking with Megan on the phone, we arranged to meet at a local coffee shop. After we hung up, I prayed I would be of some guidance. My story could either point her towards adoption or send her sprinting in the opposite direction. In a few days, I would find out. To my delight and surprise, the first meeting went well. So well, in fact, that Megan and I agreed to continue meeting at the coffee shop. We exchanged stories. We laughed and cried together. We prayed together. Megan and I became fast friends. As I sat across from Megan during one particular meeting, I noticed something was different. Her black coffee rippled in slight currents as her hands shook. Her legs trembled slightly under the table. “I have a question for you,” she asked, “Would you and your husband adopt my baby?” I jolted in my chair, spilling drops of hot coffee onto my dark skinny jeans. “Ex-cuse me?” I asked. “I have this feeling that you both are supposed to be the parents of my baby.” Megan reached over to grab my hand and stared into my eyes. “What do you think?” she asked. I pondered her offer, searching for the right response. I could’ve told her I needed more time, maybe months, to think about it before I could get back to her. I could’ve laughed in her face and proclaimed that her feelings were false, that she’d picked the wrong person for the job. I could’ve gone back to the drawing board to create alternate plans. I could’ve announced I wasn’t up for the task. But when I looked into her deep brown eyes, full of want for a loving home for her unborn child, I laid down my family plans before the Lord and simply said, “Yes.” #### Following the call to adopt Love Does. It doesn’t wallow in fear or doubt of the unknown. It simply has faith that God will fill our self-perceived holes of inadequacy with assurance that He will provide what we need. God will grasp our hands throughout the adoption process. He will strengthen us when we feel weak. God is the author of every adoption story, and has a glorious ending in mind, if we are willing to answer His call. Saying “yes” to the call to adopt doesn’t come without fears. When I agreed to adopt, I dwelt on all the things that could go wrong. Things of which I had little to no control. I wondered, what if Megan changed her mind at the last minute and chose to parent? What if I didn’t bond easily with my newly adopted child? What if there was an unforeseen medical issue? When left alone with my fears, I trembled with doubt. But love swallowed up those fears. I realized that there are no guarantees with having children, whether they join our family by birth or adoption. God taught me to set down my fears, say “Yes”, and take one day at a time. --- *Adrian Collins writes about the real-life complexities of being both a birth mother and an adoptive mother. She is a full-time homeschooling mom of five children; one daughter who was placed for adoption at birth, one son adopted at birth, and three biological sons. Adrian has been a mentor to birth moms who choose an adoption plan for their children, as well as a speaker, and bible study leader for new moms. She studied journalism at Point Loma Nazarene University in San Diego and has a deep rooted love of classic literature. Married to her high school sweetheart for twenty one years they currently reside in Castle Rock, Colorado. When she’s not teaching or writing, Adrian is actively pursuing her goal of visiting all U.S. National Parks with her kids. Adrian is working on her first memoir about hope and healing through the journey of adoption.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Birth, Birth Mother, Call to Adopt, Faith, Hope's Promise, Love Does --- ### [The Pillowcase Project](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/the-pillowcase-project/) **Published:** April 27, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** The orphan crisis is overwhelming. With more than 140 million orphaned children in our world it is easy to feel that nothing we do can make a difference. That couldn’t be farther from the truth. If we each do something, we are much closer to solving the issue. **Content:** By Debbie McGee \[The orphan crisis is overwhelming. With more than 140 million orphaned children in our world it is easy to feel that nothing we do can make a difference. That couldn’t be farther from the truth. If we each do something, we are much closer to solving the issue. This week guest blogger, Debbie McGee, saw a need and took the bold step to make a difference. Not only did she make a difference for the children she served, but she helped enrich the lives of the many volunteers who were called to action by her generous heart and spirit. Here at Hope’s Promise, we aren’t asking you to change the tide or move a mountain, we are simply encouraging you to do something! We hope that Debbie’s story will inspire you to make a difference in the lives of orphaned and vulnerable children around the world.\] I was home. After spending two weeks in Vietnam, I rolled my suitcases into my bedroom and sighed. My eyes welled up with tears as memories of the many orphaned children I’d visited filled my mind. What could I do for the children? The possibilities seemed overwhelming. While gazing at the familiar surroundings of my bedroom, my eyes narrowed in on my Singer sewing machine sitting in the corner. Well-loved by years of sewing garments and curtains for my children and loved ones, my sewing machine felt like an old friend. I realized what I could do. An idea that was first laid on my heart in Vietnam would turn into The Pillowcase Project. The idea started a few weeks earlier, after our plane touched down in Vietnam. I stared out the window nervously anticipating meeting the [orphaned children](https://www.hopespromise.com/i-want-to-support-orphan-care-child-sponsorship/child-sponsorship/) we’d sponsored over the years. It had always been rewarding to write letters and send pictures to the children, but something was missing. A hand shake. A shared smile. A touch on the shoulder. I grabbed my personal items and stepped off the plane, excited to finally meet our sponsored children in person. Our long-distance relationship was about to change. My husband and I accompanied our close friend and his wife, both founders of “Friends for Vietnam,” to visit Hope Center, a sponsored children’s home. My first realization that life in Vietnam was very different was trying to cross the street in Ho Chi Minh City. This was no easy feat. The roar of motor scooters filled the streets. Traffic flowed steadily without stop signs or stop lights to slow the vehicles. My heart raced as I followed my friend and stepped off the curb, trusting his assurance that the motor scooters would swerve around me. A whole new meaning was given to the phrase, “stepping out in faith,” as I took a deep breath and my feet hit the pavement. Safely across, I noticed women stirring soup and noodles in a pot and grilling fish on a small grill, while the older women and men sat on children’s size plastic stools and ate the prepared food. The reality of their humble lifestyle compared to my wealthy homeland made me embarrassed for the sparse funds I contributed to those in need; those that didn’t have a home or parents to feed and clothe them. Were the orphaned children we supported being cared for in a loving environment? I’d know soon enough. As we drove a few hours outside of Ho Chi Minh City and into the beautiful countryside spotted with bright colored flowers and lush grass, I praised God for the surrounding beauty that calmed my soul and brought peace to my heart. At the children’s home, we were greeted by a pastor, his wife, son, and daughter-in-law. His other son and daughter-in-law were inside taking care of the children. At the time, only six adults were caring for 78 children. However, the number of children would continue to grow. As we waited for the older children to arrive home from school, the pastor and his family led us through a small, but impeccable home where they served us a simple meal. Soon, we heard the screeching of a school bus. I watched as dozens of children with beautiful jet-black hair and brown eyes wearing blue and white checkered uniforms happily exited the bus and approached the pastor and his wife with a bow and greeting in their native language. After lunch, I was led by a group of girls into their sleeping quarters, a large room lined with cots where the children slept. Each cot had a small travel size pillow, light blanket, and mosquito net covering that hung from the ceiling. Adults scattered to prepare the children for nap time. Most of the little ones laid their pillows on the cool tile floor while a few took part in a pillow fight. My heart filled with joy as I watched these children find pleasure in a simple pillow fight with a friend. “They play with their pillows as if they are stuffed animals,” I said, “I’d love to make child-friendly pillow cases for these children.” “It’s cheaper to buy the pillowcases here,” an adult replied. Another adult concurred that it was, indeed, cheaper to buy pillowcases in Vietnam, but she connected with my heart’s desire and said, “If she wants to make and personalize pillow cases for each child, I think she should follow her heart.” I was suddenly struck with the reality that I’d need to make over 80 pillowcases. Thoughts raced through my mind; How would I get them back to Vietnam? How can I accomplish this feat? Just like I needed to place my trust in a friend to cross the busy street in Ho Chi Minh City, I realized I would need to trust God in His leading. Not only was He going to bless these children, but I would share in those blessings, and several others along with me. \*\* When I returned home, I spread the word to several women about my desire to make pillowcases for the children I had met. To my delight, they responded by volunteering to help sew the pillowcases. A group of ten women and two teens armed with sewing machines, whimsical fabric, sewing patterns, and a vision made pillow after pillow for the children. We had three months to complete as many pillowcases as possible before our friend returned to Vietnam to deliver them. By the end of three months, we exceeded our goal of 100 pillowcases, and made 124 in total. Unknown to us, Hope Center had grown from 78 to over 121 children in just three short months. We heard that the children’s beautiful brown eyes lit up with joy as pillowcases in a variety of colors and patterns—from Thomas the Train engine to bumble bees to Minnie Mouse—were handed out. Every child received their very own pillowcase, with extras for new arrivals. Sewn on each pillowcase was a note of love from the seamstress that read, “Sweet dreams little one. God loves you.” The Pillowcase Project became a double blessing. The orphaned children were blessed with the gift of a new pillowcase. The women who volunteered to pick out fabric, sew pillowcases and pray for each child who’d receive them were equally, if not more, blessed by the gift of doing something for another. It didn’t take much of our time or resources to sew pillowcases. God revealed to me that if we trust Him with our time and talents, He will use them to bless others. --- *Debbie McGee has been married to her husband who has been her best friend for almost 45 years. Together, they support several orphanages and ministries outside the United States. Debbie has two daughters and eight grandchildren. One of their two daughters, Adrian Collins, is a volunteer for Hopes Promise. In her spare time, Debbie enjoys running, hiking and spending time with her family.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Do Something, global orphan crisis, Hope's Promise, Vietnam --- ### [United in Dependence: praying for orphans and caregivers](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/united-in-dependence-praying-for-orphans-and-caregivers/) **Published:** May 4, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** The orphan. Vulnerable. Defenseless. Helpless.     Me. Desperate. Needy. Dependent.      Do my feelings of desperation and helplessness help me identify with children rescued from abandonment? How do I respond to my own emotional and spiritual struggles, let alone those of others?      **Content:** **By Pam Jenness** The orphan. Vulnerable. Defenseless. Helpless. Me. Desperate. Needy. Dependent. Do my feelings of desperation and helplessness help me identify with children rescued from abandonment? How do I respond to my own emotional and spiritual struggles, let alone those of others? Though sometimes I *feel* helpless, believing I *am* is a lie from the enemy. As children of God, we are anything but helpless. God gives us His Spirit. That alone is an incredible gift! But God, in His exceeding abundance, gives us two additional tools: prayer and the word of God. Praying God’s word declares our utter dependence on Him and calls His power into our helplessness. #### Prayers Matter In my helplessness, I prayed for our family through six military moves and a deployment. I prayed through an educational journey for our children that includes Christian schools, home-school, and public school. In utter desperation, I prayed through my husband’s heart attack, recovery, and subsequent fourteen-month unemployment. Various personal and parenting struggles have driven me to my knees. Often, I’m not able to pray more than, “Lord, how do I pray?” In asking, I begin to hear His word in response. Bible verses come to my attention through friends, songs, my devotional time, and during prayer. In those times, God’s word becomes a lifeline; and I cling to it for the duration of the trial. I pray God’s word. This is not to say I have arrived at a great prayer pinnacle. No, I still struggle to pray. I go through seasons of prayerlessness. But I am learning – praying God’s word carries me from helplessness to dependence on God. When my husband was unemployed after his heart attack, I prayed Psalm 90:17, *“Let the favor of the Lord our God be upon us and establish the work of our hands upon us; yes, establish the work of our hands!”* I prayed that verse for fourteen months! Praying that verse for so long helped me focus on God and His promises, rather than on our family and situation. I wonder sometimes… is coming to a place of helplessness part of God’s design in calling us to depend on Him? Would I pray if I didn’t feel helpless? Is that why I seem always to have some aspect of life that feels desperate? #### The Bible’s Wisdom As I pray God’s word for my own struggles, I’m growing in praying His word for others. There are verses I cling to in my daily *dependence* when life is ‘normal.’ And there are verses I cling to when life blindsides me in *desperate dependence*. **Daily Dependence:** Jesus highlights daily dependence in Matthew 6:11, *“Give us this day our daily bread.”* Daily bread can be food or other material needs, or emotional, spiritual, and mental needs. When we pray for strength and health for the demands of the day, character issues like patience and humility, wisdom and discernment for various situations, we are praying ‘daily bread’ dependence kinds of prayers. I remember when Hope’s Promise Kenya program desperately needed a new van. The prayer team felt helpless to meet this ‘daily bread’ need aside from the intervention and provision of God. We rallied in prayer, depending on God to provide; and He did. As the children in our orphan care programs around the world grow and their physical need are met, we pray for healing of deep emotional wounds. We pray for the kids as they journey to new schools and study for tests for secondary schooling – ‘daily bread’ type prayers we all understand, no matter our home address! When I pray for myself in my parenting and ministry roles, I also pray for Pastor, Mama, and the staff. I pray we will open our mouths with wisdom and have the teaching of kindness on our tongues (Proverbs 31:26). When our work weighs us down, I pray we will not grow weary in doing good but know that we’ll reap a harvest if we do not lose heart (Galatians 6:9). When our children try our patience, testing the limits we’ve established, and enter new and challenging phases on the road to independence, I pray we will not exasperate our children, but bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4). I pray the same Scriptures for [Hope’s Promise children ](https://www.hopespromise.com/i-want-to-support-orphan-care-child-sponsorship/child-sponsorship/)and my teens. I pray for their future: that they will know the plans God has for them, to give them a future and a hope (Jer. 29:11). I pray for attitude: that those who struggle with a temper will be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry (James 1:19). I pray for spiritual growth: that the Lord will incline their heart to His testimonies (Psalm 119:36) and that they will grow in the grace and knowledge of the Lord and Savior Jesus Christ (2 Peter 3:18). Praying God’s word for our ‘daily bread’ needs binds us together in Him, even across the world. **Desperate Dependence:** Psalm 50:15 instructs us, *“Call upon Me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you shall glorify Me.”* The day of trouble: Mama Karau in Kenya had cancer. Alvin’s life-threatening injury, one of our children in Kenya. The calls to prayer were urgent. Desperate. We begged God to do the miraculous! In these types of situations, we truly come to know the power of prayer, the preciousness of His word, and the tangible presence of God. Comfort comes in knowing ‘family’ all over the world unites in prayer. I was a recipient of this comfort after my husband’s heart attack, one month before our entire family planned to travel to Kenya with Hope’s Promise. The prayers of my international family surrounded us with peace. So, on my knees interceding for Alvin, I knew with certainty I joined a cloud of witnesses across the globe, calling on God in the day of trouble. How beautifully God carried Mama and Alvin. Could anything be more glorifying to God than Alvin sharing Jesus with the surgeon so soon after his ‘day of trouble?!’ Recently I spent time reflecting on Jesus’ prayer in his most desperate hour. The scene: the shadowy darkness of Gethsemane. Mark 14:33-34 tells us *“… he began to be deeply distressed and troubled. ‘My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death.’”* Whoa. Can I even fathom the desperation Jesus felt?! And His response was to pray. Jesus himself utterly depended on God. Initially, I glossed over how Jesus addressed God; but then it hit me right between the eyes. He called Him Daddy, Papa. “Abba, Father.” (Mark 14:36). In His desperate hour, Jesus called out to His parent like a child longing for soothing and comfort. What a tremendous image that is. Jesus prayed with passion. *“And being in anguish, he prayed more earnestly, and his sweat was like drops of blood falling to the ground.”* (Luke 22:44). Jesus prayed with persistence. Three times Jesus found the disciples sleeping. Three times Jesus persevered in prayer without them. (Mark 14:41). Jesus prayed in submission. His words astound me, *“Yet not what I will, but what you will.”* (Mark 14:36). No matter our location, our background, or our situation, Jesus knows and understands desperation. Jesus modeled for us how to respond: cry out to Papa with desperate prayer. Pray with passion and persistence. Humbly submit to His will, even in the dark hour. Abba Father, help us to remember, as brothers and sisters in Christ we are united through Your Spirit, Your word unites us. Help us embrace the gift of prayer that unites us as we lift our daily and desperate needs up to You. Thank you for giving us Jesus, who understands what helplessness feels like and who showed us how to respond. Thank you for not leaving us helpless. Thank you for uniting us in utter dependence! In His precious name, we pray, Amen. --- *Pam Jenness is a story in progress. One of the best chapters has been nearly 26 years of marriage to her college sweetheart. Two main characters are their children, who have blessed and amazed her as they’ve grown and matured. God has written some trials into her tale that she never saw coming, but He surrounded her through them. Many beautiful moments are told in the pages of her life, one being traveling to Kenya in 2010. God has inserted into her story line a part-time job at church, where she serves as the Children’s Ministry Coordinator. Pam’s story is about trusting Jesus, following Him in obedience, and struggling in perseverance. It is a story of transformation, as all good stories are.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Hope's Promise, Orphan Care, prayer --- ### [A Birth Mom's Memorial](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/a-birth-moms-memorial/) **Published:** May 18, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** I was 24 when I found out I was pregnant. While I was shocked, I wasn’t necessarily surprised. Raised in a Christian home, I attended church and youth group faithfully throughout high school. **Content:** By Julie Cordodor #### Choosing Adoption I was 24 when I found out I was pregnant. While I was shocked, I wasn’t necessarily surprised. Raised in a Christian home, I attended church and youth group faithfully throughout high school. However, by my early twenties I found adult independence exhilarating, and spent more time drinking and attending parties than reading my Bible and going to church. Despite the occasional feelings of my faith tugging me back toward a more fulfilling life, I’d inevitably return to the lifestyle that was immediately gratifying. Then I learned I was pregnant. Almost instantly, I knew that [adoption](https://www.hopespromise.com/i-am-pregnant/pregnancy-help/) was the answer to my unplanned pregnancy. I wanted to give my child a better life, filled with family vacations and sporting games, and most importantly, two parents who loved Jesus. Through a local pregnancy resource center, I was led to [Hope’s Promise](http://www.hopespromise.com). Seven months later my son was born. I nicknamed him Peanut. Throughout my journey to an open-adoption, God revealed how Peanut held altars of remembrance in my heart. #### A Memorial for Peanut As I entered the final stages of my pregnancy, a counselor brought up the idea of choosing a memorial for my child. The idea came from the Old Testament, when God’s people built altars not only to atone for their sin, but of remembrance. They built altars to rejoice in what God had done and remember how He changed their lives. Intrigued, I considered what kind of memorial I’d like to use to recognize my journey of adoption. A few weeks later, my mother handed me a gift. It was a necklace pendant in the shape of a peanut. It was perfect. Her gift became my memorial. #### The Adoptive Parents Choose a Name Although there were sad and painful times during my pregnancy, there were also clear signs that making an adoption plan was the right choice. I watched how God brought Jill and Kevin, my son’s adoptive parents, into my life. Jill worked alongside my mother and had previously adopted a daughter through Hope’s Promise. When Jill heard about my situation, she and her husband, Kevin, offered to meet with me and share their story. Their extreme kindness, and (seeming) coincidence of circumstances that led to our meeting, were one of the first little altars of remembrance that was built in my heart. I knew God was at work in my life. Unbeknownst to me, Jill and Kevin were hoping to adopt again. When I learned sometime later about their desire to adopt, I knew Jill and Kevin would be wonderful parents for Peanut. In fact, I never considered anyone else. They’d lovingly prayed for Peanut and me before knowing that my son would become their adopted child. When it was announced that Jill and Kevin would become the adoptive parents to my son, we rejoiced together. More altars, more remembrance. I rejoiced in what God had done. A few weeks later, Kevin called to tell me they’d picked a name for my son. Not only did they select the middle name that I’d shared with them, they’d also unknowingly given Peanut a first name I would’ve chosen as well. It reaffirmed my decision that Jill and Kevin were hand-picked by God to be the adoptive parents for my son. By God granting a name for my son, chosen by all three of us, another sweet altar was built in my heart. #### Saying Goodbye Another altar appeared, although it was not one of remembrance, but of sacrifice. After my son was born, I spent two precious days with him in the hospital before it was time to say good-bye. Our time together was sweet, as I sang to him and cuddled my baby boy. I wished for time to slow down or stop altogether. After my family said their good-byes, I placed Peanut in his bassinet. My sister brought him to Jill and Kevin, and my son was gone. The sacrifice of entrusting my child with another couple became an altar built in my heart. #### Love is a Choice When I arrived home, I was grief-stricken without my son. Sometimes the pain felt unbearable. While I never doubted my decision to make an adoption plan, there were times I truly hated that it was the right one. Several days after coming home from the hospital, my feelings of attachment to Peanut started to fade and I panicked. I thought it meant I was losing my love for him. During my time of desperation, a voice spoke to my heart saying, “Love is not a feeling. It is a choice.” I was given a new understanding of an old truth. Real love is never born of feelings, but of choice. My feelings were unreliable, but my decision was not, and neither was my love. This realization of love was another altar of remembrance in my heart. #### My Symbol as a Powerful Vessel My Peanut is a beautiful part of my altars of remembrance and sacrifice. The pain of adoption was deep, but the joy has been deeper still. This summer, my son will turn eight years old. We video chat, and Jill and Kevin have been generous in sending school photos, DVD’s of performances, and texts of funny and meaningful stories. There is beauty in having memorials of God’s work in our lives. It is impossible to live meaningful lives while immersed in the past, but a symbol can help us move on from an experience without leaving it behind. It allows us to revisit our need of God’s provision, comfort and joy. Memorials do not need to be tangible, but in my case, having something I could hold became a powerful vessel for my story. My peanut-shaped pendant was infused with heartbreak, wonder, and gratitude which has become the perfect symbol of my adoption journey. --- *Julie lives in Everett, Washington with her husband of four years and beautiful infant daughter. She enjoys reading, crafting and spending time with her family.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Adoptive Parents, Birth mom, Hope's Promise --- ### [A Night Dedicated to Helping Children](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/a-night-dedicated-to-helping-children/) **Published:** May 21, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** The aroma of delectable cuisine greeted hundreds of guests as they arrived at the BAC Appliance Center in Englewood, Colorado on Thursday evening, April 19, for Hope’s Promise Fourth Annual Food Festival. **Content:** #### *Chefs and community gather for Hope’s Promise 4th Annual Food Festival* By Adrian Collins The aroma of delectable cuisine greeted hundreds of guests as they arrived at the BAC Appliance Center in Englewood, Colorado on Thursday evening, April 19, for Hope’s Promise Fourth Annual Food Festival. Renowned chefs from the Denver Metro area volunteered their time and talents for the fundraising event benefiting local women and men facing unintended pregnancy, as well as children in family homes and education programs around the world. Altogether over $21,000 was raised to support Hope’s Promise. As guests lined up to register for the silent and live auction, chefs busily prepared special dishes in kitchen showrooms throughout the center. “This is our best festival yet!” said Beth Sheveland, Hope’s Promise board member. Beth has participated in several Connection Team trips to Kenya and loves to share her passion for vulnerable children with friends and family. “Every bid placed by someone here tonight is so personal,” Beth said, “It will touch the life of a child.” More than 85 items were generously donated for the silent auction, including an autographed football by Broncos player Terrell Davis, a Fire Station tour and dinner, a Decadent Saint Wine Tasting for 20, a round of golf at Arrowhead Golf Course, a scuba certification course and a Royal Gorge Helicopter tour. Pictures of orphaned children, as well as families with their adopted children, were lovingly displayed on tables, becoming conversation ice breakers during the event. After singers entertained the guests, Chef Dan of Manna Restaurant gave a live food demonstration and educational talk on the health benefits of Colorado-based lamb. “I want to teach families about healthy eating and wellness,” he said, while serving plates of lamb burgers. When asked why he volunteered, Chef Barclay, General Manager at LYFE Kitchen in Park Meadows, said he wanted the opportunity to support Hope’s Promise and introduce healthy dining options. “I feed people to fill them with joy, so they can fill others with joy,” Barclay said. Chef Jesse Arellano of C &C Coffee and Kitchen said, “We love kids!” as he served a spicy pork dish over rice and slaw. Indeed, the evening was centered around loving kids. As guests mingled from kitchen to kitchen, they exchanged adoption stories and expressed gratitude for the tremendous efforts by Hope’s Promise. Pastor Tim Allen of Cathedral Rock Church in Monument and his wife, Danielle, are parents to a 10-month old daughter adopted through Hope’s Promise. Both came to share their adoption story and recognize Hope’s Promise for their continued care and support for adoptive parents and birth parents. “The staff is extremely dedicated and immensely qualified in all they do,” Tim said. It was evident that most festival participants had been impacted by adoption in some facet of their lives. Whether through foster care, adoption or orphan care, attendees were passionate about helping children in some capacity. Carisa and Ross Montgomery, parents of three children and members of Plum Creek Community Church in Castle Rock (a Food Festival sponsor), shared their desire to expand their family through adoption one day. “I have a heart for adoption,” Ross said, explaining how both he and his sister are adopted. “Seeing how many people came tonight to support Hope’s Promise is incredible,” Carisa said. Former teacher and baker Allyson Kulinkski showcased her delicious gluten-free cookies while sharing her personal experience with adoption. With five biological children and four adopted from foster care, Allyson manages a busy home as well as a thriving business, Wave the Grain. “I wanted to do my part in helping the community,” she said about participating in the Food Festival. “Hope’s Promise works hard across the entire globe.” The live auction was one of the evening’s many highlights. Auctioneers Scott and Laurie Ellenberger expressed how Hope’s Promise was meeting a need in the community by offering Christian-based pregnancy alternatives and counseling. “We love how Hope’s Promise places vulnerable kids with parents who love them,” Laurie said. Scott, whose sister adopted a child through foster care, added that, “the love that a family gives makes a difference in the life of a child.” With his captivating rhythmic chant, Scott helped to auction several items including a week-long stay at a Silverthorne luxury home and spa, a YETI cooler and accessories, a basket of fine wines and a box of Palisade peaches. As the evening came to a close, participants gathered their winning bids and left with smiles, proud to be an integral part of an amazing cause. “We look forward to continuing our efforts in the community by raising adoption and orphan care awareness,” said Rachel Bates, Director of Adoptions, “Our greatest goal is to impact children, and we did that tonight.” --- *Adrian Collins writes about the real-life complexities of being both a birth mother and an adoptive mother. She is a full-time homeschooling mom of five children; one daughter who was placed for adoption at birth, one son adopted at birth, and three biological sons. Adrian has been a mentor to birth moms who choose an adoption plan for their children, as well as a speaker, and bible study leader for new moms. She studied journalism at Point Loma Nazarene University in San Diego and has a deep-rooted love of classic literature. Married to her high school sweetheart for twenty-one years they currently reside in Castle Rock, Colorado. When she’s not teaching or writing, Adrian is actively pursuing her goal of visiting all U.S. National Parks with her kids. Adrian is working on her first memoir about hope and healing through the journey of adoption.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Food Festival, Hope's Promise, Orphan Care --- ### [Connecting Birth Mothers and Their Stories](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/connecting-birth-mothers-and-their-stories/) **Published:** May 23, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** On Saturday, May 12th, Hope’s Promise hosted its 9th annual Birth Mother Coffee and Connection at Castle Oaks Covenant Church in Castle Rock, Colorado. The afternoon event centered around connecting birth mothers and honoring their decision to place a child for adoption. **Content:** By Adrian Collins On Saturday, May 12th, Hope’s Promise hosted its 9th annual Birth Mother Coffee and Connection at Castle Oaks Covenant Church in Castle Rock, Colorado. The afternoon event centered around connecting birth mothers and honoring their decision to place a child for adoption. This year’s theme, “Seeing the Beauty in Brokenness” was woven throughout the special occasion. After guests enjoyed coffee and light refreshments, the event began with introductions. Some birth mothers were accompanied by the adoptive moms of their children, while others brought a female family member or special friend to the event. Birth mothers came from all different walks in their adoption journey; some were new birth moms, making an adoption plan for their child only one year earlier, while some had placed over twenty years ago. Regardless, birth mothers all shared one commonality; each had made a sacrificial decision out of love for their child. “Being a part of this event is beyond my expectations,” said Margarita, a birth mom of an eight-year-old daughter. “It solidifies my decision to make an adoption plan and helps build relationships with others who made the same tough choice.” Margarita joined her friend and fellow birth mother, Charla, along with the adoptive mom of both of their children, Kristen Hutchins. “We make an entire weekend out of this event,” Kristen said. For the past nine years, Kirsten, Charla and Margarita have dedicated the same weekend to bond over shared dinners, patio chats and the Hope’s Promise Birth Mother Coffee and Connection. “I never imagined an open adoption could be this beautiful,” Margarita said. “We love each other and take care of one another,” Charla said, a birth mom to an eleven-year-old son, “We are like an extended family.” After introductions had been made, Katherine, a birth mom and intern at Hope’s Promise, shared her adoption story and led the group through a craft to demonstrate God’s grace and mercy in the midst of pain and brokenness. As the ladies sorted through fragments of colorful broken plates and laid them on bricks, Katherine shared how she’d felt broken during her pregnancy and the subsequent days following the relinquishment of her son. Next the group covered the entire brick with grout, filling in the spaces between the pieces of broken plates. Using a white towel, the ladies removed the grout from around the plate pieces to reveal a lovely pattern, each one unique, but distinctly beautiful. Katherine explained, “God fills in the cracks to make our brokenness beautiful. You have the power to live with God’s grace.” The song, “Clean” by Christian artist Natalie Grant played softly in the background as guests said their goodbyes and took a small box of chocolates with handwritten notes, donated by caring members of Plum Creek Community Church, a partner of Hope’s Promise. As birth mothers and their guests carried home their bricks of remembrance, Katherine’s words lingered for all. “You are loved and beautifully broken. --- *Adrian Collins writes about the real-life complexities of being both a birth mother and an adoptive mother. She is a full-time homeschooling mom of five children; one daughter who was placed for adoption at birth, one son adopted at birth, and three biological sons. Adrian has been a mentor to birth moms who choose an adoption plan for their children, as well as a speaker, and bible study leader for new moms. She studied journalism at Point Loma Nazarene University in San Diego and has a deep-rooted love of classic literature. Married to her high school sweetheart for twenty-one years they currently reside in Castle Rock, Colorado. When she’s not teaching or writing, Adrian is actively pursuing her goal of visiting all U.S. National Parks with her kids. Adrian is working on her first memoir about hope and healing through the journey of adoption.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog --- ### [Advocate](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/advocate/) **Published:** June 4, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** More than a million orphaned children live in Kenya. Yet, though I had previously worked in Mathare Valley, one of the largest informal settlements (slums) in East Arica, home to thousands of vulnerable children, I did not fully appreciate the plight of orphaned children until 2005 when I started working for an adoption agency. **Content:** #### *Personal advocacy for orphans adds up to societal change* By Steve Kariithi More than a million orphaned children live in Kenya. Yet, though I had previously worked in Mathare Valley, one of the largest informal settlements (slums) in East Arica, home to thousands of vulnerable children, I did not fully appreciate the plight of orphaned children until 2005 when I started working for an adoption agency. My work at the Little Angels Network adoption agency involved carrying out home assessments, preparing children’s documents, and filing these in courts. I handled cases from all over the country, and they revealed a whole new world to me. I realized that beyond the slums and in some of the most beautiful regions of the country, a lot of children lacked what they needed most, loving parents. Over one million households in my country care for an orphan. This means most orphaned children are connected to an adult in one way or another. While some live with families who are doing their best to help, some subsist with a woman sending them into the streets to beg on her behalf, or a crime lord using them to steal or ferry drugs, or a relative who is using them as labor. They find themselves in a world that does everything to exploit them. From my experience serving orphans, first as a volunteer with a Compassion International child development center, then as a social worker at an adoptions agency, and later as a pastor and a parent to twelve orphaned children, I have learned two things that help me advocate and make a difference. The first step (and I find this to be the most important), is to find out what is happening. We cannot advocate for that which we do not fully understand. Though I was born and raised in a country with so many orphaned children, like many who grow up in middle-class families, my life was insulated from that reality. I had to deliberately interact with a world different from where I lived and where I went to school to realize that so many children are vulnerable. I encourage my friends to visit orphaned and vulnerable children, and they often leave with a new perspective. The second thing I have realized is that everyone can do something meaningful. The smallest efforts can make the biggest impact. I first realized this truth when I was about nineteen, and I shared my old school textbooks with a vulnerable child. My simple act lit up their world in a way that I would not have thought possible. It was not just the books, but that someone cared enough to give them a gift. I have met orphans who remember the simplest gift they received many years ago, in addition to those whose lives were changed because they were adopted by a complete stranger. We can all do something to make a difference; and that fact places a responsibility upon all of us to act. Over the past few years in Kenya, there have been major improvements in the law that enhance the protection of children; but the most exciting shift for me is cultural. Children, especially the orphaned and vulnerable, are no longer shunned and people are rising up to help where they can. The advocacy of ordinary people like you and me is slowly but surely adding up to societal change. --- Steve Kariithi serves as pastor of Mathare Worship Centre and as Hope’s Promise Kenya’s Associate Country Coordinator. He and his wife, Joyce, also parent twelve former orphans at Sanctuary of Hope #2 in addition to their two biological children. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** advocacy, Kenya, Orphan Care, vulnerable children --- ### [Our Family Faith Journey](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/our-family-faith-journey/) **Published:** June 11, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** I’d always wanted to be a wife and mother. After marrying my husband, Paul, we agreed to start a family and I felt everything I’d hoped for was coming to fruition. **Content:** By Lisa Myhill #### Dreams of Becoming a Mom I’d always wanted to be a wife and mother. After marrying my husband, Paul, we agreed to start a family and I felt everything I’d hoped for was coming to fruition. While I prayed fervently for God’s direction and timing to be parents, I couldn’t imagine the journey that awaited me. Sadly, we were unable to become pregnant. We went through years of infertility procedures, even though doctors couldn’t find anything wrong. After years of failed pregnancy attempts, I began to question my plans. While I felt blessed to have a godly husband, I believed God would also grant me the desires of my heart by allowing me to become a mom, too. #### An Open Heart to International Adoption From the beginning of our marriage, Paul and I had been open to adoption. We both felt adoption was something we would pursue, in addition to any biological children that The Lord would give us. “Bring on the children in droves,” we would pray together. Also, we felt strongly about international adoption, as we had a special place in our hearts for China. During a Christmas trip to Colorado, we visited a church that supported a missions program at the Texas church where Paul and I were both employed. As my husband and I surveyed the ministry boards, we found a single brochure about adopting from China. Just one single brochure. We looked at one another and knew. God’s plan had begun to unfold before our eyes. Not telling anyone of our treasured brochure, or how international adoption would be possible at that season of our lives, we waited and prayed. When we returned home to Texas, friends approached us at work. God had laid on their hearts to fund an adoption for us. Our friends told us we could select anywhere in the world to adopt from, but they hoped it would be China! All infertility attempts ceased. With amazement, we rejoiced at God’s perfect timing and path for our family. #### Choosing Faith When we completed our initial adoption paperwork, we chose the name Faith for our baby girl, knowing that our journey was indeed one of faith. When we were matched with our child, we learned the Chinese name assigned to her derived from three separate sources of the orphanage. In Faith’s case, the three Chinese symbols combined to mean “Prosperous fruit tree.” Her chosen name affirmed to us that an outward evidence of faith in God, is the bearing of much fruit. We brought Faith home on Thanksgiving Day, 2001. In March of 2002, we became pregnant with our son, now 15, with two biological daughters to follow in 2005 and 2008. Our prayers were answered, in God’s timing and in His most beautiful and precious plan. While we are blessed to have a family of six, our adoption journey came with hardships. Due to overcrowding and lack of proper care in the Chinese orphanages, Faith struggled with Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD) as well as an attachment disorder, especially in the area of trust between a parent and child. While she wrestled with trust, Paul and I continued to love and guide her toward a safe place in God’s loving arms. We held firm to Deuteronomy 31:6 which says: *“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”* #### Adoptive Parents Can Love, Pray, Guide with Wisdom When asked, “What can one do for adopted children?” I believe it’s quite simple. I do the exact same things as with my biological children—love them, pray for and with them, and guide them with godly wisdom. I demonstrate the kind of love that comes from knowing Jesus personally; an unconditional, relentless, unwavering, patient, forgiving, generous, promise-keeping love that goes on forever. All children need to experience the never-ending love of Christ. From the time our children were very young, my husband and I have prayed with our children. Prayer is a humbling experience that allows our children to understand that we submit to someone higher than ourselves; that we “look” to someone for help in times of need, and thankfulness in times of plenty; that a relationship with Jesus Christ is the deepest and most fulfilling relationship one will ever have. *Proverbs 3:21-26 says, “My son, let them not vanish from your sight; Keep sound wisdom and discretion, so they will be life to your soul and adornment to your neck. Then you will walk in your way securely and your foot will not stumble. When you lie down, you will not be afraid; When you lie down, your sleep will be sweet. Do not be afraid of sudden fear nor of the onslaught of the wicked when it comes; For the Lord will be your confidence and will keep your foot from being caught.”* In every family relationship, whether an adopted or biological child, leading with godly wisdom is key in helping them navigate life’s hardships and trials. We desire our children to know that Jesus offers an abundant life. God-designed families are built on the spiritual and eternal, not the physical and temporal. As parents, we have the unique opportunity to share all of life’s ups and downs. We get to share the most precious gift with our children—the love of Jesus. We get the privilege of praying for them, with them, while teaching them to pray and submit to God’s plan for their lives. We get to spend each day, modeling wisdom that Jesus imparts, through the Holy Spirit to guide us. --- *Lisa Myhill is a stay-at-home mom and home schools her four beautiful children; Faith, Caleb, Hannah and Naomi. She has been married to Paul for 22 years, whom she met in high school. Currently, Lisa resides on twenty acres of grass, of which she is allergic, in Castle Rock, Colorado.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Attachment Disorder, International Adoption --- ### [A Guiding Hand for Birthmothers-The Adoption Process](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/a-guiding-hand-for-birthmothers-the-adoption-process/) **Published:** June 15, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** Paige, a college student, just learned she is pregnant. Terrified, alone and confused, she holds a positive pregnancy test in her hand, wondering what to do next. **Content:** By Julie Zaruba Paige, a college student, just learned she is pregnant. Terrified, alone and confused, she holds a positive pregnancy test in her hand, wondering what to do next. She wasn’t planning to have a baby at this time in her life, and needs to understand her options to make the best decision for herself and her unborn child. Paige wonders, “What should I do?” This is a common scenario, one that can seem hopeless for many young women facing an unplanned pregnancy. But adoption agencies like Hope’s Promise can provide a guiding hand to Paige, and other girls in a similar situation. No one should face these difficult circumstances alone. It’s important to find someone you can trust to walk you through every option available. If you are an expectant parent and are pursuing your options with the pregnancy, what should you expect from meeting with an adoption agency? #### Knowing Your Options First you need to know that Colorado is an agency state, which means if you choose to make an adoption plan, then you will need to work with an [adoption agency.](https://www.hopespromise.com/i-am-pregnant/) However, you have the right to choose which agency you want to work with. You may want to interview several agencies to see which one is the best fit. Each agency should explain their philosophy and religious affiliation. Your chosen agency should present all the options without bias or pressure. You need information about parenting, guardianship, and the adoption process. If you choose to parent, they should provide referrals and resources to you on parenting. They should fully explain the [adoption process](https://www.hopespromise.com/i-am-pregnant/) in a fair and balanced way. You need to understand your legal rights at their client. As a birthmother, you have the right to choose the type of adoption and the adoptive parents before the legal relinquishment process is final. You also have the right to change your mind. #### Getting Support An unplanned pregnancy can be an emotionally difficult time. Choose an agency who will be supportive of you in this time and give you helpful, supportive, and non-biased counseling during the process. The agency should come to you to meet you at your location and you can bring a friend or support person along. You have the right to terminate your relationship with the counselor if it is not a fit. Grief is a part of the relinquishment process. Ask how this agency will walk with you during your grief and loss. Ask if they will continue meeting with you after the birth and placement of the baby. #### Understanding the Relinquishment Process The relinquishment process is also a legal process. The agency should give you a clear explanation of your rights during the legal relinquishment process. In Colorado, some counties give an option of not having to appear in court for the relinquishment. Ask if that is in option in your case. You also have the right to consult with your own attorney if you choose. All potential birth fathers must be notified in Colorado. Your agency can complete this process for you and walk you through what it will look like. Making an adoption plan is a life changing decision, make sure you have a good understanding of the legal issues involved. Counseling services to expectant parents and birth parents should have no cost to you. Some pregnancy related expense can be reimbursed to you. Your agency can give you more details about this. Just because you meet with an adoption agency does not make you obligated to choose an adoption plan. If you are interested in meeting with someone to get more information about adoption or to get counseling about the decision-making process with your pregnancy, please contact [Hope’s Promise](https://www.hopespromise.com/i-am-pregnant/pregnancy-help/) and we will come to you for an information meeting. --- *Julie is a caseworker for Hope’s Promise working in the southern Colorado region. Julie earned a Master’s Degree in Social Work from the University of Michigan. Before joining Hope’s Promise, she worked as an Infant Mental Health Therapist in Michigan and as a Pregnancy Counselor and Adoptive Family Caseworker in Colorado Springs. She is honored to be working with a wonderful team of people at Hope’s Promise and in an agency that is ministry minded. To see her full bio please go to * ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Birth Mother, Hope's Promise, unexpected pregnancy --- ### [Because God...](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/because-god/) **Published:** June 22, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** You did not ask to be brought into this world, But God knew all about you, Because God had a plan for you **Content:** By Becky Culver *Dedicated to my birth-grandson Landon (adoptive name Justin) You did not ask to be brought into this world, But God knew all about you, Because God had a plan for you. You were not brought about by a carefully planned love, But God loved you unconditionally, Because God had a plan for you. You taught a young girl to grow up quickly While you were growing in her womb, Because God had a plan for her. We prayed for God’s will and to see His good, We strived to do the “right thing” Because He is a sovereign God. *They were meant to be parents, but not in the usual way, Because God had a plan for them.* *They could love many others along with their adopted one Because God gave them love from above.* *God brought us together In His good plan Because God is a worker of miracles.* You have been loved by us, Now you will be loved by them, too, Because God has entwined our families. We are grieving our loss, Yet rejoicing in their gain, Because God gives grace when we need it. We will always be a part of you, And you will always be a part of us, Because God has opened our heart and homes. So always remember my little birth-grandson… You are so blessed, Because you are loved by so many. Because God has a plan for you! With love and prayers, Your Birth-Grandma, Becky “For I know the plans that I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans for welfare and not for calamity, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11 ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Birth Grandmother, God's plan --- ### [Speaking Up for the Voiceless](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/speaking-up-for-the-voiceless/) **Published:** July 6, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** Last week during a break at a church board meeting, one of my friends took out her phone and began to show me pictures of her grandchildren. She took the time to tell me their names, ages and what was unique or notable about each child. **Content:** *By Paul Lessard* Last week during a break at a church board meeting, one of my friends took out her phone and began to show me pictures of her grandchildren. She took the time to tell me their names, ages and what was unique or notable about each child. These children matter to her, were known to her and she was very vested in their lives now, and in their future. These children, invisible and unknown to me before the proud grandma held up her phone, at once became visible and known through the actions of someone who cared deeply. Mark 1:15 tells us that Jesus came “announcing the kingdom of God.” During the three years of his formal ministry, Jesus repeatedly pointed to evidence of the kingdom among his hearers, which he stated could be seen and experienced by those with “eyes to see and ears to hear.” As well, Jesus painted a word picture of the kingdom’s future fullness. Jesus took the time with his listeners to elevate their awareness and heighten their perception of the invisible spiritual world all around them, which to that point was largely unseen and unknown by them. For a clearer picture of reality, someone was needed to enable new “eyes” and the new “ears.” In the same manner, the at-risk and vulnerable in our world often live unseen and unknown. They do not live with an absence of God, as the kingdom is here and now, but more than most, they live a life exposed to, and impacted by, their anonymity. By definition to be vulnerable means someone or something more powerful having control over a person which can lead to exploitation or victimization. The result of this vulnerability is not only powerlessness or seeming invisible; they are voiceless as well. *“* *Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, for the rights of all who are destitute. Speak up and judge fairly; defend the rights of the poor and needy.” Proverbs 31:8-10*. Proverbs 31:8-10 tells us that those of us who have a voice, whether because of position, privilege of birth, or an abundance of resources, are to speak on behalf of those without a voice. And, our speech is not simply to make the invisible, visible but to work towards alleviating the situation and circumstances which cause them to be at risk and invisible in the first place. However, for the writer of this passage, they weren’t simply thinking abstractly, they were writing about the poor and destitute whom they knew. The words of the writer were not simply rhetoric to grab the attention of the wealthy; it was a reminder to notice, speak on behalf of, and care for the vulnerable in their community. At [Hope’s Promise](https://www.hopespromise.com/), we know vulnerable and at-risk children in the United States and around the world. We have their pictures on our phones as we seek to speak on their behalf. It is our greatest hope to introduce these children to you so that you, too, can help make them visible and known to others. Working, praying, and supporting these children together, we can provide the resources needed to make a difference in their “now” and their future. --- *Paul has a Masters in Executive Leadership with an emphasis on nonprofit management. He has been a pastor, a musician, and a college teacher and administrator. Paul loves leading the Orphan Care ministry of Hope’s Promise and cares deeply for the well being and effectiveness of the international leaders, their teams, and the homes they lead. Paul and his wife Rebecca have 2 grown children.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** at-risk children, Hope, needy, Orphan Care, orphaned --- ### [Speaking for Those Who Cannot](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/speaking-for-those-who-cannot/) **Published:** July 20, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** There was a time in my life when trauma stunned me into silence. I unexpectedly learned about harm perpetrated against someone I love. A friend exposed the truth to me with kindness and sensitivity, but I walked away from the conversation shattered. **Content:** *By Colleen Briggs* There was a time in my life when trauma stunned me into silence. I unexpectedly learned about harm perpetrated against someone I love. A friend exposed the truth to me with kindness and sensitivity, but I walked away from the conversation shattered. I told no one even though surrounded by people who cared deeply for me. Two days later I met for the first time the person who caused the harm and who remained unaware of my knowledge of the truth. Several days after that I received medical confirmation—because of the incident, my loved one would suffer lifelong disability. It was too much, too fast. Too much intensity in too few days. I shut down. Grief penetrated like an arrow so deeply buried that even the shaft disappeared into the aching flesh of my heart. I stopped verbalizing anything that wasn’t absolutely necessary for some time after. I understand why people sometimes cope with trauma by refusing to speak. Literally shutting down is one form of voicelessness. But there are others. At night, his mother locked four-year-old David in their Mathare Valley slum shack while she wandered off in search of alcohol to numb her own pain. She stumbled home in the morning, drunk and unaware as her starving child escaped and rummaged through neighbors’ trash in search of something, anything, to eat. In a place of social disintegration due to unfathomable poverty, no one seemed to notice. With six square miles with 500,000 people crammed into corrugated metal shacks, he was just another skinny little kid, part of the landscape of ordinary suffering. Sometimes, even if you speak, you have no voice. I stood on the rooftop, looking out over Kibera, largest slum in Africa and one of the largest in the world. I scanned an urban jungle of rusty corrugated metal structures piled haphazardly on one another, linked by jagged wires, a tumble of harsh red and gray edges stretching as far as I could see. Then I followed my friend down a staircase to street level and ducked into a closet-size workspace. Grace paused her sewing project, and I settled on a small wooden stool, leaning in to hear her soft voice over the cacophony of the street rushing by only a few yards away. When she was ten years old, she said, her mother died in Uganda. Sent to Kenya to work as a house-girl for her uncle’s family, sometimes she received food, but never enough. School was not an option. Four years later, her uncle died; and she was turned out to survive on the streets. She never learned to read and write. In a country where street kids regularly approach cars stuck in traffic to beg for something, anything, who would read what she might write, anyway? By the grace of God, at age 17, she married a good man; but he died too young. Today she dreams of writing a book about her life story. But her first priority, in the ravage of widowhood, is to scrape up enough money for her own children to attend school. Sometimes, even if you want to speak, you have no voice. *Proverbs 31:8-10 New International Version (NIV)* ***8****Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves,* for the rights of all who are destitute.* ***9**Speak up and judge fairly;* defend the rights of the poor and needy.* Across the world, poverty silences people. Their voices simply cannot penetrate trauma, disease, neglect, abuse, starvation, orphan-hood, lack of education. I think about voicelessness differently after my own episode of reactive mutism. Trauma drove me deep into myself, into a dark trapped place. Words seemed pointless, inadequate. Thankfully, people who loved me didn’t let me stay there. They pursued me, listened to my grief, and drew me out to a place where I found my voice again. I was lucky to be able to access professional support. The adage, “What is shareable is bearable,” proved true; and God provided a path to healing. Pastor Karau, Hope’s Promise Kenya Country Coordinator, once said jokingly to a Hope’s Promise Connection Team, “Follow me as I follow Jesus.” He led us down from the rooftop of Mathare Worship Centre, which overlooks Mathare Valley, laid out like a ragged, jagged quilt of rusty metal squares. Then he led us out into the slum. That’s where Pastor Karau met four-year-old David. He got up close and personal enough to hear that tiny desperate voice. Then he spoke out and told other people about David; and together they did something about it. Now, David has been folded into a Hope’s Promise family; and visitors from all over the world want to hear what he has to say. I met Grace face-to-face and listened as she told me her story. Now I can’t stop thinking about her, praying for her, and telling people about her whenever I can. You see, it’s easy to speak up for others when you understand that the avalanche of statistics is made up of individual voices. When you get close enough to lean in and listen—to look into a person’s eyes, to realize “what is shareable is bearable” and they just shared their story with you—you start talking. You don’t need a formula or guidelines or points of action. Their stories pierce your heart, and you simply start speaking up for those who can’t speak for themselves. You write in your blog or write a book or create art. You collaborate with others to host an awareness event. You tell your Bible study group, co-workers, strangers in the grocery store. So, here’s my question: are you getting close enough to hear the quiet plea of the voiceless? And if their cry is faint, get closer to them in your own country. Or go to another country and meet them (maybe with a Hope’s Promise Connection Team). Or encounter them in books like “Half the Sky” by Nicholas D. Kristoff and Sheryl WuDunn or “The Global Orphan Crisis” by Diane Elliot. Then, start speaking up. --- *Colleen graduated from the University of Denver with a degree in Fine Arts in 1993, but her wild journey of following Jesus around the world since then motivates her attempts to capture in words and images His passionate pursuit of each of us. Colleen witnessed first-hand His light shining brightest in the darkest corners of the world, in places such as [Mathare Valley slum of Nairobi Kenya ](http://colleenbriggs.com/2013/04/25/where-true-joy-can-be-found/)and [poverty-stricken mountain regions of Vietnam](http://colleenbriggs.com/2013/08/14/a-secret-garden-that-changed-my-life-in-vietnam/).* *Colleen is married and has four children, two adopted from a Kenyan orphanage. Haunted by the children left behind t*hey helped to pioneer two Hope’s Promise children’s homes in Kenya, now home to 24 former orphans. Colleen *pursue’s Jesus in full-time art, photography, and writing and being home with her children. In images and words, she searches for “fragments of light” –* evidence of God’s relentless presence with each one of us, of [*His ability to redeem suffering*](http://colleenbriggs.com/2013/07/12/enamored-with-a-single-dying-weed/)*, and of His intent to give each one of us a hope and a future.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** advocate, Hope's Promise, Orphans, voiceless --- ### [The Supreme Court Opinion Everyone is Talking About](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/the-supreme-court-opinion-everyone-is-talking-about/) **Published:** June 29, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** The long awaited Supreme Court opinion in the Masterpiece Cakeshop case was handed down yesterday: 7-2 in favor of Jack Phillips and his business, Masterpiece Cakeshop. **Content:** *\[Reposted from the Family Policy Alliance website at [familypolicyalliance.com](http://www.familypolicyalliance.com) released June 5, 2018\]* *By Stephanie Curry, Esq., policy manager for Family Policy Alliance®* The long awaited Supreme Court opinion in the *Masterpiece Cakeshop* case was handed down yesterday: 7-2 in favor of Jack Phillips and his business, Masterpiece Cakeshop. Family Policy Alliance congratulates Jack Phillips and his legal team with our friends at Alliance Defending Freedom on their long-awaited victory! Jack is the Colorado cake artist who declined to create a wedding cake for a same-sex wedding ceremony in 2012. Jack, a devout Christian, treats his employees with faithful intentionality. He closes on Sundays, pays his employees a livable wage, and even loans them money when needed. He puts the same thoughtful intentionality into his business, meeting personally with couples and often attending the weddings and receptions for which he makes custom cakes. In line with his faith, he declines to design baked goods with Halloween themes, nudity, alcohol *or* for same-sex weddings. As you’ve heard, Craig and David Mullins sued Jack for declining to make them a same-sex wedding cake. The Mullins sued under Colorado’s Anti-Discrimination Law, which allows “sexual orientation” to be a protected class, like race or religion. Not only does this law invent a new protected class with inadequate protections for religious freedom, but the Colorado Civil Rights Commission has also been using its authority under the law to target and *discriminate* against people of faith. The very decision-makers who are supposed to identify and *prevent* discrimination, are themselves engaged in blatant and hostile discrimination against Jack Phillips and his religious beliefs. In their opinion yesterday, the Supreme Court harshly admonished the Colorado Civil Rights Commission and the Colorado Court of Appeals for their unconstitutional and discriminatory treatment of Jack’s religious beliefs. In the end, a case that, according to the media and groups like the ACLU, was about discrimination against the LGBTQ community was *actually* about discrimination against people of faith. The Court was crystal clear that discrimination against religious beliefs would not be tolerated when performed by the government, especially when the government has a constitutional duty to apply its laws *neutrally* *towards* *everyone*. There are still many lessons to be gleaned from the *Masterpiece Cakeshop* opinion, but the most important is that Jack should not have had to go to Court to defend his constitutional right to religious freedom in the first place. The Colorado Legislature should have reined in the Commission’s power and enacted strong laws to protect religious freedom for all its citizens, including Jack. This means it is critical for the family of believers to work together to elect legislators who will stand strong for religious freedom in every state. It is the responsibility of our elected leaders to pass good laws clarifying that people of faith are welcome in every state, including business owners like Jack. As Justice Gorsuch eloquently stated in his concurrence, “The Constitution protects not just popular religious exercises from the condemnation of civil authorities. It protects them all.” For more information on preserving our religious freedoms in the United States go to ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** constitutional rights, prevent discrimination, Religious Freedom, Supreme Court decision --- ### [A Birth Mom’s Adoption Choice](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/a-birth-moms-adoption-choice/) **Published:** July 13, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** I think I’m a good person, but I haven’t always made good choices. Getting pregnant wasn’t what I planned. God isn’t surprised.  He still loves me and will see me through, just like always. **Content:** *by Anonymous I think I’m a good person, but I haven’t always made good choices. Getting pregnant wasn’t what I planned. God isn’t surprised. He still loves me and will see me through, just like always. I have hard choices to make. I’m not ready to be a mom or to give my baby girl the life she deserves. Today, I choose life for my baby, and the gift of adoption for her future! Someday I’m going to be a great mom. In fact, I’m starting today by making the hardest decision of my life, and the best decision for hers. I know that because of my choices I will be looked at differently, and that’s okay. I’ll always love you, my sweet baby girl. You grew in my belly for nine months, and will be in my heart. be in my heart. [www.hopespromise.com](https://www.hopespromise.com) Paragraph – A birth mother’s choice is a difficult and complex one. When she chooses life for her baby and love for a lifetime with an adoptive family, she makes a brave and wonderful choice. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Birth mom, choose life --- ### [Traveling to Jupiter and Back ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/traveling-to-jupiter-and-back/) **Published:** July 27, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** Each adoption story is unique. No two mimic one another. Some adoptions happen with ease with others involve long periods of waiting and hardships. One thing I know for certain is this—God’s fingerprints are left on every child and every adoption journey.  **Content:** *By Brittany Whitworth #### **The Roads to Adoption** Each adoption story is unique. No two mimic one another. Some adoptions happen with ease while others involve long periods of waiting and hardships. One thing I know for certain is this—God’s fingerprints are left on every child and every adoption journey. For our family, God carved out two vastly different adoption paths, one short and smooth and the other long and bumpy, yet both led to the same destination—the joining of hands with our two beautiful children. #### **A Fast and Smooth Journey** When my husband and I adopted our first daughter, Libby, the journey to bring her home felt like a swift breeze. We were approved for adoption in early May and matched with Libby’s birth mom only ten days later. Our minds swirled with plans to welcome home our daughter in a short time period. We dashed with preparations. We celebrated with friends and family. We picked out her nursery colors. We hung newborn outfits in her closet. Just three months later, Libby was born. We held her close and praised God for His providence. As she slept soundly in her crib, my husband and I marveled at the quick and beautiful journey to bring her home. #### **Waiting for Another Child** With the ease of adoption in the back of our minds, my husband and I decided to begin the process to adopt again one year after Libby came home. We didn’t expect the upcoming journey to be so different from our previous one. After we were approved, a year went by without being matched with a birth mom. Our thoughts begin to waver on whether or not to forge ahead with adoption. After much prayer, my husband and I decided to continue the process and hoped for the best. A second year went by without being matched with a birth mom. I was reeling with doubt. As we prepared to renew our application, my husband and I huddled in prayer and lengthy conversations, wondering if we were meant to be a family of three or four. Unsure of the answer, we renewed our application and updated our home study. The years of waiting felt completely foreign and I wondered, *Why aren’t we being chosen?* #### **God At Work** As we waited, God was working through our dear friend and “Colorado grandmother,” Witzie. After bringing Libby home, Witzie had showered our daughter with love and shared pictures and stories with her childhood friend, Marqua, who lived in Florida. Through Witzie, Marqua learned that my husband and I were waiting and praying for another addition to our family. Marqua discovered a small adoption agency in Florida who had recently posted on Facebook about a need for two adoptive families. Marqua contacted Witzie, who contacted us and we decided to contact the agency. *It’s worth a try*, I thought. The very next day, we received a phone call from the agency. We’d been matched with a birth mom living in Florida who also shared my first name. Because the agency was located out-of-state, we needed to come up with additional fees of $39,500 in just a short amount of time. I tried not to panic as I put my faith in God to provide the amount we needed. Our friends jumped in and began fundraising. A Go Fund Me account was set up for people to donate. Other fundraisers included a friend who sold bags and donated the profits, a March Madness bracket, raffles, and even Witzie’s mom, Granny B, who at 92 years of age knitted beautiful scarves to sell. My husband also raised money by aerating lawns for one day. We stood in amazement when we realized we had received nearly the exact amount needed through donations and fundraisers. Through the kindness and generosity of others, I learned that numbers aren’t a giant block in the road, but only an obstacle that God can remove when we put our faith in Him. #### **Heading to Jupiter** We also found that God was in the midst of our travel arrangements to Florida. Before being matched, we had already planned a family trip to Disney World that happened to coincide with the due date of the expectant mom we were matched with. Since we didn’t know how long we’d need to stay in Florida for the adoption, I contacted a good friend whose aunt and uncle had a house just thirty minutes from where the expectant mom would deliver in a small town called Jupiter. I was floored by the turn of events. Not only had we secured plane tickets, we now had a host family for as long as we needed. I was headed to a strange town to adopt a child in unknown territory, but I saw God’s hands molding and shaping the path to bring home our son. #### **God is Our Unwavering Guide** When I held our newborn, Zeke, for the first time, I praised God for his faithfulness. I snuggled with my little one and thought about the incredible journey to bring him home. While there was indeed uncertainty and hardships along the way, I learned that God is my unwavering guide. When I couldn’t see around corners or sharp turns in the adoption process, He directed my steps and removed my worries one by one. My husband and I held onto the following scripture throughout our adoption process: “Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful.” Hebrews 10:23 The roads that led my husband and I to adopt our son and daughter were indeed different, but each one drew us closer to God in distinct ways. I learned to take refuge in God and allow Him to remove my fears. I learned to trust in God’s plans. I learned that His ways are perfect and He intends good for our lives. God’s blessings are endless. --- *Brittany is a follower of Christ, an Air Force spouse and mom of Libby (age 7) and Zeke (age 2). As founder and CEO of Love & Serve Well, Brittany is a health coach and passionate about serving and loving others well. Her other interests include adoption, racial reconciliation, jogging, swimming, yoga and reading.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Adoption Process, God's Faithfulness, God's plan --- ### [Choosing Life](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/choosing-life/) **Published:** August 3, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** We have a very special and unique blog for you today. Adrian Collins is our amazing Hope’s Promise Adoption and Pregnancy Blog Editor and has been gracing us with her beautifully written words since 2017. **Content:** We have a very special and unique blog for you today. Adrian Collins is our amazing Hope’s Promise Adoption and Pregnancy Blog Editor and has been gracing us with her beautifully written words since 2017. Now, we are thrilled to share her spoken word as well. Recently, Adrian had an interview with Phil Darke, the host of [ThinkOrphan](https://thinkorphan.com/). ThinkOrphan is a critical podcast that is shaping how we as Christians think and serve orphan children around the globe. In the interview Adrian shares her story – - The shock and shame of becoming pregnant as a junior in college, the direction and advice she received from people she trusted and walking out on her abortion appointment. - What women in similar situations need to hear from those that love them. - How churches can advocate for life by welcoming and mentoring young men and women facing unplanned pregnancies. - Being on two sides of the adoption process – as both a birth mother and an adoptive mother. - Reuniting with her birth daughter after 11 years of separation and building trust over honest conversations. Join us in listening to Adrian’s podcast and learn to celebrate hope in the midst of disappointment, joy in spite of difficult choices, and find a love that can move mountains. --- *Adrian Collins writes about the real-life complexities of being both a birth mother and an adoptive mother. She is a homeschooling mom of five children; one daughter who was placed for adoption at birth, one son adopted at birth, and three biological sons. Adrian has testified before the Colorado Senate committee on behalf of the Colorado Children First Act, and has been published in CBN News, Christian Post, Her View From Home and BLUNTmoms. She studied journalism at Point Loma Nazarene University in San Diego and has a deep-rooted love of classic literature. Married to her high school sweetheart for twenty-one years they currently reside in Castle Rock, Colorado. When she’s not teaching or writing, Adrian is actively pursuing her goal of visiting all U.S. National Parks with her kids. Adrian is working on her first memoir about hope and healing through the journey of adoption.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Birth mom, Hope's Promise, joy, love, Unintended Pregnancy --- ### [A Voice for Birth Moms: The Importance of Community](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/a-voice-for-birth-moms-the-importance-of-community/) **Published:** August 24, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** My fingers frantically typed on my keyboard: “Birth mother support group.” I hit the search button and waited. I placed one hand on my growing belly and hoped I could find someone who could understand. **Content:** *By Katherine, a birth mom advocate* My fingers frantically typed on my keyboard: “Birth mother support group.” I hit the search button and waited. I placed one hand on my growing belly and hoped I could find someone who could understand. Someone who could offer advice. Someone who had endured a similar experience. Someone who could answer my questions. Someone who would value my opinions. Someone. Anyone. *There must be other birth moms out there*, I thought. I glanced at the screen and waited to see what the search engine could find. #### My Story I found out I was pregnant immediately after graduating from high school. With plans to begin college in the fall, I carefully weighed my options. I had a heartrending choice to either parent or make an adoption plan. After much consideration, I decided not to parent. At the time, I was not in a stable relationship and couldn’t provide the care required for my baby. So, I visited a local pregnancy clinic where I discussed [adoption](https://www.hopespromise.com/i-am-pregnant/pregnancy-help/) as an alternative and learned that not only could I choose the adoptive parents for my child, but I could have a relationship with them. I left the clinic with a renewed sense of hope and went home to discuss the idea of adoption with close friends and family as well as seek the Lord’s guidance in prayer. I became enveloped with peace that adoption was the right decision for me and my child. #### Searching for a Community During my pregnancy, I craved interaction with other birth moms. I wanted to know if they had similar emotions to mine; if they had fears, worries or [unanswered questions.](https://www.hopespromise.com/i-am-pregnant/faq/) I wanted to know if other birth moms shared the same story as my own. I opened my computer and began researching for birth mom support groups in my area. One of the first search results was a page called “Birth Mom Buds.” I clicked on the site and discovered a group where birth moms can connect with other women who are currently pregnant and thinking about adoption and want to talk to other people who have been through the adoption journey. I smiled, relieved to know there were other birth moms on the same journey as mine. I joined the group and was matched with a girl named Jennifer who sent e-mails and connected me with an online adoption community. Through this community, I felt I belonged to a large group of birth mom “sisters.” Jennifer helped to add me to numerous Facebook groups where everyone welcomed me with loving words and encouraging notes. Suddenly, I didn’t feel so alone anymore. My community of birth moms gave me hope about my future and brought a sense of healing. There was even mention of birth mom retreats, although I was living far away from most of the girls and couldn’t attend. I wished there were more options where I lived. #### Support After Placement I placed my sweet son for adoption with an incredible and amazing family. As I stepped outside the hospital without my baby son I was overcome with grief. Yet through the grace of God and tremendous support, I found comfort and the strength to put one foot in front of the other. Faced with a myriad of emotions, I realized I needed more support than my Facebook group could offer. I wanted face-to-face interaction with other birth moms and someone to hold my hand in the healing process. I reached out to counselors, church friends, and others in the my community to see if a support group already existed. Unfortunately, there were few options available. With my growing need to speak with other birth moms, I decided to attend a retreat called, “Tied at the Heart,” hosted by one of my Facebook groups. #### Connecting with Other Birth Moms The retreat changed my life. It confirmed what I knew in my heart—that birth moms need a place to support and connect to one another. Women who had placed a child one year-to twenty-eight years earlier attended the conference. At the retreat, we discussed a variety of relatable topics including coping with grief, methods of healing, speaking our truths, as well as forgiveness. After hearing different stories and perspectives, I felt prompted to one day establish a support group in Western Colorado. Later, some local birth moms and I initiated a birth parent panel discussion on what adoption looks like from all different sides of the triad. Several members of our community came and listened to a wonderful panel of birth moms, birth dads, adoptive parents, and adoptees. My heart soared to watch our community grow and support myself and others impacted by adoption. #### Ways to Find Support Every birth mom needs a supportive community. Here are some way for a birth mom to find caring and loving support: **Get Involved with a Facebook Group** There are several great online community groups for birth moms! Some great options include: Caring for Birth Moms Tied at the Heart Modern Birth Mom Lifetime Healing **Find Birth Moms in Your Area** Talk to an [adoption agency](http://www.hopespromise.com) to find other birth moms who might be interested in getting together one-on-one or as a group. Having other birth moms as friends has been incredible helpful and erased loneliness in my adoption journey. **Attend a Birth Mom Retreat** A retreat is a wonderful opportunity for support whether you’ve placed a child one-year ago, or more than twenty years ago! It is a place for healing and connection with other birth moms. For me, learning from other’s perspectives has been invaluable. --- *Katherine is currently a senior in college studying social work and music. A birth mom advocate, she is passionate in sharing her story with the adoption community. In her free time, Katherine enjoys playing with her dog, Willy, and singing in her choir at school.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Adoption Journey, Birth mom, Post Placement Support --- ### [Daring Prayers for Adoptive Children](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/daring-prayers-for-adoptive-children/) **Published:** August 31, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** After many heartbreaking years of infertility, Leigh and Corrie adopted a healthy baby boy. They took him home from the hospital, and they all lived happily ever after. But wait. There’s more. Because sometimes the happy endings we imagine just aren’t spectacular enough for God.   **Content:** *Email used with permission* *Edited by writer volunteer, Carolyn MacInnas* After many heartbreaking years of infertility, Leigh and Corrie adopted a healthy baby boy. They took him home from the hospital, and they all lived happily ever after. But wait. There’s more. Because sometimes the happy endings we imagine just aren’t spectacular enough for God. Leigh and Corrie *were* happy. After what seemed like an eternity, one of their most profound wishes had been realized. They had pursued adoption in the past. Filled out all the paperwork. But now that they had Noah, they were no longer in a hurry to adopt. In fact, they weren’t pursuing it anymore. One phone call from [Hope’s Promise](https://www.hopespromise.com) changed everything. “We have an expectant mother considering adoption for her baby boy,” the social worker told them. “She’s due in two weeks. The baby will probably be born with special needs. Twenty-seven families have already said no. And, we need your answer in 24 hours.” This definitely wasn’t how Leigh and Corrie had expected to spend their day. The couple started praying and seeking council from friends and family members. Hours passed. As phone calls were made and e-mails exchanged, Leigh and Corrie became convinced God was leading them to embrace the unexpected. They pushed through their fear of the unknown and said “yes” to Dillon. When they met their son at the hospital a few weeks later, the doctors reported finding no physical abnormalities in Dillon at all. Corrie and Leigh dove head first into life with their new son. Family and friends rallied around them, sharing their joy. But their sense of relief over Dillon’s hospital diagnosis was short-lived. When Dillon was just six weeks old, the audiologist discovered he had severe hearing loss in both ears. Dillon’s parents grieved as they wondered how this condition might affect language acquisition, relationships and Dillon’s future. Corrie remembers sitting in her room one evening with the tiny child swaddled in her arms. Her eyes full of tears and her heart, full of questions. Her mother joined her in the dimly-lit room and took her hand. “Let me pray for him,” she said. Corrie and her mom laid their hands on the boy they’d already grown to love. They prayed for him with all the boldness they could muster. “Heal him, God,” they pleaded. “Heal him completely.” Years passed. Dillon still couldn’t hear. Hearing aids helped him, but they didn’t keep him from experiencing speech, emotional and motor delays. Now a 4-year-old, Dillon has made regular visits to get his hearing tested. Leigh and Corrie and their loved ones never stopped praying. Something strange happened around Christmas in 2017. Leigh and Corrie became concerned when they noticed Dillon was frequently removing his hearing aids and complaining about loud noises. Corrie and Dillon were in a store just before Christmas when a man came by with a squeaking cart. Dillon immediately covered his ears and began writhing from the pain in his head. Corrie knew the situation was becoming desperate. In early 2018, the family took Dillon to meet with a team of audiologists. After testing Dillon for over an hour, two doctors sat the family down. “I’m not even sure how to say this,” one said finally. Leigh and Corrie braced themselves. How could this get any worse? “Dillon is hearing everything at normal range for volume, frequency and pitch,” the doctor continued. “In both ears. What I’m telling you is this: his hearing is completely normal!” Before Leigh and Corrie could react, the other doctor chimed in. “We never get to give this kind of news,” he said, shaking his head in disbelief. “I have never even seen this happen!” The family walked silently through the parking lot after the consultation, redundant hearing aids in hand. In the car, they tried to process the impossible news they’d just received. They held each other like they’d never let go. They laughed, cried and praised God. “Dillon, buddy,” his parents gushed. “God healed your ears! You don’t need hearing aids anymore.” Dillon looked perplexed. “But my hearing aids make me special,” he said. His parents had certainly told him this many times in his young life. When Leigh and Corrie explained that God made him special with or without hearing aids, he was elated. “He did?” he asked, a broad smile creeping across his lips. In a sweet, reverent voice, Dillon cried: “Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!” Leigh and Corrie were prepared to live with Dillon’s hearing loss, knowing it would never make them adore him any less. They knew God’s plans and timing aren’t always the same as ours. Yet, they remained outrageously bold and faithful in prayer. Sometimes, God speaks through dramatic miracles like this one. Sometimes, He whispers his peace and comfort, gently promising to sustain us in the storms. But, like Dillon today, God has no problem with volume, frequency or pitch. He *always* hears us. What are you hearing from *Him* today? Could God be calling you to do something bold, unexpected, beyond your comfort zone for His glory? Could He be urging you to dream bigger-than-life dreams that will change a child’s future? You don’t have to be an adoptive parent yourself to make a tremendous impact. And you don’t have to change the world all alone. Start small. Take one step. Pray a daring prayer for families like Dillon’s. Reach out to parents of special needs kids with a meal, an offer to babysit or a listening ear. Love and support adoptive parents as they embrace new family members and life changes. If you’d like to learn more about how you can help children thrive in forever families through Hope’s Promise, contact . --- *Carolyn is a freelance writer and mother of two Russian adoptees. She studied communications at Harding University and received her MA in English from Abilene Christian University. She loves thrift shopping, traveling, drinking good coffee and spending time in the great outdoors of Colorado with her family. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Forever Families, Hearing Loss, Hope's Promise, Special Needs --- ### [Loving God, Inspiring Others](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/loving-god-inspiring-others/) **Published:** August 17, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** How do you become the kind of person who changes the trajectories of other people’s lives? How do you inspire others in eternally impactful ways?  **Content:** *By Colleen Briggs* How do you become the kind of person who changes the trajectories of other people’s lives? How do you inspire others in eternally impactful ways? Although Brian and Debbie Lee are far too humble to self-identify as possessing this kind of influence, many people mark turning points in their lives after meeting, knowing, and serving alongside them. Brian and Debbie are longtime supporters of the [Hope’s Promise ](https://www.hopespromise.com/i-want-to-support-orphan-care-child-sponsorship/child-sponsorship/)ministry in Kenya. Numerous accounts testify that the Lees are catalysts for charting or changing careers, adopting children, questioning deep-seated cultural values and reframing global perspectives. The Lees have ministered to college students for three decades as staff-workers with InterVarsity Christian Fellowship (IVCF). They serve year-round at a college campus in Montana and have led hundreds of students on the IVCF Global Project to Kenya every summer for more than twenty years. Katie Jamieson remembers, “Through a summer with (the Lees in Kenya), my eyes were opened to the reality of true poverty and of how deeply God loved the world, the whole world. Having honest and real conversations with fellow students and Brian and Debbie after walking through slums and visiting orphanages reframed my worldview from one of middle-class America to a more holistic and global perspective.” But the changes in Katie’s life were not only in terms of how she sees the world. During a second trip to Kenya, she served alongside her husband Brendan as Global Project staff with the Lees; and, as a result, they decided to adopt a child from Africa. They brought their daughter, Lilia, home in 2010. Lisa Lee (no relation), longtime friend of the Lees for about twenty-five years, recalls a pivotal moment in Debbie’s life in 2006. “I listened while she tried to decide to quit a nursing profession she had worked hard at and start a business to earn money to support Hope’s Promise in Kenya:[ *Pamba Toto*](http://www.pambatoto.com), Swahili for ‘adorn a child.’ What a wonderful thought, to adorn orphans with the love of Jesus in the form of a loving family.” Debbie continues *Pamba Toto* to this day, donating profits to the Hope’s Promise ministry in Kenya and, through her advocacy, raising up many child sponsors. Holly Leonard went with the Lees on an IVCF Global Project team and remembers, “Brian and Debbie’s passion for the cause of orphans is contagious. The first time I witnessed the plight of the orphan first-hand was twelve years ago in the slums of Nairobi with Brian and Debbie. Brian’s words after that experience are forever burned into my heart and soul, ‘You cannot un-see what you saw today. You are no longer ignorant to its existence, and you, therefore, have a responsibility to respond to it.’ The impact that had on me would eventually lead me to work (for Hope’s Promise) for five years. Their years of experience working with orphans and around extreme poverty have given them an incredibly beautiful perspective on the Gospel. The way they live and love reflects that in such a way that others can’t help but to take notice and be intrigued.” The Lees have also inspired others to join Hope’s Promise Connection Teams. Diane Joy, her husband, and their three children served with the 2012 team because of the Lees’ influence. Diane says, “What we’ve seen over the years is the agony of their heart as others are hurting, whether physically or spiritually. The longing in their eyes when they speak of someone who has yet to know the love of Christ and relationship with Him. The tears and heartache when a child, whether in Kenya or on a college campus are physically or spiritually orphaned and in need of HOME! They aren’t putting on a face or a front to make others want to do good or advocate for others. They simply stay connected to Christ; and because of that, they feel and do deeply whatever Christ asks of them. God used their lives and the relationship they have built with us to send us to Kenya and to see orphans in a whole new way. Because of that experience, we adopted a daughter from US foster care. We’ve been allowed to see life in a way that we were blind to before. I would say we hurt more deeply; we love more deeply, we find joy in smaller things. We are not and will never be the same.” Perhaps the most difficult respect to earn is that of those who know us best. Who see not only our selfless service, but our weariness, discouragement, and dark sides as well. Thus, perhaps the most poignant testimony of the Lees’ influence is that of their daughter, Hannah Crouse, who currently serves as Hope’s Promise Child Sponsorship Coordinator, “For the past thirty-two years, my parents have shown me that ministry never stops. Ministry is not just a two-week missions trip. As a follower of Jesus, ministry is every day. From the ages of 12-18, I spent my summers in Kenya with my parents. Each summer I saw and experienced something new and life-changing. I knew that my life back in the States was not reality. Life in the slums was reality. Life with AIDS was reality. Life as an orphan was reality. I came back each fall to my life and became increasingly frustrated with the priorities of those around me. It was because of my parents and their determination that their children would not grow up living ‘small lives’ that spurred me on and eventually lead me to a field of study in college that has launched me into the work I do now—working with children who, due to no fault of their own, are left alone in a world that is so overwhelmed with their numbers that they are swallowed up into statistics instead of the embrace of a family. I am forever grateful to my parents for their selflessness, their compassion, their love for Jesus and their heartbeat for the world.” Summarizing how to influence and inspire other people based on the Lees’ example is really quite simple—in the most complicated, costly kind of way possible: 1) Live what you say, and 2) Invite others to join you. Then, may it be said of each of us, as Lisa says of the Lees, “Brian and Debbie are the pebble, and I am one of thousands of ripples whose life and heart has been enlarged…” ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** advocacy, Influence, Inspire, Orphans --- ### [Thriving Against All Odds](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/thriving-against-all-odds/) **Published:** August 10, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** I didn’t recognize the young man I sat down beside. We smiled at each other, and I extended my hand and said, “Hi, I’m Diane, what’s your name?” He smiled and said, “Stanley!” **Content:** *By Diane Elliot* I didn’t recognize the young man I sat down beside. We smiled at each other, and I extended my hand and said, “Hi, I’m Diane, what’s your name?” He smiled and said, “Stanley!” Then, my North American assumptions started. Isn’t that the way? We assume then we try to prove our assumptions. Having been in Kenya for nearly ten days with Hope’s Promise, I had been meeting new people every day. I thought, however, that I had met all the children in our Hope’s Promise family home, so Stanley didn’t fit into my framework. “Stanley, I haven’t seen you before. How did you come to join us today?” I asked. All Hope’s Promise children, staff, and the American team were having an afternoon outing at a beautiful park, so I assumed that Stanley was one of the teens who was away at High School and just returned home, but he didn’t seem to blend in with the other children. He looked a little overwhelmed and out of place. He only took a little food from the buffet and looked uncomfortable with the amount of food the other children were happily eating. “I was invited by Steve, who is my mentor in the Mathare Valley Church.” Hm. Now I’m confused. Steve is one of our house fathers and is, in fact, an elder and mentor to many teens at the church as well. Why would Stanley be included in our Hope’s Promise retreat? As we talked, Stanley proved to be a wonderful conversationalist. His English, impeccable. His thought process very mature and logical. His dreams, specific and bold. But there was one thing that I couldn’t compute; his clothes! Stanley’s tee shirt was tattered and his pants were too big and quite worn. All of the rest of the children in our family homes had cleaner clothes that fit nicely. At the lunch table, I never did get all of the information I needed to make sense of Stanley. I was so taken by him that I was able to put my assumptions aside and soaked in the conversation and loved every moment. Later, when talking with Steve, I found out the rest of the story. Stanley lost his father to AIDS. He lives with his mother in Mathare Valley and she, too, has AIDS with a very grim prognosis. Sadly, Stanley also contracted the disease at birth but is managing his symptoms with free medication from a local clinic. Dirt poor, Stanley’s mother could have never afforded an education for Stanley except for one small saving grace; Hope’s Promise sponsors! While the main focus of our [orphan care program](https://www.hopespromise.com/i-want-to-support-orphan-care-child-sponsorship/child-sponsorship/) is providing orphaned children with permanent placements with loving families, a small percentage from each sponsorship is used for our “orphan prevention” education program for children like Stanley. Because of his educational scholarship, Stanley can live with and help care for his mother, and still be able to grow, learn, dream and BECOME! Stanley has worked hard, and because of the opportunity of education, I have confidence that Stanley will find a good job, be a good worker, and finally, break the chains of poverty that have bound his family for generations! And, this is one assumption that I am excited to embrace! If you would like more information about child sponsorship and help educate vulnerable children like Stanley, please contact --- *Diane Elliot is an author, professional photographer, and former Development Specialist at Hope’s Promise. In 2010 she had the opportunity to write a book with Moody Publishing about the orphan crisis which broke her heart and refocused her trajectory. Today her life’s mission is to advocate for orphaned and vulnerable children around the world.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Break Chains of Poverty, Educational Assistance, Hope's Promise, Orphan Care --- ### [Vietnam Travel Diary](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/vietnam-travel-diary/) **Published:** September 4, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** In the fall of 2014 Executive Director, Beth Woods visited Hope’s Promise homes in Vietnam for the first time. Moved, inspired and excited to go back again this fall, Beth shares some of her wonderful experiences with us. **Content:** *By Beth Woods* In the fall of 2014 Executive Director, Beth Woods visited Hope’s Promise homes in Vietnam for the first time. Moved, inspired and excited to go back again this fall, Beth shares some of her wonderful experiences with us. Caution – you might just feel the need to GO! Where is God calling you? **Saturday:** It was a very long 8,000-mile trip, but we finally arrived in Vietnam late yesterday. After a quick night’s rest, we drove a few hours to visit Hope’s Promise Home of Hope (HoH) 1. The house parents of HoH1 are amazing. Five years ago, they took in eight orphaned boys and this year one more joined them. They are now raising nine teenage boys, the oldest 17 and the youngest 13. I asked if they eat a lot and the Hope’s Promise Country Coordinator shared that when Bang (age 15) came to visit him the previous summer, he ate nine bowls of rice on the first morning. He said as a grown man he eats only one. The next morning Bang said he was still hungry after breakfast the day before and then proceeded to eat eleven bowls of rice! After we left HoH1, we traveled to visit a Thrive education sponsorship program. The group is made up of 30 orphaned or vulnerable students who would not be able to afford an education if not for Hope’s Promise sponsors. The group is based in an area where the Jro tribal people live. The Jro culture does not believe formal education is important. Many parents keep their children out of school so they can work. There were 30 students in the program last year and all but one returned this year, which is very encouraging. The Hope’s Promise social worker shared that his biggest challenge is convincing the parents they need to keep their children in school. The oldest Thrive student shared that she hopes to become a teacher after high school. The youngest boy is six years old and attended the meeting with his grandfather. He and his 4-year-old sister are living with their grandfather. His father died in an accident four years ago while his mother was pregnant with his sister. His mother died two years later from cancer. His grandfather is thankful for the Thrive program as it allows his grandson to attend school. It was a long but inspiring day! **Sunday:** Today we attended church and then, after lunch, flew to a province on the coast in central Vietnam. The people we met were so kind and inquisitive. Traveling took most of the day, and we arrived at the hotel just before bedtime. **Monday:** Today we went to visit the family of HoH2. With two grown daughters in college, the HoH2 parents are now raising three orphaned children, Nguy, Nuy, and Douc. We were so impressed with the way the parents interacted with the children. They were very nurturing, stroking the children’s hair as they proudly shared their accomplishments. The family from HoH3 joined us at the house. The parents of HoH3 have a biological daughter and son and have brought into their family three other children: Tam, Mo Phon, and Ho Bon. Wow! Ho Bon is a handful: busy, loud and strong-willed. It took both sets of parents and all the kids to keep him reigned in. But what a cutie! These parents were also very nurturing to their children. The father is such a happy and warm person. He loves to laugh and be playful. We took the whole crew out to a restaurant for traditional Vietnamese lunch. Douc was my little caretaker during the meal. He showed me how to use my chopsticks, how to dip my food, and he kept loading my plate up with food. He would wrap fish and fresh vegetables in rice paper and hand it to me. I really dislike fish, but he was so sweet that I had to eat it. After lunch, we headed to the seashore for some fun. We played on the rocks and the kids posed for about a million pictures. The whole time someone was always yelling “Bon! Bon, come back here! Bon, not so far! Bon no!” I’m sure the kids slept well. I sure did! **Tuesday:** This morning, we returned to HoH2 for some time to talk to the parents without the children. I asked them to describe each child. They said Nguy has a special heart, and he wants to serve God as a pastor. They said he loves his brother and sister but has a hot temper. When he gets angry, he sometimes uses his fists instead of his words. They joked he needs to work on this before becoming a pastor. They went on to lovingly describe each of the children in detail. The father told us that God has blessed them so much. He said their two children left home and they were lonely. Having more children to love and care for has made them happy. After lunch, we traveled to HoH3. As Christians in a country with a communist government, we had to be careful not to draw attention to ourselves. The HoH3 home is more rural and rustic. They have a large vegetable garden and a lot of fruit trees. They raise chickens and sells eggs to make money for the family. They have a small home, and all five children sleep in one room with one bunk bed. I asked where their biological kids slept, and they said on the floor. I questioned why the older children slept on the floor instead of the younger ones. The father said they are old enough to understand that the three new children need to feel this is their home and they are family. Sleeping on the floor might make them feel bad. He said they hope to add a room to the back of the house but need to raise funds. We asked them what the most challenging part of raising these three children is, and they very honestly said “Ho Bon.” They shared that in the beginning they were not sure they could do it and felt frustrated with him a lot. When Ho Bon first came home he misbehaved a lot. He would pick all the fruit before it was ripe. He would catch all the little fish in their lily pond and squish them. And they found him swimming in their drinking water basin several times. At school, he would get out of his seat and wander around. He wouldn’t listen to his teacher. But, they said, he has made a lot of improvement and is doing better now. They also said they are comfortable sharing with others in the community why he behaves the way he does, and people are understanding. They said they are more patient with him now. **Wednesday:** Today hasn’t been the best day. It did start off great with a walk on the beach before breakfast at 6:30 a.m. and check out of our hotel at 7 a.m., but then it went downhill. Our itinerary had us traveling to HoH4 and arriving by 1:30 p.m., but we had to make an unscheduled stop at the mechanic for some work on the van. We headed over the mountain later than planned. The roads are very poor. The ruts in the road make for very slow going. It was bouncy and rough and rained much of the day. Of course, there are no rest areas, restaurants or convenience stores for bathroom breaks or food. Thanh packed food to eat in the car, so our lunch consisted of a Vietnamese version of Twinkies and Ding Dongs. Then we had some coffee flavored candy for dessert. Very tasty and nutritious too! After a very long day of travel, we arrived well after bedtime, too late to visit HoH4. Although things didn’t go as planned, I am excited to see what tomorrow holds. **Thursday:** Today we visited HoH4. The boys don’t speak English, so we had to communicate through an interpreter. The parents at HoH4 have raised three biological sons and seem confident in the role as parents to these four boys. The father shared their biggest struggle is when Y Tien’s aunt comes to visit. He said she whispers to him when they are not looking and are not sure what she is saying. He said Y Tien is a bit difficult for a few days after her visits but then returns to normal. After leaving, we went to visit the relatives of Y Ngoanh. His tribe is in a village not far from HoH4. To get there, we left the paved road and drove on a dirt road for a while. Then we parked the car and walked on foot down a narrow trail through the trees and finally arrived at a small secluded village. We visited the home of Y Ngoanh’s grandmother and grandfather. Their entire extended family joined the meeting. The people of the village must have gotten wind that foreigners were there and kept coming to get a peek at us through the windows and door. Most of them had never seen a foreigner before. Y Ngoanh’s family did not speak Vietnamese so we had to have two translators for the conversation; one from their language into Vietnamese and then one from Vietnamese to English. Y Ngoanh’s grandmother said she was surprised that we would come to visit. She said many times people give money to help poor children, but they never actually come to visit to make sure the child is okay. She said she was grateful that we cared and grateful for the opportunities we were giving her grandson who is in the Thrive education program. She said they pray for our organization all the time. I was so moved. This extremely poor woman who cannot read or write and lives in a small remote village in Vietnam is praying for us! It was a humbling experience, to say the least. After leaving the village, we headed to the airport for our return flight to Ho Chi Min City. We arrived at our hotel at 9:30 p.m. this evening. **Friday:** After a good sleep, we had our debrief meeting with our Country Coordinator, dinner with his family and then off to the airport for our long journey home. I am sad to leave Vietnam but excited that I’ll be able to see my family soon! Looking back, my time in Vietnam was nothing like I expected; It was much, much more. I was privileged to see a small snapshot of God working in the lives of orphaned and vulnerable children. Before these children came to Hope’s Promise, they faced a grim future, and yet today each of them has a beautiful life filled with hope and love. Much of that hope is rooted in the love that they are now experiencing with their house parents and the Hope’s Promise country staff. They inspire me, and I want to continue to support them and to grow our orphan care program so that we can give hope to even more children around the world. **What about you? Where is God calling you to go?** ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Hope's Promise, Orphans, Vietnam --- ### [God Knew All Along](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/god-knew-all-along/) **Published:** September 11, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** I have been inspired by many in this world: Mother Theresa. Nelson Mandela. Harriet Tubman. Oskar Schindler. Their acts of love and courage were recognized and applauded across the globe. Yet there is a hero of mine whose name is neither printed in any publication or shared on news media. She has become one of my greatest inspirations. She is my son’s birth mom. **Content:** *By Adrian Collins* I have been inspired by many in this world: Mother Theresa. Nelson Mandela. Harriet Tubman. Oskar Schindler. Their acts of love and courage were recognized and applauded across the globe. Yet there is a hero of mine whose name is neither printed in any publication or shared on news media. She has become one of my greatest inspirations. She is my son’s birth mom. When she placed her baby boy in my arms ten years ago, I stood in silent awe at the magnitude of her sacrifice. Her brave and heart-wrenching decision in choosing adoption for her son captured my breath. Her motivation? Love. Pure and selfless love. #### Giving Honor at the Adoption Entrustment Ceremony Before parting ways at the hospital, we had arranged for an adoption entrustment ceremony inside the hospital chapel. This meaningful ritual in open adoption marks the transition of a child from one family to another and emphasizes an extended family connection that will honor and respect the birth mom’s bond to her child. On the morning of the ceremony, I rose early from bed to polish a poem I’d written for the occasion. Poems were unfamiliar territory to me, yet the words had flowed into my mind like rushing waters and emptied onto a single page. The poem would become a personalized gift. I tucked the poem inside a folder and dressed my three young boys in neatly pressed collared shirts and khaki pants before we piled into the car and headed to the hospital to meet their baby brother. When we pulled into the hospital parking lot, my husband led our family in a word of prayer, asking for God’s guidance in our adoption. I placed my palm on the folder and he prayed for God’s comforting hand on the birth mom as she grieved the loss of her son. We prayed that she would know how much we loved and honored her. The small chapel was filled with several family members from both our side and the birth mom’s side: grandparents, parents, siblings, spouses, and children sat shoulder-to-shoulder in the dozen church pews to demonstrate their care and support. A pair of white lilies sat on opposite ends of the stage; the bright flowers seemed to radiate against the dark stained-glass backdrop. We filed inside quietly and sat across from the birth mom who held her infant son and stared intently at his sleeping face. I couldn’t keep my eyes off her. While strength and courage oozed from her being, I also recognized the painful expression on her face. I was a birth mom once, too. I remembered staring at my infant daughter’s face for those last few minutes with her; soaking in all her sweet features, memorizing the shape of her lips and outline of her nose, willing my mind to never forget. I vowed to make sure her son’s face wouldn’t become a distant memory, but instead would see him whenever possible and develop a sweet relationship with him as he grew. #### Words of Love and a Poem Reading The ceremony began with a short prayer from my pastor. After reading scripture and speaking a few words of encouragement, the birth mom took the stage with her parents at her side. Words of love and adoration for her baby spilled from her lips and hovered over the audience like wisps of a cloud. My husband and I wiped away our tears as she thanked the two of us for our commitment to raising her son. Several others joined her on stage: Her parents showered her with affection. Her sister spoke of her bravery and sacrificial act of love. My mother offered a baby blanket she’d knitted in colors of navy and brown. My husband choked back tears as he promised to love her son unconditionally and teach him about Jesus. When it was my turn to take the stage, my voice trembled as I read the poem I’d written for her: “**Who Knew**…that you would learn of a little one growing inside you. Or the fears and anxiety of all that was to come. **Who Knew** that this little one would listen to your heartbeat, feel your warmth from the beginning. **Who Knew**…that I’d hope for another baby to add to our family. That I would pray for a little one to cherish, care for and show God’s love to each and every day. **Who Knew**…that our paths would one day cross. That this little one growing inside you would tie us together. Who knew of the friendship that would blossom. **Who Knew**…the tears of joy I would feel when you chose us to become the parents of this beautiful baby boy. That our family would embrace and love you. That our boys would pray for you and their new baby brother each night before bedtime. That my heart would wrap around your as we began this journey together. **Who Knew**…that you would give birth to a perfect baby boy. That I would look at him with wonder and amazement. **Who Knew** that we would make a promise to love him unconditionally, care for and support him, encourage him and share with him the story of his beautiful and courageous birth mother. **Who Knew**…that I would try to find the right words to tell you just how thankful we are for this beautiful baby boy. That I would thank you for entrusting him to us and giving us this opportunity to love him each and every day. That I would thank you from the bottom of my heart for this gift of love you have given to us. **Who Knew**…that this little boy would touch so many lives? **God Knew**. **God Knew**…that we would be brought together. God formed this baby boy in your womb. God prepared our hearts to embrace this bundle of joy. God painted this beautiful family portrait from the beginning. And I will thank God each and every day for the child that you gave and for the child we will raise. I thank God for your amazing heart and blessing you are to us. I thank God for the baby boy. I’m so glad that **God Knew**…all along. #### Inspired by the Love of a Birth Mom When I finished reading, I locked eyes with our son’s birth mom and hoped she would always know the depth of our gratitude and love for her. “Thank you,” she whispered. I wrapped my arms around her and our baby boy; the three of us encircled in a relationship of trust and mutual love for one another. Today, when I reflect upon the ceremony, I remember the love of a birth mom. I remember how God knew all along that we would cross paths and she would choose me to parent her baby boy. I remember that “in all things, God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to His purpose.” (Romans 8:28). I remember being inspired by her grace and courage. And I continue to thank God for her. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Entrustment, Open Adoption --- ### [If Devastation Had a Face](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/if-devastation-had-a-face/) **Published:** September 19, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** A shuddering breath escapes my lungs as I take in the environment surrounding me. This is my first encounter with the extreme devastation of poverty. I see the tear-stained faces of people who know what it feels like to skip meals on a regular basis. **Content:** *By Lyndsi Tellinghuisen* A shuddering breath escapes my lungs as I take in the environment surrounding me. This is my first encounter with the extreme devastation of poverty. I see the tear-stained faces of people who know what it feels like to skip meals on a regular basis. I gaze upon the sewage-filled alleys and buildings that are weary and ready to release the weight they’ve been bearing. I see a man crouched on a street corner snorting glue in hopes of getting high to forget his current state of life, even for a short while. My head is spinning with the shock of immersion into a society so different than my own. Suddenly, in that moment, devastation had a face. It is the face of an orphan child; the face of a mother who is dying of aids. It seems to be every face that calls Mathare Valley “home”. My feet enter the door frame to a small school deep within the slum. My heart breaks when I see the conditions of education offered in a third world country. None of what I am encountering feels fair, nor does it arouse positive emotions within me. The feelings I identify with are “bitterness” and “frustration”. That is until I encounter children playing in the schoolyard. I hear laughter, singing, and cheering for their playmates. The emotions they exude are those of joy, contentment, and hope. They have a roof over their heads. They have the hope of an education because of their [sponsors](https://www.hopespromise.com/i-want-to-support-orphan-care-child-sponsorship/child-sponsorship/). Amidst all the negative outlooks of people in the community they live in, here is a group of kids filled with utter joy. In that moment, a thought rings clear in my mind. “These children have so little. Why is it that they seem to embody so much more joy than the children in America? What do these children have that Americans are lacking?” After I returned home from the 2017 Hope’s Promise Kenya Connection Team trip pondering this experience and others, questions filled my brain. I began to view my comfortable, cushy life back home differently. Devastation started to take on a new face, and its name is America. Through a lens transformed by my time in Kenya, I began seeking a whole different kind of wealth. I began to see the people of America as poor… We rob ourselves of precious quiet moments with the Lord. We rob ourselves of time to spend with loved ones because we are too busy fattening our pockets. We rob ourselves by booking every moment of our lives and leaving no room for spontaneity and Spirit-lead interactions. We rob ourselves of true joy that we can’t find in a 401K retirement fund or a promotion. As I integrated my experiences in Kenya back into my life at home, my perception shifted on how I choose to use my short time here on earth. I want to live a life that is rich in relationships with my Lord and the people I encounter here on earth. My time in Kenya was eye-opening and heartwarming as well as heartbreaking. Witnessing how people in Mathare Valley and Nairobi, Kenya value the true meaning of life empowered me. It gave me great hope to see that even in the toughest of times, life is still a gift and a blessing to be celebrated. Often, we identify a good life based on the things we own or our success, when in reality a good life should be measured by the love it has brought us and the love we have shared with others. People don’t get to the end of their life and regret the number of fancy dinners they missed or count the amount of money they spent or kept. My trip to Kenya helped me realize that the value we get out of life is not found in the things we can’t take with us. It’s found in the moments we share. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Connection Trip, Kenya, Orphans --- ### [Finding God in the Details: A Birth Mom’s Story](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/finding-god-in-the-details-a-birth-moms-story/) **Published:** September 25, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** I made an adoption plan for my son in 2001. At the time, I was nineteen and had just started a relationship with the birth father, Mike, when I discovered I was pregnant. **Content:** *By Megan Bartocci* I made an adoption plan for my son in 2001. At the time, I was nineteen and had just started a relationship with the birth father, Mike, when I discovered I was pregnant. Immediately, we considered our options. We both agreed that abortion wasn’t an option. We didn’t want to get married for all the wrong reasons and considered co-parenting although we knew the task would be a difficult one. We agonized over our choices and spent hours in deliberation over what option would be best for our son. We desired for our son to live in a stable home with a married mother and father. We wanted him to have a stay-at-home mom. More than anything, we wanted our son to be raised in a God-centered home with a love that extended beyond the house walls and into the lives of others. At the time, our still-growing relationship didn’t resemble the family we wanted for our son, so we made the heart-wrenching decision to make an adoption plan for our sweet boy. #### Finding a Forever Family We made an appointment with a social worker at [Hope’s Promise](https://www.hopespromise.com/i-am-pregnant/pregnancy-help/) and sat down to a stack of seven profile books. I remember thinking, “How am I going to choose the right family amongst all these beautiful families?” Before opening the books, Mike and I made a detailed list of the qualities that we wanted a family to have. We wrote our greatest desires and dreams for our little boy, deciding that the family with the most checkmarks on our list would be the family we would ultimately choose. We began by reviewing seven profile books. After looking through each book carefully, Mike and I separated the books into a “Yes” and “No” pile. While every family had wonderful qualities, there was one book that stood out from the rest. This family had the most checkmarks on our list. We agreed. Mike and I had selected the family for our son. #### Adoptive Parents with a Heart for Open-Adoption I was about seven months pregnant when Mike and I met the [adoptive family](https://www.hopespromise.com/i-am-pregnant/pregnancy-help/). I wrung my hands in nervous anticipation of meeting the adoptive parents. I didn’t know what to expect or how to feel. During lunch, the adoptive mom asked me how open we wanted our relationship with our son to be. I turned and looked at Mike. At this point, we hadn’t decided on the extent of our involvement in our son’s life. While we both knew we wanted a relationship with our son, we didn’t know what it would look like. The adoptive mom smiled and said they’d be willing to make an adoption plan that would make us both comfortable in our decision. I sighed with relief as the adoptive mom laid out several options: If Mike and I needed space, she’d be happy to send pictures. If we wanted to grow a relationship with our son and visit a few times a year, they would make it happen. If our son wanted to join us on the occasional family vacation, the adoptive parents were willing to make it happen. I was truly blown away by the level of openness and trust given by the adoptive couple to the two of us. #### Saying Goodbye Planning for my hospital stay was challenging. The moving parts of my hospital plan were difficult to set in place. One thing was certain: I needed to be a mother to my son during the time we had together. I needed to bond with him. I wanted my son to stay in the room with me so I could feed and change him, wake up with him in the middle of the night, and share him with my friends and family. However, things didn’t go according to plan. During my delivery, there were complications that required my baby boy to stay in the NICU rather than with me. I was crushed. I watched as my plans slipped through my fingers. Understanding my feelings of devastation, my boyfriend Mike suggested that we bring our son home from the hospital for a few days before taking him to his new home. While we both knew that bringing our son home would make the relinquishment much harder, we also needed to make sure that, when all was said and done, we didn’t have any regrets. #### A Time for Reflection As I reflect on my son’s birth seventeen years ago to my life today, I am in complete awe of how the events in my life, as well as my son’s, have come together in ways that I didn’t even know were possible. God had his fingerprints on the biggest of decisions, as well as the small details. Mike and I have now been married for twelve years and have had three more children together. As for our birth son, we have been blessed to watch him grow over the years and continue to build a relationship with him. It’s a story I would have never dreamed possible when I said goodbye to him all those years ago. We watch our son play sports, spent weekends together to celebrate his birthday, and he accompanies us on family vacations from time to time. Mike and I feel blessed to be able to have heartfelt conversations with our son about our decision to help him process his adoption. Throughout this journey, there have been many ups and downs, but I find absolute comfort in knowing that my son is right where God wanted him to be. --- *About Megan* *Megan and her husband, Mike, live in Northern Denver where they are raising three children. Before she decided to stay at home with her kids, Megan worked in the hospitality industry as a Human Resources Manager. Now you will find her keeping busy managing her home, volunteering at her children’s school, and spending time with friends and family.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Birth mom, Open Adoption. Relinquishment --- ### [Embracing the Unexpected: How Adoption Intertwined Two Families](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/embracing-the-unexpected-how-adoption-intertwined-two-families/) **Published:** October 10, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** Marva and Robin never expected a forever bond to take place between their two families. They never anticipated a lasting friendship to be formed. **Content:** *By Adrian Collins* Marva and Robin never expected a forever bond to take place between their two families. They never anticipated a lasting friendship to be formed. When Marva and Robin began pursuing adoption for their families, they couldn’t have known that their paths would collide in a most beautiful and unexpected way. Once they met, they quickly realized that only a loving and caring God could have purposely joined their families together. Marva and Robin are adoptive parents raising birth siblings. Two years ago, they were introduced at an annual *Hope’s Promise Adoptive Families Picnic* in Castle Rock Colorado, by a social worker who facilitated both of their adoptions. Not only did the siblings form a bond, but the adoptive parents began a life-long friendship. **Two Roads to Adoption** **Robin’s Story** Married for sixteen years, Robin and her husband, Jason, always planned on having a family. After trying a variety of fertility treatments with no success, they decided to pursue adoption. They were soon chosen by a birth mom who made an adoption plan for her daughter, Jaydin. Robin and Jason were delighted to adopt Jaydin and decided to start the adoption process again with Hope’s Promise two years later. When they welcomed home their son, Alex, Robin felt her family was complete. “Little did we know there were more surprises coming,” Robin said. One of Hope’s Promise’s best practices is to keep birth siblings together whenever possible, so when Robin received a call that Jaydin’s birth mom was pregnant again and had decided to make an adoption plan, Robin had a decision to make. At the time of the call, Robin was recovering from a significant knee injury. “I felt we weren’t in a position to bring another child into our home.” Robin said, “It was extremely difficult to say no to adopting, but I felt that God had another plan for this child.” After Robin decided they could not adopt this child, the caseworker contacted Marva and her husband, Dave, to adopt Jaydin’s half-brother, J.T. **Marva’s Story** Married for 22 years, Marva and her husband endured several years of infertility treatment before they decided to pursue adoption. “We couldn’t imagine getting to the end of our lives without being able to experience parenthood,” Marva said. “We wanted to hear a little one call us ‘mom’ and ‘dad’.” When their son, J.T., was placed into her arms, Marva marveled in motherhood. Little did she know, God had more in store for her family. Her adopted son would get to meet and know his siblings. **A Chance Meeting** When Marva and Robin learned they were adoptive parents to birth siblings, they were over joyed to meet one another at the Hope’s Promise picnic. The adoptive parents watched as Jaydin, age 7, and Alex, age 3 and J.T., age 1, interacted on the playground. Jaydin pushed J.T. on the baby swing. Alex played with Jaydin on the jungle gym. Robin and Marva were both fascinated by the similarities between siblings. “They connected immediately,” Marva said. After the picnic, the families made plans to meet again and help foster a relationship among siblings. Shortly after the picnic, Robin adopted another birth sibling, Taylor, who captured the hearts of both families. “Being that this was a year later and I was in a much healthier place physically, we decided this was God’s little surprise to us.” Robin said. **Building a Relationship Between Siblings** Today, J.T., age 3, loves spending time with his sisters. Alex, age 5, and J.T. consider themselves brothers. Jaydin, age 9, is a proud big sister to everyone. Both Robin and Marva work together to foster the sibling relationships by providing opportunities to be together and honor the way in which God answered each of their prayers for a forever family. They’ve enjoyed a weekend trip at a cabin in Buena Vista. They celebrate birthdays together. They spend time with each other during holidays. They celebrate adoption days with one another. “It is our hope that our kids will have the foundation and support to carry them through life and to know they are not alone in their journeys,” Robin said. Marva echoes Robin’s sentiments. “We could never have imagined that our family would look the way it does today,” Marva said. “We are not just a family of three, but really a family of eight.” To help navigate open-adoption, the adoptive parents agreed to allow their kids to explore their adoption stories and ask questions at their own pace and on their own terms. In addition, Robin and Marva feel blessed to have the support of one another in their adoption journey. “We are very open and honest about what any of us are feeling or thinking and truly support one another as the various milestones and seasons arrive,” Marva said. Robin wholeheartedly agrees and says they take each day and questions as they come. “It strengthens me as an adoptive parent to have another adoptive mom and dad who are so close to the situation as we go through the journey together.” Robin said. **Advice to Adoptive Families** **Be Open-Minded** – God has a plan greater than what you could ever imagine for your family. A family has many definitions and we are not to be confined to the traditional view of what that may look like. **Be Brave** – Step out in faith and allow for God to work in you and through you. **Be Ready to Answer Questions** – Don’t wait until your adopted child begins asking questions but from the start, equip them with the language to ask them as they get older. Then, give age-appropriate answers when questions are asked. Make them feel comfortable discussing their adoption story. **Be Willing** – Read adoption books. Celebrate adoption days. Talk openly about adoption, including the loss. Remember what is in the best interest of your child. We all have fears, but it’s important to put aside any adult issues. --- *Adrian Collins writes about the real-life complexities of being both a birth mother and an adoptive mother. She is a homeschooling mom of five children; one daughter who was placed for adoption at birth, one son adopted at birth, and three biological sons. Adrian has testified before the Colorado Senate committee on behalf of the Colorado Children First Act, and has been published in CBN News, Christian Post, Her View From Home and BLUNTmoms. She studied journalism at Point Loma Nazarene University in San Diego and has a deep-rooted love of classic literature. Married to her high school sweetheart for twenty-one years they currently reside in Castle Rock, Colorado. When she’s not teaching or writing, Adrian is actively pursuing her goal of visiting all U.S. National Parks with her kids. Adrian is working on her first memoir about hope and healing through the journey of adoption.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Adoptive Parents, Birth Siblings, Family --- ### [Always Held](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/always-held/) **Published:** October 16, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** You slip into the world raw and trembling, aching for tender touch. But instead, the one you most long for walks away. **Content:** *By Coleen Briggs *For Lilia, my children, and the many others around the world who ache for a different beginning… This is what really happened…* You slip into the world raw and trembling, aching for tender touch. But instead, the one you most long for walks away. You huddle there, vulnerable in an abandoned building, or a slum medical clinic, or a street shoulder – tiny and powerless. Perhaps you cry, but maybe you are too weak or frightened. Perhaps the animals creep near, drawn by the scent of fresh blood; and instinctively you pull your tiny fists in tight, making yourself as small as possible. You know this isn’t the way it is supposed to be. Where is the voice that traced your cradle of soft darkness, lulled you to sleep, woke you with song? Now, only sinister silence, or the harsh crackling of a busy street. You shudder, alone, terribly alone, at the hour when all of creation screams that you should not be alone. But there are two worlds. There is the dangerous world swarming around you. And there is another world, unseen, where every resident’s attention is riveted on you. As one, they hold their breath and watch. The King, the One and Only to Whom all praise is due, hovers near. Then, He steps into the void, unseen in the first world, the Focus and Purpose of the other. He kneels, cradles you to His chest, and gazes at you in wonder and disbelief. He, the Creator of All, smitten with this, His newest creation. He strokes your cheek, the God of the Universe, unable to absorb the glory of your existence. Then, he integrates the two worlds for a split second. He beckons. Perhaps a construction worker, a woman balancing a basket on her head, a child skipping by in school uniform, or a nurse. Perhaps even an angel, suddenly visible in the seen world as a ragged slum inhabitant. It matters not who it is. This, His appointed ambassador, gingerly receives you from His arms. During that walk to a police station, an orphanage gate, a clinic nursery, He triggers a chain of events, like dominoes toppling across the continents and oceans to my little heart, on the other side of the world. And there, you are born a second time. This time, you are celebrated and longed for with every ounce of a seen world inhabitant’s being. You see, there are two versions of this story. In the visible world, you are cast off, abandoned without a trace by those who should have loved you most. By luck you are found and rescued. But in the unseen world, every second of your existence is carefully stewarded, orchestrated, overseen by the One who truly loves you most. Never for a moment are you alone. You were, are, and always will be held. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** abandoned, always held, orphan, Orphan Care --- ### [Creating a Memory Book for my Birth Child](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/creating-a-memory-book-for-my-birth-child/) **Published:** October 23, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** A collage of childhood photos lay strewn across my desk as I held a pair of shears. I studied each photograph and wondered, What would my child want to know about me? **Content:** *By Adrian Collins* A collage of childhood photos lay strewn across my desk as I held a pair of shears. I studied each photograph and wondered, What would my child want to know about me? After careful consideration, I selected one. I carefully positioned the photograph onto the scrapbook page and sat back to admire my work. My hands and back ached from cutting, gluing and pressing but I couldn’t stop since time was fleeting. Every photograph mattered. Each picture chosen was significant. The book would become my legacy. It was to become my parting gift to my daughter. **Inside the book was:** A baby photo. A third-grade class photo. A music program for my first piano recital. A picture of myself on the high school diving team. A photo of myself as color guard captain during a marching band competition. A photo of my high school sweetheart and myself at prom. There the photos stopped. The Book highlighted my interests, my achievements, my features, and my high school sweetheart. The scrapbook pages were full except for one. I tore off a blank piece of notebook paper and began to write, “To my daughter.” My pen shook as I began to write. What could I say to my unborn child? When my child asked her adoptive parents one day, “Why did my mom make an adoption plan for me?” I wanted her to read my own words. The words began to flow onto the pages: Dear Baby Girl, I love you very much. I wish I could wrap my arms around you every single day. But I can’t. I can’t give you everything you deserve. I must sacrifice my dreams of motherhood so that your dreams will be fulfilled. Know that you are cherished and hold a special place in my heart—for always. I signed the letter, “Love, your birth mom.” I cringed at the name “birth mom,” wishing circumstances could be different. At the time, I was a junior in college and without the financial stability and support to raise a child, so my boyfriend and I decided that adoption was the best choice for my daughter. **A memory book as a parting gift** At the hospital, I held my newborn as I watched time dwindle away. When the adoptive couple arrived and I had to say goodbye, I whispered into my daughter’s ear, “I will always love you.” Then, I pulled the memory book from my bag and tucked it beside my infant. Tears fell onto the sidewalk pavement as I left the hospital without my daughter. Yet, I held onto hope that we would reunite when the time was right and prayed the memory book would bring her comfort over the years of separation. As the years passed, my home filled to the brim with children. I’d married my high school sweetheart, the father of my daughter, and given birth to three boys. Then, I adopted another son from a family friend. I nurtured each of my boys with utmost care, making mud pies, climbing trees and reading stories of fantasy and adventure. While I reveled in motherhood, my thoughts would often wander to my birth daughter. **Reuniting with my birth daughter** On a warm spring day, the phone rang. When I answered it, the voice on the other end sounded strikingly familiar, like a younger version of myself, and I knew. It was my 12-year-old daughter. After all these years, she hadn’t forgotten about me. When she asked if she could meet me in person, my heart erupted in joyous celebration. On the day my daughter and her adoptive parents were scheduled to arrive, I waited by the front door, watching and wondering, does she look like me? Does she know how much I love her? A car pulled up in our driveway and a petite girl with pale skin, long flowing blond hair and light blue eyes stepped outside. I marveled at her loveliness. Then, I ran to her and held her close. Tucking a strand of hair behind her ears I told her, “I love you.” My husband embraced her, and the three of us rejoiced over our reunion. We introduced our daughter to her siblings. The boys beamed with pride at their big sister. Later, I found a quiet moment with my daughter and asked if she’d read the memory book. “I know every page by heart,” she said softly. At her words, my face lit up and I smiled, thankful that she treasured the book. Its contents bound the two of us together in ways I never imagined. Instead of holding the memory book—I was grateful to hold my daughter’s hand. **Tips on Creating a Memory Book** 1. Purchase a journal or scrapbook. Find something that defines your personality. Do you love journaling? Purchase a simple journal to fill its pages with photos, notes, poems or drawings. Do you like to scrapbook? Find a small or large scrapbook at your local craft store to decorate and paste photos. For me, I bought an 8 x 8 white photo album and purchased baby-themed stickers, borders and colorful inserts to decorate the pages. Another great option is to create a photo book through an online resource like Shutterfly where you can create a book from the ease and comfort of your computer. There is no right or wrong way to create a memory book. It shouldn’t overwhelm or create additional stress. Find something that works with your style and creativity. 2. Gather Photos When gathering photos, think about what your birth child would want to know about you. For instance, what did you look like as a baby? How about the elementary/middle school/high school/college years? What were your interests? Sports? Music? Arts? Theater? What were your greatest accomplishments? What were your fashion choices and what did you wear to your favorite dance? (Girls love to know these things about their birth mom!) Do you have a favorite holiday or celebration? Find photos that highlight your interests, features, and accomplishments and include these in your album. Many birth children enjoy knowing how they relate to their birth parents and if they share similar interests or hobbies. 3. Write a Letter A personal letter can be the most touching and beautiful part of a memory book. These are your words on why you chose to make an adoption plan. These are your thoughts as a mother. This is an opportunity to tell your child how much they are loved and cherished. When writing, think about questions your birth child might ask. What are your greatest hopes and dreams for them? What do you want your birth child to know about your decision? What words of love can you share? What wisdom do you want to impart? It doesn’t matter if your letter is long or short. The letter doesn’t need to be a literary masterpiece—the most important thing is that it reflects your heart. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Birth mom, birth parent, Healing, memory book --- ### [Final Preparations: A Trip to Vietnam](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/final-preparations-a-trip-to-vietnam/) **Published:** October 30, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** I applied for the Hope’s Promise connection team trip to Vietnam in June, then I blinked, and here I am making final preparations.  Emotions weigh heavy on me as I prepare to take an airplane to a country that is unfamiliar and uncharted territory for me. **Content:** *By Lyndsi Tellinghuisen* I applied for the Hope’s Promise connection team trip to Vietnam in June, then I blinked, and here I am making final preparations. Emotions weigh heavy on me as I prepare to take an airplane to a country that is unfamiliar and uncharted territory for me. As I wade through my feelings, the most prominent is a feeling of sheer excitement to explore this new place full of God’s people and His beautiful creation. I feel like a child on Christmas, full of anticipation, but instead of the gift being wrapped in colorful paper, it comes in the form of new relationships I will be making with the people of Vietnam. As I zero in on the final days of preparation, I find myself awake in the middle of the night as I eagerly await the experiences I will take part in. **Preparing for this trip looks a lot like this:** - Connection team meetings - Writing and submitting fundraising letters - Budgeting for trip payments - Attempting to learn Vietnamese (so far I know the words “chicken” and “apple”) - Packing and re-packing my suitcase with the help of Pinterest hacks - Researching a new-to-me culture Aside from the physical preparations, I find myself preparing mentally for a culture I am unfamiliar with. I am trying to have realistic expectations and be okay with the unknown. I’m walking into a culture that, having very little exposure to, I will have little understanding of. I want to be open and teachable. There is so much to learn about our God from others. I look forward to establishing amazing relationships with the people I encounter in Vietnam. In the midst of planning, I see how God is already using this trip to teach me a valuable lesson. One, perhaps, I will learn over and over again. God reminds me that no matter how much I plan, He is in control. As long as I am open, He will lead me and work through me on this trip. I can’t plan the experiences I have, the people I meet, or the situations I am in. Planning is important, but you can, in fact, plan too much. This trip I will let go and let God handle the rest. With a shift in mindset, letting God be in control of the journey, I have found it to be incredibly helpful to spend time in prayer and devotion. I set a goal to pray for the people I will be boarding a plane with this week as well as the adults and children we will be connecting with in the coming weeks. It has been such a blessing to be able to pray God’s protection, love, and blessings over my brothers and sisters in Christ. God has so much in store for us and I am thrilled to see what He is going to be doing through these beautiful men and women. I would be honored if you would come alongside us, in these final days of preparation and join me in praying for the Hope’s Promise connection team as well as the people we will be serving for the Kingdom. Your faithful prayers would mean so much to us. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Connection Team Trip, Hope's Promise, Orphan Care, Vietnam --- ### [On Handling Adoptive Parent Guilt](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/on-handling-adoptive-parent-guilt/) **Published:** November 6, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** It was only three weeks from the time we learned we’d been chosen by an expectant mother to the time our son entered the world. When we received the call that our son had arrived, we drove an hour to finally meet the little boy that would make us parents. **Content:** *By Karla Baumann* It was only three weeks from the time we learned we’d been chosen by an expectant mother to the time our son entered the world. When we received the call that our son had arrived, we drove an hour to finally meet the little boy that would make us parents. During that drive, the magnitude of the situation really hit for the first time. I pondered over and over in my mind that I was becoming a first-time mom through another mom’s loss. #### Understanding the Loss in Adoption Until you meet the woman carrying this beautiful child, you can’t fully understand the true magnitude of everything that is adoption. When you are still a “waiting family,” all you can see is that finish line; the child that you hoped, prayed and cried thousands of tears over. Then you meet her, the woman carrying a precious baby who had reviewed stacks of profile books but still chose you. There she sits, with a swollen belly and sweet smile that also portrays fear, sadness, and uncertainty. As you learn about her story you learn she is human just like you, but unlike you, she is making the hardest decision she will ever make. That’s when you may first feel adoptive parent guilt. If you’re like me, you want to rescue her. I wanted to tell this expectant mother, “Everything will be okay.” I wanted to bring her home, wrap her in a warm blanket, bake her a batch of cookies and put on a good movie. But I couldn’t. She was essentially a stranger, but one that wanted to make an adoption plan with us as her son’s parents. #### Joy and Sadness in the Hospital When I first met our son, I stood over his bassinet in the hospital and the world seemed to stopped spinning. I was in complete awe. I stared at this beautiful baby that I’d dreamed about for years, all 5 pounds and 10 ounces of him. He was perfect. I cried and thanked God. We held him until it was time for a bottle, and I watched as his birth mom fed him with tears in her eyes. Feelings of sadness and guilt swept over my heart. During the remaining time in the hospital, we continued to bond over this perfect baby boy. On discharge day, you could practically feel the sadness in the air. After our son’s birth mom signed the adoption papers, we had a placement ceremony inside the tiny church chapel. I felt God’s presence inside that chapel as well as our entire hospital stay. My heart was burdened for our son’s birth mom, yet it also sang with joy that my baby boy was finally here. Those two distinct feelings left me confused, guilty, and thankful all at once. As we left the hospital with our newborn, my heart burst with praise for God’s providence in our lives, yet it also ached with sorrow because I knew the journey of grief that our son’s birth mom would face. #### “This is Harder Than I Expected” Over the months that followed, we melted into a family of three. We were able to see our son’s birth family about once a month which felt like a blessing for everyone. On the first Mother’s Day following the adoption, I was elated to celebrate as a first-time mom, but our son’s birth mother weighed heavily on my heart. I prayed, “God, how do I correctly honor his birth mother, and show her the love we have for her?” We bought her a sweet gift and told her she was loved. On our son’s first birthday, we invited his birth mom and family to attend. At the party, I noticed that his birth mom stood alone in the back of the room with tears rolling down her beautiful face. My heart sunk. Once again, I was flooded with guilt. When I hugged her, she told me the party was a lot harder than she expected. My heart wept at the thought of how broken she felt watching us celebrate. Later, I thought, “God, I want to fix this. I want to love her through this painful journey but don’t know how? I get to raise her son and now she has to watch from the sidelines.” I prayed and sought counsel with friends as well as our case worker who reminded me that adoption was his birth mom’s choice, and that she had selected me and my husband to raise her child. #### Bringing Families Together I’ve learned that feelings of guilt can sneak up on you anytime during the adoption process. Open adoption is hard, but it is also beautiful. As adoptive parents, we have to remember that open adoption doesn’t benefit us as much as it does the child. When the time comes and our son has questions, open adoption allows us to give the answers we need or the ability to reach out to his birth mom and ask them. I believe open adoption will give our son a complete picture of how God carefully painted this beautiful picture of adoption. But I’ve had to realize that our family is built on another woman’s heartbreak. As adoptive parents, we can never forget that fact. I am thankful for adoption because without it I wouldn’t have my son or a child at all. God has written these beautiful stories of redemption; bringing families together and loving people you might never have crossed paths with. #### A Challenge to Adoptive Parents My challenge to adoptive parents is this: When you feel that guilt sneak up on you, pray harder for your child’s birth family. Thank God for the blessing of loving and raising a sweet child in your home. Hug your child and smother them with kisses. We were called to walk this road—even during difficult moments. When you enter a season of guilt, remember that you were distinctly chosen to become your child’s adoptive parents. A birth mom looked into your eyes and realized your potential to be amazing parents to her child. --- *Karla Baumann and her husband are adoptive parents who brought home their son in July 2017. Karla is a stay home home mom who loves educating people on adoption and open adoption.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, adoptiveparentguilt, Hope's Promise, Open Adoption --- ### [Overcoming Grief and Guilt as a Birth Mom](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/overcoming-grief-and-guilt-as-a-birth-mom/) **Published:** November 21, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** I have been a birth mother for eight years.  There are times when these eight years have felt longer, and sometimes its still hard to believe I’m a birth mom at all. **Content:** *By Julie Cordodor* I have been a birth mother for eight years. There are times when these eight years have felt longer, and sometimes its still hard to believe I’m a birth mom at all. My son, Nathan, is now eight years old and is a hilarious, smart, determined kid. I am so proud of him. Over the years, our journey has been filled with a mixture of joy and sorrow, but the last four years have been especially marked by grief and guilt. #### A Slow Burning Guilt The grief and guilt was slow burning; always in the background but near the forefront of my mind. After I married and moved away from my son’s family, my communication with him and his family decreased as I adjusted to a new husband, state, job, and life. Because of this, my grief often felt like the thread that connected Nathan and me. It was always accompanied by overwhelming guilt about my failures as a birth mother. In my heart, the grief and guilt were intertwined. It was rare to experience one without the other. I didn’t call enough, send enough gifts, think about him enough, and on and on it went. It was consuming but felt productive – like I was honoring him by beating myself up. As unhealthy as it was, my guilt and grief made me feel connected to him, which made me feel like I was being a better birth mother. Thankfully, I have come to realize that I was believing in a lie. The grief was normal and necessary, but not the guilt. There is no truth or freedom in guilt. I had a distorted reflection of our relationship and one that would never bring joy or peace. Over this past year, I’ve learned to accept the truth that God has been showing to me. The best way I could love Nathan when he was born was to give him to his adoptive family. The best way I can love him now is to enjoy the privilege of participating in his life. #### A Time for Healing I still go through times of feeling like I’m not doing enough, but God has been faithful to remind me that He has always maintained a special relationship for Nathan and me, and He will continue to do so. The guilt no longer characterizes our story or defines my role as a birth mother. Letting go of it has freed me to put Nathan’s adoption in its rightful place. It’s part of my story and who I am. Over the last few years, I’ve found myself healing from grief. This has felt strange—almost disloyal—but I’ve learned to embrace the true beauty of a relationship with Nathan. The memories of tiny little Nathan shouting, “My Jee-wee is here!” when I attended his birthday party, getting to tell him that his little sister had been born, and having him as a ring bearer in my wedding are all true reflections of the gift that God has given to us. The memories of leaving the hospital without my son still bring a sense of sadness, but there is no longer trauma. I am no longer heartbroken for the moments I thought I missed with him because I’ve watched him thrive with his adoptive family, who have graciously included me in their lives. I have witnessed the fulfillment of many dreams I had for Nathan when he was born, and know there are many more to come. It has been a unique joy to see how God has provided what I was unable to at that time in my life. #### Great is God’s Faithfulness I have never doubted that making an adoption plan was the right decision for Nathan and myself. There were times that I hated knowing adoption was the right decision, even wishing it to be the wrong choice, but I’ve been affirmed time after time that I made the right decision. I’ve experienced deep sorrow as a birth mom, but over time I’ve embraced joy in my life. Nathan’s parents have remained honest with him about his adoption and I’m grateful to know my son is proud of his story. As a birth mom, I believe it is a privilege to be able to stand where I am today and look back at the road we’ve taken. God has been faithful indeed. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Birth mom, Grief, Guilt --- ### [Adoption is ... Imperfect](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/adoption-is-imperfect/) **Published:** December 19, 2018 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** I wanted to be the courageous birth mom. I wanted to be the attentive adoptive mom for my son. I wanted to be the always loving mom for my three biological children. I wanted to prove myself worthy for the daughter I placed for adoption…and years later re-adopted into the family. And I wanted to do it all without breaking a sweat. **Content:** *By Adrian Collins* I wanted to be the courageous birth mom. I wanted to be the attentive adoptive mom for my son. I wanted to be the always loving mom for my three biological children. I wanted to prove myself worthy for the daughter I placed for adoption…and years later re-adopted into the family. And I wanted to do it all without breaking a sweat. Thoughts of perfection swirled in my mind until I hit a breaking point. I was striving for something that didn’t exist. Parenting is difficult enough without the added stress I put on myself to be perfect at it. And when parenting is layered with the complexities of adoption, the result can feel overwhelming. Adoption begins with a loss—one that I know well—and where trauma is present, perfection cannot thrive. But grace can. What I’ve learned from my adoption journey is this: Adoption Is Imperfect. Adoption is a collection of imperfections that God uses to mold and shape us into the parents that we are meant to become. While adoption may not be perfect, it teaches compassion, patience, understanding, forgiveness, and the ability to love when things get difficult. While I may never become the perfect parent, I can be a grace-filled one. Grace is the counter-agent to perfection. #### AN IMPERFECT START I learned I was pregnant my junior year of college. I’d always dreamed of being a mom one day. As a college student, I didn’t feel I could provide the kind of life my baby deserved. My boyfriend and I were in a serious relationship but had no plans for marriage. I didn’t have a job or source of steady income. I didn’t want my daughter’s life at home to begin with hardship and insecurity. After months of agonizing, I made the heart wrenching decision to make an adoption plan for my baby girl. Leaving the hospital without my daughter was the single hardest thing I’ve ever done. By the time I stood before a judge to give up all parental rights, my breast milk had dried up and I was left holding a load of guilt for giving her away. Despite marrying the birth father to my daughter and later having three biological sons, feelings of loss lingered. Adoption is an unnatural start to a family. Although many blessings are tied to adoption, one cannot erase the simple truth: a birth mom and child are permanently separated. It’s an imperfect beginning. #### THERE ARE NO GUARANTEES This concept has, and will be, the hardest for me to accept. When I made an adoption plan for my daughter years ago, I dreamed of a beautiful life for her. One filled with stability, happiness and unconditional love. I’d hoped that one day her adoptive parents would be supportive of a relationship between their daughter and us—her birth family. What happens when things don’t turn out as planned? When my daughter turned eighteen and I discovered her relationship had been severed with her adoptive parents, I was crushed. I had two choices to make: I could take a step back and watch things unfold from a distance, or I could move in closer. While I couldn’t take care of her as an infant, I would grasp at the chance to take care of her as an adult. “We can re-adopt you,” my husband and I told her. While I couldn’t erase her deepest wounds or years of separation, I could open my arms, love her unconditionally and tell her, “I’m here.” Later, we stood before a judge to re-adopt the daughter I’d once placed for adoption. There are no guarantees that everything will turn out as planned. An adoption may be interrupted. Adoptive parents may not fulfill their promises. An adoptee may deal with feelings of rejection or abandonment. The adoptive mom may struggle to attach with an adopted child. A birth mom may carry guilt and shame for years. That’s where grace come into play. #### GRACE ABOUNDS I’ve learned to hold things loosely. To let go of the notion of perfection and instead cling to hope and faith when things feel like they are falling from my grasp. When people and circumstances falter, we must adhere to grace. After I’d made an adoption plan for my daughter and later given birth to three boys, I was approached by a family friend who’d encountered an unexpected pregnancy and asked if I’d be willing to adopt her baby boy. Since my husband and I had been talking about expanding our family, I immediately said yes. I thought I could handle all the responsibilities that came with adoption because I knew what it was like to give a child away. When the birthmother handed the baby to me at the hospital, questions of doubt began. Will I love him the same as my other children? What if I fail? I tried to push away the negative thoughts and be the best adoptive mom I could. For weeks when I held my adopted newborn, memories of loss and grief as a birth mom permeated my thoughts and I struggled to attach. The overwhelm was paralyzing. The lack of immediate attachment made me feel like a complete failure as a mother. I fell on my knees and asked God to teach me how to love, and how to give myself grace when I felt I couldn’t measure up. Over time, I let go of guilt and shame..and held my adopted son closer. #### AN IMPERFECT LOVE I’ve embraced the notion that I was not called to be a perfect parent. Adoption isn’t perfect. Our children’s aren’t perfect. Every one of my five children came with different demands I can’t always meet. I don’t have all the answers. I may not love my children perfectly. But I was called to love them nonetheless. When adoption gets hard, grace is there to hold us up. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Adoption Journey, Birth Mother --- ### [Vietnam: So Much More Than A War](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/vietnam-so-much-more-than-a-war/) **Published:** February 12, 2019 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** The tank squats low and heavy in the middle of the city at the center of a roundabout, a giant hunk of refuse. Dark, cold metal, it absorbs the tropical light like a black hole. **Content:** *By Colleen Briggs* The tank squats low and heavy in the middle of the city at the center of a roundabout, a giant hunk of refuse. Dark, cold metal, it absorbs the tropical light like a black hole. Afforded monument status, it reveals a past seemingly out of congruence with the idyllic mountain town facade, an ugly scar amidst people and motorbikes scurrying every which way. For many Americans, the tank epitomizes our perceptions of Vietnam—the country where our troops waged and lost a costly, controversial war between 1954-1975. We call it the “Vietnam War.” For the Vietnamese, though, it was only one relatively short episode in the context of centuries of international conflict. We arrive at our hotel and step into the lobby, traipsing passed a religious altar watched over by the owner’s friendly family dog. In a meeting room adjoining the front desk, glass jars line a wall, containing unidentifiable plant parts fermenting in vinegar. After check-in, we deposit our bags in a high-ceiling-ed room adorned with an intricate medallion texture and awash with white linens. I slide open a three-pane bank of frosted glass windows to view the bustling street below. Eager to explore, we head back downstairs. The clamor of the city assaults our ears, even as movement and colors explode. We hesitate on the street corner. Guidebooks advise simply stepping out into traffic, maintaining a steady even pace. They promise motorbike drivers plan accordingly for pedestrian passage. Somehow, we arrive on the opposite curb alive, although I’m certain we’ve raised the heart rate of at least a few drivers in addition to our own. We meander along, skirting low-slung sidewalk tables where people tuck in to drink afternoon tea. Although we walk on the shaded side of the street, sweat seeps out of every pore in my body and trickles down my back. Urban energy swirls around us. So strange to think of it suddenly stilled in heavy dread when tanks first rolled into town before the battle for Buon ma Thuot unleashed in 1975. Many soldiers and ordinary civilians of South Vietnam paid the ultimate price during defeat and a disastrous evacuation. The next morning at breakfast, a young man hovers at a street side cook top, frying eggs in the open air. He and an American friend I’m traveling with seem about the same age. As my friend steps into the restaurant and greets the cook, I try to imagine them side-by-side, dressed in fatigues—as co-warriors for South Vietnam or stalking one another. On this ordinary, peaceful morning, imagination fails—any remnant of the conflict swept away by lush green, birds singing, traffic clattering, people moving about in the business of living. So, I focus on my noodles, twining tiny squid strings onto my chopsticks, laughing with my friends at this ingredient so unfamiliar to Colorado residents. Our Vietnamese friends laugh with (or probably *at*) us. I smile at another patron, a man enjoying his morning baguette. Later that afternoon, we drive through rolling hills draped in rain and pull aside into a rutted yard running with rivulets of water. Down a muddy path lined with verdant green trees, we follow our Vietnamese friends until we reach a wood house hoisted on stilts. Crowned with corrugated metal, wood planks line the structure supported by thick tree trunk pillars. After removing our shoes, we file up the roughly hewn ladder into a dim but spacious interior. A multi-generational family welcomes us, inviting us to settle in a circle on brightly colored woven floor mats, distributing cups of steaming tea. Above us, the peak of the roof provides storage space for a mattress, potted plants, bird cage, and clothing. Ornately carved wood furniture lines the walls. A woman balances on a hammock beside me. People of all ages crowd behind a very old woman, bent, barefoot, and smiling. The boy, the subject of our visit, observes from a bed beneath a tucked-up mosquito net. The formalities commence, greetings and expressions of gratitude. From us for allowing our group to visit, from them for helping to support the child the family could not keep after the death of his parents. Now, the boy thrives in the care of a Vietnamese pastor and his wife. His grandmother explains the tragedy of the boy’s mother’s death, the family’s sadness over being unable to care for him. For much of the year, when the rain stops, they lack access to the basic resource of drinking water. Warmth seeps out from the people surrounding us, communicating across the language barrier—a tangible sense of goodness, shared humanity and mission, being in this together for the sake of the child sitting on the bed. Despite the differences in our lifestyles and culture, we share a common passion for Jesus and His purposes in the world. In the void of physical wealth, spiritual richness rushes into the vacuum. Our Vietnamese friend explains that the boy’s grandmother will present gifts to us. One by one, she gives to each of us a beautiful, intricately hand-made bag. We learn later she spent six months creating them for us. It is true that during a terrible and brief chasm of history, Vietnamese and Americans swarmed these mountains, killing and destroying one another. But now, as throughout centuries before, despite its people’s suffering during conflict after conflict, all over Vietnam, beauty swells… roiling oceans and sun swept beaches, lush jungles and proud mountains, bustling urban centers and flooded rice fields. And people just like me, living and loving, doing the best they can for those they love most. Vietnam – so much more than a war. --- *Colleen graduated from the University of Denver with a degree in Fine Arts in 1993, but her wild journey of following Jesus around the world since then motivates her attempts to capture in words and images His passionate pursuit of each of us. Colleen witnessed first-hand His light shining brightest in the darkest corners of the world, in places such as [Mathare Valley slum of Nairobi Kenya ](http://colleenbriggs.com/2013/04/25/where-true-joy-can-be-found/)and [poverty-stricken mountain regions of Vietnam](http://colleenbriggs.com/2013/08/14/a-secret-garden-that-changed-my-life-in-vietnam/).* *Colleen is married and has four children, two adopted from a Kenyan orphanage. Haunted by the children left behind they helped to pioneer two Hope’s Promise children’s homes in Kenya, now home to 24 former orphans. Colleen pursue’s Jesus full-time art, photography, and writing and being home with her children. In images and words, she searches for “fragments of light” – evidence of God’s relentless presence with each one of us, of [His ability to redeem suffering](http://colleenbriggs.com/2013/07/12/enamored-with-a-single-dying-weed/), and of His intent to give each one of us a hope and a future.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Conflict, Orphan Care, Vietnam, Vietnam War --- ### [The Words That Feel Like a Punch in the Gut](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/the-words-that-feel-like-a-punch-in-the-gut/) **Published:** February 26, 2019 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** Adoption is part of our story, but it does not define our day-to-day lives. It’s been almost five years since we brought home our baby boy through the miracle of adoption. **Content:** *By: Anonymous* Adoption is part of our story, but it does not define our day-to-day lives. It’s been almost five years since we brought home our baby boy through the miracle of adoption. So, when we were driving in the car having a silly conversation, the last thing I expected was for my son to say “Mommy, I really want to be adopted again.” Kids say the darndest things, right? But in this particular situation, his words hit me like a ton of bricks. I may have even gasped a little. Immediately, the following questions ran through my mind: *Why would you want to be adopted again? What is wrong with our family? Are you unhappy? Have we done something wrong? Are we good parents?* The questions felt like a firestorm. Our family of five is made up of two biological children and one adopted child. Each child is different and unique in their own right, regardless of heredity. Each has their own quirks and challenges and obstacles. When one of our biological children says something out of left-field like, “No one in this house likes me,” (yep, that really happened). I have the ability to shrug it off and chalk it up to a child testing boundaries. Easy Peasy. But, when our adopted child says, “Mommy, I really want to be adopted again” it felt as though someone had taken the rug right out from underneath me. I began to question, doubt and panic. What am I questioning and doubting? I’m doubting God’s plan for our family, plain and simple. I’m doubting all of the ways that God showed up in the details beginning with our call to adopt all the way to the present. God intentionally chose this boy for our family and our family for this boy. It wasn’t an accident or happenstance. It was all part of God’s plan for growing our family. I knew that. I prayed for that. But in the moment, that moment where our sweet boy said he wanted to be adopted again, what I knew to be true disappeared in an instant. Those affirmations of God’s presence in the knitting together of our family seemed fleeting. Instead, I focused on all of the What-Ifs. I began to think of all the ways I could be a better parent and all the ways I’ve felt as though I failed at parenting. Literally, I had to stop those thoughts dead in their tracks. Those thoughts had the ability to steal my joy and question God’s plan; a road I didn’t want to continue further. Instead, I popped up that roadblock in my mind, took a breath, and asked this question: “Buddy, why do you want to be adopted again?” Without any hesitation, he said, “Because I want to eat another giant donut.” After all that worry and doubt, this child of ours wanted “to be adopted again” because he enjoyed the celebration. What celebration, you ask? The celebration of his adoption day when we invited all our family and friends to witness our family’s court hearing and then had a party, which included a giant donut all to himself. I exhaled. Then, I laughed. I mean, what almost-five-year-old kid DOESN’T want a giant donut all to themselves? In fact, most adults I know would want the same! I’m positive this isn’t the last time I’ll feel squashed by the weight of his words, but I may exhale a little sooner next time before the doubt creeps in. Adoption is hard. There’s no question about it. It stretches me in ways I never knew I could stretch (and I do yoga!). But, the good far outweighs the tough. I have no doubt that we will continue to navigate conversations and questions, but holding onto truth is what will get us through those difficult times. What are your truths? I have mine. Think about them. Maybe even write them down. What are the things you know, without a shadow of a doubt, that you can remind yourself of in those times when your adopted child says something that hits you right in the gut? The following verse guides me when doubts arise. Perhaps it can do the same for you. *“Beloved, God chose you from the beginning”. II Thessalonians 2:13* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, adoptive mom, failure, growth, questions --- ### [Vietnam Connection Trip](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/hopes-promise-connection-team-trip-vietnam/) **Published:** March 21, 2019 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** I grew up during the Vietnam War. Certain graphic images and military words are etched into my memory:  Mekong Delta, Ho Chi Minh, agent orange, napalm bomb, Viet Cong…and the image of a young American soldier sloshing through a muddy rice field in the relentless pouring rain. **Content:** *By Becky Culver* I grew up during the Vietnam War. Certain graphic images and military words are etched into my memory: Mekong Delta, Ho Chi Minh, agent orange, napalm bomb, Viet Cong…and the image of a young American soldier sloshing through a muddy rice field in the relentless pouring rain. I was always curious about Vietnam. Then my daughter married a young man of Vietnamese descent. His parents were born near Saigon and had to flee their country in their mid 20’s. They met at a small college in Pennsylvania where they were both beginning their lives over again in America. I became even more curious about Vietnam. So, I went on the Vietnam Connection team trip last November (because I love short- term mission stuff, too!) The Vietnam that greeted me was quite different from my expectations. It was full of light and beauty and a friendly, hospitable, and determined people. We traveled in the south part of Vietnam and visited the four Hope’s Promise orphan care homes, the three Thrive education groups and made three home visits to families of the children in the orphan care homes. Let me tell you about one of these three intimate home visits. This visit was to the family home of a young man who now attends college in Ho Chi Minh City. We met his mother and two younger sisters who live together in their small home. His mother had been widowed at a young age with three small children and found herself moving to a small town that is known as a leper colony. She had no means to support all of her children and was growing desperate. In the meantime, she had heard about the local church and started going. It was there that the pastor learned about her great need, and where she learned about the orphan care program through Hopes Promise. A match was made and she relinquished her young son into the loving home of a Christian couple (who had recently lost one of their adult sons in a motorbike accident.) This son was quickly joined by four other boys who had been in similar difficult situations. They became a family of talented and intelligent young men, nurtured in the Lord by this loving and God- loving couple. As we arrived, we were seated in their tiny front room, where we were served cold water bottles, green tea, and fresh oranges. The mother began to tell us her story which was translated to us by the Vietnam country coordinator. Much emotion was put into her words as she shared about her most desperate times. Tears flowed. But not only her tears- the housemother of the boys in the orphan home was there too. I watched as she began crying at this sad story from many years ago. The story continued, full of the pain of giving up her firstborn son, as well as gratitude to Hopes Promise for raising him up with great love and opportunities. It was at this moment that the emotions of both mothers could not be held back. They stood, walked toward each other, and embraced each other with tears of pain and thankfulness. One for losing a son, and the other for the privilege of raising a son who was not her own. One for seeing her son’s success from afar, the other remembering the sacrifices she had made for that success. The love and respect between them were obvious and precious. The deep sacrifice that both mothers made was beautifully acknowledged by the other. This was a sacred moment. We were surprised to be part of such a personal expression of gratitude and grace between these two women. It was a moment when heaven and earth became very close and we got a glimpse of God’s amazing and intimate ways. Our tears flowed as these women expressed their brokenness as well as their love for each other. We did not need a translation for this. Two mothers’ hearts coming together in the love of one son. Simply beautiful. Simply God. We left their home holding this sacred moment in our hearts. We got to see first hand how our heavenly Father takes care of His beloved widows and orphans. And all of this in the midst of a leper colony! As one of my teammates commented, “This is what Jesus did on earth every day – ministered to orphans and widows and lepers!” Thank you, Hopes Promise, for allowing me to see and be a part of God’s ministry to “the least of these” through the Hope’s Promise orphan care program in Vietnam. I look forward to returning some day. Or if not, to have green tea and fresh oranges with my Vietnamese brothers and sisters in our forever homes in heaven! My treat this time. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Connection Team Trip, Hope's Promise, Orphan Care, Vietnam --- ### [He Became Mine](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/he-became-mine/) **Published:** April 9, 2019 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** I am not an adoptive parent nor, thus far, have I ever felt called to adopt. In fact, most of what I knew or had experienced about adoption was academic, at best. **Content:** *By: Candice Covak* I am not an adoptive parent nor, thus far, have I ever felt called to adopt. In fact, most of what I knew or had experienced about adoption was academic, at best. But what I’ve most learned most is that, though there are two key partners in adoption – the adoptive parents and the birth parent(s) – redefining family by welcoming a new life never ends there. It has the power to touch every willing heart that comes into its contact: grandparents, neighbors, churches, family, coworkers, and friends. This is part of its beauty, really; that it transforms idea into reality, possibility into life, and turns a complete stranger into a child you’ll love forever. You just have to be willing. **WHERE’S THE GUIDEBOOK?** Until our beloved friends adopted their third child, a son, we’d never personally been impacted by adoption. But that all changed when our friends were told they’d been chosen by a birth mother. Suddenly, I had so many questions. “How do I give the best support?” I wondered. “What are the best questions to ask? How is there no guidebook I can rent to navigate this trail?!” Now, with the benefit of hindsight, it seems a bit silly to have ever worried about those answers: then, not so much. Because what I quickly realized is that a lot of the ongoing conversation about adoption represents the key partners in adoption, which is not only logical, but also critical. Yet, since neither of those was me, I was left wondering, maybe even worrying, with few answers and little help to guide our family in how to come alongside those we loved as they were adopting their baby boy. Little did I know just how much transformation I was about to undergo. **HE BECAME MINE** When our friends’ son was born, they named him. The held him. He became theirs. And when my husband and I gathered our three children around him, they called him by that name. They held him. He became ours. Our precious new family member had an uphill climb. He battled some health issues and, early on, needed oxygen to assist his breathing. Restless in his little body, he was sometimes fussy, struggling to find sleep and peace in anyone’s arms. One Sunday at church, I offered to give it “an old pro’s try”. When I settled him in my arms and looked down, there he was, looking back at me. Time seemed to stop for just that beat as I stroked his chin and whispered, “Everything’s okay now, my friend. I’ve got you.” In that instant, he stopped crying and fell right into sleep. And then he became mine. **JUST BE WILLING** So, what did I discover? Well, there is no guidebook. There are no easy answers or “right things” to say; after all, little in life worth having is ever that mess-free! I guess we made our own guidebook, you could say. And the title of our first chapter was “Love Others as He Has Loved You”. So was the second. And the third. And the…well, you get the drift. With God’s love as our goal, we listened. We celebrated picking a name. We had long phone conversations. We prayed lots of prayers. We told the truth, sharing our worries, asking our questions. We had some re-directs, and we got back on course. Being a support beam for an adoptive family can be a bit like looking into the house from the outside, forgetting you have a key to go right on in. In other words, it is a surreal blend of what you know, meeting what you don’t. But that’s life, isn’t it? You’re presented with these incredible, sometimes unexpected, opportunities to become someone who knows better, does better, loves better. We could all stand to learn a thing or two about loving others better, I think. I know I can. Being a part of an adoption is a big way God taught me – and is teaching me still. The kind of transformation it takes to learn, though, won’t always be easy; in fact, it’s likely it will be as messy, hard, and tiring as it is breathtaking and filling. But if you can let go of the reins and just be on the ride, you’ll find a far greater adventure than you ever imagined. You just have to be willing. --- Wife, mother, and writer living with hope in the light of a perfect Savior. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Love Better, Unexpected opportunities, Willing --- ### [Amazing Ten Days in Kenya](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/amazing-ten-days-in-kenya/) **Published:** June 4, 2019 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** How do I summarize ten of the most amazing days of my life? I’m home now, still jet-lagged, but Kenya remains on my mind – the warmth of the Kenyans, the ever-present smiles, the stark beauty of the land, the evocative singing, animals I don't find in my backyard, the children and the people we met, our awesome team... **Content:** *By Lynn Leissler* How do I summarize ten of the most amazing days of my life? I’m home now, still jet-lagged, but Kenya remains on my mind – the warmth of the Kenyans, the ever-present smiles, the stark beauty of the land, the evocative singing, animals I don’t find in my backyard, the children and the people we met, our awesome team… Beauty and joy describe much of what we saw – the beauty of the land, the people, the language. I haven’t smiled this much in a long time, all in response to Kenyans who wave and greet you, stranger or not. Joy radiated, even in the most humble and despairing settings. From our first greeting, I fell in love with the kids at Sanctuary of Hope – two dozen former orphans, kids to the core. They laugh and tease and jostle like any siblings. They know their God is their all-in-all and that education is power. They do sports and have some medals to show for their efforts. They dream big and have the plans in place to make those dreams come true. They have and *are* hope for the future – young men and women who can and will make a difference for God and for their motherland. Our team blended quickly and seamlessly, some of us strangers who quickly became friends. We bonded through service, activities, shared stories, Paul’s thought-provoking Bible reflections, rides through Nairobi traffic, and a few rounds of traveler’s sickness. And of course, Pastor and Mama Karau, two committed people who are sold out to God and radiate the love of Jesus through every word and action; whose faith, tenacity, love and courage have made a huge impact on the children’s lives. After ten days with them, we, too, were impacted and inspired. Life moves on now, but I left a chunk of my heart in Africa. --- *Lynn Leissler is a freelance writer whose work mostly shows up as features and other stories in Southern Oregon Magazine, a quarterly promoting the region. She is also copy editor for that and a golf magazine. Lynn lives with her 12-year old granddaughter, a cat and maybe a bunny (if granddaughter has her way). She’s active in her church, and likes to quilt, read, travel and garden.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Kenya, Kenya CT, Orphan Care, Sanctuary of Hope --- ### [Littlest Voices](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/littlest-voices/) **Published:** September 4, 2019 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** All over the world, they peer from the shadows of deconstructed realities… **Content:** *By Colleen Briggs* All over the world, they peer from the shadows of deconstructed realities… From the rice fields of [Vietnam](https://colleenbriggs.com/2013/02/27/orphans-in-vietnam-sacrificial-love/), laboring under a relentless sun. From the slums of [Kenya](https://colleenbriggs.com/2017/06/10/the-beautiful-one/), neglected and starving . From the mountains of [Nepal](https://colleenbriggs.com/2013/01/24/122/), sold into slavery. From the countryside of [Zimbabwe](https://colleenbriggs.com/2015/09/23/orphans-around-the-world/), oppressed by the whims of a corrupt dictator. And from countless other hidden cracks: 153 million orphans. Vulnerable to disease, abuse, neglect, death. The littlest voices among us… forgotten and powerless. Unless you and I listen. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** forgotten, Kenya, Nepal, Orphans, Vietnam, Zimbabwe --- ### [Silence](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/silence/) **Published:** October 6, 2019 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** The first year of my son’s life we saw his birth family almost every single month. I loved getting to know them and I hope and pray that seeing him was a good thing for their hearts. **Content:** *By Karla Baumann* The first year of my son’s life we saw his birth family almost every single month. I loved getting to know them and I hope and pray that seeing him was a good thing for their hearts. The thing with open adoption, though, is it can come in like high tide and then draw back like low tide. Adoption is born out of trauma, there is no way around that. God can take that trauma and redeem it but that doesn’t take away all the trauma. Trauma takes time to heal, trauma ebbs and flows, trauma crashes down like waves and then the waters steady again. Adoption, yes even beautiful open adoption that is full of God’s love and grace, is also home to grief and trauma. With that grief and trauma there will probably come silence. Something I have learned over these few years of being an adoptive mom is that silence is not always bad. I remember the first couple times I got silence after texting my son’s birth mom, my mind raced with what I must have done wrong. My heart broke that I didn’t know why she wasn’t answering me. I mean we are in an open adoption, why am I getting this silence? I struggled with these feelings because I just wanted us to be one big happy family. Then I remembered the icky part of adoption, the one we don’t often want to talk about. That my son’s birth mom was still in the thick of the healing. That even though we have an open adoption there would be many different seasons to it. Seasons of great joy and many visits. Seasons of heartache and tears. Seasons of silence, maybe the hardest season of all. We live in a world that is always in conversation, a world where you are a direct message or text away from answers. So, when silence hits from any side of the triad we find ourselves lost and maybe a bit sad or scared we did something wrong. I have a beautiful friend who is a birth mom to a gorgeous 9-year-old girl. My friend is probably one of the sweetest and most God filled women I have ever met. We were talking about the silence that can come with open adoption, and I was telling her I struggle because I love our son’s birth mom so much and silence from anyone you love is hard. My sweet friend told me that there were times she went years without seeing her daughter, but that didn’t mean she didn’t love her or her parents, it was just that she needed time to heal, grow and navigate life. She said cell phones are so amazing because my daughter and her family are just a text away but if I need to step back for a minute I can. I think we need to remember that during this time of silence it is still ok to send a text or picture to let them know we are thinking of them. Truthfully, if they don’t want a text from you, they will probably let you know. These seasons of silence may be short seasons, long seasons, of even years. The reason I write this is to say it is ok. It is ok for a birth mom to need a break to heal and work on herself for a bit. It is ok for an adoptee to need a break from seeing his or her birth family, to heal and understand all that is adoption. Adoption is a hard road; it is a lot for everyone in the adoption triad to navigate. We also have to remember that no two adoption stories will look the same. We must always remember that adoption is born out of loss and that loss needs time to breathe, heal, change, mend, seek counseling and talk. Adoption is also God ordained, full of his redemption, grace, and love. We were called into each of our roles within this adoption triad. We are forever bonded and tied to one another, may we love each other through these up and downs, may we extend grace to one another through these periods of silence, but may we also remember that God brought us all together for a beautiful child for us to all love and raise in this beautiful family that is our open adoption triad. --- *Karla Baumann is a stay at home adoptive mom to the most wonderful two year old boy. When not playing tractors with her son, Karla enjoys writing about adoption, cooking, singing and playing with her dogs.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, adoption triad, recemption, trauma --- ### [Above All, Keep Your Heart Free](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/above-all-keep-your-heart-free/) **Published:** October 9, 2019 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** When Mugabe, thirty-plus-year year dictator of Zimbabwe, bulldozed neighborhoods who didn’t vote for him and committed other horrendous human rights abuses, my friends took international journalists to witness his crimes. And paid for it by ending up on the government hit list. **Content:** *By Colleen Briggs* When Mugabe, thirty-plus-years dictator of Zimbabwe, bulldozed neighborhoods who didn’t vote for him and committed other horrendous human rights abuses, my friends took international journalists to witness his crimes. And paid for it by ending up on the government hit list. L describes how she and her husband, a pastor, fell asleep at night wondering if a bomb would crash through their window while they slept. They woke up morning after morning, surprised and exultant, saying to one another, “We’re alive!” Friends in the US brought their family to Colorado to protect their lives. Our family became close to them during those four years while L earned a Master of Divinity. When she completed her degree, many friends would have helped them move to the US permanently. After all, almost everyone who can leave Zimbabwe, does. But L and her husband, both pastors, returned to a country desperately in need of Good News. Even though the threat to their lives was not eliminated. And still they are there, caring for people the rest of the world seems to have forgotten as Zimbabwe continues a precipitous economic decline. In addition to serving as a pastor, L started and oversees a ministry through Hope’s Promise to assist orphans with education costs so extended relatives can continue caring for them. I think I’ve figured out why L and her husband are willing to sacrifice so much. They’ve found something worth living for: Jesus Christ and His passion for this world. And they aren’t afraid to die for Him either. Protected or hunted, alive or dead, their hearts are completely free. *If you happen to live in Colorado and would like to hear L, one of my personal heroines, share about her life and ministry on the evening of Oct. 14, 2019 please email me: colleen@hopespromise.com.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** living for Jesus, Orphans, Zimbabwe --- ### [When Hunting Rhinos](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/when-hunting-rhinos/) **Published:** February 19, 2020 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** By the time the park ranger warns against wearing red, it’s too late. He tucks my friend in line right after him, hiding her bright shirt behind his camouflaged green. And his big gun. We hope it will be enough. **Content:** By the time the park ranger warns against wearing red, it’s too late. He tucks my friend in line right after him, hiding her bright shirt behind his camouflaged green. And his big gun. We hope it will be enough. ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Matobo-National-Park-rhino-stalking-DSC_0153-scaled.jpg "| Hope's Promise") We wind down a rutted dirt road, then veer off into the bush. Grass swishes around our ankles as insects lift a cacophony. Our guide lifts a hand to his mouth and begins to make a sound sort of like a whale. Then he instructs us to walk very quietly, lifting our feet high and setting them down gently. He turns and points ahead as large gray shapes emerge from the shadows. He continues to call out to the white rhinos, but they charge off into the forest. We follow. Not long after, we spot them once again. A mama and her baby grazing in bushes. The park ranger continues to reassure them in their own language that we come in peace. We hope they believe him as we creep closer. They ignore us as we stop and take photos. ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Matobo-National-Park-rhino-stalking-DSC_0165-scaled.jpg "| Hope's Promise") The ranger turns and whispers, informing us about the danger of poachers. Turns out the white rhino probably needs more protection from us than we do from them. While black rhinos are known for aggression, white rhinos tend to be placid. Poachers sometimes offer huge rewards to rangers to step aside so they can kill the animals and steal their ivory horns. If the rangers refuse, poachers have been known to kill the humans to get them out of the way. Now that we’ve captured photos as trophies to carry home, we make our way back to our vehicle, paying more attention to the trail. We notice animal tracks in the dust, scat, and a large bone. “I wonder who that bone belonged to?” asks my friend wearing the red shirt. Without missing a beat, my other friend replies, “The last person who wore red.” ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog --- ### [God Counts in Ones](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/god-counts-in-ones/) **Published:** March 30, 2020 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** Hope’s Promise impacts the lives of over one hundred children in four different countries. But each one of “our” kids have a name and a story. Child sponsorship dismantles the statistics and breaks the numbers down into the life of one **Content:** Hope’s Promise impacts the lives of over one hundred children in four different countries. But each one of “our” kids have a name and a story. Child sponsorship dismantles the statistics and breaks the numbers down into the life of one child. As Mother Teresa once said, “God counts in ones.” Sponsors deeply impact the life of Esther in Kenya. Today, the engaging teenager runs, teases siblings, hugs caregivers, and communicates well. But these accomplishments once seemed an unlikely dream. Born in 2005 in Mathare Valley, second largest slum of Nairobi, Kenya, Esther failed to develop typically. Sometimes the best caregivers can hope for a sickly baby born into the desperation of a third world slum is that the child will die. But Esther defied the odds. She spent much of her early years in the daycare of Mathare Worship Centre, founded by Hope’s Promise Country Coordinators, Pastor and Mama Karau. Various short-term visitors, including members of Hope’s Promise Connection Teams, met Esther. And their hearts broke for her. At age five, still unable to walk or speak, she rarely, if ever, smiled. In 2010, Mama and I took Esther for a medical evaluation. The five-year-old sat motionless and expressionless through the exam, but huge tears rolled down her cheeks. The doctor concluded with these words, “You must decide how much this child’s life is worth because it will be expensive to care for her.” How much this child’s life is worth? What kind of question is that? The faces of friends passed through my mind, people who had met Esther through the years and longed to help her. Fortified, knowing many would unite to support her, I turned to Mama and said, “If you will provide the care, we’ll find the money.” Pastor and Mama Karau brought her home soon after the exam. And, indeed, child sponsors stepped forward for Esther. Within a month, she took her first steps to the gleeful cheers of her new family. Today, not only does Esther run, she rides a skateboard! Through child sponsorship, you affirm the infinite worth of one child’s life. You invest your heart, prayers, and resources into giving a child a family and hope for their future. You intersect with one child’s story and change its trajectory. To learn more about child sponsorship, please visit [Child Sponsorship FAQ’s](https://www.hopespromise.com/christian-orphan-care/#child-sponsorship-faqs) ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog --- ### [Medical Issues in Adopted Children](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/medical-issues-in-adopted-children/) **Published:** April 14, 2020 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** Now more than ever, adoption agency personnel are being asked to help parents understand pediatric medical and mental health complexities. Whether children are adopted internationally, adopted domestically as newborns, or adopted from foster care, **Content:** *By Elaine Schulte, MD, MPH* **Introduction** Now more than ever, adoption agency personnel are being asked to help parents understand pediatric medical and mental health complexities. Whether children are adopted internationally, adopted domestically as newborns, or adopted from foster care, all are at increased risk of having short- and long-term conditions. Interpreting preadoption medical referral information is often overwhelming, as the information is conflicting or confusing. Additional knowledge is often required during the adoption process. And once a child is placed with a family, a new story often begins to unfold. Parents reach out to agencies as they search for answers to help explain their child’s medical and mental health challenges. This article provides guidance for adoption professionals and adoptive parents to distinguish between what is within the scope of agency personnel, and when an adoption medicine physician should be consulted. **What Is an Adoption Medicine Physician?** There are now a number of physicians around the country who have been intimately involved in evaluating and caring for children adopted domestically, internationally, and from foster care.1 The earliest adoption medicine clinics were established over 30 years ago. Most physicians who practice “adoption medicine” are board-certified pediatricians. Some are general pediatricians while others are pediatric subspecialists (e.g. infectious disease doctors, developmental-behavioral doctors), and all have a special interest in children who are adopted. Some focus more on children who are internationally adopted, and others specialize in children adopted from foster care. Adoption medicine physicians provide a range of services, including pre-adoption consultation, “during adoption” support, and post-adoption evaluation through ongoing pediatric primary care or subspecialty pediatric care. Some provide all of these services, while others provide select services. Some provide their services for free or little cost while others charge a larger, one-time fee or use a “retainer” model (meaning that parents can access them over a pre-determined amount of time). Most adoption medicine physicians work with families remotely. Some will meet families face-to-face if they live in the same community. Many physicians practice within a large pediatric health system while others work in a community practice. Regardless of the practice type or location, parents will want to make sure that their consulting physician has access to medical subspecialists, should the need arise for particular expertise. There are no certification requirements for a physician to practice adoption medicine. (For the remainder of this article, we will refer to these doctors as “adoption medicine physicians.”) Just as prospective adoptive parents have carefully selected their adoption agency, they will want to be intentional about selecting their adoption medicine physician.2 Both adoption agency and medical professionals should be available, responsive, and reliable. And both should have a clear understanding that adoption is about finding the right family for a child in need, and not the other way around. Adoption agency personnel, along with other adoptive parents, will be able to help prospective parents think about which adoption medicine physician is right for them. **Before the Adoption: When Should an Adoption Medicine Physician Become Involved?** In recent years, the volume of medical and developmental information has increased, which has added to the complexities of making an informed decision about whether to move forward with an adoption referral. This is true for domestic newborn adoptions, adoptions from foster care, and intercountry adoptions. For over a decade, the principle sending country of children with medical complexities has been China, where over 98% of institutionalized children have a medical need.3 Many of the children from Eastern European countries also have significant medical needs. This has resulted in increased needs for medical support. Some agencies require prospective adoptive parents to work directly with an adoption medicine physician, while others only strongly encourage parents to consult an adoption medicine physician. Parents can choose to consult an adoption medicine physician even before a specific child is identified. For intercountry adoptions, many agencies ask families to complete a “child request form” or a “medical conditions checklist” indicating which type of medical conditions they are willing to consider. Often, parents are further asked to indicate whether they will accept conditions that are “minor,” “moderate,” or “major.” Only qualified adoption medicine physicians should be assisting parents with these decisions. While non-medical professionals—and even most non-adoption medical professionals—may have some anecdotal experience with certain medical conditions or diseases that families adopting internationally may face, they do not have the experience or expertise to provide appropriate medical information and guidance to families. Even adoption medicine physicians find it challenging to interpret what “minor,” “moderate,” or “major” means, as those designations can often be assigned in a file by an unknown individual with unknown training or credentials, and such designations are also subject to each family’s perspective on what constitutes “minor,” “moderate,” or “major” to them. *Prospective adoptive parents Jill and Mason just received a referral for a two-year-old boy from China. The child has been diagnosed with a colon malformation. He’s also been diagnosed with global developmental delay. He had corrective surgery within the first 24 hours of his life and was placed in orphanage care. Jill and Mason had selected “correctable medical condition” and “language delay” on the medical conditions check list. They never thought they’d get a referral with more than one diagnosis*. After parents receive a referral, adoption medicine physicians can assist with interpretation of the medical records, including family medical history (if known), birth history, and early childhood medical and developmental history. While many adoption agency personnel have extensive experience reading medical referrals, a qualified adoption medicine physician is the best professional to interpret the medical information. The adoption agency personnel can play a supportive role by requesting as much documentation as possible about the child’s medical, socio-biographical, and other case history information. Jill and Mason will require a great deal of ongoing support from both their agency and an adoption medicine physician. The adoption agency will instill in families that there is always a leap of faith in accepting a referral since there will always be unknown information when the prospective adoptive parents are making their decision. The agency personnel should encourage families to become familiar with the medical community and other resources and information they may need down the road, including medical and dental insurance, and understanding what’s covered and what’s not covered. A child may require certain types of therapies (e.g. speech therapy) or unexpected types of medical equipment. Parents may have to take extensive time off from work to be with the child during certain treatments or therapies, or unexpected, frequent visits to the physician. The challenge here is that the need for these resources is sometimes completely unknown. The adoption medicine physician will review and explain not only the general information found on the medical referral but any hospitalization information, surgical summaries, procedures, and laboratory information. There may be general information about the global developmental delay, yet there is often little detail about the nature or extent of the delay. The adoption medicine physician can help the family think about what additional medical information may be helpful in learning more about this child. The physician can also discuss the short- and long-term implications of having a colon malformation that required surgery, as well as what life may look like for a child with a global developmental delay. **During the Adoption: When Should an Adoption Medicine Physician Become Involved?** Some adoption medicine physicians remain involved with prospective adoptive parents throughout the pre-adoption process and during the adoption. For intercountry adoptions, this means that the physician may offer to be available by phone, email, or text while the prospective adoptive parents are overseas, so when medical problems arise, they can reach out to the physician for medical advice and support. Adoption agency personnel can assist the physician in providing support as well as logistical and managerial needs, but they should not be providing medical guidance. For a domestic newborn adoption, the adoption medicine physician may be able to provide slightly different services. *Consider Baby Layla who was born to a mom who had no prenatal care until the last trimester. An adoption plan was made and the prospective adoptive parents waited for the call 850 miles away from where Layla’s birth mother lived. Layla was born three weeks early, and the prospective adoptive parents traveled to visit her in the special care nursery. After hospital discharge, Layla and her new parents needed to stay in the birth state for one month to complete the adoption.* In domestic newborn adoptions, the adoption medicine physician can assist in several ways. In Layla’s case, the physician could review the birth mother’s medical records, if available, as well as the delivery room records and her hospital medical record. The physician may also be able to speak with hospital personnel about any particular medical risks or considerations, and relay those to the prospective adoptive parents. Since Layla needed to remain in the hospital for a month, the adoption medicine physician could possibly have found a local pediatrician to perform the required hospital follow-up and any subsequent medical care before the family returned home. An adoption medicine physician may share medical resources with a local pediatrician that would enable him or her to provide appropriate care. Adoption agency personnel can provide tremendous social support and ensure that the necessary administrative work is completed, but only the adoption medicine physician would provide the advice and guidance for Layla’s medical needs. When Layla returned home, the adoption medicine physician would perform a comprehensive evaluation, similar to the comprehensive evaluation recommended for any newly adopted child.4 For children adopted internationally or from foster care, this first visit is typically quite extensive. Adoption agency personnel can encourage prospective adoptive parents to locate a medical provider in their area who can perform this type of exam.5 **After Adoption: When Should an Adoption Medicine Physician Become Involved?** U.S. adoptions out of foster care have increased over the past 20 years. Seventy percent of children placed in foster care are removed from their homes because of abuse and neglect, and thus most have suffered early childhood trauma, adversity, and toxic stress.6 In addition to poor mental health outcomes, children adopted from foster care are quite likely to have at least one medical condition. Prospective adoptive parents’ training typically covers most of the medical and mental health challenges of children adopted from foster care,7 yet no matter how much pre-adoption preparation a family receives, there will always be surprises after the adoption. *Ethan is a 10-year-old who was adopted from foster care two years ago. After an initial rocky adjustment from his sixth and last foster home, Ethan and his new adoptive parents seemed to settle into a structured, happy home. Just recently, Ethan has begun having frequent outbursts and “temper tantrums” at home. His behavior in school has declined as well. He is struggling academically for the very first time. His parents are concerned that they have “spoiled” him, and wonder if they should, perhaps, resort to stronger discipline.* Most agencies offer a variety of post-adoption services, and parents will often first reach out to their agency contacts. These agency personnel are the professionals that families feel attached to, and can trust, as they have helped them create their families. While agencies may be able to provide social service or mental health resources, for a child such as Ethan a referral to an adoption medicine physician provider is critical. The medical provider will start with a complete history, which may include talking with Ethan’s teachers, and a physical examination. Then the medical provider will create a differential diagnosis—or a laundry list of possibilities, some common and others not so common. The medical provider will discuss the differential with the family, and together they will decide what steps to take next. Typically, the medical provider will start with addressing common conditions that need to be ruled out before moving on to less common conditions or conditions which require further inquiry or work-up. The process of working through this decision tree—which includes thinking about medical diagnoses as well as developmental and mental health conditions—is what a medical provider is trained to do. Ethan’s challenge could be something as simple as a change in his hearing or vision, or seasonal allergies, or headaches. Perhaps he has undiagnosed sleep apnea and his chronic exhaustion is affecting his behavior. Maybe he is struggling for the first time with an undiagnosed learning disability or executive function challenge. He could be experiencing bullying at school and now suffers from anxiety or depression. The medical provider’s job is to think through all these possibilities, and others, and then provide the appropriate treatments and/or referrals. The child’s school may need to become involved, and the medical provider can assist with a referral for an Individual Education Plan evaluation. If the adoption agency provides mental health services, and the medical provider and the family agree that mental health support could be helpful, a referral back to the adoption agency would be appropriate. If the agency does not provide mental health services they can play a critical role in referring to adoption-competent providers who do offer those services. **Conclusion** We all want to maximize the health and well-being of the children we serve. For this reason, when a child needs help, it is important to consider which types of professionals are most appropriate to become involved. When public and private child welfare agencies, medical providers, and families work together, they serve the best interests of the child. **References** 1. Johnson D. The Role of Pre-Placement Medical Review in Contemporary Adoptions: Setting Expectations, Assessing a Child’s Needs, and Supporting Successful Family Formation. Adoption Advocate No. 131. May 2019. 2. Hamilton K. and Hanlon R. Choosing an Adoption Professional. Adoption Advocate. No. 140. Feb 2020. 3. Vanderklippe N. The tragic tale of China’s orphanages: 98% of abandoned children have disabilities. The Globe and Mail. 2018; May 12. . Accessed February 15, 2020. 4. American Academy of Pediatrics, Jones F and Schulte EE; Council on Foster Care, Adoption and Kinship Care. Clinical Report: Comprehensive Health Evaluation of the Newly Adopted Child. Pediatrics. May; 143(5): e20190657; DOI: 10.1542/peds. 2019 5. American Academy of Pediatrics Council on Foster Care, Adoption, and Kinship Care. . Accessed February 15, 2020. 6. Moira A. Szilagyi, David S. Rosen, David Rubin, Sarah Zlotnik and the Council on Foster Care, Adoption, and Kinship Care, the Committee on Adolescence and the Council on Early Childhood. Pediatrics. October 2015, 136 (4) e1142-e1166; DOI: .2015-2656. 7. American Academy of Pediatrics, Jones F; Schulte EE; Committee on Early Childhood and Section on Adoption and Foster Care. Clinical Report: The Pediatrician’s Role in Supporting Adoptive Families. Pediatrics Oct;130(4):e1040-9, 2012. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Infant Adoption, Post Adoption --- ### [I Am Happy](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/i-am-happy/) **Published:** May 12, 2020 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** My father died when I was almost four years old, and my mom died when I was six. Sad, right? That is what I used to think. I even got angry sometimes and asked God why I had to be an orphan. **Content:** *By Vanessa* My father died when I was almost four years old, and my mom died when I was six. Sad, right? That is what I used to think. I even got angry sometimes and asked God why I had to be an orphan. But today is a different day. Today I am happy because I see that the death of my parents gave me the chance to stay with my aunt. Unfortunately, she passed away when I was eight. Tragic right? Still, I’m happy because I had the privilege of spending the last two years of her life with her. You see, she is gone; but the lessons she taught me are engraved in my heart. Living with my aunt taught me family values. We were what some people call poor. But, in that poverty, we were rich with love and affection. I came from being spoiled as an only child in my original family, pampered with toys and able to attend an uptown school. My aunt taught me how to share and that family is everything. I finally learned how to play with other kids and have conversations. I’m glad her family embraced me. I remember we moved to the country in her final days, and I will forever cherish those moments. Even though she was lying on her death bed, I enjoyed chasing through the grass and climbing the mountains. Let’s just say it made me see life differently. Instead of taking everything for granted, I finally appreciated what I had. When she passed on, I was sad. But my uncle took me in. Then I lost him to sudden death. I felt a lot of things like pain and great loss, but today I am happy he was there for me when he was alive. It was like God gave me another chance to have a father. His family took me in exactly like their own. My uncle is gone, but I’m happy that he left me a mother. His wife loves me selflessly. Now I have a home and two brothers. I am happy because it was after my uncle’s death that I was introduced to Hope’s Promise. It was like a miracle. Even though I am an orphan, with Hope’s Promise’s support, I was able to attend a quality boarding school and even go to university. Now I’m just half a semester away from earning a degree. Today, my advice is to choose to be happy, no matter what you are going through. Every situation has two angles. Even though it’s a tragedy that we are experiencing Covid 19, we can appreciate time with our families, catch up, and rest. My life taught me that death might be an end, but it is always a beginning. The future is blurry and uncertain, but that’s how it’s supposed to be. Anything can happen. The door is always open to potential. You should never close it. Closing off possibilities is only a disservice to yourself. Wherever you are, be happy. Make memories for the living to cherish when you are gone. *Vanessa, now twenty-three years old, faced unimaginable grief while growing up in Zimbabwe. And yet she proclaims, “I am happy.” During this time of anxiety-inducing, worldwide pandemic, Vanessa offers her very personal story as an inspiration to look at hard experiences through a different angle.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** COVID-19, Hope's Promise, Orphan Care --- ### [Across the World](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/across-the-world/) **Published:** April 28, 2020 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** Across the world, we assume we are so different. Separated by geography, customs, food, governments, and economic and class status. And then the unimaginable happens, chaos encompasses the globe in a universal experience. **Content:** *By Colleen Briggs* Across the world, we assume we are so different. Separated by geography, customs, food, governments, and economic and class status. And then the unimaginable happens, chaos encompasses the globe in a universal experience. And we realize we have so much more in common than we ever imagined. Unemployment and scarcity, vulnerability to disease, loneliness, death. But also, courage and perseverance, compassion for our neighbors, willingness to sacrifice for others, and the search for a power beyond our own. When it comes down to it, given the right circumstances, I am just as vulnerable to unemployment as my friend in Zimbabwe. Without bias, sickness stalks both me and an HIV+ slum dweller in Nairobi. Loneliness pursues me with equal tenacity as the resident of a Vietnamese leper colony. ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Kenya-kids-1.jpg "| Hope's Promise") In times like this, I realize I am just as powerless as an emaciated, toothless old Haitian woman carrying her pot to an ancient well in the middle of nowhere. Just as vulnerable as an eight-year-old boy, orphaned and living without a caregiver in an extra room of a church in N. Vietnam. Just as prone to fear as a thirty-year-old, HIV+ single mom, dying in the corner of a Nairobi slum hovel. But, in our shared humanity, I also realize I am powerful. Because I’ve met these people face-to-face, I already *know* how much we have in common. And, just like them, I can utilize resources entrusted to me to be the hands and feet of Jesus. That is their gift to me. In the absence of tangible resources, they show me how to harness an unearthly power. I remember the smile of a Kenyan a pastor as he said, “Follow me as I follow Jesus.” Then led me into the squalor of abject poverty. And how he had more joy in that moment than many find in a lifetime. I’ll never forget the radiance of a Vietnamese mountain pastor who defied officials, informing them that if they tore down his church, he’d stand in the middle and it would fall on top of him. I long to follow the example of two top-level leaders of the Zimbabwean Presbyterian Church who chose not only to return to their desperate country, but to serve the most impoverished farm squatters. ![Vietnam Kids](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Vietnam-kids-1.jpg "| Hope's Promise")As my illusory grasp of control slips away, I find a door open to the inspiration of my heroes around the world. Because of their example, the intangibles of courage, kindness, sacrifice, and love rush into the void. And shine with unquenchable brilliance. I only hope I will be worthy of their gifts. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** COVID-19, Kenya, Orphan Care, Vietnam, Zimbabwe --- ### [Adoption in the Age of COVID-19](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/adoption-in-the-age-of-covid-19/) **Published:** May 6, 2020 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** Walking into the hospital for my job in the last month has been a surreal experience. I imagined that it would be chaotic like the images on television. But instead everything was eerily quiet. **Content:** *From the perspective of a caseworker* Walking into the hospital for my job in the last month has been a surreal experience. I imagined that it would be chaotic like the images on television. But instead everything was eerily quiet. The parking lot was nearly empty at midday when I arrived. A long table blocked the lobby where a nurse sat as a gatekeeper for the hospital. No visitors were allowed except for the maternity floor where one visitor was allowed. Since I am a professional, I was allowed in. In the last month, I have entered a hospital five times. Each experience has been different. Temperature checks, no temperature checks. I have been given a mask, and then no mask. Now I bring my own mask. I push the elevator buttons with a pen to avoid touching them. In my Hope’s Promise tote bag is paperwork along with Clorox wipes, sanitized pens, extra masks, and gloves. This is the new normal of adoption work during a pandemic. Adoption casework has been my occupation for almost 15 years. Every case is new, and every case is a challenge. Working amid a pandemic adds additional challenges. Here are some things I have learned: - It *is* possible to do a match meeting with prospective adoptive parents and an expectant parent by video call. The meeting is better in person, but it is possible. - It is harder to communicate while wearing a mask. - A cotton mask does a good job of soaking up (and hiding) tears at the time of placement when a birth mother says goodbye to her child. - Being hypervigilant about what I touch at the hospital is tiring. - Video calls take more emotional energy than in-person meetings. And in-person meetings, in this age, take extra logistical planning. - The medical staff are truly the heroes in all of this. They are going in day after day to do their work despite the danger. And finally, and most importantly… - God is still present and at work in the lives of expectant parents, adoptive parents, and birth parents. *Julie has been an adoption caseworker for almost 15 years. She is passionate about providing the best, most ethical services to expectant parents and adoptive parents alike.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Hope's Promise --- ### [Becoming Omma](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/becoming-omma/) **Published:** June 10, 2020 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** When he was placed on my chest tears dropped from my eyes. His fingers were long, his black hair was thick, his lips ... **Content:** ***By Emily Thornton*** – posted on The Adopted Life I was 30 years old when I met my first biological relative. The moment he appeared he wailed an overwhelming loud and shrill cry. After 24 hours of natural labor, an epidural and then an emergency cesarean, my body was exhausted and reacting to all of the medications. My mind was racing with impatience because it felt too surreal that I would soon feel his little body next to mine. I looked over at my husband who had a better view of Zephaniah on the other side of the thin blue, surgical curtain. In a barely audible whisper, I asked “Is this real? He’s here?” He said “Yes. This is our baby. He has your blood.” I longed to hear that statement, but needed to see him up close to truly believe it. ![Screen Shot 2019-11-10 at 4.42.30 PM.png](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Screen-Shot-2019-11-10-at-4.42.30-PM.png)When he was placed on my chest tears dropped from my eyes. His fingers were long, his black hair was thick, his lips were full and pouty. My mind obtrusively wandered to my biological mom…Did my Omma’s heart swell with emotion immediately after she gave birth to me? When she saw me, did she notice my nose and cheek bones? During the months leading up to Zephaniah’s arrival, my body was preparing for his entry in all of the ways it should. My doctor characterized my pregnancy as “normal.” However, the doctor didn’t know that my mind was at war with itself. At each milestone during my first trimester my husband and I grew increasingly eager for our growing family, however, my heart ached in a way that was difficult to explain. While becoming more and more aware of the deep connection and complete dependence this child had to me, I simultaneously became aware that my Omma must have been connected to me, too. I thought I had grieved the loss of my birthmother almost six years ago when I came to an inconclusive end in [my search](https://www.holtinternational.org/blog/2015/05/seek-not-find/) for her, but now as I was experiencing pregnancy for the first time the feelings were back and extremely intense. The thought of my Korean mother carrying me and ultimately handing me over directly after birth seared a note of sadness right next to the joy of my pregnancy. Just as I had less space in my petite frame as he grew in my belly, I had less space in my brain for these all-encompassing emotions. I desired to focus on the way my body was changing on the daily, noting the constant cravings and tending to my morning sickness, however I was also tasked with weighing existential thoughts. *How could she do it? How did she see and feel her growing belly each day and not cry her entire way through those 9 months? Maybe she did cry? What was the first night like for her after she had given birth and didn’t have me next to her? Does she hear my first cry in real life, her dreams, her nightmares? Why am I here? Why, a million times, why, is she gone?* As I consider how challenging my Omma’s life probably was at the time she gave birth to me, I grow very emotional. I try to imagine the shame and condemnation she likely endured from Korean culture that traditionally oppresses unwed mothers and their offspring. I, on the other hand, was granted so much support and encouragement as I labored with Zephaniah. It’s difficult to accept how opposite our experiences must have been. While holding my three day old son in the wee hours of the night, I experienced my first genuine reprieve from the sadness that had accompanied my entire pregnancy. My son, so small and so vulnerable, allowed me to get a glimpse of my Omma. It was as if he had opened up a mirror in my soul and healed a small piece of the void. He was connecting us through time and space. It was at that very moment I realized I had become her. I had become my Omma. ———— \*To learn more about Emily and her family, watch a documentary about her open adoption relationship with her son Neiko’s birthmother, [HERE](https://www.youtube.com/watch?t=11s&v=bn0N3mb7tRc). ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Open Adoption --- ### [The Birth Certificate](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/the-birth-certificate/) **Published:** June 24, 2020 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** Birth Certificates. We all have one. Yours is probably stored away in a filing cabinet or a safety deposit box, and for most of us we don’t think about it. **Content:** *By Karla Bauman* Birth Certificates. We all have one. Yours is probably stored away in a filing cabinet or a safety deposit box, and for most of us we don’t think about it. Birth certificates didn’t become a common practice in the United States until the 1940’s. Up until that time some practiced the making of birth certificates but many births weren’t recorded unless the child was baptized. During the 1940’s it also became very common for children who were adopted to have two birth certificates. The first one had the birth parents and the second one had the adoptive parents, much like what is still happening today. For many years the original birth certificate with the birth parents listed was sealed and if an adoptee wanted a copy, they had to petition the courts for a copy. So… now that we know a little about the history of birth certificates, lets get down to some hard truth, something that has been brought to my attention recently that I had never thought about. This topic was brought to my attention by a birth mother named Ashley Mitchell who is an amazing voice in the adoption community. When the topic first came into view for me, I honestly shrugged it off. But when this topic kept popping up in my head, I went downstairs to where my son’s birth certificate is and looked at it. His name, weight, place of birth, and my husbands and I’s names are on it, but nowhere in sight were his birth parents’ names. So, I dug through more paperwork and there was a copy of his original birth certificate with the same information but also with her name listed. Once I put everything away and went back upstairs, I began thinking about everything I had listened to online. I thought about adoption, my son, his birth mom, us, and everything that is adoption. I started to get a little worked up, thinking, “this isn’t fair, why is she erased from his birth certificate?” After all, she is the one that gave him life, she is the one that labored to bring him into the world! She is and will always be part of my son and who he is, so why in the world would we erase her? So here is the deal, it’s 2020, not the 1940’s when adoption was hushed and not talked about. It is 2020, many of us now practice open adoption or at least semi-open. There are still closed adoptions, but it is not as normal as it was in the 1940’s. We celebrate open adoption, we have relationships with everyone in the triad, we do life together. We have pictures of the birth family up in our homes for our children to see and we tell them their whole story. So why are we still ok with erasing the birth parents from the birth certificate? For me, I did not know I wasn’t ok with it, but now that I have thought on this topic for a while, I’m not ok with it and I think it needs to change! For me, it would be an honor to have everyone’s name listed on that birth certificate, but it is not about me. It is about the child and them getting to see on a piece of paper their birth mothers name, birth fathers name, adoptive mothers name and adoptive fathers name. We try our best to make sure our son gets a whole picture of who he is, and I am so thankful to have both copies of his birth certificate. But I cannot help but wonder why there cannot be one. One certificate, that this child can look at and see all the people who help he or she thrive. To see their birth mother who gave them life and labored to bring them into the world, their birth father who helped to create them, and then their adoptive parents who taught them how to live and helped shaped who they became. I don’t know how exactly we can change this issue but first we must change the way we think and change the narrative. The adoption community has made huge strides forward and we need to keep talking and fighting for the right change to keep happening, we owe to everyone in the triad but most importantly those beautiful children we all love. *Karla Baumann is a stay at home adoptive mom to the most wonderful three year old boy. When not playing tractors with her son, Karla enjoys writing about adoption, cooking, singing and playing with her dogs.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Birth Parents --- ### [For Couples Who Adopt: How to Keep Your Relationship Strong](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/for-couples-who-adopt-how-to-keep-your-relationship-strong/) **Published:** July 8, 2020 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** One of the first important conversations we had as newlyweds centered around the topic of children. We wanted to understand ... **Content:** ##### BY: RYAN AND KAYLA NORTH --- > **Editors’ Note:** This month’s Adoption Advocate is intended to be a resource to adoptive parent couples. It is not intended to send a message that adoption is only for couples. Whether always single, divorced, or widowed, there are a lot of single adoptive parents who thrive with the children in their care. ### Introduction Whatever stage of the adoption process you are in—from contemplation to post-adoption—working to fortify your relationship will have an impact upon those around you, most especially children in your care. Amber Lewis, a licensed counselor in Oklahoma who works with families during the home study process and post-adoption says, “It is vital that couples go into an adoption with a relationship characterized by strong communication, cooperation, respect, and love. The challenges of adoption often exacerbate weaknesses in marriages, and it can be devastating for the whole family if those weaknesses grow. But, if a couple is strongly committed to each other with firm grounding in their love, roles, and mutual respect, the family is much better prepared to successfully weather the stress that can come with building a family by adoption.”1 We encourage you to approach this article with a growth mindset—we all have things to learn and ways to improve and grow. Perhaps your relationship is strong heading into an adoption process—*that is great*—seek to identify ways to reinforce that foundation. Perhaps your marriage is falling apart five years after your family adopted—we are glad you are looking for resources and strongly believe there is good reason for you to be hopeful that change and help are possible. --- ### Our Story One of the first important conversations we had as newlyweds centered around the topic of children. We wanted to understand each other’s hopes and expectations. How long would we wait to grow our family? How many children did we want? Although we did not agree on everything, we were pleasantly surprised to learn that both of us wanted to build our family through adoption. There was another thing we agreed on: We would take a vacation to South Africa where Ryan was born before we became parents. After a wonderful time with friends and family, we ended our time in South Africa with three days in Cape Town. On our last day, we took a trip to Seal Island. We sat on the benches at the back of the boat because we did not want to get wet from the spray at the bow. Although that sounded like fun, we were heading to the airport from the harbor and the idea of a 12-hour flight in wet clothing did not sound appealing at all. We are so glad that we sat where we did. As the staff readied the boat for departure, kids from the local orphanage accompanied by two adults joined us for the trip to Seal Island. They boarded the boat and sat at the back near us. They laughed and enjoyed the gentle rocking of the ocean on the way out. They did not laugh on the way back though— instead, they sang. We were moved by their beautiful chorus of voices. One thing was clear to us by the time we climbed in the car to head to the airport; just as we had originally agreed, we were going to build our family through adoption. We did not know much about parenting kids with trauma histories when we started our parenting journey. Trauma-informed care was not a thing back then. We also had no idea how much we would learn about ourselves as parents of children who had experienced trauma before coming to us in adoption. There are some people who think those of us who adopt children—and particularly children with known physical and emotional challenges—are somehow extraordinary people who are unaffected by the normal challenges of life. They think we have the answers to every parenting challenge, never grow weary or feel like giving up, and for those of us who are married, our marriages are immune from difficulty. Not true! Families who adopt children, even those who go into adopting with their eyes wide open, experience the same challenges all families do. However, in parenting children who have experienced trauma, these regular people may be called upon to parent through greater challenges than most. We have learned that protecting our marriage is vital to being successful parents. Coming to terms with our own histories and understanding our triggers has become a vital part of parenting our kids and loving each other well. Now, after 10 years of foster parenting, we have six children, four of whom were adopted from foster care. After hundreds of hours of training—first for ourselves and then training others—we formed an organization to teach others about childhood trauma.2 Through our work with adoptive and foster families across the country, we have seen many couples who have had to endure the stress of challenging family dynamics. This article pulls together wisdom we have accumulated for couples considering adoption, couples in the middle of their adoption process, and couples who have already grown their family through adoption. --- ### Communication Communication is vital to any healthy relationship, and poor communication can be the thing that tears people apart. Once we were married and found ourselves in an occasional disagreement, one or both of us would raise our voices to make our point, falsely believing that our volume somehow strengthened our position in our desire to win the argument. People like to feel in control, and a romantic relationship is no different. But when we seek to control our spouse/partner, it is our way of saying, “What I want is more important than our relationship.” It is an attempt to meet our own needs at the expense of our spouse’s. Several years ago we found ourselves having the same disagreement over and over again. Each of us was intent on winning the other one over to our way of thinking, but neither of us was really listening. We went to marriage counseling, and one of the many nuggets of wisdom we took from the sessions was that we have to believe that what is best for us as a couple must come before what is best for us as individuals. While so simple, this wisdom has helped us communicate better. We seek to understand and find what is best for our marriage, instead of winning the argument. When we said our marriage vows, we promised to love, honor, and respect one another. That means that we listen to one another and often find ways to compromise. The concept of compromise is one we teach parents who are struggling in their relationship with their kids, so why not apply it to our marriage? Setting clear expectations and reevaluating those expectations leads to better communication. If we go into a marriage believing that our spouse should do certain things, or behave a certain way, then when the other does not live up to expectations, we will leave frustrated and wondering what went wrong. So communicating our expectations, and being willing to adjust them can bring healing to relationships where one spouse is feeling disappointed and the other is feeling confused. #### Practical ways to communicate: - **Have a weekly calendar meeting.** Setting proper expectations for schedules and division of labor helps keep the communication lines open and ensure we do not have the “But I thought you were going to…” conversation at the end of the week. - **Regularly review the budget.** One of the number one reasons that couples argue is finances. Fixing this is often as simple as getting on the same page. --- ### Connection Maintaining healthy connections in marriage can be especially challenging when parenting kids who have experienced trauma, and many children who have been adopted experienced much hurt and pain before they came to their family by adoption. Sometimes parents find themselves dealing with big emotions, sleepless nights, and complete exhaustion as a result of parenting. By the time the day is over and kids are in bed, we just want to crawl into bed or watch a mindless TV show. At our house, both of those things are often interrupted by a child who cannot sleep because of paralyzing anxiety, or another who needs advice about dating and relationships. Deep conversations and intimacy often take a backseat to good parenting in all families, but the parents of children who have experienced trauma will be called upon all the more to patiently love and nurture their kids through their pain and fears. Jude Cassidy, a well-known attachment expert, gives us four hallmarks of secure attachment that can serve as guidelines for reviewing the strength of our connection to our spouse. In her article, *Truth, lies, and intimacy: An attachment perspective*,3 Cassidy tells us that we can evaluate the relationship by these four areas: - The ability to seek care - The ability to give care - The ability to feel comfortable with an autonomous self - The ability to negotiate Being able to seek care from our spouse and give care to our spouse are important steps toward a healthy relationship. If we can allow ourselves to be cared for and consider others above ourselves, then we have taken the first steps toward connecting on a deeper level. So ask yourself: “Am I able to come to my spouse when I have had a hard day and share? Do I seek comfort from my spouse or do I shut them out and push them away? Am I afraid that they won’t react well and that I’ll be rejected?” Being comfortable with who you are as a person is hard for many people. So many come to marriage looking for someone to complete them, versus a spouse to complement them. Part of maintaining a healthy connection is actually finding something you can do on your own—finding something you enjoy outside of parenting and marriage that fulfills you and brings you joy. For example, Kayla enjoys reading a good fiction book so she visits the library as often as possible to check out a book to read and enjoy. Ryan loves to play guitar. Many times during the day he will pull his guitar off the wall and play songs and strum away, getting lost in the music. These things bring us joy and refreshment. And even though these activities are done apart from one another, they allow us the autonomy we need to refresh so we can invest in our marriage. Having the freedom to speak and have your voice heard is another important piece of staying connected in your relationship. When we feel the freedom to disagree, knowing we can reach a peaceful resolution, we are able to build an even stronger bond. #### Practical ideas for building connection: - **Steal time alone when you can.** By the end of the day, we are exhausted from a long day of parenting and life, so instead of waiting until after the kids go to bed, we find little pockets of time during the day. Sometimes this is the first thing in the morning, before anyone is awake. Other times it is in the afternoon when the kids are all playing. Take advantage of those few quiet moments and enjoy each other’s company. - **At-home date night.** We may not be able to go out every week on elaborate dates to fancy restaurants and movie theaters, but we can put the kids to bed early, order take out, and sit and talk or play a game. - **Being intentional about affection.** We’ve all seen the cute older couple who walks around holding hands, and that’s who we want to be one day. We don’t pass up an opportunity to steal a kiss or a hug. Over the years we have learned that in order to have the relationship we long for, we must invest in the marriage. We choose quality over quantity during these years of parenting. --- ### Conflict There tends to be very little conflict when we are aligned around parenting, finances, communication, etc. For us, conflict occurs when we are no longer running parallel to each other. Intersections in relationships, like intersections on the road, are dangerous. (It is estimated that 40 percent of all crashes in the United States occur in intersections.)4 But conflict in every relationship is inevitable. We are two individuals with different histories and experiences. We came to marriage with different ideas about marriage and parenting. Growing in relationship has meant learning to listen to each other, compromising when needed, and learning how to move forward together. We cannot let past hurts and relationships get in the way of the marriage. We need to understand both of our histories and expectations, and work through any problems that arise as a result of them. Sometimes there is conflict in trying to get on the same page. We wish that we could peacefully work through our issues and differences, but we understand that challenging each other has made us better as individuals and as a couple. We also understand that not all conflict is resolvable, at least not in the moment. When we were newlyweds, we would keep the argument going in hopes that we would resolve it before we went to sleep. What we learned was there are diminishing returns on trying to find resolution the later it gets into the night. What we have since done is make sure we do not go to bed angry, and agree that we can work towards resolution in the morning. A good night’s sleep has proven to be a remarkable ally many times over the years. Dealing with disagreements in ways that build a stronger relationship is a vital part of our marriage. We have always looked at our marriage as a living, growing organism and not as a one-time transaction. We both have a responsibility to do the work necessary to ensure that our home is a place where everyone feels safe and where real healing can happen. --- ### Better Together There was a time in my life (Ryan) when I was terrified of flying, not afraid, but *terrified*. My fear and anxiety would paralyze me. There were many occasions when my fear almost kept me from getting on the plane. I remember a particularly bumpy departure from Nashville one afternoon. It felt to me as if we were not going to make it safely to the ground. I was struggling to cope, which mirrored my impression that the plane was struggling to gain and maintain altitude. My palms were sweaty, my heart was racing, and I could not breathe. Since we travel together most of the time when we speak, I reached out and held Kayla’s hand. She was reading a book and seemingly unaware of my personal crisis. But here is the thing, seconds after I took her hand my breathing went from short and shallow to something resembling normal. I noticed the change in my breathing and started to focus on taking deep breaths which helped me regulate and deal with my stress. Is there something magical about holding my wife’s hand? No, of course there is not. If the plane was in trouble would holding her hand help any? No. The real power in holding her hand helped me feel that we were in it together. It is amazing what we are able to do when we understand that we are not alone; when we get that someone is on our side no matter what. We have learned this lesson over and over in our marriage as well. We are able to make it through some tough times when we are connected and working together. Parenting vulnerable children can often bring relationship problems to the surface. We can blame those issues on our kids, or we can recognize that we need to work through our own histories in order to grow in relationship with each other. We must look back to understand why we relate to others the way we do, including our spouses. We must be intentional about staying connected to each other while learning to communicate effectively as spouses and parents. --- ### Resources Getting guidance on how to sustain, strengthen, or repair a marriage relationship is critical, not just for the couple but for their children as well. Debbie B. Riley, a licensed clinical marriage and family therapist, and CEO of Center for Adoption Support and Education says, “Couples need to recognize that bringing a child into their family will have an impact upon their relationship… bringing joys and challenges. A commitment to open communication and setting realistic expectations of each other and as a couple will be key to your success as a parent. Recognizing, as well, that adoptive parenting is the same as and different from parenting children by birth. Couples need to prepare to be open to embracing differences and accept guidance to address these differences.”5 There are a plethora of resources, such as [this episode of our podcast](https://empoweredparent.podbean.com/e/better-together-staying-connected-in-marriage-while-parenting-kids-from-trauma-s06-e03/)6, for couples seeking to understand and strengthen their relationship. Here are just a few other resources to get you started: #### Online courses and assessments [PREPARE/ENRICH](https://www.prepare-enrich.com/)7 is a pre-marital preparation and marriage assessment course that has been used by millions of couples to better understand their relationship. There is also an [adoption/foster care version](https://www.prepare-enrich.com/pe/pdf/adoption/adoption_overview.pdf)8 of PREPARE/ENRICH to help identify and assess couples’ strengths and issues as they prepare for parenting children by adoption/foster care. #### Marriage/Relationship books Some relationship books are grounded in attachment theory, such as Sue Johnson’s *Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love*, as well as Amir Levine and Rachel Heller’s book *Attached*. These books help couples identify ways that their past history may be impacting their current relationships. Other books are grounded in couples-focused research, such as the widely read *The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work* by John Gottman and Nan Silver. And although it is not a book about marriage, the authors of this article have found *Anatomy of the Soul* by Dr. Curt Thompson instructive on attachment and relationships. #### Counseling Of course marriage counseling or family counseling can be another way to work directly with a trained therapist for support, insight, and assistance to promote healthy relationships. When seeking a marriage or family therapist, ask your general practitioner doctor or health insurance provider for referrals. Many faith-based communities have resources and referral recommendations as well. There are even online counseling options available for couples who have limited availability or schedule flexibility to make counseling work. --- ### References 1. A. Lewis, personal communication, May 22, 2020 2. 3. [https://www.recoveryonpurpose.com/upload/Truth, Lies, and Intimacy An Attachment Perspective.pdf](https://www.recoveryonpurpose.com/upload/Truth,%20Lies,%20and%20Intimacy%20An%20Attachment%20Perspective.pdf) 4. 5. D. Riley, personal communication, May 23, 2020. 6. 7. [https://www.prepare-enrich.com](https://www.prepare-enrich.com/) 8. [https://www.prepare-enrich.com/pe/pdf/adoption/adoption\_overview.pdf](https://www.prepare-enrich.com/pe/pdf/adoption/adoption_overview.pdf) ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Adoption Experiences --- ### [More Than Enough Podcast](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/more-than-enough-podcast/) **Published:** July 22, 2020 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** The More Than Enough Podcast introduces those passionate about children and families to the tools and people that can help them transform foster care in the community where... **Content:** *The More Than Enough Podcast introduces those passionate about children and families to the tools and people that can help them transform foster care in the community where* they live. Click here to listen to [The More Than Enough Podcast](https://resources.cafo.org/podcast/do-your-part/) ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Foster Care --- ### [Becoming the Greatest Generation](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/becoming-the-greatest-generation/) **Published:** August 27, 2020 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** Scott Hamilton, Babe Ruth, Mike Tyson, Aaron Judge. **Content:** ##### BY: ELIZABETH OCCHIPINTI Scott Hamilton, Babe Ruth, Mike Tyson, Aaron Judge. All of these athletes have something in common, but it is not what you might think. Marilyn Monroe, Steve Jobs, Kristen Chenoworth, Faith Hill, Eddie Murphy, Anita Baker, and James Brown; they each exemplify celebrity and success and most would call them a pioneer in their field. Yet many would be surprised to know that each of these men and women were foster children.1 Which lends the question, *Why does one person in a particular set of circumstances thrive, while others in similar circumstances fail?* Recently, I embarked on the pursuit of my Masters Degree in Psychology in Youth and Adolescent Development. In the very first class, I was assigned an article entitled, *Resilience Among Military Youth*, which discussed sources of strength identified in the children of members of the military.2 As the co-founder of Miriam’s Heart, a New Jersey based non-profit that radically supports adopted and foster children and families, I had begun my studies to intervene and advocate for the troubling trends I was seeing in the field. The propensity for generations of families to loop in and out of the foster care system, cycles of abuse, poverty, racism and addiction swirling around the lives of children and a felt frustration for the lack of impact all of the planning, funding and programs our State was providing. This article struck a chord with me, as I was immediately able to draw parallels between military youth and foster youth. And these parallels set me on a course that would change my life, stir my passion to make a difference in the lives of the families we serve, and shape programming aimed at developing resilience in the lives of adopted and foster children and families. Children who have come into foster care are at significant risk for negative outcomes and lifelong effects. These effects were captured in a longitudinal study conducted by the Center for Disease Control (CDC) on Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs). The CDC describes ACEs as being traumatic events occurring in childhood. They can include violence, abuse, and neglect, all of which have an undeniable impact on the outcomes in children. Research demonstrates that the presence of ACEs, such as stress or observing violence, can lead to lifelong health effects as well as raise the risk of mental illness and substance misuse.3 Like foster youth, military youth live with frequent moves, the fear of or actual loss of a parent, changing schools, moving away from peers, and separation from their parents. Yet, military youth tend to have positive outcomes, despite these significant adversities.2 And so I began to research and point every possible assignment I could to learning more about resilience and the nature of why most children in foster care tend to have negative outcomes, while military youth thrive? According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families), there are promising developments in the statistics on foster care. Adoptions of children from foster care are on the rise, fewer children are currently in foster care and fewer children are coming into foster care.4 Yet the risks to children who have been in or are entering foster care remain high. If Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) can accurately predict negative outcomes, how can parents and caregivers develop resilience in order to promote positive outcomes in the lives of at-risk youth? Looking at the lives of some of the most famous and successful people who’ve also endured ACEs, as well as the shared experiences of military youth, may shed a light on aspects of resilience. Why do so many children and adolescents struggle, yet others succeed? Is it possible hardships raise the capacity to build resilience? In this way, adversity could be viewed as a building block for the skill of resilience. If this is the case, then parents and caregivers can assist children and position them to succeed. If parents have the tools to help their children heal, they can use this unique time to gather support around them to help build on their strengths. In this way, each hardship or loss becomes an opportunity in the life of foster youth. Here are five tips for navigating a season of unknowns and building resilience in the lives of foster and adopted youth: #### USE TRUST-BASED RELATIONAL INTERVENTION. Complex developmental trauma occurs when over the course of time children endure traumatic events. Trust-Based Relational Intervention (TBRI) focuses on three areas, connection, empowerment, and correction, to aid parents in healing and connecting with their children. The TBRI method provides parents with tangible tools to help their children process their trauma and losses by strategically meeting unmet needs, responding to behaviors with connection in mind, and approaching correction proactively. Specifically by creating an environment of ‘felt safety’ parents can help their children heal from complex developmental trauma.5 In addition, parents can use this time as a unique opportunity to stay in close proximity and nest with their children. This type of parenting offers children the nurture they so desperately need and didn’t get in their infancy and early childhood.6 #### BE THE ONE. According to a recent Harvard study, all it takes is one consistent caring adult to help build resilience even when ACEs exist.7 When all the dust settles, the presence of one person who consistently reinforces a child’s value and provides support will make a difference. Understand that this is an investment into the child’s future success, and parents may not immediately see the effects of their investment. I’ve often said, “Being a foster parent feels like a series of failures.” Caring for children, then tearfully sending them back into the arms of their biological family will most certainly hurt. Foster parents have a unique opportunity to plant the seed of resilience in the lives of the young people who enter their home. #### USE THESE TRIALS TO BUILD RESILIENCE. Present hardships can be converted into strengths. Consider the first #greatestgeneration. There was no shortage of chaos, economic and social turmoil during this season, and yet, as Tom Brokaw explains, the generation that weathered WWII and the Great Depression and overcame tremendous difficulty emerged stronger because of those experiences.8 Similarly, today children are enduring a season of trials. Young people in foster care are more vulnerable than ever. Most professionals in this field are anticipating a tsunami of needs following COVID-19. Foster parents can help the youth and adolescents in their care to develop an awareness of their strengths and remind them that even in times like this, resilience arises and originates in seasons of hardship and difficulty. #### HONOR THE LOSSES. Acknowledge the losses and the feelings that arise, talk about them, and work through them together. Children and teens who should have walked in a graduation ceremony, missed the prom, and other rights of passage have suddenly lost the normalcy of school, their teachers, and friends. Children have forfeited birthday parties and special gatherings. All of these are losses. Children and teens in foster care have already lost much and may be more sensitive to these losses. Help them to accept that grieving those losses is a process. Empower children to name, talk about, accept, and understand their feelings. #### CELEBRATE WINS AND ACCOMPLISHMENTS. ​Be sure to celebrate the wins and creatively mark the accomplishment of a job well done! Have they developed new skills, learned to garden, baked a cake for the first time, or learned to sew? The development of new skills is one key to building resilience.2 More than this, celebrating accomplishments helps children refocus their mindset onto things that are productive allowing them to have tangible proof that they are capable of overcoming difficult situations. Just like Babe Ruth and Aaron Judge, young people can develop a wheelhouse of skills to gain resilience through their struggles with the capable guidance of parents and caregivers. By applying the wisdom we gain from the observations of resilient groups of children who might otherwise be at risk, foster parents can reinforce protective factors that can lead to a child’s ability to overcome. While foster parents may never know the impact of their care on the lives of the young people who enter their homes, they can plant these seeds of success. Taking advantage of the opportunities arising out of hardships and moving children and adolescents through a healing process, parents and caregivers are positioning them to be the next #greatestgeneration. *​Elizabeth Occhipinti is the Co-Founder & President of Miriam’s Heart. Elizabeth and her husband Jim first developed [Miriam’s Heart](http://miriamsheart.org/) in 2009. Elizabeth is a TBRI practitioner trained at Texas Christian University, holds a BS in Human Services and is currently pursuing her MS in Child and Adolescent Psychology. As a trained TRBI practitioner, Elizabeth studied and maintains working relationships with the renowned team at the Texas Christian University’s Karyn Purvis’ Institute of Child Development, where she studied the effects of trauma and loss. Adoptive and licensed foster parents themselves, Jim & Elizabeth have five children who keep their Somerset, New Jersey home appropriately busy and can often be seen dancing and singing in their kitchen as they clear the dinner table.* 1Admin. “Famous Former Foster/Adopted Kids.” Foster Focus, 30 Apr. 2015, www.fosterfocusmag.com/famous-foster-kids 2Easterbrooks, A. M., Ginsburg, K., & Lerner, R. M. (2013). Resilience among military youth. Future of Children, 23(2), 99–120. Retrieved from https://www-ncbi-nlm-nih-gov.proxy1.ncu.edu/pubmed/25518694 3Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs). (2020, April 3). Retrieved from https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/childabuseandneglect/acestudy/index.html 4U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families, Administration on Children, Youth and Families, Children’s Bureau, https://www.acf.hhs.gov/cb Preliminary Estimates for FY 2018 as of August 22, 2019 (26), Page 4 5Purvis, K.B., Cross, D.R., Dansereau, D.F., & Parris, S.R. (2013). Trust-Based Relational Intervention (TBRI): A systemic approach to complex developmental trauma. Child & Youth Services, 34, 360–386. http://dx.doi.org/10.1080/0145935X.2013.859906 6Purvis, K.B., McKenzie, L.B., Becker Razuri, E. et al. A Trust-Based Intervention for Complex Developmental Trauma: A Case Study from a Residential Treatment Center. Child Adolesc Soc Work J 31, 355–368 (2014). https://doi.org/10.1007/s10560-014-0328-6 7Resilience. (n.d.). (2020, May 5) Retrieved from https://developingchild.harvard.edu/science/key-concepts/resilience/ 8Brokaw, T. (1998). The greatest generation. New York: Random House ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** COVID-19, Foster Care --- ### [Can I Adopt a Baby From Foster Care](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/can-i-adopt-a-baby-from-foster-care/) **Published:** September 23, 2020 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** In May, we recognized National Foster Care Awareness Month. In the same breath, we advocate for children in foster care who wait for adoptive families. **Content:** In May, we recognized National Foster Care Awareness Month. In the same breath, we advocate for children in foster care who wait for adoptive families. To many, this duality can be confusing. Foster care, to be clear, is intended to be a temporary solution to keep children safe until they can reunite with their families of origin. On the contrary, there’s nothing temporary about adoption. So, which is it? It’s both. We can hope and pray and work tirelessly in support of reunification for children in foster care. Child welfare professionals can recruit, train, assess, and support fostering families to care for children until such reunification can happen. We celebrate relationships built between fostering families and biological parents. We equip fostering families to maintain connections between children and their biological relatives. It’s temporary, yes. It’s complicated, yes. And it’s fantastic. The most recent statistics from the [Office of the Administration for Children and Families](https://www.acf.hhs.gov/cb/resource/afcars-report-26) report that almost 60% of children leave foster care to reunite with relatives. Unfortunately, it’s not always possible for a child to reunite with biological parents or other relatives. Which brings us back to adoption, and we’ve all got some questions. When we hear from families interested in adoption from foster care, we usually spend a great deal of time answering these questions. At least, we do our best. Interested applicants contact us after reading about the foster care crisis in the United States. They’ve heard about the 125,000 children in U.S Foster Care [waiting to be adopted](https://www.acf.hhs.gov/cb/resource/afcars-report-26). They want to understand the process, timelines, costs, training, eligibility, and, of course, they want to know about the children who need families. All of these questions, of course, are wrapped up in each inquiring family’s own set of expectations, assumptions, and anecdotal knowledge from a friend of a friend of a friend. Which inevitably leads us to the following question: ***Is it possible to adopt a baby from foster care? The answer in one word: no. No, it’s not. Not at all.*** Understandably, this doesn’t make sense. There are 125,000 children waiting to be adopted in the United States alone. There aren’t enough families for these children! Thus begins the heavy-lifting work of explaining a child’s journey through placement, and examining the statistics in further detail. Earlier, I mentioned that 60% of children leave foster care to reunite with relatives. It’s true. Around 25% of children leave foster care to join their adoptive families. That leaves another 15% who leave for some terrible reasons , which are best left for another blog post. Back to the 25%. ***Who are they, and who is adopting them?*** ![](https://www.adoptioncouncil.org/files/large/acb1f3e6a47f260)First, let’s talk about the children. They are all ages, from a few months old up to 20 years old. Just over 20% of children who wait to be adopted from foster care are less than three years old. Another 50% are between ages 3 and 10, and the remaining 30% are older than age ten. From a family’s perspective, this means that there are 25,000 infants and toddlers just waiting to be adopted! But I just said it wasn’t possible. Perhaps I should explain myself. ![](https://www.adoptioncouncil.org/files/large/e30827c55e2434e)The answer is found when you begin to look at WHO is adopting children from foster care. Here’s the scoop: 36% of children adopted from foster care are adopted by an extended family member. 52% are adopted by their foster parents. Only 12% of children are adopted by an unrelated family who isn’t currently fostering them. When you realize that only half of the children who wait for adoption are actually adopted each year, the number of children adopted by unrelated families who are not currently fostering those children is a fairly small group. Turns out, the younger children are, most often, being adopted by extended family members or by their current foster parents. Here’s an important aspect to emphasize: I don’t share those statistics from an apologetic standpoint. This is fantastic! It’s great news, because it means that children are finding permanency in families with whom they already have a relationship. On one hand, this maintains a connection with their biological heritage, and on the other, it minimizes the number of times a child moves from one family to another, which is always traumatic. So what, then, do we have to say to families who want to provide a permanent solution for children in foster care through adoption? We say that there are 125,000 youth in the United States who are waiting for adoption. Most of those children are waiting to be adopted by relatives and by their current foster families. ***HOWEVER, there are still children who need you.*** They are, most often, eight years old or older. They often belong to a sibling group. These are children who are resilient, engaging, funny, opinionated, and they need permanency as much as the 7 month old who will soon be adopted by her foster mom. So, let’s be transparent. Let’s be vulnerable. Let us pull back the curtain with inquiring families and let them know about the older youth and teenagers who desperately need adoption. The reality of foster care is that children need families who are wholeheartedly willing to set aside their own dreams and desires in order to focus on the needs of children, youth and teenagers. Let’s be honest about that from the very beginning! In our society, we urgently need fostering families willing to focus solely and completely on the needs of the child in front of them. - Do you need a family for 8 months? One who can keep you safe and secure until you can move home with your mom and/or dad? You got it! - Do you need a family for 8 weeks? No problem. We can’t wait! - Wow. You need a safe, stable family to love you while you finish your last year of high school? Interesting. We’ve got a spare bedroom and wifi. They’re yours, if you want. - Do you need a family who will take you and your brothers? We’ve got you – all three of you! How long do you need to stay? No one knows? Cool! It’s an adventure. We’ll do it together. - I imagined myself parenting a preschool child, but when I read about you I knew I’d like you. As a sixth grader, I’m ready to help you navigate junior high. Maybe you’ve heard it can be rough, but I think you’ve got what it takes. Plus, I’ve done it before. You’ve got this! Foster Care and Adoption can, on occasion, seem to be at odds. But they’re not. All you need to do is be willing to say ‘yes’ to a child (or youth, or teenager) without knowing how everything is going to turn out. *Every* parent is called to do that, so welcome to the club. No, it won’t be what you once imagined it to be. No, it won’t be easy. But, it will be so much better in so many ways. Plus, if it were easy, anyone could do it. ![](https://www.adoptioncouncil.org/files/large/3af3da0231b0c4b) *With over 25 years of experience in child welfare, Greg has expertise in family preservation, community-based programs, strategic planning, program development and performance management. He holds a master’s degree in marriage and family counseling and is a Trust-Based Relational Intervention (TBRI®) practitioner. To learn more about Greg’s work, [visit Holt International’s Leadership Team webpage.](https://www.holtinternational.org/about/leadership.php)* --- ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Foster Care --- ### [A Zimbabwean Child](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/a-zimbabwean-child/) **Published:** September 9, 2020 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** I met Sylvia (name changed) early this year. Yet due to the intervening pandemic, it seems like many years ago. So much has changed since January, when I looked into Sylvia’s sparkling, spunky eyes. Then, through Hope’s Promise’s support, she had the hope of attending school and pursuing a better future. In March, Zimbabwean schools closed due to lockdown and remain shuttered, with no date announced for re-opening. Additionally, the lockdown rendered most of Zimbabwe’s day laborer workforce unable to earn income. Even before Covid19, eight-year-old Sylvia endured more real-life nightmares than many people will face in a lifetime. Sylvia’s parents died when she was very young, along with most of her aunts and uncles. Grandma and Grandpa took in Sylvia and her cousins. Then Grandpa died. Grandma’s only option – relocate as a squatter to nearby farmland, build a mud hut, and eke out subsistence day by day for her young charges. Compounding the challenges, some of her grandchildren now battle the same disease that wiped out their parents’ generation. They need **healthcare**, of course. But reports from earlier this year of seven babies stillborn in one night poignantly reveal the endemic malfunction of Zimbabwe’s medical system: [France24 article](https://www.france24.com/en/20200802-zimbabwe-s-health-care-crisis-deepens-as-virus-rage). More fundamental even than access to a doctor, kids like Sylvia need proper **nutrition** for medication efficacy, much less survival. But if Sylvia eats a little sadza (cornmeal mixed with water) every day, she’s lucky. Even before Covid19, half of Zimbabwe’s population (total population of over 14 million people) already needed food aid according to the [World Food Programme](https://www.cnn.com/2020/06/18/africa/zimbabwe-coronavirus-lockdown-intl/index.html). Sylvia represents one data point in that massive statistic. As if food shortages were not enough, Zimbabweans lack even basic access to **water** and **sanitation**: [Human Rights Watch article](https://www.hrw.org/news/2020/04/15/zimbabwe-unsafe-water-raises-covid-19-risks). The pandemic has further compounded terrible pre-existing suffering, but, shockingly, Zimbabwe’s health minister was arrested and convicted of grafting Covid19 resources. [Aljazeera article](https://www.aljazeera.com/news/2020/08/zimbabwe-vp-named-health-minister-coronavirus-graft-scandal-200805053439951.html). Due to the leadership of Hope’s Promise Zimbabwe staff and the generosity of Hope’s Promise donors, Hope’s Promise is making a vital difference in the lives of kids like Sylvia. So far, we’ve provided emergency and rent funding for three months to our families and hold enough in reserve to assist through November if the lockdown continues. With each bag of staple food items passed hand to hand from our Zimbabwean staff to our families, we affirm this core truth: Zimbabwe is not comprised of statistics, but people counted one-by-one. Sylvia, and each child like her, matter. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** COVID-19, Orphan Care, Poverty, Zimbabwe --- ### [Adoption During COVID & the Rising Wave of Children](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/adoption-during-covid-the-rising-wave-of-children/) **Published:** October 7, 2020 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** Many have pointed out over the past weeks that if there’s a silver lining in the coronavirus pandemic it’s that the virus doesn’t seem to affect children as badly as it affects adults. **Content:** By Rob Scheer Many have pointed out over the past weeks that if there’s a silver lining in the coronavirus pandemic it’s that the virus doesn’t seem to affect children as badly as it affects adults. But if we take a broader view, one wide enough to encompass the plight of a group which exists at the very fringes of our society—children caught in America’s ailing foster care system—nothing could be further from the truth. One as-yet unseen consequence of the pandemic is the rising wave of children who will enter the foster system. Critical institutions, like schools, social services and community programs, that served as some kids’ only safety net no longer have the ability to catch them. And thousands of children locked at home with abusive, neglectful or unstable caregivers, will invariably end up swept into the system. If we’re to prevent this wave from becoming a tsunami, we have to take radical action right now. Even before COVID-19 turned the world upside down, the delicate social structures that hold life together for one of our most vulnerable populations were frayed almost to the point of disintegration. Of the 430,000 kids in America’s foster care system, only half will ever graduate high school. Little more than one in 10 will go to college. And only 3% will graduate with a degree. Those numbers are only the tip of the iceberg. Forty percent of children in America’s foster care system will become homeless on the day they age out of the system. That number rockets to 70% within two years. Given this grim context, it should be no wonder that two thirds of incarcerated men in America have been through the foster care system—as have 80% of child victims of human trafficking. This is not mere failure. It’s a rolling catastrophe that has gone unaddressed for decades. With COVID-19 straining an already overburdened—and deeply flawed—system, there is no longer time for hole-plugging. Rather, we have to start looking closely, and speaking openly about, the fundamental issues that have caused and are now perpetuating this breakdown. Chief among these issues is knowledge. As you read this, 4,600 children in the foster system are unaccounted for. That means they are missing. Disappeared. There are no amber alerts, no press conferences, and no army of volunteers combing fields and forests. The system—let alone the public—barely registers their absence. This issue closely dovetails with another major failing, which is the fragmentation of the child welfare system among the states. The U.S. federal government, which has seen fit to centralize the nation’s most critical systems and processes like the collection of income tax, leaves matters almost solely in the hands of the states when it comes to the welfare of our children. The most flagrant manifestation of this radical decentralization is the lack of a national database of kids in foster care, or a way for state agencies to communicate with one another. This means that the parent or guardian of a child who is considered severely at-risk can simply pick up and move to a different state. The new state will have no knowledge of the child’s situation, or even of their presence. The slate is wiped clean and with it all reasonable hope that the child might end up in a better, safer situation. Finally, we have to consider the effect of race, which plays a definitive role in America’s child welfare system. We see this most starkly in the most common reason children enter the system, which is “neglect.” Though 67% of kids are placed in foster care because of it, there is no formalized or standardized definition of child neglect in the U.S. This makes for a situation ripe for the exercise of bias, even (or especially) when it’s unintended and unaware. Many of us were warmed this year by a viral video of a young white mother in a wealthy suburb of Ohio who called the police because she had no formula to give her baby. The results were a friendly officer showing up at the mother’s door with the formula. But the same situation unfolding in the Bronx or Baltimore would likely trigger a child services investigation. And once a child is placed in the system, it can take a year or more to get them out—even when the parent or guardian is found to be fit, and the home is deemed safe. Facing what’s essentially a crisis within a crisis may be overwhelming. But by acting together—as families, as communities, and as a country—we will make a difference. This starts with three simple steps. First, ask your congressperson what your county is doing to prepare for the wave of kids entering the foster care system. Second, express your support for champions of this in government, like Congresswoman Karen Bass, a recognized expert on the topic. And, third, reach out to organizations like the one I’m a part of to ask how you can make a difference. Alone these actions may seem insufficient. But, taken together, they amount to real and lasting change. About the Author: Rob Scheer founded [Comfort Cases](https://www.comfortcases.org/book) in 2013. Comfort Cases is an all-volunteer charitable organization that provides overnight bags, pajamas, hygiene items, activities, and comfort items to children and teens transitioning into foster care. An adoptive father of four children from foster care and a former foster teen himself, Rob recognized a troubling yet consistent trend: like so many in the foster care system, his own children came to his home carrying what few possessions they had in black trash bags. He immediately connected the trash bags with the instability, lack of self-worth, and fear that many kids in foster care experience during this uncertain time in their lives. Armed with the conviction that all children should be provided with everyday essentials and the comfort of a few things to call their own, Rob started Comfort Cases and began a journey to improve the lives of foster children throughout the DC metropolitan region. --- ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** COVID-19, Foster Care --- ### [The Effects of Adoption on Biological Siblings](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/the-effects-of-adoption-on-biological-siblings/) **Published:** October 21, 2020 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** My life changed completely when adoption became part of my story. Adoption encouraged me to become more empathetic, compassionate, understanding, and mature. **Content:** ##### BY: JANA HUNSLEY My life changed completely when adoption became part of my story. Adoption encouraged me to become more empathetic, compassionate, understanding, and mature. Adoption led me to a life lived intimately with trauma and its effects. And it pushed me to pursue the career I have today. And yet, I am not a member of the adoption triad — I am not an adoptive parent, an adoptee, or a birth parent. I am a sibling. I became a sibling to seven children who were adopted into my family when I was a teenager. The majority of adoptive families do not consist of just one adopted child and the adoptive parents1 – but we often treat them as such. Almost all treatments and interventions for adoptive families are focused exclusively on the needs of the adopted child. I became a post-adoption therapist to help children similar to my own siblings. I planned a career that focused on helping parents understand and support their children who had experienced early-life trauma. But I soon realized that we, as the adoption community, were missing something important: As I worked with adoptive families who were struggling post-adoption, I met adoptive siblings who had similar stories to my own, and I searched for resources to help these members of the family but found nothing. All I could do was share my story and what I believed would have helped me. My story is the “both/and” kind of story. I love my siblings, *and* — at the same time — I felt invisible as my parents focused all their attention on my siblings’ needs. I still loved that adoption was part of my family’s story, and I became like a third parent in my family to help manage the chaos. I understood the root of my siblings’ needs, and I also felt like I could not have any needs because my parents were already overwhelmed, stressed, and burdened. I thought it was just me, but when I became a post-adoption therapist and saw other siblings struggling in the same ways I had, I soon realized the problem was more common than just my family’s experience. The struggles I experienced as an adoptive sibling were the same struggles of many siblings by adoption, but it seemed that no one in the professional adoption community was cognizant of the impact adoption might have on other children in the family, let alone actively developing strategies and interventions for them. The prevailing assumption seemed to be that these siblings were unaffected by the addition of a child or children into their family and should be able to work out their struggles by themselves. Although certainly unintended, it was as if I were invisible, and my needs were treated secondary to the needs of my siblings and/or my parents. A few years later, I started a doctoral program at the Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development at Texas Christian University. I knew the adoption community needed more education about the adoptive sibling experience, but I did not want to generalize my personal experience to be the experience of all adoptive siblings. To learn more, I conducted a study on the experiences of adoptive siblings with the hope of initiating the conversation with the fuller adoption community. Findings from this study are presented in the next section, followed by tips and strategies to prevent these experiences and/or provide support for adoptive siblings who may share some of these experiences. --- ### The Adoptive Sibling Experience I conducted a study of 182 adult adoptive siblings and asked them to answer questions about their experience in their families when they lived in the home. While the study participants consisted of biological children in adoptive families, it should be noted that any child in an adoptive family can have the experiences described here. From my clinical work, I have learned that there tends to be one member of the adoptive family who has the most externalizing needs — which often can be traced to early-life trauma – leaving the other children in the family, both adopted and biological, in the role of adoptive sibling. This means that a child can be adopted and have the duel needs of an adopted child while also experiencing life as an adoptive sibling. Several themes emerged from the data, but the most critical themes from their experience post-adoption are detailed below: #### Invisibility One of the more common themes was invisibility. Adoptive siblings often feel invisible in their families, as if their parents do not even see them anymore. They feel pushed to the side or rejected. Left alone long enough, adoptive siblings’ feelings of invisibility can become pervasive. They can begin to feel as if no one truly sees them. Just as we know adopted children can internalize and struggle with feelings of not being good enough, loveable, or valuable, adoptive siblings can struggle with similar emotions. How do these feelings of invisibility develop? Asking this question is not intended to assign fault to any member of the family but rather to foster understanding about how it happens. Awareness can result in change that benefits the entire family. Bringing a child into the family can be an all-consuming transition as each member adapts. Parents are often focused on the adjustment of the adopted child and do not have the capacity to attend as consistently to the other children in the home. This can lead an adoptive sibling to feel invisible. If parents continue needing to focus primarily on the needs of the adopted child, this relational pattern can become chronic. The parents may unknowingly tell themselves that the adoptive siblings are okay, that they do not have any emotional issues, or that they should be able to manage well enough without their support. The adoptive siblings interpret this to mean that they are not as important, their needs are less critical than their adopted siblings’ needs, or their parents do not see or value them as much as the other sibling. Left unchecked, these feelings of invisibility can lead to struggles in knowing their own value and worth, and therefore impact many relationships in their life. #### Parentification Another common experience for adoptive siblings is parentification, defined as a child acting in a role of a parent. Adoptive siblings can experience parentification in two ways: operating as an emotional support for their parents or acting as another parent to their siblings. Sometimes, the sibling loves this role – they love acting like a mom to their adorable little siblings or feeling important and valued through meeting needs in the home. Other times, adoptive siblings resent this role – they believe they have no choice but to act as a parent because there is so much stress in the home or they think their parents are not capable of handling all of the stress on their own. No matter the adoptive siblings’ view of their parent role, it is not a healthy experience for developing children. Research shows that parentification can lead to mental health issues and relationship issues as an adult.2 How does parentification develop? Adoptive siblings tend to take on this role for a couple reasons. Often, siblings of children who have been adopted have a pre-existing relationship and an attachment to their parents prior to adoption. Attunement and connection are already present when the new child enters the home through adoption. Adoptive siblings are more easily aware when their parents are overwhelmed, burdened, and exhausted. Most aspects of family life shift when adoption occurs, and many times, adoptive siblings are clinging to any sense of past normalcy. One way adoptive siblings do this is by working to have their old parents back – parents who are not overly stressed and weary. They begin to act as a parent in an attempt to decrease their parents’ stress, hoping that their added help will provide their parents some relief and that family life will return to the way it was before the adoption took place. Another reason adoptive siblings assume the parenting role is because they tend to be empathetic to the experiences of their adopted siblings. They are aware of the early-life trauma or loss their adopted siblings experienced, and they want to help meet their needs in order to help them have the best lives they can have. Left unchecked, this parentification role can lead adoptive siblings to believe their worth and value in the family is tied to their ability to help in a meaningful way. If adoptive siblings are not appreciated for their efforts, they can become hurt and resentful of their parents’ lack of acknowledgement. #### Peacemaking Adoptive siblings may also assume a peacemaking role in the family. They put themselves in this role to ease any tension, mediate, and keep the peace in an effort to decrease the stress in the family. Because they can act as both a parent and a sibling, they understand the struggles of both the parents and the other children in the home and can work to bring understanding to both parties. Adoptive siblings may also work to keep the peace by trying not to add to their parents struggles. Through perfect behavior, they aim not to be needy and to care for themselves in order to help their parents. This need to be perfect can also be a coping response to invisibility – if they do not appear to have any needs, it will not hurt as badly that their parents are unable to meet their needs. How does peacemaking develop? Adoptive siblings are just as impacted by what occurs in the home as any other member of the family. They live in the same home, experience and witness the same daily struggles, are connected to the same members of the family, and are impacted by everything that occurs. Adoptive siblings want their family to be healthy and whole. They want the yelling to stop, the tantrums to end, the stress to be minimized, and their parents’ worried expressions to be replaced with the relaxed expressions they once knew – and they act in ways that they believe will fix what’s broken. Unfortunately, no matter how hard they try, the reality is that adoptive siblings are not capable of fixing their families all by themselves. #### Secondary Trauma Because adoptive siblings live in the same home and are inherently connected to their families, they are deeply affected by what occurs in their families. Adoptive siblings can experience secondary trauma, defined as the exposure to another person who has experienced trauma.3 Not only do adoptive siblings hear the stories of what the adopted children in their family have experienced, but they also often witness the effects of this early-life trauma on their adopted siblings’ brains and bodies on a daily basis. They are exposed to the trauma-related emotional and behavioral problems adopted children can experience. In particularly chaotic homes, adoptive siblings can be traumatized themselves, bullied or made the target of many of the adopted children’s trauma-related emotional and behavioral problems. This secondary trauma can affect adoptive siblings in different ways. While the exposure can make adoptive siblings empathetic, compassionate, and emotionally mature, it can also cause them to internalize it as their own trauma. They can grapple with the hard things they are hearing and witnessing and, in their developing brains, be unable to make sense of it all. This can cause them to turn inward, keeping their feelings to themselves and not turning to their families for support. Secondary trauma can also cause adoptive siblings to struggle with their own emotional and behavioral problems. They can begin to have similar trauma-related emotional and behavioral problems as the children in the home who experienced early-life trauma. One important distinction with emotional and behavioral problems is that adoptive siblings sometimes can model the behaviors of the child with the most trauma-related needs in the family. They can see that this child receives attention if they exhibit certain behaviors so if they exhibit similar behaviors, they believe they will also receive attention. This is different from experiencing emotional and behavioral problems due to secondary trauma. --- ### The Adoptive Family System When I began this research, I thought I was just starting a conversation about the adoptive sibling experience, but I soon realized I was also discovering a new way to view the adoptive family. When we make the effort to understand the adoptive sibling, we can see the adoptive family much more accurately. We know that adoptive parents can be overwhelmed, stressed, burdened, and are often unprepared and unequipped to meet the needs of their family. We know that children who were adopted often experience grief and loss and have experienced early-life trauma that leads to trauma-related emotional and behavioral problems. If we look at the parent and adopted child relationship, we know that adopted children can struggle to trust and receive care, and parents can struggle to consistently give care to a child who does not reciprocate affection – a condition known as blocked care.4 If we factor in the adoptive sibling, they may struggle with invisibility, parentification, peacemaking, and/or secondary trauma. In the relationship between the parent and adoptive sibling, the adoptive sibling struggles to express their needs, and the parent struggles to see or meet the needs. In the sibling relationship, adoptive siblings can be jealous of the attention their adopted sibling receives and resentful of the stress they believe the child has brought to the family, while the child that was adopted can feel inferior to the adoptive sibling and jealous of the favor their sibling experiences. ![](https://www.adoptioncouncil.org/files/large/5bd620a9c9de2ea) If we begin to acknowledge the experiences of each of the adoptive family members, we can finally see the adoptive family clearly. We can recognize that the stress and chaos felt in the adoptive family is not caused by adoption or the adopted child; it is caused by issues inherent in the family system. Something is not working in how the family connects, communicates, and relates to each other. However, most of our interventions for families post-adoption are focused on the trauma-related needs of the adopted child and helping this child heal from their trauma. While this is critically important work, if interventions for adoptive families only address the adopted child, not only are we unintentionally placing the blame for the family’s stress on this child, but we are also not meeting the other needs in the family. Without understanding and addressing these needs, the adoptive family will likely continue to struggle. --- ### Improving the Family System So how do we improve the family system? How do we meet the needs of the adoptive siblings? In the first study I conducted, adoptive siblings reported that they wished their families had more open communication, that they had received more training as a family pre-adoption, and that they *all* had received post-adoption support. In essence, they wanted a seat at the table and wanted to be able to talk about what was happening. In a follow-up study, I found that adoptive siblings whose families talked freely and openly about their thoughts and feelings had the most cohesive families, the closest sibling relationships, and were the most satisfied in their families. The number of children in the family, age differences, age at adoption, birth order changes, and amount of trauma the adopted child had experienced did not affect the way adoptive siblings viewed their families. It was all about building a home with healthy communication in which the family could talk freely, honestly, and openly about their thoughts and feelings. Based on these insights, here are some practices parents can implement to build this type of home. ![](https://www.adoptioncouncil.org/files/large/9b3d9ab5816dfe8)#### Practice Mindfulness The foundation of a connected family is *mindfulness*. This involves being mindful of one’s own mental and emotional states, triggers, and effective regulation strategies. Further, mindfulness also involves being aware of one’s *family* – being attuned to their mental and emotional states. This means that parents can read when their child is feeling sad, antsy, overwhelmed, angry, etc., and they know what to do when their child experiences these feelings. What their child needs may take time to determine, but all children have needs that parents should be meeting. In order to have open and honest communication, parents should be present with their family— attuned to their own mental and emotional state as well as those of others within the family. Without mindfulness, parents will have disconnected communication at best and family members who feel like they cannot discuss their needs at worst. Once this foundation of mindfulness is built, parents can move onto the supports. The next two strategies involve processes done over time to increase conversation in the home, learn how to better communicate, and gain mastery of this type of communication in one’s family. #### Model Openness We cannot expect children to tell us what they are thinking or how they are feeling if we do not model open sharing for them. Parents are often the means through which their children learn. If parents do not share their thoughts and feelings, their children most likely will not share their own thoughts and feelings either. However, if parents *show* their children it is normal, comfortable, and safe to talk about what they are thinking and feeling, they will start engaging in more open and honest conversation. It seems simple, but can be uncomfortable if sharing feelings is not the norm within the family. That is why the foundation of a connected family is mindfulness. It is necessary for parents to become aware of what they are thinking and feeling before they can start modeling this openness. Once this awareness occurs, it is easy to notice how often thoughts or feelings are voiced. A good practice is to try to model openness at least once a day. One example is creating a ritual where everyone shares the best part and the worst part of their day around the dinner table. As parents model this openness, they can expect their families to respond by beginning to open up themselves. #### Ask Questions Children need to know their parents care about what is happening in their lives. In order for parents to show they are interested and that they want to engage and connect, they can ask open-ended questions. These can be very simple: “Can you tell me about your basketball game?” “How are you feeling about your final exam?” or “What do you need to make this day better?” The questions can be very basic but should not have simple “yes” or “no” answers. With practice, these questions can create the space for families to talk freely and honestly about what they are thinking and feeling. Along with trying to model openness once each day, a good practice is to try to ask at least one question each day. If families are living in survival mode or are uncomfortable talking about feelings, this can feel impossible. However, it takes practice to form these habits. If families are intentional, it will eventually become second nature. The following two strategies are tools that can be used in nearly every interaction in the home. #### Be Receptive Being receptive involves hearing what the other person has to say, thinking about it from their perspective, even if there is disagreement — as long as their voice is heard. Being receptive requires empathy and compassion, being able to put oneself in the other person’s shoes. In a family, it is impossible to always agree. There are too many people with different personalities, opinions, and experiences. Sometimes we may start an argument or silence a family member simply because we have not stopped to be mindful and think about the issue from their perspective. To be receptive, a good practice is to pay attention to one’s conversations in the family – are you receptive to what others say? How often do you just passively listen without communicating your sincere interest or concern? #### Affirm Preciousness Children need their parents to affirm their preciousness *daily*. They are receiving many false messages about their value and worth, and they need their parents to counteract those lies. They need to hear things like, “I love you,” “I’m so glad you’re mine,” “You’re such an incredible kid.” There are no specific words that need to be said; instead, parents can affirm their children by saying what is natural and authentic within their family. If parents are not authentic with their words, then their children will notice and the affirmations will fall flat. Parents may affirm their children verbally, through a note or text message, or in a number of other ways. What matters is that the child consistently feels seen, known, and loved in an intentional and genuine way. --- ### Conclusion I started my career with the goal of helping children who were adopted heal from their early-life trauma and helping their parents care well for them. I thought I was changing my focus when I began to study adoptive siblings, but I soon learned that was not the case. Learning about adoptive siblings helped me see the whole adoptive family unit more clearly, which allowed me to recognize a critical issue in the adoption community: We unknowingly place undo blame for the stress and chaos in adoptive families on the adopted child and their prior experiences with trauma when, in fact, none of it is their fault. The stress and chaos in adoptive families is a by-product of *family* issues – a lack of communication, connection, and understanding. Additionally, if we begin to acknowledge and address the needs of adoptive siblings, not only are we making an invisible problem visible, but we are rightfully removing the blame from the adopted child and focusing our efforts on areas that will benefit all members of the family. Understanding the experiences of each member of the adoptive family brings the awareness necessary to recognize the needs of and effectively parent every child, build healthy family relationships, and help every member of the adoptive family feel seen, loved, heard, and valued. Creating these positive changes in families can be as simple as a conversation. --- ### Resources Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development: - - --- CATEGORY [Adoption Experiences](https://www.adoptioncouncil.org/publications/category/adoption-experiences) ### References 1. Vandivere, S., Malm, K., & Radel, L. F. (2009). Adoption USA: A chartbook based on the 2007 National Survey of Adoptive Parents. Washington, DC: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Office of the Assistant Secretary for Planning and Evaluation. 2. Hooper, L. M., DeCoster, J., White, N., & Voltz, M. L. (2011). Characterizing the magnitude of the relation between self-reported childhood parentification and adult psychopathology: A meta-analysis. *Journal of Clinical Psychology, 67*(10), 1028-1043. 3. 4. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Adoptive Siblings --- ### [How to Love your Foster Child](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/how-to-love-your-foster-child/) **Published:** November 4, 2020 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** It’s a question often asked, or if not asked out loud, it’s that thought that feels too cold to say but a question we ponder nonetheless. **Content:** By Jami Kaeb **How can I love a child who was not born to me?** It’s a question often asked, or if not asked out loud, it’s that thought that feels too cold to say but a question we ponder nonetheless. Reality is: there may be moments where it is hard to love. But maybe we have the definition of love wrong when we ask this question. **If we measure love by our feelings, our instincts, our emotions, then we will struggle.** This is true in any relationship, and it is especially true when you enter the world of foster care. It’s not only because you are bringing in a child who has experienced trauma, but also because you are opening yourself to a greater level of vulnerability than you may have previously experienced. You are accepting more responsibility with less control, opening your life to new and often complicated relationships with the parents of the child in your care, and putting yourself under the authority of an imperfect system. It’s a perfect storm. Are you going to feel the butterflies and emotions we often associate with love as you step into foster care? Probably, yes! And definitely, no! Our feelings change; they come and go. One thing is certain; you will experience a lot of feelings—some of the ugliest you’ve had. Expect this. That is why we need to start by redefining love. Love is a choice. Love is an action. Love is commitment. This kind of love requires help from the One who is love, Jesus. When we lean on Him and allow His love to change us, we will be able to share His supernatural love with others, and we will experience His love in more personal ways in our life, too. Expect this! With this in mind, here are three ways I have learned to love, albeit imperfectly, the kids in my care. #### Lean in when you want to pull away. I remember one evening where our two-year-old little one was struggling a lot. At one point, she turned to Clint and said, “I don’t like you!” Ouch! Later that evening, I talked to Clint and said, “I think you need to take her on a date; clearly, she is not feeling connected to you.” Clint turned to me and said, “But I don’t like her.” Even though he didn’t feel love or like for our little girl, he chose to step into the uncomfortable, and the next day, I woke her up with some exciting news. As I helped her get ready—hair, dress, and fancy shoes—Clint and the other kids eagerly awaited her entrance. And her entrance was grand! She skipped, she waved, she ran to Clint and together they went off on their very first date! Sometimes, we need to lean in when we want to pull away. #### Open your heart when you want to guard it. I’ll never forget those early days, holding my six-month-old foster son, rocking him, memorizing his little face and toes, AND I’ll never forget that lingering feeling in the back of my mind, “How long will he be here?” Oh, my heart broke as I thought about him leaving. No one wants to experience pain. But what is the alternative? Regardless of how long our kids will be with us, they need us. All of us. They need us to risk, to be vulnerable, and to love big. Just as our Savior, Jesus loves us. As foster parents, our job is to love wholeheartedly and trust Christ with the future. Every bit of it. #### Celebrate your child’s love for their birthparent even when it breaks your heart. Week in and week out, that day would come, visit day. Every week, my heart would be pulled as I shared with our little ones, “Guess what, you get to see your Mommy today!” Even as I shared those words, my heart would cry out, “But I want to be your Mommy!” Entering the world of foster care means you are called to celebrate relationships that might feel undeserving. No matter what the circumstance of our kids coming into care, they are leaving all they know. They are leaving their parents, relatives, even sometimes, siblings. Loss is real, and their love for their family is real. Our kids shouldn’t have to pick sides. It’s not an us versus them kind of scenario. This only harms relationships and builds up walls. Celebrate your child’s love for their parents, even and especially when it breaks your heart. This is the kind of sacrificial love, our Father, God, demonstrated to us when He sent his Son, Jesus, to die for our sins. Loving in ways that go against our human feelings and emotions is not easy, and I dare say, nearly impossible. The good news is this: we don’t have to muster this up on our own; we can reach out to our Abba Father, ask for help and allow Him to work in us and through us! ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Foster Children, Relationships --- ### [3 Powerful Lessons Foster Care Has Taught Me](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/3-powerful-lessons-foster-care-has-taught-me/) **Published:** November 18, 2020 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** Adoption, foster care, and advocacy were not part of Jami’s dreams for her life, but God changed her heart when He made her aware, and she is passionate about helping others become aware too! She and her husband Clint are parents to their seven children (five through adoption). **Content:** *By Jami Kaeb* The journey of foster care is not smooth. There are gentle curves and sharp turns. There are ups, and there are downs. The weight of it feels like too much at times, and then others, you are so sure that this is precisely where you and your family need to be—and sometimes, it’s both of those happening at the same time. Foster care has changed me. It’s changed our family. Change isn’t wrong; in fact, I think this change has been good—though hard—for us. I’ve had to think about things differently. Here are three powerful lessons I’ve learned through foster care: ### 1. Awareness leads to action. I’ve seen this over and over in our journey to adoption, foster care, and even in starting TFI. Awareness prompted Clint and I’s curiosity, and that curiosity compelled us to pray. Prayer opened our hearts, and we became available. Once we were available, action followed. Adoption was never in my plan. Foster care and foster care ministry weren’t even on my radar, but praise God; He saw a bigger picture for my family. You can trust him. ### 2. It’s not about me. We went through many ups and downs in our journey to adoption, lots of “no’s,” a failed adoption, many tears, and much discouragement. During some of the hard times, I questioned God. “Why? This doesn’t make sense. You say adoption is a GOOD thing. We said YES to you. Why have you said NO back to us? I do not understand.” Ultimately, I heard God’s voice—not in an audible way—but clearly to my heart. It’s like he held my face in His hands and said, “Honey, it’s not about you.” If you’re in a season of waiting right now, I get it. It is so hard. Please know that God has a purpose in this season. He has not forgotten you. In the gentlest way that I can say it, remember, it’s not about you. It’s ALL about Him, and in Him, there is safety. ### 3. It’s not about bringing a child into your family; it’s about bringing your family to a child. Before we started foster care, we found ourselves in a season of waiting. We wanted to bring a child home. We wanted to add to our family. I remember the day my thoughts switched. I was watching a video of caseworker calling family after family looking to place a little girl in a home, but she received no after no. To think of children sitting in foster care offices across our nation while workers call to find them homes and to know that the people on the other end of the line are saying NO to you—oh, my friends, we cannot let them wait! It’s not about expanding and growing your family or mine. We have the opportunity to bring a family to a child who needs one for however long they need us. This journey we are on, my friends. It’s beautiful, and it’s messy. But, please know, we, at TFI, are with you. You are not alone. Just take the next, imperfect, faithful step and keep your eyes on Jesus and the mission He has called you to live. We want to help you support the foster care community. In stepping forward, you will be changed, and you will grow in ways you didn’t know you needed to. *Adoption, foster care, and advocacy were not part of Jami’s dreams for her life, but God changed her heart when He made her aware, and she is passionate about helping others become aware too! She and her husband Clint are parents to their seven children (five through adoption).* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Foster Care --- ### [Sponsor a Child for Christmas](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/sponsor-a-child-for-christmas/) **Published:** December 2, 2020 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** Do you remember Christmas when you were a kid? The thrill of trying to develop x-ray vision to see what was inside those boxes? **Content:** *By Colleen Briggs* Do you remember Christmas when you were a kid? The thrill of trying to develop x-ray vision to see what was inside those boxes? How hard it was to fall asleep on Christmas Eve? Maybe you think of presents, traditions, or delicious food. But I’d wager that your favorite memory is of someone you love. Some fifty years later, I vividly recall one of my favorite Christmas memories. I’m sitting on the floor in my Grandma’s house, surrounded by a chaotic scene of torn wrapping paper and smiling faces. My Grandma scans the room with twinkling eyes. “Isn’t Christmas wonderful?!” I’ve long forgotten the toys I received, but my Grandma’s love lingers, fortifying me to this day. My own heart testifies. There’s no better gift for a child than the gift of family. Maybe this year, when the transitory seems even less important amidst the challenges we face, it’s time to start a new tradition. Maybe this year is even less about opening presents and more about opening our hearts. More giving. Less receiving. When you sponsor a Hope’s Promise child for Christmas, you give a gift that lasts for eternity. You give them the gift of a loving family. You give them love, security, hope, and joy that changes life trajectories. Now more than ever, this is what Christmas is all about. Perhaps the Grinch Who Stole Christmas summed it up best; “Then the Grinch thought of something he hadn’t before! What if Christmas, he thought, doesn’t come from a store. What if Christmas…perhaps…means a little bit more!” Would you consider a new tradition this Christmas and make a recurring donation or a one-time donation to impact a child forever? [Click here.](https://www.hopespromise.com/sponsor-a-child-for-christmas/) ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Child Sponsorship, Christmas, Orphan Care --- ### [World Children's Day](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/world-childrens-day/) **Published:** November 20, 2020 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** He’s a living breathing Pied Piper. Everywhere he goes, children trail after him. In a Kenyan man called Pastor Karau, the legend become visible in real time, albeit with a happy ending. **Content:** *By Colleen Briggs, Hope’s Promise Director of Orphan Care* He’s a living breathing Pied Piper. Everywhere he goes, children trail after him. In a Kenyan man called Pastor Karau, the legend becomes visible in real time, albeit with a happy ending. In his home culture, Pastor Karau walks the winding, muddy lanes of the second largest slum in East Africa, seeking out the last and the least. He finds the children abandoned and neglected; the little ones forgotten by others. He stoops down to their level, looks them in the eye, and does whatever he can to convince them they matter. Sometimes that means welcoming them to the Mathare Worship Centre daycare, founded to give mothers an alternative to locking their young children in tiny shacks while they search for work to earn daily bread. Or inviting them to the church’s feeding program. Sometimes it means literally bringing them home and raising them as his own children, as he and Mama Karau have claimed the twenty-four kids of Hopes Promise Kenya. But I can testify that Pastor Karau’s magical ways with children transcend his own culture. Only God could write a story in which a country girl from Colorado and a Kenyan pastor end up in Nepal together! But indeed, we did, along with a Hope’s Promise team. Although Pastor Karau lacked language and understanding of cultural intricacies, he became no less than a Nepali kid magnet! I’ll never forget playing with five young boys, nicknamed the “five ninjas” by our team as they jumped, tumbled, and whirled their way through the afternoon. In the middle of it all, not one, but two delighted boys found perches on Pastor Karau’s shoulders. God has definitely given Pastor Karau a special gift, but when I read *Too Small To Ignore: Why the Least of These Matters Most* by Dr. Wes Stafford, I began to realize how simple and universal his techniques are: “If God places a child before you, and you are too busy to wield either a positive or negative influence…you just did the later! You communicated that the child doesn’t matter and isn’t important.” When a child enters the scene, Pastor Karau notices. In fact, he homes in on that small human with every aspect of his being. He makes eye contact, crouches to their level or lifts them to his, engages them fully. In the context of ordinary, daily life, he treats children not as interruptions to more important adult activities, but bestows VIP status upon them, deserving of his full attention. Once when I visited a Sunday morning service at Mathare Worship Centre, the kids presented a special dance performance. Spontaneously, Pastor Karau joined them on stage and, unrehearsed, imitated their moves. In becoming like them, he proclaimed without words their value, their worth. Hmmm… sounds a lot like someone else I know. “But (Jesus) made himself nothing, taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men.” (Philippians 2:7) The United Nations designates November 20th as World Children’s Day, “…first established in 1954 and celebrated on 20 November each year to promote international togetherness, awareness among children worldwide, and improving children’s welfare. World Children’s Day offers each of us an inspirational entry-point to advocate, promote and celebrate children’s rights, translating into dialogues and actions that will build a better world for children.” [(https://www.un.org/en/observances/world-childrens-day)](https://www.un.org/en/observances/world-childrens-day) Maybe you aren’t called to parent twenty-four orphaned children like Pastor Karau or to take a visible stand for children’s rights like many other heroes around the world. But let me challenge you to one simple task today in honor of World Children’s Day. Reach out to a child and make them feel as important as they are. I guarantee you will be the richer one for it. As Dr. Wes Stafford writes, “Just know this: What you will do among children is as close to the heart of God and central to his kingdom as anything we could mention.” ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Children --- ### [Why is Adoption Not Seen as an Option?](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/why-is-adoption-not-seen-as-an-option/) **Published:** December 16, 2020 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** When it comes to unplanned pregnancy, the most common choices for U.S. women are abortion or parenting. **Content:** *By Brittany Smith* ### Finding a forever family: How the pro-life movement can help change the cultural narrative of adoption When it comes to unplanned pregnancy, the most common choices for U.S. women are abortion or parenting. But there is a third option, one that is often left out of the conversation when discussing reproductive rights – adoption. In fact, less than **4 percent** of unplanned pregnancies result in adoption. The bottom line? According to a piece from Olga Khazan in The Atlantic, historically “among American women for whom carrying a child to term would be safe, adoption is a remarkably unpopular course of action.” ### Reasons why adoption is not seen as a viable option “One of the main reasons is a misunderstanding about adoption in our culture, and a lack of awareness for the way adoption works,” said Beth Woods. Woods is the executive director of Hope’s Promise, a domestic and international adoption agency based in Colorado. The adoption process has drastically changed over the past 30 years. Originally a closed adoption process was practiced-– one where information between adoptees and birth families was not shared and birth families rarely knew who their child’s adoptive family was. It wasn’t until a generation of adoptees grew up and started talking about how the closed adoption process left them with unresolved grief, and the feeling that they were unwanted by their birth parents, even when they loved and were loved by their adoptive families. Now **95 percent** of adoptions in the United States are open. Open adoption means both the adoptive and birth families are in contact before, during and after the process. “Open adoption has become the primary way adoption is practiced in the U.S.,” Woods said. “It helps kids know their story, know they weren’t rejected or abandoned. For adoptive parents, it helps them provide answers for kids when they have questions about their biological family history, about where they came from, who they are. It is a way to support love between the child and their birth family.” Adoptive families also have the freedom to establish the kind of relationship they want with birth families and create an environment where the child can know both families. “The process is voluntary,” Woods explained. “With open adoption, expectant mothers have the power and control to pick the family for their child and stay in contact, this reduces a lot of those fears.” ### The Emotional Toll Open adoption has helped foster strong families and better mental health for all involved, but it hasn’t fully promoted a higher adoption rate. That’s because the choice to place a child for adoption remains emotionally difficult for expectant mothers. When Jessica Phillips found out she was pregnant, she knew she was not able to raise a child. She was not with the father anymore. She didn’t know what to do. Her own mother was the first person to suggest adoption to her. “When I heard the word ‘adoption’ I got angry,” Phillips said. “It made me mad to go against my mothering instincts to place my child with someone and not be that child’s mother. But at the time, she admits, “I didn’t know much about it. I didn’t know what the process was. I soon learned there is a big misconception about what adoption is or isn’t. What you see on the news or in movies– that’s not necessarily what it is.” She decided to meet with an adoption agency. The agency gave her a book of profiles of adoptive parents. It didn’t take long until she came across Brian and Natalie’s profile. She says she instantly felt connected to them. This feeling was confirmed the first time they all met in person. Phillip’s daughter Kaylee was born on June 7, 2007. She chose to have two days with Kaylee alone in the hospital. It was important for her to have those 48 short hours with her. Afterward, the families arranged a commissioning at the hospital. Phillip’s pastor came to facilitate a ceremony where Jessica was able to celebrate being Kaylee’s mother and Brian and Natalie becoming Kaylee’s parents. > *“Every time I tell my story I still get choked up. Even 13 years later. Not because I doubt the decision. I’m just so overwhelmed by God’s goodness,” she said. “I see how adoption is such a blessing. Not just for the adoptive family, but for the birth mother too. It’s such a blessing. God was in it. He thought of every little thing.”* ### Shifting away from negative stigmas: Celebrating and promoting the beauty of adoption Pregnancy resource centers have long been advocates of the adoption process and are working to change the stigma around adoption, but there’s still work to be done. “Every PRC should be prepared and equipped to talk with women about the option of adoption,” Woods said. “It should be part of the pregnancy options education they do with women. It’s important to put it on equal footing with parenting. We have to get away from the idea if you choose it, you’re not a fit parent, because this is not true.” Additionally, she notes, “equipping churches to support women who choose to place their child for adoption the same way they would with families who adopt would be a huge step forward.” The truth of the matter is, as a culture “we have to empower women to think about life choices, but also life choices that could include the potential of another loving family raising that child,” Woods said. Her own son’s story is a prime example of the ways an open adoption can include this potential. “My oldest son’s birth mom asked him to be a junior groomsman at her wedding,” she said. At the wedding he got to meet her family, who by extension is his family. After meeting everyone he turned to Woods and said “’Man, mom, I never knew how many more people there were who loved me.’ As an adoptive mom that’s exactly what you want for your child. You want them to know there’s never too many people in this world who can love you.” — Read more of Jessica and Kaylee’s story [here](http://savethestorks.com/2020/03/jessica-and-kaylees-adoption-story) Brittany is the Staff Writer on the Awareness Team. She originally hails from Charlotte, N.C. But since moving west to Colorado she tries to get out and enjoy the mountains as much as possible. She loves books, French fries and not using the Oxford Comma– although not necessarily in that order. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, pro-life, Unintended Pregnancy --- ### [Working Together Until Every Child is Home](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/working-together-until-every-child-is-home/) **Published:** December 30, 2020 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** Todd’s story and how God captured him with a passion for loving orphaned and vulnerable children. **Content:** - Todd’s story and how God captured him with a passion for loving orphaned and vulnerable children (3:26) - How our Biblical worldview informs how we should love orphaned and vulnerable children around the world and why it is a gospel imperative (7:26) - How pastors can make caring for orphaned and vulnerable children part of the DNA of their churches (11:41) - How orphaned and vulnerable children are interconnected with the human trafficking pandemic, and how the Church can engage the fight against it (16:16) - The five essential relationships for adoptive and foster parents (22:10) - Todd’s recommendations and influencers (30:22) ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Foster Care, orphaned children, vulnerable children --- ### [Guide to Adoption Grants/Subsidies & Assistance for Adoptive Parents](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/guide-to-adoption-grants-subsidies-assistance-for-adoptive-parents/) **Published:** January 20, 2021 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** People who are interested in adopting are often worried about their ability to come up with the necessary funds for the adoption process. **Content:** By Jennifer Kelly People who are interested in adopting are often worried about their ability to come up with the necessary funds for the adoption process. They may also wonder how they can afford the services required for a child with known medical, developmental, or other needs. Adoption subsidies are an underutilized and often misunderstood resource for those who qualify for adoption assistance. This month’s issue of the Adoption Advocate provides essential information and answers to frequently asked questions about adoption subsidies. For more information, [click here](https://adoptioncouncil.org/publications/a-guide-to-adoption-subsidies-and-assistance-for-adoptive-parents/) ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Adoption Subsidies --- ### [An Amazing Truth to Combat This Foster Care Lie](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/an-amazing-truth-to-combat-this-foster-care-lie/) **Published:** February 3, 2021 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** We want to do this foster care thing well, and particularly well as people who follow Jesus. In showing up, we not only represent ourselves, but we also represent Jesus. **Content:** We want to do this foster care thing well, and particularly well as people who follow Jesus. In showing up, we not only represent ourselves, but we also represent Jesus. It is easy to get distracted, to get tossed around emotionally, and to start moving in the wrong direction. It’s easy to let our thoughts go towards someplace other than our key motivation in this whole thing: to share the light of Jesus in the midst of brokenness. It is easy to let lies slip in. In doing so, we grow weary. We let discouragement set in. Oh, we didn’t set out like this; we set out with joy and eagerness. But some days feel like an uphill battle. Do I really want to do this? Is it really worth it—to feel used and unheard? Is this the cost, and if so, am I really willing to pay that price? There is a way back to the joy and eagerness, and we have a God who has shown us how. We can fight against the enemy and against our sin. We can stand on the promises that God has already set before us. Lies are battled with truth. We can have hope when it’s hard, because our truth remains steady, firmly rooted in our great God. Our hope is sustained by the promises we believe and diminished when lies overtake them. We must address the lies we believe and stand on the promises that God has already given us in his Word. Here’s one lie worth addressing, and the promise needed to overtake it: Lie: Trials are an interruption to the story God has written. If only we could plan a little further in advance, this could be so much easier. Do things always have to come up at the last minute? If only we could get a clearer picture of where this case was headed, we would be better able to parent and work through big emotions with more language to explain. If only we could have a seat at the table when decisions are being made, this thing would work out way better. If only visits could remain consistent, I could create more space for my child to work out her big emotions. When the Lord places something hard in our life, a trial of some kind, it’s easy to want out. I don’t want this trial. Lord, do you know what you are doing? We don’t always see our trials as opportunities for growth, opportunities that the Lord planned purposefully, opportunities for us to learn something. It makes me think of the book of James, which was writing to the twelve tribes who had been scattered, driven away from their homes because of their newly professed faith in Christ. In this, they had lost much—their homes, possessions, family, friends. They were forced into poverty. They were grieving the loss of their beloved leader, Stephen, who had been stoned. These Jewish Christians were facing hard circumstances. Was this really what the Lord had for them when they were simply trying to follow him? If only they could be together with their fellow brothers and sisters, they could create serious change in the land for Christ. They could better serve others, if only they had a little more wealth. If they weren’t lowly, they could use their positions of authority to influence others towards Christ. Didn’t the Lord know this? And yet, James writes to them, not wishing their circumstances away but encouraging them in their circumstances. He said, “Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness.” Yes, their circumstances were hard. Yes, they were facing confusion, fear, loneliness, anger, sorrow, and poverty, but James’ message was to persevere. When you’re facing something hard, there is hope. Our hope is not in trials being removed. It’s something better. Promise: God remains constant. God promises to be there with us, unchanging. Schedules change, but God does not. Decisions are unpredictable. God is not. Biological parents may or may not make progress with their goals. God is always consistent. James reminds these Jewish Christians, “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.” God is with us in the hard. He isn’t merely waiting for us to walk through valleys—deep or shallow—alone while he waits on the other side. He is there. There is no place that the Lord cannot go. It is through the valley of the shadow of death that David says in Ps. 23, I will fear no evil because David knows that the Lord is with him. The Lord’s rod and staff comfort him. We can’t get away from God’s goodness and mercy. They will always be there even when our hearts tell us otherwise. “Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life, and I shall dwell in the house of the Lord forever.” (Ps. 23:6). God is more committed to our ultimate joy than we are. We can trust him even if we don’t understand the means by which he chooses to accomplish his plans. Hold fast to the promises of God, and He will sustain you through the hard. There is hope in the hard because we are followers of Jesus. That relationship, that identity, shapes everything else. Our sustained energy comes when we are motivated by his worthiness. God will accomplish his plans as it relates to the children in our care—whatever those plans may be. He wants us to be in relationship with him, and he delights when our hearts are satisfied in him. He delights when we open our hearts and home to families so that we can showcase his goodness. Stay focused on that mission. He is our hope in the hard. We must trust in the promises he has made. *By Holly Gnuse* *Holly grew up with a heart for adoption but didn’t know much about foster care. God used an internship with a local child welfare agency to make her aware. Coupling that experience with knowing the joy of the Gospel, Holly is passionate about connecting the local church to the foster care community. Holly and her husband, Scott, were married in December 2013 and are enjoying the crazy adventure of life togeth*er. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Foster Care --- ### [Be Bold](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/be-bold/) **Published:** February 17, 2021 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** Even before 2020, the poorest of the poor in Zimbabwe faced seemingly insurmountable odds. **Content:** *By Colleen Briggs* Even before 2020, the poorest of the poor in Zimbabwe faced seemingly insurmountable odds. Some of those people, like Linda, lacking even a home after her husband died, fled to unoccupied stretches of land and constructed mud huts by hand. Even as Linda lost so much, though, she accumulated grandchildren as their parents died or fled to S. Africa in search of jobs, leaving “immigration orphans” in her care. For Linda’s family and one hundred other “squatters” subsisting on V-Farm, hope loomed as out of reach as normal life during a pandemic. When challenges assail us, as many of us have discovered in the past year, it’s all too tempting to hunker down, shrink in tighter, and do our best to simply ride out the storm. Stepping out boldly to take on more does not come naturally. And yet some of the boldest people I know flourish amid some of the most mind-bending dangers and challenges. People like Paul and Lydia, who dared to dream that a spattering of squatters could become a caring, connected community. Conditions on V-Farm began to change when they, with the blessing of a national church denomination and partnership with Hope’s Promise, turned their attention several years ago to the desolate stretch of land. Under their leadership, fields sprouted from the windswept soil. Greenhouses and chicken pens were constructed. Paul preached in a metal sheet church, inspiring care-worn souls. And Lydia, Hope’s Promise Zimbabwe Country Coordinator, identified caregivers who had been unable to pay school fees, like Linda. Hope’s Promise sponsorship helped children return to their studies. When I visited V-Farm with Paul and Lydia in Jan 2020, hope hummed as warm as the sun on my back. Then, the global pandemic invaded Zimbabwe, already pummeled by 95% unemployment. A national lockdown eliminated the only jobs available, those day laborers created for themselves. But Lydia refused to hunker down and focus on her own family’s survival. When Hope’s Promise US partners generously donated funds for emergency rent and food, Lydia boldly churned it back into the ministry. She financed the residents of V-Farm, including Linda, a greenhouse worker, to plant, tend, and harvest basic food supplies for all the Hope’s Promise families. This cycle of compassion inspired another Hope’s Promise caregiver to step out boldly. Karen already nurtured a niece and nephew in a tiny, three-bedroom home, shared with two other families, when lockdown eliminated her income as a day laborer. She and her family survived on the V-Farm produce. Still, she noticed a very sick friend struggling with even greater need. When Hope’s Promise miraculously received a grant to add six kids to the program in Zimbabwe (amid the economic challenges of the pandemic, no less!), she recommended her friend’s children. But she didn’t stop there. She welcomed one of the boys into her own family! Under some of the harshest living conditions on earth, Zimbabweans like Paul, Lydia, Linda, and Karen are stepping out boldly to notice, give, and care for others. Challenges seem only to make them more bold. What if their examples were to inspire us? Help us choose not to be afraid or hoard our resources, but to step out boldly with even greater courage and generosity than in times of plenty? What if we were to boldly join Zimbabweans in setting off a mighty, unstoppable cycle of compassion? *names changed to protect privacy* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Child Sponsorship, Orphans, Zimbabwe --- ### [Open vs Closed Adoption - What 15 Years Has Taught Me](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/open-vs-closed-adoption-what-15-years-has-taught-me/) **Published:** March 10, 2021 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** [Abbie Goldberg](https://theconversation.com/profiles/abbie-goldberg-991254) Professor of Psychology, Clark University Adoption has changed dramatically in recent years. [International adoptions have dropped 72%](https://theconversation.com/international-adoptions-have-dropped-72-percent-since-2005-heres-why-91809) since 2005. Today, most adoptions are domestic, with the [vast majority](http://www.kinshipcenter.org/resources/blog/open-adoptions-are-a-national-trend-study-finds-that-95-of-us-infant-adoptions-have-openness.html) being open adoptions, meaning there is some type of contact or exchange of information between birth families and adoptive families, before and sometimes after the adoption. Research has shown that openness benefits all parties involved. [Birth parents](https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubPDFs/bulletins_maintainrelationships.pdf) are reassured the child they placed is alive and well, [alleviating anxiety and guilt](https://doi.org/10.1097/NMC.0000000000000370). Adoptive parents are able to answer their children’s inevitable questions, and also experience [comfort and reassurance](https://doi.org/10.1177/0265407515611494) knowing they were chosen by the birth family and can be in touch with them [if genetic questions arise](https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubPDF/bulletins_maintainrelationships.pdf). For children, openness eliminates the need to search for their birth parents. Access to birth parents [allows children to gain insight](https://global.oup.com/academic/product/open-adoption-and-diverse-families-9780190692032) and ask questions about their identity and roots. I am a [psychologist](https://www.abbiegoldberg.com/) who studies open adoption. One topic [I research](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/pdf/10.1111/famp.12491) is how adoptive parents grapple with the decision of whether and when to share difficult origin stories with their children. ## What psychologists recommend Adoption experts advise a [full, honest disclosure](https://bpar.org/telling-truth-adopted-foster-child-book/) of a child’s origin story. This recommendation is based on years of research documenting the [negative effects of secrecy](https://doi.org/10.1111/1469-7610.00014) on adopted individuals. Psychologists emphasize the long-term benefits trust builds between parents and their children, as well as the need adopted individuals have to know the truth about their origins in order to [fully understand themselves and have healthy and meaningful relationships](https://www.nacac.org/resource/seven-core-issues-in-adoption-and-permanency/). This recommendation is firm, even in situations of rape or incest, birth parent substance abuse, incarceration or physical abuse. Such discussions should be [developmentally staged](https://global.oup.com/academic/product/open-adoption-and-diverse-families-9780190692032), meaning they should vary depending on the child’s age. For example, to a preschooler, parents might explain their birth mother was not healthy enough to care for them; to a teen, they might share their birth mother struggled with alcoholism. All information should be shared with the child by the time they reach adolescence. Identity development begins in childhood but takes center stage in adolescence, when youth begin to ask key questions like “Who am I?” and “Who am I in relation to others?” For adopted teens, [identity development can be more complete](https://doi.org/10.1300/J145v01n01_02) if it involves coming to terms with their conception. If adopted youth are lied to about their origins, the discovery of such lies can prompt feelings of betrayal and [amplify the shame and guilt](https://www.nacac.org/resource/seven-core-issues-in-adoption-and-permanency/) that often result from secrecy about adoption in the first place. ## Easier said than done While the theory of how and when to tell difficult origin stories to adopted children is clear, my research has found the practice more murky. Since 2005, I’ve been conducting a long-term study of adoptive families. I first interviewed the parents prior to adoptive placement and have interviewed them every few years since – most recently, when their children were between the ages of eight and 12. Eleven couples in my study adopted children who were reportedly conceived via rape or incest. From the time they agreed to the adoptive placement, all of these 22 parents carefully considered how their children’s conception circumstances would affect their children and what, if anything, they would need to tell them. Parents worried about the stigmatizing aspects of their child’s origin story, with several emphasizing they would keep the circumstances of their children’s conception private, within their immediate family. When I last interviewed them, none of the parents had shared explicit information about their children’s conception details. A few had tentatively raised the topic, by saying things like, “I don’t think that your birth parents were in love.” Two-thirds said they had not shared because they had incomplete or questionable information. For example, they said they had been told by the adoption agency their child was conceived through rape, but not by the birth mother herself – so how did they know? Some wondered if the birth mother had said it was stranger rape to protect an older boyfriend from being accused of statutory rape. While parents said they wanted to believe birth mothers, the possibility of an alternative narrative gave them pause to consider the potential risks of telling a story to their children that might not be true. It’s possible, also, some were questioning birth mothers’ stories because they wish to believe a less stigmatizing version, enabling them to not have to tell it. The desire to preserve children’s innocence, combined with uncertainty about birth mothers’ accounts, were described as key reasons for ongoing silence around their children’s origins. All study parents said they were uncertain about how they would share this information down the road. One-third had consulted or intended to consult with adoption therapists to plan the telling. Parents with ongoing birth mother contact described their intention to verify the story and plan its telling with her. Adoptive parents in my study describe a commitment to openness, while also struggling with a lack of guidance around how and when to disclose difficult conception details. Indeed, adoptive parents generally get a lot of information and guidance before they adopt, but do not get a lot of post-adoption counseling [unless they seek it out](https://doi.org/10.1016/j.childyouth.2018.06.017). The parents in my study are hesitating to disclose, but are also worried about waiting too long and risking feelings of betrayal, such as, “Why did you lie to me?” Adoptive parents in this situation should consult with therapists [who have training in adoption issues](https://adoptionsupport.org/member-types/adoption-competent-professionals/) as they navigate these uncertain waters, with the knowledge that children deserve the truth about their own stories – even when that truth is difficult. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption Story, Open Adoption, Painful Stories --- ### [Better Mission Trips](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/better-mission-trips/) **Published:** March 17, 2021 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** Our very own Director of Orphan Care, Colleen Briggs, talks about how Hope’s Promise has used virtual mission experiences in a creative way to support our four foundational purposes for facilitating in-person mission trips. **Content:** We are so thankful for the opportunity by Standards of Excellence to participate in their Better Mission Trips Podcast. Our very own Director of Orphan Care, Colleen Briggs, talks about how Hope’s Promise has used virtual mission experiences in a creative way to support our four foundational purposes for facilitating in-person mission trips. Colleen shares what this looks like, what we’ve learned, and how we are using virtual mission experiences to develop advocates who help support the family-based care of orphans and vulnerable children. Please give it a listen: [https: //anchor.fm/standards-of-excellence?mc\_cid=9ab0feb27f&mc\_eid=2a9fad3f39](https://anchor.fm/standards-of-excellence?mc_cid=9ab0feb27f&mc_eid=2a9fad3f39) ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Mission Trips, Orphan Care, Virtual Experiences, Virtual Mission Trips --- ### [5 Things That Helped Me Get Through The Year I Placed My Baby For Adoption](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/5-things-that-helped-me-get-through-the-year-i-placed-my-baby-for-adoption/) **Published:** April 7, 2021 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** Placing my baby for adoption was hard but I have never wished that I would have single parented. There were five things **Content:** *This guest post is by Alice, a birthmother.* I was Miss Squeaky Clean back in high school. I didn’t even kiss a boy till I was 18. But nine years later I had my first real experience and Wowzers, just like that I got pregnant. Let me tell you that it is sucky to be in that boat. I know because I was there. Everyone says that placing your baby for adoption is really honorable. The question is, is it the right thing to do? That’s something you need to decide for yourself because it’s a rough road ahead. In my case, I knew I had to place my baby. I had found two imperfectly lovely parents and I wanted them for my baby. I am now extremely happy that I ever got to go through this. Today I am married to my soulmate and have two beautiful babies who I stay home with. Placing my baby for adoption was hard but I have never wished that I would have single parented. There were five things that got me through that tough, sacred first year. ## 1. My birth mom friend Tiffany is as close to being the perfect birth mom and we happen to be bosom buddies. I still talk to her more than a lot of my friends and she got me through that year. How? She had placed her baby May 2012 and she talked to me, served me and gave me her journal where I read every detail of her pregnancy, placement and healing. I knew what to expect at placement because of her. I knew I might go through a time I would hate someone. I felt normal because of her. I am so lucky to have found her because she was my favorite support. We are both moms and we text about things at least every week. Find a birth mom who you can bounce these ideas off of. So they can say, “oh yeah I have felt like that, you aren’t crazy. You will get through this.” ## 2. My caseworker Charity, my caseworker, told me to get a list of ten people I could call when I was going through something hard. She told me to start at the top of the list and move down till someone answered. She told me to tell them I was on her list, that I was counting on them. To each of my ten people, thank you. You saved me more than once. Make a list of ten people to rely on. ## 3. Blogging and working out. This was a way of healing for me. I went to a gym alone and I would blog alone. I lived alone and worked full time making pretty good money but money didn’t buy my happiness. Blogging and working out did. ## 4. Knowing my limits This is kinda vague but something I really benefited from was knowing me and my boundaries. I skipped family functions where I knew it would trigger me not having my baby and a husband. I skipped anything that would make me feel the pain of being alone at night without a family. I seriously was hungry for a baby. Hungry for that touch and compassion. I never felt alone when I was pregnant because I had my buddy with me. After I placed, however, I was ALONE. I didn’t have a reminder from “Baby Pop Rocks” kicking me in my right rib or tickling my cervix. I did lots of service. Once a week I went to a woman’s house in my neighborhood and we would watch tv together and eat treats and I would sweep her floor or decorate her Christmas tree. I babysat a couple times so that my friend and her husband could go out. I delivered aloe plants to people that didn’t have one because I had the best plant ever. I served but I was fine with saying no when I could tell it would hurt me. Know you because only you are going to look out for you. ## 5. Knowing that not all birth moms and not all adoptive parents get along. This is obvious. I get along with baby’s adoptive parents and they are some of our best friends. “Baby Pop Rocks” is what brought us together and he will forever be my son. But he has his mommy and daddy and I respect every single thing about them being his parents. For me, that first year I was grieving and they had empathy, sympathy, trust and boundaries. I saw “Baby Pop Rocks” every week or every month. It was brilliant for us. We made a schedule and every time I left their house I knew the next time I would see “Baby Pop Rocks”. I loved being with him and seeing him grow and, as we know, babies grow so much in that first year. It was healing for me. I am still so grateful to them for the time they gave me. We developed love and respect for each other. That first year after placement was the hardest for me. Every birth mom is different. If you are reading this as a pregnant mom or birth mom my heart goes to you. I will be your friend. If you are reading this as a future adoptive parent, my heart goes to you. May we all love another, be compassionate, forgiving and humble. I would never want to be pregnant and single again, but placing “Baby Pop Rocks” was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. *Alice is the pen name of a birth mom to a beautiful boy. Alice is now married to her soulmate and they have two precious babies together. She enjoys traveling, decorating, and pedicures.* ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Birth mom, placing my baby for adoption --- ### [2021 Is the Perfect Year to Foster or Adopt](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/2021-is-the-perfect-year-to-foster-or-adopt/) **Published:** April 21, 2021 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** At the start of every year, we set goals with every intention of checking off each **Content:** At the start of every year, we set goals with every intention of checking off each resolution as we complete it. We come up with the ideal plan for personal success. *I will feel so awesome about myself when I have the best body, the most money, and the nicest things!* Maybe your resolutions even involve serving others or giving back to the community. Maybe you set goals to help you grow closer to Jesus — committing to reading the Bible or praying. These are great resolutions and good things. For some of us though, there will be a question mark after a couple of items on our resolution list, or maybe, you’re too scared to write them down, but deep down, you know you want to: Foster care? Adoption? Don’t get me wrong here. These are big items to be on the list! It’s one thing to eat an apple a day, it’s a totally different thing to love and care for a child in need. What I don’t want us to do is to put those question marks on our lists year after year, waiting for the perfect time to foster or adopt, out of fear. It’s easy to get caught up in waiting and miss out on something greater that God wants for us. We want to wait to foster until our kids are older, or we have more money in the bank, or life has slowed down a bit from this crazy pace we’re maintaining. Or, maybe your family has some good stuff going right now. Why mess with a good thing? John, one of Jesus’ closest friends, wrote in 1 John 4:18, “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” Too often, we think fear equals bad. If I’m scared, I should stop. But if we pause and consider why we’re afraid, the fear that stops us can point to ways God wants to shape us. When we push through our fears, we discover new aspects of God’s character. As a result, we love Him more. We trust Him more. Confidence increases, and fear decreases. That’s what John wants for us when he talks about being made perfect in love. We begin to think and choose differently because we’re no longer making decisions out of fear of what could happen. But it all starts with a yes. A decision to say, “Yes, God, I’ll trust your promise rather than give in to my fear.” Waiting until “the stars align,” and we feel secure and ready to take a leap of faith, isn’t actually a leap of faith at all. The perfect time to foster or adopt isn’t ever going to come. You’re never going to feel ready. You’re never going to have enough money. You’re never going to have a big enough house. You’re never going to be strong enough. So, if you’ve been waiting for the perfect time, stop. You’ll be waiting forever. So change those question marks to periods, and make 2021 the year you say no to fear and take a leap of faith to finally foster or adopt. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** 2021, Adoption, Foster Care, resolutions --- ### [Adoption: May is Hard](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/adoption-may-is-hard/) **Published:** May 5, 2021 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** You see, every April marks another year since I chose adoption. Another year of choosing **Content:** by Leah Outten at [thegracebond.com](http://thegracebond.com) I’ve written before how [June is hard](http://thegracebond.com/june-is-hard/). From Anna’s birthday and relinquishment reminders, to [my miscarriage 7 years ago](http://thegracebond.com/page/2/?s=miscarriage). June is hard. **But May is hard, too.** You see, every April marks another year since I chose adoption. Another year of choosing Christ as my daily savior. Another year to our adoption anniversary of meeting her amazing family and God revealing His fingerprints within [a beautiful story](http://thegracebond.com/leahs-story/) He wrote for us. April was my turning point and redeeming moment in my life. Yet, while I moved forward into May with a fresh hope that comes with spring, it also was the beginning of a new grief. **The grief that my baby would not be with me much longer.** May reminds me every single day of what I felt when pregnant with Anna, knowing our time together was coming to a close. May was our last days of her being “just mine.” I didn’t have to share her, she was within me. I shared ultrasound photos and doctor updates, but I didn’t have to share her yet. Only I could feel her kicks and squirms. She and I shared nutrients and our hearts woven together in a mother-child love that can never be broken. I could selfishly enjoy every moment we had together for what time we had left. Of course, it wasn’t all enjoyable being hugely pregnant as a 4 foot 11 sixteen year old (and I skipped out on the last month of junior year in high school!) but I knew I needed to enjoy as much as I could. I remember standing at my kitchen counter preparing myself lunch with the realization that I had to share her soon, within days. It was so bittersweet with the excitement of finally meeting her, holding her, seeing what she looked like, yet knowing she was going to go home with someone else. I still had peace that I was doing what was best for us, but there is no denying that adoption is hard, too. It is a grieving process. It always will be, though time and openness to watch her grow sure does help! This time of the year the ache is a little more raw as I constantly reminisce on where we were years ago, what [phase our adoption was in](https://www.hopespromise.com/adoption-process/), how far along I was in my pregnancy. The [Birth Mom Bud retreat](http://birthmombuds.com/support/annual-retreat/) every April/May always brings feelings up again as we share with one another. But this year, it is even more so as I am working on a film. It has required me to dig into feelings and my experience deeper so others can understand adoption and birth mothers more, which is a *great* thing, but also stirs up the dust settled into the Anna-sized hole in my heart. Plus, working on my book proposal. All the feels happening right now. All that said, I still wouldn’t change a thing. With pain blossomed beauty and I am easily able to far more see the blessings and growth that has come from it. I am able to feel simultaneous peace and joy with the ache and sadness I feel from missing her. That’s how I feel about May too, it is a complex mingling of joy and a heartache. **The joy trumps all though, because I get to see her sweet face very soon.** ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Birth mom, Birth Mother, Grief --- ### [WHEN YOUR CHILD PUSHES YOU AWAY](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/when-your-child-pushes-you-away/) **Published:** May 19, 2021 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** When most children get hurt or become afraid, they go to a parent. After all, parents are the ones **Content:** A guest blog from Empowered to Connect by [Michael Monroe](https://empoweredtoconnect.org/author/michael-monroe/) If you’re a parent, adoptive or biological, your child has likely pushed you away for one reason or another. However, as an adoptive parent, rejection of any kind from your child feel different. This blog by Michael Monroe at Empowered to Connect, gives practical tips sprinkled with his own life experiences, to help your child when he/she pushes you away. You can read more **[HERE](https://empoweredtoconnect.org/resources/when-your-child-pushes-you-away/)**. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, empowered to connect, trauma --- ### [Being a Birth Mom and Dealing with Grief](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/being-a-birth-mom-and-dealing-with-grief/) **Published:** June 2, 2021 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** I don't know how to respond to my grief... I don't know how to let the tears out when I feel **Content:** Guest blog by It’s\_Promising I don’t know how to respond to my grief… I don’t know how to let the tears out when I feel they need to come. The reason why is because I’m afraid of people telling me how I’m supposed to grieve, feel and what to do. Nobody understands the level of grief I deal with, because the people trying to understand aren’t aware of what being a birth mom is like. To have to choose better for someone, putting them above yourself is a love any mom has, but knowing you need to open your heart to something you never would have imagined doing, that’s the Selfless LOVE a birth mom has. Before placing my daughter for adoption, I was sure that it would be easy and that it wouldn’t hurt as much as people described. I tried to tell myself, just like others had been telling me, “you are brave, Cannille, you show selfless love and I am proud of you”. Truth about this journey and about my grief, no one will understand it because they aren’t walking through it. Adoption is a beautiful picture of the gospel and of love! My grief with adoption is that our adoption is open, and it often comes from jealousy. Though I know I made the better decision with placing my birth daughter for adoption, I struggle everyday knowing she’s going to be calling someone else momma. I struggle with what the future holds and not sure how it’ll unfold. I get jealous because B and T could offer more to little Beloved than I ever could and it hurts that timing was all wrong and that I could/can only provide LOVE for her and sometimes, that’s just not enough. Its been almost 2 months since I placed little Beloved with her forever family and the pain triggers, but ever so often I feel the unbearable pain of feeling like a piece of my heart has been torn out. The pain of loss and grief will never cease in my heart because it took so much Love from me to put Beloved first. Sometimes I feel damaged… Damaged from the pain of loss, the jealousy I have against T, the thought of what things would look like had I never placed. Thinking about what causes the damage, I wonder too, how things would have been, would I have been a “good” parent, would my love for Beloved look different than now? Its in the most trying times though, that I still have that same peace I had when I knew I had to give this little girl life, when I chose adoption, when I sat and looked through family profiles; only to pick the best parents for Beloved, and even about almost 2 months after placement. I know I made the better decision when I gave a piece of myself to another family, for their happiness’s sake. With a broken heart and that same peace that I feel walking this journey, I realized I helped build a family- not just by placing my daughter, but by finding someone to love me too. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Birth mom, Grief, Open Adoption --- ### [Foster Care Has Changed How We Parent](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/foster-care-has-changed-how-we-parent/) **Published:** June 16, 2021 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** You can’t enter the world of foster care and not be changed by it. **Content:** A blog from the Forgotten Initiative by Cherith Craft You can’t enter the world of foster care and not be changed by it. It affects so many areas of everyday life, including how you parent. Being foster parents, we quickly realized we would need to adjust our parenting style to meet the needs of children placed with us through foster care. There are so many useful resources for parenting children who are in foster care. **[Here are just a few to get you started!](https://theforgotteninitiative.org/trauma-resources-you-need-as-a-caregiver)** But in being foster parents, we’ve also found that how we parent our birth children has changed. I have changed as a parent, and I’m thankful for that. I have learned to slow down and lean into my girls more because they are experiencing new things that require continual conversation. I need to know where their hearts are with all of this, and if I don’t slow down, I may not find out. Because they are privy to topics that I would have once shied away from discussing, I have had to be more open and honest about the world around them. This has paved the way for us to speak freely to one another and to broach difficult subjects. We now have a teenager in the house, and ‘ahem’ new subjects are being discussed all the time! Recently, I was able to share with her the story of a parent whose child is in foster care. We brought furniture and other household supplies to this parent to support the reunification of her family. In spending time with her, I learned that it was both her addiction and the child’s father’s addiction that led to her son’s removal from their care. At the point that I met her, though, she and the child’s father had been working very hard to get their lives back on track. They had rehabilitated and were involved in church now! They are very aware of the place they were and were not bitter about their son being in foster care. What a success story! But what she said to me really stuck with me. She said, “you don’t know you are spiraling out of control until it’s too late!” It was a reminder to me of the power of my choices, and I was able to then share with my teenager the power of her choices. This mom didn’t wake up one day and decide to be an addict. She made many small decisions that led her down that path. This mom could see that in the rearview mirror. She could not see that at the time. And it has taken many small steps forward to get her to where she is now—nearing reunification. Being able to use real-life examples to point my children in the right direction is very powerful. Real-life examples help me remember how important it is to not remove my hands from the task of parenting in front of me. So much is weighing on my husband and me. We must be alert and aware. Being involved with foster care has helped us do that. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Foster Care, Parenting, raising children --- ### [Orphan Care: You Can't Do Everything, But You Can Do Something](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/orphan-care-you-cant-do-everything-but-you-can-do-something/) **Published:** July 7, 2021 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** No one is called to do everything, but everyone is called to do something. **Content:** A blog from Jason Johnson No one is called to do everything, but everyone is called to do something. This is what it means to be part of the Body of Christ. The imagery of a human body is consistently used throughout Scripture to illustrate the identity and activity of the Church – how the people of God relate to one another and function together. Some are hands and some are feet. Some are fingers and some are toes. Some eyes and some ears. In essence, different roles all serving the same purpose (1 Corinthians 12:14-20). # UNIQUE GIFTS FOR UNIQUE INDIVIDUALS In the Body of Christ, no one is called to do everything, but everyone is called to do something. Unique gifts are given to unique individuals, not for their own good but for the good of the whole body (1 Corinthians 12:4-7). These roles are established not on the basis of rank, as if one person’s position was more important than another, but on the premise that when each member fulfills their responsibility the whole body will function better together for it. The proper functioning of the people of God to fulfill the purposes of God are always portrayed in communal terms, not individualistic ones. While one role may be more visible and another more subtle, both operate on a cooperative level of equal codependence, to the extent that if even one seemingly “small” part suffers, like stubbing a toe, it effects the larger whole, like bringing a grown man to his knees in pain. Likewise, when one part fulfills its role, like a hand holding a fork, the larger whole benefits, like a mouth chewing and a stomach being satisfied (1 Corinthians 12:26). Ultimately, the proper functioning of the body of Christ in fulfilling the mission of God is dependent upon each individual member being aware of and obedient to the designated role God has assigned them. When it comes to those whom God has called us to love and serve together – when we fulfill our role, they benefit; when we don’t, they don’t. # THE BODY OF CHRIST CARING FOR ORPHANS Specifically, as we look at how the cooperative efforts of the Body of Christ work themselves out through the care of the marginalized, abused and orphaned, we find the same premise to hold true – **no one is called to do everything, but everyone is called to do something**. We all have a role to play – some more visible, some more subtle – all of equal importance in serving the cause of children and families in need. If we’re not careful, we may unintentionally define “orphan care” too narrowly – to simply mean permanent adoption or some other form of bringing a child into your home long term, like foster care. While these are of course crucial and essential places for the Church to engage, they represent only two of the items on the buffet of limitless opportunities available to people to get involved in child and family welfare. At the end of the day we could perhaps boil it down to this: *In the noble and God-honoring task of caring for the marginalized, abused and orphaned, you’re either called to bring a child into your home or you’re called to serve and support those who do*. I would go so far as to say this – If God is not calling you to bring a child into your home through foster care or adoption, then please don’t. You’ll end up doing more harm in your life and theirs if you do. There’s other ways to serve. No one is called to do everything, but everyone is called to do something. Unique functions. Same purpose. All equally important. The question then shifts from “Am I supposed to get involved?” to “*How* am I supposed to get involved?”. A slightly different question with drastically different implications. # OPPORTUNITIES TO GET INVOLVED Here’s some common ways to care for vulnerable children and their families, or to simply provide practical support and encouragement for those who are. This list is certainly not exhaustive, but it does represent the array of opportunities available to effectively engage in child and family welfare in a holistic way. The Body of Christ, embracing the unique roles we all play in serving one greater common good in the lives of children and families, should on some level be involved in all of these – and more. ## Foster Care Foster care is a temporary living arrangement for abused, neglected, and dependent children who need a safe place to live when their parents or another relative cannot take care of them. Foster families are recruited, trained, and licensed to care for abused and neglected children temporarily, while their parents work with social work professionals to resolve their family issues. In cases where the child becomes free for adoption, foster parents may be considered as adoptive parents. ## Adoption Adoption is a legal process which permanently gives parental rights to adoptive parents. Adoption means taking a child into your home as a permanent family member. There are opportunities to adopt through the foster care system, private domestic agencies and international agencies. Adoption finalizes a child’s permanent placement into his/her new family. ## Respite Care Respite care is basically short-term foster care. It is primarily used to provide aid to other foster families needing childcare for more than 24 hours and less than 14 days. This is extremely helpful as situations often come up in which the family must travel and can’t take the child due to state regulations. Respite care gives foster parents and children the chance to have short, regular periods of time apart in which they can rest and recharge. It also provides crisis care for the times in which the trauma of the child is seriously impacting other members of the family. ## Babysitting In the world of foster care, getting a babysitter isn’t the easiest thing. In fact, it’s somewhat of a process. Again, there are state regulations governing who can even babysit a foster child for just a few hours. You can support foster families by becoming a certified babysitter. This allows you to provide child care for foster families so parents can have an occasional time to “get away”. This is an invaluable gift to a foster family and is always much appreciated. Generally, a background check and CPR/First Aid certification are required. ## CASA [Court Appointed Special Advocates](http://www.casaforchildren.org/site/c.mtJSJ7MPIsE/b.5301295/k.BE9A/Home.htm) (CASA) volunteers are appointed by judges to watch over and advocate for abused and neglected children, to make sure they don’t get overlooked by the legal and social system. In many ways, CASA advocates help speak for the child. They are of tremendous value in seeing that the child’s best interests are protected throughout the legal proceedings. ## Safe Families [Safe Families for Children](http://www.safe-families.org/) provides a temporary safe environment for children while giving the biological parents a chance to get back on their feet in order to prevent abuse or neglect from occurring. Parents who are experiencing a temporary crisis can arrange for their children to stay with families of faith so they can manage the issues that led to their crisis situation. The goal of Safe Families is family rehabilitation and reunification. It moves beyond just serving children and into serving the families children come from. ## Financial Supporter Whether you’re able to write a $500 check or organize fundraisers online to help raise money, donating to a family who wants to adopt is a much needed and very fulfilling way to answer the call to care for orphans. Some people will be called to adopt while other people will be called to pay for it. That’s how the body of Christ works. ## General Resourcing Many foster care and adoption placements happen with little to no advance notice. This usually means that needs can come up quickly. Donations of gift cards, diapers, and new supplies such as strollers, mattresses, car seats, and other necessities are invaluable for those who are bringing children into their homes. ## Think “Outside the Box” Get creative! Mow foster families yards for them. Host a parents’ night out for foster and adoptive couples at church. Organize back-to-school drives to collect supplies for local foster children. Throw a big Christmas party for foster families and children. The opportunities to serve, support and show appreciation are endless. Get creative! ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Orphan Care, Orphans --- ### [Single Parent Adoption](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/single-parent-adoption/) **Published:** October 18, 2021 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** An increasing number of adoptive families are single-parent households where children have found permanency and are thriving with a Mom or Dad only. **Content:** An increasing number of adoptive families are single-parent households where children have found permanency and are thriving with a Mom or Dad only. In fact, at Hope’s Promise, we’ve helped educate and certify single-parent households that are now [foster parents in our program](https://www.hopespromise.com/the-steps-to-becoming-a-foster-parent/). Read on from our friends at the Adoption Council to learn more about how to best support these adoptive families. They also provide guidance for singles considering adoption. [https://www.adoptioncouncil.org/publications/single-parent-adoption-the-process-and-experience-of-adopting-unpartnered/ ](https://www.adoptioncouncil.org/publications/single-parent-adoption-the-process-and-experience-of-adopting-unpartnered/) ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Foster Care, single parent adoption, single parent foster care --- ### [The Effects of Technology on Children...](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/the-effects-of-technology-on-children/) **Published:** November 19, 2021 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** World Children's Day is tomorrow, November 20th, 2021. Because of what this day represents and the awareness it brings to children's health, family, and those that work hard to help them, we thought we would share a couple blog resources created by top researchers in academia, including this one from Regis College. Through these guides, we can build awareness around the importance of the care and guidance that children need to grow up healthy. **Content:** \*\*\*World Children’s Day is just a few days away, November 20th, 2021. Because of what this day represents and the awareness it brings to children’s health, family, and those that work hard to help them, we thought we would share a couple blog resources created by top researchers in academia, including this one from Regis College. Through these guides, we can build awareness around the importance of the care and guidance that children need to grow up healthy.\*\*\* Over the past decade, screen-based technology has continued to infiltrate children’s lives. According to a recent survey by Common Sense Media, a nonprofit that provides parents with entertainment and technology guidance, American children ages 8 to 12 spend an average of almost [five hours a day](https://www.commonsensemedia.org/sites/default/files/uploads/research/2019-census-8-to-18-key-findings-updated.pdf) looking at screens; children under 8 spend about half that time, and teenagers spend more than seven hours a day. That doesn’t count the time they spend using screens for schoolwork. Read more: [ https://online.regiscollege.edu/blog/effects-of-technology-on-children](https://online.regiscollege.edu/blog/effects-of-technology-on-children) Learn more about how to leverage your advocacy of World Children’s Day by supporting children in our Hope’s Promise orphan care program: [https://www.hopespromise.com/sponsor-a-child/ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/sponsor-a-child/) ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** effects of technology on children, Family, health, World Children's Day --- ### [Living Water](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/living-water/) **Published:** December 9, 2021 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** Jack and Miranda traveled to Vietnam with a Hope's Promise Connection Team in 2019.  In a recent Vietnam Virtual Experience, they shared about a particularly moving visit with the biological family of N’goanh. After losing both his parents, N'goanh came home to a Hope's Promise non-relative based care family in 2013. The team visited his biological aunt, grandma, and other relatives. **Content:** Jack and Miranda traveled to Vietnam with a Hope’s Promise Connection Team in 2019. In a recent Vietnam Virtual Experience, they shared a particularly moving story about a visit with the biological family of N’goanh and how this led them to pray for living water. After losing both his parents, N’goanh came home to a Hope’s Promise non-relative-based care family in 2013. The team visited his biological aunt, grandma, and other relatives. Hope’s Promise Vietnam Connection Team Trip: July 2019 Miranda’s Journal Entry: “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God” Matthew 5:8 The morning we met this family, I kept reading and reading this verse, as I was struck by how unattainable it felt. I wanted to see God, and yet, I felt like my mess was too much. What kind of God would come close to this mess? My mess? Jesus. He showed me, yet again, how he comes close when we call out to him. I prayed over and over asking him to create in me a clean heart, that he would purify me from my sin. And he is so faithful to do so. God met me that day in Vietnam in a way I won’t soon forget. As we met with N’goanh and his family, I was immediately struck by both their selfless generosity and hospitality. They welcomed us in, gave us fresh bottled water for our parched lips, and we sat and heard their stories. We heard how they must walk miles for water daily, yet we drank fresh bottled water. Jack’s Journal Entry: When we heard about how far they had to walk for water, I felt angry. It was unjust that they had to walk that far for something I deemed a basic necessity. I remember asking a team member why people didn’t just dig a well to get water right outside their house. It was because they needed a diamond tipped drill to get through the rock in the earth. This boggled my mind and made me even more upset. It came time to pray. I was confused and wanted to pray for a miracle that they would have access to water but I felt God leading me to pray for living water. Unsure of what this meant, I listened to God and obeyed. I prayed that the family wouldn’t just have water but that they would have living water and that Jesus will fill their needs. Miranda’s Journal Entry: We prayed hard. And in that moment, God so graciously purified my heart and I could see Him so clearly. Jesus wept. That’s all that was running through my mind. Jesus weeps with us. He sees us. He sees my Vietnamese friend who is not able to live a full life due to poverty and he weeps with her. I am so privileged and humbled that God would allow me and my mess to meet my new friends, hear their stories, and feel His heart for them. I feel so humbled to have seen God so clearly that day. After our prayer, my new friend and I gave each other a hug like none other. In that moment, it felt as though she was clinging to Jesus with all that she had. And I clung to her, so grateful to be with her in that moment. Jack’s Journal Entry: Since that day, living water has become a big theme in my life. When we got home I had a hard time recovering and entering back to my cushy life. I missed being in Vietnam, but God reminded me of living water. He reminded me that people here in the states need living water too, even though it may look different. God has me here now and wherever I am is my mission field. I have no idea where He will take me in the future, but I am here to be poured out living water to others in front of me. I wouldn’t have learned that lesson if God didn’t teach it to me in Vietnam, and I am very grateful to have been there to experience God’s hand of gracious teaching. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Connection Team Trip, living water, non-relative based care, Orphan Care, Vietnam --- ### [Adult Adoptee Access to Adoption and Birth Records: History, Controversy, Legislation, and Societal Change](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/adult-adoptee-access-to-adoption-and-birth-records-history-controversy-legislation-and-societal-change/) **Published:** January 12, 2022 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** Written by our friends at the National Council For Adoption At Hope’s Promise, we are for ALL children and families. That includes adoptees. Because our adoption program has been in existence since 1990, we have a lot of adoptees who are now adults. It is our priority through ethical practices and compassion to walk alongside these adoptees, no matter their age, to provide them with education and counseling when needed. This blog, by our friends at the National Council For Adoption, addresses the adult adoptees access to adoption and birth records. Access to adoption and birth records for adopted individuals sits at the intersection of ethics, privacy, confidentiality, and adoptee rights. Carefully navigating these delicate topics requires an understanding of the history of adoptee records access, the legal statutes and legislative actions that have shaped it, and the impact of DNA technologies. In this month’s issue of the *Adoption Advocate*, author and adult adoptee Abigail Lindner, breaks it all down and offers some suggested changes and considerations for the future. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** adoptee, Adoption, birth record access --- ### [A Reason (or seven) to Give](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/a-reason-or-seven-to-give/) **Published:** December 2, 2021 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** First, it was a worldwide pandemic. Now there is an epidemic affecting non-profit organizations and churches alike. Recent statistics suggest in Colorado alone giving in 2021 is down more than 86% from 2020 and down 80 % from 2019. Those numbers are staggering. We’ve all seen the effects of the pandemic in our finances or that of our family members, employers, and/ or local businesses. That is why giving to Hope’s Promise or another one of your favorite non-profits in 2021 is so crucial. In this article, published by Denver7, they outline seven reasons to give on Tuesday, December 7th, Colorado Gives Day. Here are the highlights: - **Colorado nonprofits are vital** - **$1.6 million boost** - **Something for everyone** - **Fast and convenient** - **Teach children about philanthropy** - **Give with confidence** - **Giving increases happiness** Read the full article here: You can give hope to the children and families we serve here: ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** #ColoradoGivesDay, #GivingTuesday, Give where you live --- ### [How to be a Therapeutic Parent](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/how-to-be-a-therapeutic-parent/) **Published:** January 26, 2022 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** As adoptive, foster, or even biological parents, we all tend to wonder how we could be doing better. **Content:** As adoptive, foster, or even biological parents, we all tend to wonder how we could be doing better. How can I parent better? I can I support my child better? How can I be more present for my child? These questions led us to a fantastic blog by writer/author/ adoptive parent Lori Holden. She, along with another adoptive parent, Adi Tilford, share how to be a therapeutic parent. Thus creating a therapeutic home. Therapeutic parenting is a deeply nurturing parenting style and is especially effective for children with attachment difficulties and those who have experienced trauma. The three principles include addressing the following ideas: - Do my children feel safe? - Am I in a learner stance? - Have I gone there first? Click the link to dive further: https://lavenderluz.com/therapeutic-parent/ ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Parenting, trauma-informed --- ### [Midpoint of the Adoptive Parenting Feedback Loop](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/midpoint-of-the-adoptive-parenting-feedback-loop/) **Published:** February 22, 2022 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** You know the saying “hindsight is 20/20”. We’ve all heard it before, but this exercise for adoptive parents, takes the saying to a whole different level. Writer, author, and adoptive parent, Lori Holden, revisits a letter she wrote to her adoptive children answering the following questions: > ***Imagine your child as an adult describing their open adoption experience. What do you hope they will be able to say about you? How did you view their other parents? In what ways did you support their relationship with them?*** Read more to learn how this practice can help all adoptive parents outline what their adoption goal are and then see how well they are aligned in years to come. In writing the letter, parents not only practice seeing through their children’s eyes, but they also clarify what they want of their own parenting in the long run. Read more here: [Cringey! Midpoint of the Adoptive Parenting Feedback Loop ](https://lavenderluz.com/open-adoption-goals/) ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, letter, Open Adoption, Parenting --- ### [The Beauty and Struggle of Foster Care](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/the-beauty-and-struggle-of-foster-care/) **Published:** March 8, 2022 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** How can something be both beautiful and a struggle at the same time? Both wonderful and heart-wrenching? Welcome to the world of being a foster parent. Where you advocate for reunification while caring for a child as if they were your own. It’s hard, it’s messy, it’s gratifying, it’s God’s work. Read more from Foster the Family blog, where the author, Jamie C., writes beautifully about her experiences as a foster parent: http://www.fosterthefamilyblog.com/foster-the-family-blog-1/i-dont-want-to-hand-him-over ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Foster Care --- ### [Post Adoption Contact Agreement (PACA): What is it and how will it affect me?](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/post-adoption-contact-agreement-paca-what-is-it-and-how-will-it-affect-me/) **Published:** February 8, 2022 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** The state of Colorado recently passed a law that there is a legally enforceable PACA. A PACA is a Post Adoption Contact Agreement. This article, from our friends at American Adoptions, outlines the benefits of a PACA. When you choose adoption, whether as a birth parent or as an adoptive parent, you can choose what kind of post-adoption contact you have with the other members of the adoption triad. > [What You Need to Know About PACA](https://www.americanadoptions.com/blog/what-you-need-to-know-about-paca/) ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, adoption triad, birth family, PACA --- ### [What are respite providers and why should I consider being one?](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/what-are-respite-providers-and-why-should-i-consider-being-one/) **Published:** April 5, 2022 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** As Hope’s Promise begins to certify foster families, we also have a great need for families willing to be certified as respite providers. We desire for Hope’s Promise to stand out as having outstanding support of our families and a record-breaking retention rate! It’s been said that about two-thirds of foster parents quit fostering within one to two years because of the hardships they face. We want to see that number be much less at Hope’s Promise! To do so, we know we need to go above and beyond in the support we have for families, and respite care is one of the most important! Much like grandparents and family members often provide help and time away for parents to have time to breathe, respite providers offer foster parents and youth in foster care a break from their daily lives and a chance to get away and recharge. Sometimes it is a needed break to reset and care for their mental health, and sometimes it is for an already planned trip or vacation which the foster child cannot also take part in for a multitude of reasons. Many foster parents state is the number one thing that helps them maintain longevity in their calling as foster parents – it is that important! Respite providers receive the same training and certification as foster parents and are often in high demand as there are many more foster parents than there are respite providers! Many respite families also get the opportunity to provide other supports for that youth and family as they build a relationship and become part of the foster family’s community long-term. If you are interested in exploring what it would mean to be a respite family, please consider attending our free monthly virtual informational meetings – you can sign up here: or email Tami Davidson at to set up an individual time to meet with her and learn more. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Foster Care, foster families, Hope's Promise, respite care --- ### [The Future of Adoption from Foster Care: A Call for Collaboration](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/the-future-of-adoption-from-foster-care-a-call-for-collaboration/) **Published:** November 11, 2021 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** America’s foster care system is in crisis. Despite real efforts to effect change, over 120,000 children remain in the system awaiting a permanent family through adoption. Finding the right families requires innovative solutions and collaborative partnerships. In this issue of the Adoption Advocate from the National Council for Adoption , they highlight the work of private agencies, like Hope's Promise, who are successfully partnering with the public sector to achieve better outcomes for kids in the foster care system. Their experiences and guidance can serve as a springboard for more agencies to expand their services into this critical area of work. **Content:** Credit: National Council for Adoption **America’s foster care system is in crisis. Despite real efforts to effect change, over 120,000 children remain in the system awaiting a permanent family through adoption. Finding the right families requires innovative solutions and collaborative partnerships.** **In this issue of the *Adoption Advocate* from the National Council for Adoption, they highlight the work of private agencies, like Hope’s Promise, who are successfully partnering with the public sector to achieve better outcomes for kids in the foster care system. Their experiences and guidance can serve as a springboard for more agencies to expand their services into this critical area of work**. **Hope’s Promise began its [foster care program](https://www.hopespromise.com/foster-care/) in June of 2020 and is currently working to grow and expand its reach in Colorado where there are approximately 5,500 currently in the foster system.** Click to read more about the future of foster care: ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Foster Care, foster to adopt, the future of adoption --- ### [Rethinking “Gotcha Day”](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/rethinking-gotcha-day/) **Published:** April 19, 2022 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** Maya Angelou: “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better” Many adoptive families choose to celebrate and recognize the day their child’s adoption was finalized or the day they became legally a family. It is an important milestone in the journey for the family and the adoptee. However, at Hope’s Promise, we have been discussing new ways to mark this occasion appropriately, sensitively, and without the much-used old terminology of “Gotcha Day.” We are always striving toward accurate and neutral adoption language as well as continuing to listen to adoptees’ experiences of adoption. Through listening and learning, we are finding that the term “gotcha” is not accurate or neutral. For the adoptee, the day they joined their new family also is a day that they forever left their birth family’s care and/or homeland. As with many things for adoptees, there is both/and – both joy and grief. We have come to wonder if “gotcha” seems to either gloss over the loss of birth family or gloat over the joy of the adoptive parents. Some adoptees feel that this language sounds a bit like abduction or not being sensitive to the power structure of adoption. Adoptees have no power over any of the decisions that so dramatically changed their lives. In terms of relinquishment, we choose not to use the terms “give up” or “keep” because it objectifies the adopted person. In the same way, “gotcha” can objectify the adoptee. Does this mean families cannot celebrate the day they became a family? By no means! But we would suggest using the term Adoption Day or Family Day, which is more accurate and neutral than the language “Gotcha Day.” Want to learn more? Here are some articles from multiple perspectives we encourage you to read about this issue that helped inform our thoughts: [https://www.huffpost.com/entry/gotcha-day-isnt-a-cause-f\_b\_6094206](https://www.huffpost.com/entry/gotcha-day-isnt-a-cause-f_b_6094206) Podcast: [https://podcasts.apple.com/id/podcast/episode-11-no-more-gotcha-day/id1521163323?i=1000490570717&l=id](https://podcasts.apple.com/id/podcast/episode-11-no-more-gotcha-day/id1521163323?i=1000490570717&l=id) ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Birth mom, gotcha day --- ### [God’s intricate provision of a family for Nathan](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/gods-intricate-provision-of-a-family-for-nathan/) **Published:** May 24, 2022 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** ***Testimonies from a birth mother and an adoptive father*** *Ron:* Last summer we entered the adoption process with Hope’s Promise again after adopting our daughter in 2007. In the fall, we attended a fundraiser banquet for the Alpha Center, a Christian crisis pregnancy center in Fort Collins. Right there at our table, I prayed that our next child would be a boy who would come to us through the Alpha Center. I leaned over and told Barb. She smiled, and we both thought how wonderful it would be if it were true. *Julie:* I found out I was pregnant in October and began working with Hope’s Promise when I realized that adoption could give my baby the best possible life. In January, Barb, Ron’s wife, began working with my mother at a school in town. When she heard our story, Barb offered to meet with me to tell me about their experience in open adoption and to answer any questions I had. *Ron:* We met Julie, then 3 months pregnant, for dinner to share with her our experience with open adoption and simply to be a resource for her. She mentioned that night that she found Hope’s Promise through the Alpha Center, and we wondered whether this might be the answer to our prayers. Since it was so early in her pregnancy, though, we assumed nothing and continued to pray for her and her family. *Julie:* Leaving that meeting, I felt a great amount of peace about the decision I was making. As I got know Ron and Barb better, it became more and more clear to me that this was the family God had ultimately chosen for my baby. *Ron:* We learned a few months later that her baby was a boy. In April, Hope’s Promise called to tell us that Julie wanted to talk to us about parenting her baby. I got the call at work and immediately called Barb at school. She ran down the hall and hugged Julie’s mom. Our caseworker told us that Julie had decided after meeting us that she wanted us to be the baby’s parents, and wisely waited for the appropriate time to tell us. Nathan was born in June, and we had the privilege of being at the hospital and meeting him about an hour after he was born. We enjoy a wonderful relationship with Julie and her family. *Julie:* I am so grateful for the wonderful family that Nathan has, and I am excited to be involved with him as he grows up. *Ron:* All of us continue to be amazed how God cared enough about all of us, and especially Julie and Nathan, to arrange the circumstances of our lives to come together the way he did. It showed all of us that God is much bigger than any of the individual people involved in Nathan’s adoption, and we are honored to be part of it. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** adoptive father, Birth Mother, crisis pregnancy, Family --- ### [The Experience of Motherhood Without Children](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/the-experience-of-motherhood-without-children/) **Published:** May 6, 2022 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** However motherhood comes to you, it is a blessing. But what if motherhood doesn’t look like you thought it would. You may struggle with infertility, or maybe you are a foster mom. You might be a mother who has suffered the loss of a child. Maybe you are a birth mom or an adoptive mom. Maybe you chose not to have children. Maybe you suffered the loss of your own mom. Mother’s Day can be a celebration for some and a struggle for others. But there is hope and unity in our struggle. In this guest blog, the author discusses the idea of spiritual motherhood. Being a mom takes on a plethora of different meanings, so let’s celebrate them all. Read more here: ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Birth mom, mothers day, mothers day without children, spiritual mom --- ### [Seeing God in Zimbabwe](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/seeing-god-in-zimbabwe/) **Published:** June 7, 2022 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** by Colleen Briggs | [colleenbriggs.com](https://colleenbriggs.com/) Imagine for just a moment: you are a newly widowed mother with nowhere to go. No income, no family support, no government social services. You re-locate to uninhabited land, build a mut hut, and eke out subsistence. Amidst the grief and hardship, your three children are your joy and hope. But you must make the heartbreaking decision to pull your oldest son out of school. Although he’s unusually bright and has only completed seventh grade, you simply can’t afford the fees. Then one day a strange man shows up on the untamed land. A pastor, he invites your family to church in an open-air building of corrugated metal sheets propped up on a concrete slab. He does more than preach, though. He starts coordinating construction of greenhouses, teaches residents of your “squatter” community how to raise tomatoes and other crops, and eventually trains and empowers your oldest son to supervise other workers on the farm. Your family benefits from the food that grows on the developing land, but money remains sparse. Miraculous provision arrives in the form of a high school scholarship for your second-born, a daughter. But worry lines crease your face. When schools open again after Covid lockdowns, your youngest son, age twelve, remains at home. Unbeknownst to you, somewhere far away, someone donates an unexpected gift. Wheels grind into motion, beginning with the realization that the funding will allow for the addition of eight more kids to a Zimbabwe relative-based orphan care program, and culminating in the appearance at your door of the church’s evangelist. She invites you to a program that will pay your youngest son’s school fees and surround your family with encouragement and training. But the miracles aren’t over yet. A group visits, including your pastor and several strangers. You welcome them to chairs under a tree, proud to introduce your youngest son and your daughter. Recently, she aced her high school completion exams. Her scores qualify her for top university placement! Face shining, she tells the visitors of her aspirations to study law. Your heart sinks. The organization that funded her high school studies does not pay for university. Although your oldest son works on the farm now and the community wants to support your daughter, you know the resources available won’t be enough. You’ve heard stories of impoverished women who give in to “sugar daddies” to afford university. Somehow, God must make a way! What you don’t know yet is that He already has. As it turns out, another donation has been received for Zimbabwe’s relative-based orphan care program to fund another student’s university studies, and the donation is more than needed. After the visitors leave, Zimbabwe staff and the visitors decide to designate the overage for your daughter’s first year of university. Their excitement overflows. Not only will a deserving young woman progress in her education, but she will write a new narrative of possibility for all the little girls in the squatter community. Also unknown to you is the sacred wonder unfolding in the hearts of the visitors. Somehow, they stumbled into a moment perfectly choreographed from the beginning of time by a God Who has always seen you, who sees you now. Who sees and loves us all. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Hope, Orphan Care, Poverty, relative-based care, Zimbabwe --- ### [The Road to Reunification: Paying Kindness Forward](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/the-road-to-reunification-paying-kindness-forward/) **Published:** June 23, 2022 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** By our friends at CO4Kids Five years ago, Jessica Olds was a client in the [Adams County Family Treatment Court](https://www.adcogov.org/videos/adams-county-family-treatment-court) program, working to overcome an alcohol and substance use disorder and trying to regain custody of her two sons. Three and a half years later, having achieved sobriety and reunification with her children, Jessica began working as a Parent Advocate for the[ Office of Respondent Parents’ Counsel (ORPC),](https://coloradoorpc.org/) helping parents in the same situation she was in at her lowest moment. “Jessica was my client when she was in family treatment court. She was in a dark place but she had two boys, a desire for change and a resilience reserved only for Disney princesses,” said Wendy Lewis, Jessica’s former counsel. “She has come so far since then, and now she is someone who inspires other parents to reach for their dreams. She made sure that her past made her better, not bitter.” Jessica is grateful for the changes she made in family treatment court and the support she received from everyone on her team, particularly her peer support worker who took her to her first 12-step meeting and who Jessica credits in large part with achieving reunification with her sons. In 2020, the ORPC began hiring for the new role of parent advocate, and Jessica was inspired to pursue the job because of her experience years prior with her peer support. As a parent advocate, Jessica works with parents primarily in the Adams County Family Treatment Court program, which specializes in reuniting families that have been separated due to substance use disorder. The court provides additional resources for parents to help them address their substance use disorder and create a safe and healthy environment so their kids can return home to be raised by their parents. As a parent advocate, Jessica makes herself available to her clients 24-hours a day, 7-days a week. She doesn’t have to but she chooses to because she has ‘been there’ and understands what the other parents are going through. She connects with her clients on a deep level, often helping them face past traumas and achieve their goals. She is there for them if they need to find a place to do a drug test in the evening, if they need a ride to the methadone clinic at 6:00 am, or if they need a sympathetic ear in the middle of the night. In addition to attending hearings and family team meetings, Jessica goes well beyond her required duties, including hosting a clothing exchange for families in family treatment court. But while Jessica goes above and beyond to support her clients, it is ultimately up to them to make the necessary changes. “In my experience as a parent in this situation and later as a parent advocate, I have found that in order to be successful in overcoming challenges and achieving reunification, parents must ultimately be willing to do the hard work of making healthy choices and good decisions,” added Jessica. “Utilizing the available supports and services is so important in helping parents to build a foundation for a successful life and a home in which children can thrive.” Jessica’s clients are often at their lowest point when they begin working with her, but her willingness to share her story, lift them up and pay forward the support she once received helps them to envision and strive toward a future for themselves that is as bright as hers. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Foster Care, parent advocate, reunification --- ### [Self-Regulation](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/self-regulation/) **Published:** August 5, 2022 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** As an agency that prides itself and continuing education, Hope’s Promise continues to educate the children and families we serve through a variety of different avenues. Sometimes we come across a blog that we can’t wait to share because of the importance of its topic. This is one such blog. Adopted, foster, and orphaned children often struggle with regulation. Learning regulation is a process and eventually leads to the final goal of self-regulation. This blog, by our friends at Empowered to Connect, share what that process can and should look like for any child struggling with regulation. [{READ MORE HERE}](https://empoweredtoconnect.org/self-regulation/) ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** adoptee, orphan, self-regualtion --- ### [Back to School!](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/back-to-school/) **Published:** August 22, 2022 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** It’s that time of year again! Back to school! Back to school can be a daunting time, for parents and children alike. We love these tips from our friends at Raise the Future. These apply to all children and can be especially helpful reminders if you are parenting a foster child. **[By Darby Baldwin, an employee of Raise the Future](https://www.raisethefuture.org/blog/back-to-school-tips)** Back-to-school time is here! We wanted to share a few reminders of how to prepare, support, and advocate for your kiddos as they go back to the school routine. Look for/Be aware of these things: **Felt Safety**—Is your child going to a new school? Do they have new teachers, a new classroom, new classmates, new experiences? All of these things can be hard for kids; even if they are in the same school, there are always new things each year. Look for ways to help your child feel more secure and safe in the new environment. Be proactive and talk about the new thing, whatever it may be. Meet with teachers, if possible, to help your child become familiar with them before school starts. Ask your child how they are feeling about going back to school. Ask some “I wonder” questions to encourage the conversation. Relate to them by sharing feelings *you* have when experiencing new situations. Encourage them to use their voice and talk about things. And, of course, be there to encourage and help along the way. **Structure and Routine**—Implement a regular routine and structure around your day. In addition to the schedule of what to do in the morning to get out the door for school each day, implement a schedule/routine around what to do after school each day. - Make opportunities for your kids to use their voice and talk about their day. Ask questions: What was good, what was challenging, what did they experience that they didn’t expect? etc. Allow time for connecting through conversation about what happened in their day when you weren’t with them, and LISTEN. - PLAY with your kids! Make opportunities for play and schedule some downtime before starting homework. - Provide structure around homework time. Look for the sensory needs that your child might have around completing homework. Be flexible. **Transition**—Think of Dr. Dan Siegel’s “name it to frame it.” Talk about *what* is going to happen. Talk about *when* it’s going to happen. Talk about *how* you can help them with what is coming next. Transitions can be big triggers for kids; help them to be prepared for the next thing. If necessary, make a visual chart or transition cards to help with what comes next. **Regulation**—Remind your kids about their upstairs brain and their downstairs brain. What can they do to self-regulate when the need arises? Practice strategies they can use in the classroom, on the bus, on the playground, etc. (fidgets, ask for help, breathe) **Snacks and Water**—Be sure to have snacks and water available for kiddos at school and after school. If necessary, talk to teachers about allowing your child to have a snack at school. When a child’s blood sugar and hydration levels are where they should be, they are better able to learn and regulate. Have a snack and water available in the car when you pick them up from school or as soon as they arrive home on the bus. **Sensory Behaviors**—Behavior is an expression of regulation…With this in mind, help your child regulate. Give ideas on what they can do to manage their behavior. Look for things that your child seeks or avoids with regard to their senses. Meet the sensory needs before the behavior becomes too challenging. **ADVOCATE!**—Be your kid’s BIGGEST advocate. Talk to teachers and staff about what your kiddo needs to learn and be successful in their day. Older kids can be their own advocate with the right support, encouragement, and understanding of their own needs. **HAVE A FANTASTIC SCHOOL YEAR!** ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** advocate, back to school, felt safety, foster child --- ### [Meet Paula:](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/meet-paula/) **Published:** September 28, 2022 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** ## A Q&A with Hope’s Promise Founder and author, Paula Freeman, on her new book, *Learning to Be Me Without You*. **What is your new book about?** *Learning to Be Me Without You* is a love story about a diagnosis, one last adventure, a crisis of faith that erupts on the threshold of death, and a transformed life. Two weeks after my husband, Ray, and I moved to coastal North Carolina he died, leaving me alone with my two greatest fears: How can I survive the grief of his loss, and will God be enough. It serves up hope, with a pinch of humor, and the wonder of discovering the presence of God in the wilderness of widowhood. **What inspired you to write this book? It began with my need to unpack how the presence of God met me in my grief in unprecedented ways after Ray died, and I fell in love with a gentler and kinder Jesus. I have journaled for most of my life. So, when Ray was diagnosed with a terminal disease for which there was no cure or effective treatment, I created a separate journal for that experience. I journaled through his disease, our move to the beach where he could breathe better at sea level, his last hospitalization and death, and then through my first year of widowhood. I wanted to record my experience in real time—the events, the pain, the questions, the graces, and the healing. And I sensed a sustained movement of the Holy Spirit to “Write, therefore, what you have seen…” (Rev. 1: 19). This verse offered perspective from which to write and guided my internal conversation: *Write what you have seen. Don’t preach. Don’t compare. Don’t worry about what others might think. Go ahead and name the hard stuff. Just tell the story of what Jesus did for you.* **How does your book connect us to your work as founder and former executive director of Hope’s Promise?** Beyond the facts that we all have known pain and loss, and probably know someone who has been widowed, it connects in two very specific ways. First, one chapter includes quite a bit of Hope’s Promise history I think clients, staff and board members would enjoy: the research, the decision to begin the organization, the impact it had on our family, and my difficult, yet wise decision to pass the baton to Beth Woods, whom I love and wholeheartedly support. And the book deals with grief and loss—issues that undergird the adoption process for all members of the triad, and ones that I addressed in my first book for adoptive moms, *A Place I Didn’t Belong: Hope for Adoptive Moms.* I pray that each of these books inspires grace for the hard stuff and hope for the journey by pointing us to Jesus, no matter the flavor of our loss. **Tell us about the title.** *Learning to Be Me Without You* describes my challenge as a new widow, and one most widows encounter when their spouse dies. Responsibilities, rhythms of life, and relationships all change and become unscripted territory for us to navigate. **What would you like the reader to discover from reading your book?** My prayer throughout the writing of this book has been *Lord, help me show the essence of how you worked in my life, so others might see You in theirs.* I want readers to discover Jesus in their story and to say “Yes!” to His invitation to follow Him on a further journey, whatever that next step may be. **How can people contact you?** They can visit my website at [www.paulasfreeman.com](http://www.paulasfreeman.com) or email me at . I’d love to hear from Hope’sPromise families and friends. My heart remains with all of you! **How can I buy *Learning To Be Me Without You*?** Amazon link: [click here](https://smile.amazon.com/Learning-Be-Me-Without-You-ebook/dp/B0B6D8XSJX/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2JWOFGPHEX0WH&keywords=learning+to+be+me+without+you+paula+freeman&qid=1660328664&sprefix=learning+to+be+me+without+yo%2Caps%2C107&sr=8-1) ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Learning to Be Me Without You, Paula Freeman --- ### [Adoption Tax Credit](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/adoption-tax-credit/) **Published:** November 17, 2022 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** URGENT—TAKE ACTION NOW! from our friends at the National Council For Adoption **Join us in asking Congress to include the Adoption Tax Refundability Act in Year-End Legislation** It’s quick and easy to send a clear message to your Senators and Representative asking them to do two things: 1\. Cosponsor the bill (S.1156/H.R.3031) if they haven’t yet. 2\. Convey to their tax committee and caucus leadership the importance of including the bill in their priority list for tax provisions in any year-end legislation considered in December. Visit [adoptiontaxcredit.org/take-action/contact-congress](https://adoptiontaxcredit.org/take-action/contact-congress/) to send a prewritten message to Congress in just a few minutes. https://adoptiontaxcredit.org/take-action/contact-congress/ ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Adoption Tax Credit, Adoption Tax Refundability Act, NCFA --- ### [Be a Family Champion](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/be-a-family-champion/) **Published:** January 3, 2023 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** Child Sponsorship Re-imagined by Hope’s Promise Hope’s Promise worked hard in 2022 to identify a new model of partnership designed specifically for the needs of an orphaned child’s heart. Early in the year, we asked current child sponsors to imagine a new kind of “sponsorship” that stays behind the scenes, invisible to the child but nonetheless essential to the family’s success. We asked partners to consider with us global orphan care research that reveals a child’s greatest need when he or she loses one or both parents – God’s love expressed through a new caregiver and family. We asked partners to consider that sometimes a relationship with someone far away, especially someone who is known to support them financially, can distract a child from trusting and attaching to their family. And we asked for feedback. Overwhelmingly, partners responded that they want what is best for the kids. The one concern we heard expressed is that our partners want to maintain connection. They want to pray for families and kids by name. They want to know that your generosity is impacting real people in real ways. So, imagine becoming a “Family Champion,” someone who **upholds, advocates, supports, and speaks up** for orphaned and vulnerable children. Although Hope’s Promise children may never know the names of Hope’s Promise’s “Family Champions,” our partners are no less a catalyst for transformation than when we called them a “Child Sponsor.” As we transition to the “Family Champion” model: - We are committed to funding the kids in our program, so even without a child sponsorship program, we will never cut a child due to lack of funding without first letting all our ministry partners know about the situation and inviting intervention. - Every donor is considered a “Family Champion.” - Family Champions choose a specific country to give to, with the option of “following” a specific family. - “Following a family” means Family Champions receive an initial information packet about a specific family in the country they choose and at least one update per year. We will tag current child sponsors to follow the family of their sponsored child. - Family Champions will receive at least two “Impact Reports” per year, highlighting kids and families in the country where they choose to partner. Family Champion “followers” will also receive at least one report per year about the specific family they follow. - We will continue to offer opportunities to send special gifts with teams to deliver to families. - Family Champions can still write a note of encouragement to the families they “follow” or to a family in general to be chosen by the Country Coordinator. We forward emails to in-country staff for delivery. The big change is that the kids won’t know Family Champions are sending money for their benefit. Instead, they will credit their caregivers and families for taking care of them by partnering with their country’s Hope’s Promise ministry. Family Champions will strengthen Hope’s Promise kids’ trust and attachment with the people God has first and foremost appointed to express His love to them. Family Champions will give orphaned and vulnerable children what they need most. Learn more here: ‎ ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** child sponsor, family champion, Orphan Care, sponsor a child --- ### [Hope and Transformation in Vietnam](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/hope-and-transformation-in-vietnam/) **Published:** February 8, 2023 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** Somehow, we were lucky enough to visit the ends of the earth and find the same Jesus who works in our own hearts bringing hope and transformation to the Hope's Promise Orphan Care program in Vietnam. **Content:** by Colleen Briggs, Hope’s Promise Director of Orphan Care The Vietnam Country Coordinator tells our team that we will visit a village in the mountains where two kids who are now members of a Home of Hope family started their lives and where Hope’s Promise implements a Thrive scholarship group for thirty orphaned and vulnerable children who live with relatives. That’s about all we know. He instructs us to pull hoods over our heads and masks over our faces so we won’t draw attention to the people we will visit. We hop from our vehicle onto the backs of motorbikes driven by people we’ve never met. Pavement turns to dirt, and dirt transitions to a mud track slicing up the side of a mountain. As the back tire of the bike I’m riding slips and tosses me off sideways, I manage to land like a cat on my hands and feet. Mud dripping from my hands, I walk, slipping and sliding so my driver can navigate the rough patch. Mud weighs down the soles of my shoes. Then we resume [plugging up a trail ](https://youtube.com/shorts/lYJk_Sk1A-0?feature=share)through steep slopes as mist obscures the view. When we pass a walking team member, I wonder if we will ever arrive and if everyone will make it. Forty-five minutes later, three of our motorbikes grind to a halt. The drivers direct us to walk up a rocky, single-track trail. We emerge into a flat area carved out of the mountainside with two structures. Villagers in brightly embroidered clothing welcome us with smiles and nods into a dirt-floor house with light streaming between slats of wood. We gather gratefully around a warm fire. Miraculously, team members come trudging up the hill, one by one. After a particularly gregarious American, who happens to be my husband and a Hope’s Promise board member, arrives, he gathers the kids with hand motions and sound effects and teaches them the “[chicken dance](https://youtube.com/shorts/B7z0wlOWBl4?feature=share)” and the “[macarena](https://youtube.com/shorts/KVWuCuljD5M?feature=share).” Play and laughter need no translation! When at last our Vietnamese leaders arrive, bringing up the rear, we settle in the second structure, a roughhewn wood church with corrugated metal roof. The life stories of our new friends pass from their native language into Vietnamese and then into English. Ten years ago, a man from the village came to know Christ in another area. He returned to tell others. His first convert, a 12-year-old at the time, now serves as our Hope’s Promise Thrive group social worker. While both new Christians faced opposition to their faith, now 24 of the 100 families in the village follow Jesus. They share the challenges of living in this remote area where people cultivate rice for their own food and grow corn and cassava to sell, earning an average of $400 per year for each family. Schools provide poor education, and medical services are all but impossible to access. The pastor holds a young girl on his lap as he tells the story of her family. Soon after her birth, her father died from a snake bite. Her mother left with two older daughters, leaving the baby in the pastor’s care and two young sons with a disabled aunt. The church built a rudimentary home for the aunt and young boys, the first structure we visited; but she was unable to care for them. A visiting evangelist, friend to our Country Coordinator, learned of the boys’ plights and welcomed them into his Home of Hope 7 family. He also helped start the Hope’s Promise Thrive group. As we talk, villagers wash chickens in tubs under laundry lines and cook over a campfire. They welcome us to an outdoor, pop-up restaurant of blue plastic chairs and tables between the two buildings to enjoy a feast. Later, I can’t stop giggling when two toothless women in their 80’s mime their teeth popping out. Before we leave, we pray together, translated into three languages, around an outdoor campfire and reluctantly say our good-byes. I think we all wonder if this day really happened, but our team members testify to each other that we remember the same experience. And photographic evidence proves we were there. Somehow, we were lucky enough to visit the ends of the earth and find the same Jesus who works in our own hearts bringing hope and transformation to the Hope’s Promise Orphan Care program in Vietnam. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Orphan Care, Vietnam --- ### [Working Foster Parent: Tips for Survival](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/working-foster-parent-tips-for-survival/) **Published:** March 2, 2023 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** Shared blog by *[FosterMama](https://www.fostermama.com/)* At Hope’s Promise, we want to provide our amazing foster parents (and potential foster parents) with as many resources as possible so that they feel supported and cared for. This blog is full of great ideas for working foster parents. — When we first considered becoming foster parents, I joined foster Facebook groups to learn everything I could about the process. I quickly noticed that many foster families have a stay-at-home parent. I did worry a bit—my career is important to me and I wasn’t really willing to give it up. Plus, it would not make financial sense for me to leave my job. Similarly, my husband had recently graduated with his Doctorate so he was also not at a point where he would be up for staying home full-time. So could we do it with two careers? Read more [here](https://www.fostermama.com/blog/workingfosterparenttips). ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Foster Care, foster parents, working foster parent --- ### [A Lifetime of Healing: Caring for Birth Moms](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/a-lifetime-of-healing-caring-for-birth-moms/) **Published:** March 29, 2023 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** At Hope’s Promise, we never stop caring for birth moms.  Once a birth mother has placed with an adoptive family, we believe in providing continuing opportunities for healing, growth, and well-being.  **Content:** At Hope’s Promise, we never stop caring for birth moms. Once a birth mother has placed with an adoptive family, we believe in providing continuing opportunities for healing, growth, and well-being. That is why we, along with our friends at Colorado Christian Services, have partnered with Knee to Knee to provide a healing and restorative support group for all birth moms in Colorado. Knee to Knee, founded by Ashley Mitchell, a birth mom, has created a curriculum for birth mom support groups. This is the first ever post-placement curriculum to build lasting and concrete support groups for women that choose to place their children for adoption. Thanks to Ashley Mitchell and Knee to Knee, we host life-changing support groups in person every month at Hope’s Promise with a virtual option for discussion time. The topic this year is Reclaiming Truth & Dismantling Lies. We have talked this year about the lies of, “I am not worthy of love” and “I should get over it.” We look forward to the rest of the year as we tackle the challenges of the lies we believe and how to challenge those lies in ourselves and others. All Colorado birth moms are welcome, regardless of the agency they went through. Women who come to the group have a place where they can talk about the journey of being a birth mother whether that child was born very recently or 20 years ago. This is a safe place where the participants share the joy and grief of this journey and make friends with others! If you know of a birth mom who could benefit from our Birth Mom Support Group, please email for more information. Birth mom support group is on the third Thursday of every month from 6:30 pm – 8:30 pm. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** ashley mitchell, big tough girl, Birth mom, birth mom support group, knee to knee --- ### [What You Should Know About the Adoption Tax Credit](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/what-you-should-know-about-the-adoption-tax-credit/) **Published:** April 13, 2023 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** With Tax Day less than a week away (April 18th) it's important for adoptive parents to know about the Adoption Tax Credit. Our Friends at the National Council For Adoption have the best resources and we want to share them with you! **Content:** With Tax Day less than a week away (April 18th) it’s important for adoptive parents to know about the Adoption Tax Credit. Our Friends at the National Council For Adoption have the best resources and we want to share them with you! NCFA has been a strong advocate of the Adoption Tax Credit (ATC) since its inception, as a fiscally responsible way to help more American families who want to provide a permanent, loving home to children in the U.S. and around the world. You don’t need be a tax expert to understand the basics of this credit, which thousands of families claim every year. [READ MORE HERE. ](https://adoptioncouncil.org/article/adoption-tax-credit-questions/) ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Adoption Tax Credit, tax day, Taxes --- ### [Seeing Beauty Despite the Bad](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/seeing-beauty-despite-the-bad/) **Published:** May 17, 2023 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** A REFLECTION ON THE LESSONS LEARNED DURING A CONNECTION TEAM TRIP TO KENYA. By Keenan Morgan While walking through the Mathare Valley slum in Nairobi, we would navigate these never-ending narrow walkways. Sounds of music, motorcycles, children playing, food cooking, and many others could be heard all around. The mod podge of wood and sheet metal surrounds you, almost making you feel claustrophobic. Ducking your head to avoid live wires and watching your step to avoid slipping on the mud and into the ditch is a daunting task. One at a time we were waiting to enter the small home of an incredible woman who is trying to do everything to support her children. Waiting near the back I tried to use my senses to take it all in when I heard a small voice behind me say, “Hello.” I turned around only to be confronted with more wood and sheet metal. Until I realized there was a crack looking through to the next walkway. Through the crack, I saw a beautiful little Kenyan girl standing in a doorway waving at me. I smiled and waved back before it was my turn to walk into the home. Whenever God gives me the chance to travel internationally, I always wonder what He is going to teach me. This lesson might have been one of the greatest I have ever learned. In places of extreme poverty, we sometimes only see what is wrong. This causes us to go into “fix-it” mode trying to figure out what we can do to fix the situation. We have good intentions, but oftentimes we leave feeling like we haven’t even made a dent in the problem. But I don’t believe that God is always calling us to FIX what is wrong. I think God wants to use these experiences, like a Connection Team Trip with Hope’s Promise, to make a difference in our own lives so that we can return home with a passion and fervor to continue working to impact the lives of others. Could it be that our mission field is wherever we are in the moment? What may feel like a drop in the bucket can turn into a bucket overflowing over the course of a lifetime. God always teaches me a valuable lesson when I am willing to listen to that still small voice saying, “Hello.” The lesson this time is this; when all we can see is the trash, the hurt, the brokenness, and the ugly dirty mess, God sees the beautiful potential. He sees the seed being planted in the empty desolate field that will one day be a beautiful forest flourishing with life. He sees the bad and despite it, redeems and restores it. We can see this beauty too and be vessels of the work if we are willing to peel back the layers of bad and look through the cracks. If we can put aside our motives, ideas, and wants, then we can look at the world through God’s eyes to see His plan and purpose at work. We can begin to see the beauty that exists despite the bad. “The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7b NIV ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Hope's Promise, international, Orphan Care, travel abroad --- ### [To Africa with Love](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/to-africa-with-love/) **Published:** July 26, 2023 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** Column by Peggy Dover from the Rogue Valley Times Lynn Leissler was the subject of a former column a few years back. She’s the wonder woman and close friend who has gladly accepted the challenges with the joys of raising her teenage granddaughter, Renee. Yes, Lynn possesses an impressive list of grandmotherly requisites; she knits, she sews, she quilts, she bakes—and all skillfully. She also reads voraciously. Let’s just say at nearly 78 years old, Lynn might be considered beyond the stage of dealing with teen angst, prom dress shopping, and boyfriend troubles. The affection return Renee gives is well worth the investment. Because she neither looks nor acts her age (however that’s supposed to look these days) this grandmother recently surpassed expectation by taking Renee on a mission trip to Kenya, Africa. I’m a witness as to just how many and prolonged were the challenges in preparation to leaving—everything seemed to work against them. Obtaining visas online was an exercise in humility; forget about patience. Taking the required shots and typhoid medicine made them ill, especially Renee. Despite navigating the potholes to get there and the ridiculous flight schedule with long layovers, they’re eager to return. I spoke with them about their incredible experience. The program coordinating the effort is called Hope’s Promise. Various churches work with Hope’s Promise on behalf of bringing hope to children in the Kuza Project of Kenya—Kuza means light. They’re a faith-based organization who send teams of individuals to some of the most impoverished areas to work with neglected children and help them understand they matter. I asked Renee what she loved most about her experience. “Meeting the kids,” was her quick reply. One thirteen-year-old boy in particular touched her soul. “He doesn’t have a lot. I asked him what his favorite thing to ever do was, and he said ‘praise the Lord.’ I said ‘what’s your second favorite thing to do?’ He answered, ‘help people who need things that I have.’” Lynn explained the purpose. “It was a school break program, so, like a vacation Bible school type deal. The church there is facilitating a program that helps kids stay with their bio families, if possible. And if not, to be with non-relative caregivers to help them attend school—to care for them physically, emotionally, and spiritually and help these kids develop a sense of worth on their own, because they’ve had a lot of trauma in their lives. They are westernized there and also proudly aware of being Kenyan. The children of Mathare watch movies that they believe represent the typical American family. It was quite an eye-opener for them to learn that our country shares the same issues, with dysfunctional homes, and less than ideal living conditions not uncommon. “We were careful to not go there as “White saviors,” Lynn said, ‘just to go there and walk alongside what they are doing.” The small group visited the Mathare Valley Slum of Nairobi, where half a million people dwell within six square miles. They weren’t there to gawk and shake their heads. Renee explained. “We hung out with the kids. We sang, danced, and did art classes. There were singing and ukulele classes. Then we walked through the slum. We went into a couple peoples’ houses, which were small.” “It’s a slum and it’s harsh, but there’s resiliency, determination, and joy,” Lynn said. Those who escape the slum, though glad to be out, miss the community they shared. They no longer know and relate to their neighbors, but stay to themselves behind gated communities. Eight-foot cornflower blue iron gates surround neighborhoods. The life-changing trip had a powerful impact on both of them and altered their perspectives. Renee’s least favorite part was saying goodbye. “I was a whole wreck.” She’s considering missions as a worthwhile investment for her future and that of the kids. It was autumn there. The weather was cool and pleasant for the Oregonians, while Kenyans wore puff coats. Lynn added, “Kenyans are warm, friendly, welcoming people, and they smile a lot.” Nana (sho-sho in Kenyan) and granddaughter made friendships and memories that will stand the test of time. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Africa, Hope's Promise, Kenya, Kuza, Orphan Care --- ### [It's time to make the Adoption Tax Credit refundable](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/its-time-to-make-the-adoption-tax-credit-refundable/) **Published:** October 6, 2023 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** We have good news from our friends at the [National Council for Adoption](https://adoptioncouncil.org/)! A bipartisan group of Senators and House Representatives have come together to re-introduce the Adoption Tax Credit Refundability Act, which would provide critical financial resources to families who are willing to open their hearts and their homes to a child in need. This bill would ensure **many more families are eligible for the tax credit, including lower-income families;** and, allow all families to receive all the credit that they are eligible for, in full, so they have the resources they need to meet their child’s needs, and help their family thrive. **How to support this bill in five minutes or less:** Use our [quick and easy advocacy tool ](https://adoptioncouncil.org/advocacy/action-center/#/12)to directly contact your members of Congress and ask them to sponsor the bill, and support its inclusion in any year-end tax legislation. We’ve already created the messages for you and the system will automatically match you to your Senators and House Rep. That’s it, you’re done! **Thank you for speaking up on behalf of children and adoptive families.** Your voice matters. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Adoption Tax Credit, Hope's Promise, National Council for Adoption --- ### [National Adoption Month](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/national-adoption-month/) **Published:** November 1, 2023 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** ## Creating Awareness and a Reason to Celebrate. According to Adoption and Beyond, in 1984 President Reagan proclaimed the first National Adoption Week, but as states and cities began to celebrate and recognize the adoption, a week just wasn’t enough, which led to President Clinton establishing November as National Adoption Month. National Adoption Month is an opportunity to raise awareness about adoption. Below is a list of ideas compiled from various sources on how we can not only raise awareness but also celebrate National Adoption Month. 1. Share Your Story- If adoption has had an impact on your life in any way or you are a part of the adoption triad, sharing your story is vital and gives voice to the beautiful complexity of adoption. 2. Read an Adoption Book- some of the Hope’s Promise staff favorites are: - *[Adoption is Both](https://www.amazon.com/Adoption-Both-Elena-S-Hall/dp/0578306212/ref=sr_1_1?crid=35XZGWXZ0605Q&keywords=adoption+is+both&qid=1698851352&sprefix=aadoption+is%2Caps%2C138&sr=8-1)* – Elena Hall - *[The Open Hearted Way to Open Adoption](https://www.amazon.com/Open-Hearted-Way-Open-Adoption-Helping/dp/1442217383/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1698851295&sr=8-1)* – Lori Holden - [The Connected Child](https://www.amazon.com/Connected-Child-Healing-Adoptive-Family/dp/B09B4FHH9B/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1ZSJGHMGSLXL5&keywords=the+connected+child&qid=1698851384&sprefix=the+connected+%2Caps%2C144&sr=8-1) and *[The Connected Parent](https://www.amazon.com/Connected-Parent-Real-Life-Strategies-Attachment/dp/0736978925/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1698851439&sr=1-1)* – Dr. Karyn Purvis 3. Raise Awareness on How to Adopt- If you know anyone interested in adoption, you can send them to the [Hope’s Promise website](https://www.hopespromise.com/christian-adoption/) to learn more. 4. Support Foster Families- Some adoption stories begin with Foster Care. You can reach out to a foster family you know and provide a meal for them or offer your babysitting services. 5. Hold a Drive- hold a gift card drive during the holiday season to give to Hope’s Promise Foster Families or donate new or slightly used items to the [Foster Care Lending Closet](https://www.hopespromise.com/foster-care-lending-closet/) at Hope’s Promise. 6. Donate to an Adoption Charity: You can make a donation to Hope’s Promise to support our adoption program. At Hope’s Promise we do more than just provide adoption services to hopeful adoptive parents. We support birth parents through counseling services and provide monthly birth mom support groups as well as annual events to promote community. We also provide education and resources for adoptive parents. You can make a year-end gift to support Hope’s Promise by visiting [HERE](https://hopes-promise.givecloud.co/2023YearEndGift). 7. Attend an Event: Every year Hope’s Promise holds exciting events to support its three life-changing programs: foster care, adoption, and orphan care. Learn more about our events [HERE](https://www.hopespromise.com/events/). 8. Have a Get-together with Other Adoptive Parents: If you are an adoptive parent, one of the best things you can do is to surround yourself with other families that have shared experiences. We should never walk through life, or the experiences in it, alone. 9. Share on social media- Sharing your heart for adoption makes a huge difference. If you don’t want to share your own adoptive story, or you don’t have one, follow Hope’s Promise on Facebook and Instagram and share our stories and posts. 10. Share your adoption story at your church. Hope’s Promise has countless church partnerships, and they all begin with YOU sharing your heart for adoption and foster care with your pastor. There are so many ways to celebrate the beauty of adoption. Together we can raise awareness! ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Adoption Awareness Month, Hope's Promise, National Adoption Month --- ### [2024 Adoption Tax Credit](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/2024-adoption-tax-credit/) **Published:** February 12, 2025 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** It’s hard to believe that it is already tax season, but here we are! Hope’s Promise is dedicated to sharing great resources on all things foster care, adoption, and orphan care. So, when we came across this blog from [the National Council for Adoption](http://creatingafamily.org), we knew we had to share it with our adoptive families. Doing your taxes can be tricky, but if you think you might be eligible for the adoption tax credit, this guide is a great resource. > [Adoption Tax Credit Questions](https://adoptioncouncil.org/article/adoption-tax-credit-questions/) Enjoy! ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** 2024, Adoption, adoption tax credt --- ### [Give to Potential](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/give-to-potential/) **Published:** April 17, 2024 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** When Steve Kariithi and other Hope’s Promise staff visited Grace Anglican, a church partner in Sheridan, WY, they connected with Crystal Merriam, church member and founder of a nonprofit called Lagniappe. **Content:** *When Steve Kariithi and other Hope’s Promise staff visited Grace Anglican, a church partner in Sheridan, WY, they connected with Crystal Merriam, church member and founder of a nonprofit called* [*Lagniappe*](https://www.lagniappesheridan.org/)*. Crystal recalls her conversation with Steve about how to really bring about change for people trapped in poverty and how it intersected with her ministry vision.* I recently spent the afternoon with a Kenyan pastor who helps orphans to live in family-based care instead of orphanages. Pastor Steve said charities are attracted to Nairobi’s slums because of the high need. However, he lamented the attitude with which help is sometimes given. He said, “Some organizations give to problems. Others give to potential. They may both provide food, but when you give to potential…that’s when there is impact.” I couldn’t even really figure out how this inspiring leader came to be watching my gas-lit outdoor fireplace alongside me, and certainly didn’t anticipate similarities between Pastor Steve’s work and my job skills ministry in rural Wyoming, so it was encouraging to hear, “You’re investing into potential. When you give to potential, you see change.” And we are seeing change. One year ago, today, Sean started his benefitted, full-time job at Big Horn Airways. When he applied at Lagniappe, he had worked at four different employers in the previous twelve months. No one from Lagniappe is telling Sean what to do or how to do it. More than fixing any “problem” Sean had, we invested into his potential. Like everyone, Sean did and will continue to have problems, but he also has a ton of potential. This is the beautiful part about being situated as a ministry grounded in Jesus’ own ministry. Jesus was not ignorant about problems, but knowing and honoring the individuals he encountered always took priority. He knew their handicaps, racial background, medical issues, and religious hangups, but he used all those things that initially presented as worrisome limits as opportunities to honor individuals’ personhood, ignite transformation as they joined Him in more intimate relationship, and invite them into a larger community of healing people who are trusting Jesus. The people with the fewest “problems” had the least potential for transformation, even though they desperately needed it. Being self-important, impatient, status-obsessed, or even cruel didn’t carry the same consequences or stigma as being poor or blind. We’re not primarily dispensing skills, knowledge, and payroll. We’re inviting people into an opportunity for transformative, vocational community. Currently, we’re interviewing applicants and checking references. Hopefully, our next trainee will be selected and hired within 2-3 weeks. We’re not examining whose problems we hope to fix…we’re getting excited about all the potential we see! There will be more limits and more problems for us all. Always. However, as we heal alongside Christ and each other, His light, hope, and love prevails. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Kenya, Lagniappe, Orphan Care --- ### [Redemption in Choosing Adoption](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/redemption-in-choosing-adoption/) **Published:** June 4, 2024 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** Written by a Hope’s Promise Birth Mom. It’s funny how a little plus sign can cause so much terror, anger, worry, disappointment, and fear. That little plus sign in that little window would change my life. How in the world did something like this happen to me at age 39? I mean…. I felt closer to menopause than childbearing age… but there I was… PREGNANT. I had accepted many years ago that I would never be a mom. I was just not meant to experience pregnancy and childbirth and that love and connection with a little human being. I was in so much shock and disbelief. What was I going to do? The next several months were a maze of crazy emotions, tears, fear, anger, frustration, and so much more. There was a little life living inside of me and abortion was never an option for me. I also knew I wasn’t in a place where I felt prepared or able to provide a life that this little one deserved. I decided to choose adoption. I knew it was a miracle that I was pregnant, and God had an amazing plan for this little life. I knew this little one was going to make someone’s dreams come true (little did I know that mine were coming true too). I was referred to an amazing adoption organization called Hope’s Promise. I set up an appointment with my caseworker. I was so scared to show up to that first meeting. I didn’t want to be judged or made to feel like I was worthless. And that was the last thing I ever felt with this organization. My caseworker, MaryBeth, made me feel so at ease as she shared her own adoption story with me. At this point, I had a very hard heart and was so angry and disappointed in myself. When I first met with MaryBeth I planned on a fully closed adoption. I was going to carry this baby to term and have MaryBeth or a nurse hand this baby over to the adoptive couple that I was still yet to choose. I didn’t want to meet them or talk to them. Slowly, as I continued to meet with MaryBeth, and through prayers by the staff at Hope’s Promise, and prayers of my mom and a couple of close friends, my heart slowly started to soften. I finally had the opportunity to look through 28 photobooks of families who wanted to adopt. I knew the moment I read the story of Samuel and Mary that they were the ones God had planned to parent this little life inside of me. As more time went on and after Samuel and Mary were told that I had chosen them, they reached out and asked Mary Beth if they could write to me. At this point, my heart was softening, and I was open to some communication with them. They wrote me an amazing letter and I decided to write back. We exchanged a few letters and I finally decided that I needed to be the one to hand this baby over to them after the birth. I also decided that I wanted to meet them before the baby was born so that the time in the hospital was not awkward. The first time we met, my decision was confirmed. Samuel and Mary were hoping for an open adoption but wanted to respect my wishes for a closed adoption. God continued to work in me and change my heart. It wasn’t long before I changed my mind and decided that I wanted to see how this little one looked as he/she grew up. I wanted to know his/her personality. On November 14th, at exactly 40 weeks, I was admitted to the hospital to be induced. After 56 hours of labor, I ended up with pre-eclampsia and the baby’s heart rate started to drop drastically. My nurse quickly called in my doctor and told them we needed to do an emergency C-section. Had it not been for this nurse, the baby and I would not have made it. My nurse is my hero! She will always have a special place in my life and heart. The doctor finally listened to her and I was rushed into the OR. At 8:21 am on November 16, my sweet baby boy, Lukas Alexander, was born. He had a small puncture in his lung, the cord was wrapped around his neck and he wasn’t breathing. They had to do CPR but he did take his first breath and that little cry was the cutest cry I have ever heard. He was 6lbs, 2oz, and 20 inches long. He was perfect! Later that day after I spent some time with Lukas, Samuel and Mary joined us in my room and met their son for the first time. They have renamed him Cole Samuel, and I love it! I will always be a part of their lives. The connection we have is so deep and heartfelt. They have opened their hearts to me. We are all extended family. We get to figure this out together and we get to love Cole fiercely. When I found out I was pregnant I didn’t plan on ever sharing my story but I am now so proud of my decision and that I am part of this amazing story. I feel so lucky that God allowed me to be a part of this. He can redeem any story for GOOD!!! I have been blessed by so many in this journey. I love all the ways God allows me to be used in Cole’s story. I have made amazing, lifelong friends through this journey and continue to make more as God allows me to be used for HIS glory. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Birth mom, Christian adoption, redemption --- ### [Community Care in Kenyan Slums](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/community-care-in-kenyan-slums/) **Published:** August 6, 2024 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** A podcast with Hope’s Promise Kenya Country Coordinator, Steve Kariithi, in partnership with Think Global, Do Justice and Brandon Stiver. We’re so excited to share this podcast with you! Steve talks with Brandon Stiver about what it looks like to do kinship based family care in Kenyan communities. They cover the effects of changing child welfare policy on families and juxtapose that with actions of the government that adversely affect families living in informal settlements. If you’ve ever wondered what it looks like to work in a slum, this is a good conversation to jump into. Hope’s Promise is so thankful to have an advocate like Steve as a part of our international staff team Listen here: ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Orphan Care, podcast, Steve Kariithi --- ### [Why We Discontinued Child Sponsorship](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/why-we-discontinued-child-sponsorship/) **Published:** August 28, 2024 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** by Colleen Briggs, Hope’s Promise, Director of Orphan Care Child sponsorship is a well-known fundraising model in the realm of international childcare programs. We opened our oldest existing program in Kenya in 2006 through funding generated by child sponsorship. On the plus side, donors connected to a child’s story and felt personally invested in the child’s wellbeing. Theoretically, the child would be encouraged and uplifted by having a “friend” on the other side of the world who prayed for and invested in their life. And the sponsor would be impacted by learning about the way of life in the child’s country. But through the years, we stumbled experientially into unintended consequences of child sponsorship for the orphaned children we serve. For these kids, who have lost the most important attachment in their lives when one or both parents died, their most important task for long term holistic wellbeing is to experience God’s love through attachment to a new caregiver and not to a stranger on the other side of the world. We began to experience the complications of a funding model that conflicted with program goals when some of our Kenyan kids reached their early teens in Kenya and told their parents, “I don’t have to listen to you because I have a sponsor in the US. “ A particularly poignant experience brought the dissonance to the forefront in 2019 when a Connection Trip team from the US visited a Hope’s Promise family in Vietnam. We took backpacks for each child we planned to visit, filled with standardized items we’d collected from multiple sponsors. Following our direction, a child sponsor on the team presented a backpack to her sponsored child. When the little girl climbed on the sponsor’s lap to open the bag, the nonverbals of her parents needed no translation. Their expressions held a mixture of happiness for the child’s excitement, but also a wistfulness and sadness. We realized in that moment how strange it would, as a parent, if a stranger who had financial influence over my child brought gifts I could not afford. That was the tipping point. We immediately switched tactics. For the rest of the trip, we gave the kids’ backpacks to the parents privately to distribute later, if and when they wanted. We shared photos of the backpacks and the families with our sponsors, but not photos of the children with the gifts. Then, in 2020, with Phil Aspegren’s input, we took the plunge and switched funding models completely. A quote from him became our guiding principle: “sell your impact, not your kids.” We decided it was time to fully acknowledge and course correct the incongruence in our funding model and program goals. We undertook a year-long process, contacting over one hundred child sponsors directly and personally through email and phone call. We described why we were changing models and invited their input. We amended how we described our new funding model several times based on their feedback. However, they expressed unanimous support for the heart of the changes. We still collect reports on each child in our program, because it’s just good social work. But, instead of “child updates,” we now share “impact reports” with our donors, including stories we’ve selected that protect dignity and privacy and celebrate potential. Here is how we describe our new model on our website: Child Sponsorship Reimagined Traditionally, child sponsorship cultivates a relationship between a child in need and a benevolent stranger in another country. However, global orphan care research reveals that when a child loses one or both parents, what they need most is God’s love expressed through a new caregiver and family. Sometimes a relationship with someone far away, especially someone who is known to support them financially, can distract a child from learning to trust and attach to their family. So, imagine with us a new kind of “child sponsorship,” designed specifically for the needs of an orphaned child’s heart. Imagine an investment that stays behind the scenes, invisible to the child but nonetheless essential to the family’s success. Imagine a new way of supporting a child by shining the spotlight on his or her family. Although Hope’s Promise children may never know your name, when you become a [family champion](https://www.hopespromise.com/become-a-family-champion/), you become a catalyst for transformation in their lives. [Learn More About Becoming a Family Champion](https://nam11.safelinks.protection.outlook.com/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.hopespromise.com%2Fbecome-a-family-champion%2F&data=05%7C02%7Ccolleen%40hopespromise.com%7C2f732ab448ea4643e47608dcb6ee898c%7C497107007e9648ea8f8e7c902007298c%7C0%7C0%7C638586382841839163%7CUnknown%7CTWFpbGZsb3d8eyJWIjoiMC4wLjAwMDAiLCJQIjoiV2luMzIiLCJBTiI6Ik1haWwiLCJXVCI6Mn0%3D%7C0%7C%7C%7C&sdata=%2F666CNzP8dYUp4%2BqwBHNlrpw3Qn4dnvvD1pcOR2f%2BD0%3D&reserved=0). We are so thankful we switched because we now believe our fundraising and program goals are congruent – doing what is best for orphaned children, supporting their attachment to their caregivers so they have the best chance of experiencing God’s love in those relationships. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog --- ### [FTC Warns Adoption Intermediaries Against Misleading Parents](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/ftc-warns-adoption-intermediaries-against-misleading-parents/) **Published:** September 11, 2024 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** **Facilitated adoptions** are also sometimes called “intermediary adoptions” or “adoption intermediaries” Instead of using an agency to match potential adoptive parents with birth parents choosing adoption, the adoption is facilitated by someone other than an adoption agency, usually a for-profit business that isn’t licensed and has no oversight or accountability. Hope’s Promise is proud to be a full-service adoption and child welfare agency. We provide extensive and ethical options counseling to help expectant parents understand all of their options. We continue to provide resources to expectant parents who choose to parent as well as counseling and monthly birth mother support groups when a woman chooses to make an adoption plan for her baby. Our support doesn’t end when the baby is born. ## What are adoption intermediaries telling you? By: Jim Kreidler, Consumer Education Specialist Federal Trade Commission September 10, 2024[](https://consumer.ftc.gov/#facebook)[](https://consumer.ftc.gov/#twitter)[](https://consumer.ftc.gov/#linkedin) If you search online for “adoption agencies near me,” you might see a lot of ads for adoption intermediaries, which might give you the impression that these businesses are state licensed, full-service adoption agencies. But are they? Today, 31 adoption intermediaries — for-profit businesses claiming to match adoptive parents with birth parents in private adoptions for a hefty fee — got letters from the FTC. These businesses may be breaking the law if they say they’re a licensed adoption agency when they aren’t, make promises they can’t keep, or try to prevent people from posting honest reviews. If you’re interested in private adoption: **Do your research.** Adoption can be a complicated process to navigate. Know that unlicensed adoption intermediaries — sometimes called advertisers, facilitators, or brokers — are not licensed adoption agencies. That means they’re not supervised by their state or bound by its educational, social work, or legal training requirements. If you’re looking for a licensed adoption agency, contact your [state department of health and human services](https://www.usa.gov/state-health) for a list. **Consult a lawyer or your state’s adoption resources.** Adoption laws vary widely by state, including the amount of time birth parents have to change their mind and how the law handles agreements for open or closed adoptions. Also, even if an adoption provider is licensed in one state, it may not be allowed to work with birth parents or place children in other states. **Check out who you plan to work with.** Choosing an adoption provider is a significant decision. Understand what services they do and don’t offer and what their fees cover. Review online complaints, ask for recent references, and check with your attorney general’s office for information about any legal actions. Spot an unfair or deceptive business practice? Report it to the FTC at [ReportFraud.ftc.gov](http://www.reportfraud.ftc.gov/). ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** adoption intermediaries, ethical adoption, federal trade commission --- ### [Hope’s Promise and Footprints Floors: A Partnership Making a Lasting Impact](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/hopes-promise-and-footprints-floors-a-partnership-making-a-lasting-impact/) **Published:** October 8, 2024 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** Partnerships. Without them, Hope’s Promise could not function. We could not do what God has called us to do. At Hope’s Promise, we have Business Partners, Ministry Partners, Church Partners and individual partners. These organically cultivated partnerships are what help us do the life changing work of building strong families. Our partners sponsor events, volunteer, hold gift card drives for foster families, allow us to speak at their churches and so much more. Footprints Flooring is one such partner. We are so thankful for the continued support and passion for our mission. Guest blog by Victoria Campisi, Staff Writer at 1851Franchsie.com [Footprints Floors](https://footprintsfranchise.com/?utm_source=1851franchise.com&utm_medium=article&utm_campaign=hopes-promise-and-footprints-floors-a-partnership-making-a-lasting-impact-2727499), a leading flooring franchise with over 150 locations, is committed to more than just providing top-notch flooring services. Through their [First Fruits Fund](https://1851franchise.com/footprintsfloors/footprints-floors-supports-those-in-need-with-the-first-fruits-fund-2720111#stories), the brand has taken a significant step in giving back to the community by partnering with faith-based organizations that offer holistic family care services. One such partnership is with [Hope’s Promise](https://www.hopespromise.com/?utm_source=1851franchise.com&utm_medium=article&utm_campaign=hopes-promise-and-footprints-floors-a-partnership-making-a-lasting-impact-2727499), a Colorado-based nonprofit dedicated to adoption, orphan care and foster care services. Hope’s Promise began 34 years ago with a mission to create a better adoption experience for families. Founded by [Paula Freeman](https://www.linkedin.com/in/paula-freeman-1b00b314/?utm_source=1851franchise.com&utm_medium=article&utm_campaign=hopes-promise-and-footprints-floors-a-partnership-making-a-lasting-impact-2727499) in Castle Rock, Colorado, the organization has since expanded its focus to include domestic and international adoptions, as well as orphan care and foster care services. “\[Paula\] just felt the Lord calling her to create an adoption agency that would work better for adoptive parents and what she had experienced, and so she started it at her kitchen table and earned her master’s while raising five kids,” said [Colleen Briggs](https://www.linkedin.com/in/colleen-briggs-186a9185/?utm_source=1851franchise.com&utm_medium=article&utm_campaign=hopes-promise-and-footprints-floors-a-partnership-making-a-lasting-impact-2727499), director of orphan care at Hope’s Promise. Initially focused on domestic adoptions, Hope’s Promise soon added international adoptions to their services. The early 2000s brought a new awareness within the organization. “The board and staff really became aware with international adoptions of how many kids were being left behind, and that those kids deserve families as well,” said Briggs. “And so our Orphan Care Program started at that time, and our focus with the Orphan Care Program has always been family-based care. Kids need and thrive in families.” ### The Impact of the First Fruits Fund The partnership between Hope’s Promise and [Footprints Floors](https://1851franchise.com/footprintsfloors/info) through the First Fruits Fund has been a remarkable blessing for both organizations. “Footprints reached out to us by email, wanting to know more about what we do. From our first meeting, it was clear that Footprints Floors shared our passion for helping children in need, both locally and internationally,” Briggs said. “\[They’ve\] been involved in all different capacities — sending volunteers to our events, inviting us to come to their events and supporting our programs.” One of the most impactful aspects of this partnership is the support for Hope’s Promise’s Vietnam program through monthly donations. “There are 30 kids in Vietnam who are going to school because of First Fruits,” Briggs said. “Without Footprints Floors’ intervention, these children wouldn’t have access to stable families or education. It’s life-changing.” ### Looking Ahead: The Future of the Partnership The relationship between Hope’s Promise and Footprints Floors is built on more than just financial contributions — it’s about mutual support and shared values. “\[It’s\] a mutually beneficial relationship,” said [Rachel Bates](https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-bates-907b0a108/?utm_source=1851franchise.com&utm_medium=article&utm_campaign=hopes-promise-and-footprints-floors-a-partnership-making-a-lasting-impact-2727499), director of foster care and adoptions at Hope’s Promise. “Footprints Floors isn’t just a donor; they’re a partner, and we’re so grateful for the friendship and support they’ve provided.” Looking ahead, Hope’s Promise is excited about the future of this partnership. “I hope to see even more relationships develop with Footprints Floors,” said Briggs. “I’d love for their team to visit Vietnam and meet the families they’re impacting firsthand.” As Footprints Floors continues to expand its philanthropic efforts through the First Fruits Fund, the partnership with Hope’s Promise serves as an inspiring model for how businesses can give back in a way that goes beyond writing a check. “There’s just great synergy in that, and great companionship and friendship,” said Briggs. “And I’m just so grateful. It feels like God just plopped them in our lap as a total gift.” ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog --- ### [Foster Care vs Adoption: Which Path is Right for You?](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/foster-care-vs-adoption/) **Published:** December 6, 2024 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** # **Foster Care vs. Adoption: Which Path is Right for You?** The journey to becoming a parent or supporting children in need can take many forms, and two of the most common paths are [**foster care**](https://www.hopespromise.com/foster-care/) and [**adoption**](https://www.hopespromise.com/adoption-resources/). Each option has its unique rewards and challenges. Choosing the right one depends on your goals, resources, and family circumstances. Let’s explore the differences to help you make an informed decision. ## **Understanding Foster Care** ### **What Is Foster Care?** Foster care is a **temporary arrangement** where children who cannot live with their biological families are placed with trained caregivers, also known as foster families. It focuses on providing a safe and stable environment while biological parents work toward family reunification or a permanent solution. ### **Who Can Become a Foster Parent?** Foster parenting is open to people from diverse backgrounds. Common requirements include being over 21, passing background checks, and completing training. Emotional resilience and trauma-informed care, which Hope’s Promise provides, is key. Find detailed guidelines on the [Child Welfare Information Gateway](https://www.childwelfare.gov/topics/permanency/foster-care/?top=122). ### **The Foster Care Process** The process includes an information meeting, application, training, home assessments, and child placements. Durations vary based on the child’s needs and family circumstances. You can learn more the process [here](https://www.hopespromise.com/the-steps-to-becoming-a-foster-parent/). ## **Understanding Adoption** ### **What Is Adoption?** Adoption is a **legal process** creating a lifelong parent-child relationship. Unlike foster care, adoption is permanent and transfers all parental rights to adoptive parents. ### **Types of Adoption** - **Domestic Adoption**: Within the same country. - **International Adoption**: Involves adopting a child from another country. - **Adoption Through Foster Care**: A cost-effective way to adopt. ### **The Adoption Process** The adoption process includes an information meeting, application, home studys, training, and legal finalization. Timelines vary based on [adoption type](https://www.hopespromise.com/2021/03/10/open-vs-closed-adoption-what-15-years-has-taught-me/) and jurisdiction. ## **Key Differences Between Foster Care and Adoption** ### **Legal and Financial Considerations** Foster care is state-supported, often including stipends for care, whereas adoption typically involves legal costs, especially for private or international adoptions. ### **Time Commitment and Permanency** Foster care is temporary, aiming for family reunification, while adoption is lifelong. Both options provide the opportunity to positively impact a child’s life. ### **Emotional Aspects** Foster parents face challenges such as reunifications, while adoptive parents work on bonding and the child’s adjustment and providing them with emotional resources. ## **Conclusion** Both foster care and adoption provide life-changing ways to alter the trajectory of a child’s life by providing a stable and loving family. Whether you choose the temporary yet impactful route of foster care or the permanent path of adoption, thorough research and support can guide your decision. Looking for more stories, updates, and resources about adoption, foster care, and orphan care? Visit our main blog page at [Hope’s Promise Blog](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/) to discover more resources and join us in writing stories of hope together. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Adoption, Foster Care --- ### [Addressing Adoptee Citizenship Concerns](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/adoptee-citizenship-concerns/) **Published:** February 25, 2025 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Excerpt:** Hope's Promise shares valuable information regarding adoptee citizenship concerns, thanks to this Q & A from the National Council for Adoption. **Content:** by the National Council for Adoption, Ryan Hanlon Hope’s Promise is dedicated to sharing impactful information and resources to our adoptive families. Recent news articles and public conversations about immigration, deportation, and birthright citizenship have led some intercountry adoptive parents to worry about their child’s citizenship status. This makes sense: The U.S. citizenship laws are relatively complex, and there have been [news articles](https://www.thebaltimorebanner.com/national/trump-international-adoption-maryland-asian-immigration-deportation-WMK3QRPRPJCWVHCHSHWNHC6IBI/) raising questions about whether adoptees would be impacted. This list of frequently asked questions will help shed light on this incredibly important topic. Read more **[HERE](https://adoptioncouncil.org/article/addressing-adoptee-citizenship-concerns/)**. Thank you to the NCFA for continuing to provide valuable information with regard to adoption! ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** adoptee, adoptee citizenship, citizenship --- ### [The Role of Orphan Care in Global Communities](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/the-role-of-orphan-care-in-global-communities/) **Published:** March 25, 2025 **Author:** Hope's Promise **Content:** ## Introduction to Orphan Care In a world where millions of children face life without parental care, the need for supportive, loving environments has never been greater. [**Orphan care**](https://www.hopespromise.com/orphan-care/) has become a critical pillar for global communities striving to provide every child with the stability and love that a family offers. Traditional orphanages have been a longstanding solution, but more family-centered approaches are emerging, aiming to give children not just shelter but also a sense of belonging and support. Understanding how orphan care operates in global contexts reveals just how transformative community-based, family-oriented systems can be for children and society as a whole. Read more about Hope’s Promise’s approach in our blog [Why We Discontinued Child Sponsorship](https://www.hopespromise.com/2024/08/28/why-we-discontinued-child-sponsorship/). ## Why Orphan Care Matters in Today’s World Orphan care extends beyond helping individual children; it builds stronger communities. Children raised with family support often grow up to become well-adjusted, productive members of society. Yet without support, many orphans face risks of poverty, lack of education, and even exploitation. **Orphan care programs** play a significant role in providing hope and stability, aiming to give each child a chance to reach their potential. When communities come together to support orphan care initiatives, they create an environment where children and families alike can thrive. ## The Global Scope of Orphanhood There are an estimated **150 million orphaned children** worldwide—a staggering number that speaks to the need for effective care solutions \[[link](https://cafo.org/orphan-care-statistics/#:~:text=UNICEF%20estimates%20that%20there%20are,who%20have%20lost%20both%20parents.)\]. Orphanhood arises from a variety of causes, including poverty, disease, war, and natural disasters. In some regions, societal and economic challenges, such as health crises and conflicts, can exacerbate the number of children without family care. Recognizing the scope and underlying causes of orphanhood helps us address the needs of vulnerable children with compassion and cultural sensitivity. ### Traditional vs. Modern Approaches to Orphan Care Historically, orphanages served as the primary model for providing shelter to children without parents. However, research has shown that children fare better in **family-centered settings** than in large, institutionalized facilities. Today, we see a significant shift towards family-based solutions, such as kinship care, foster programs, and community involvement. **Modern orphan care models** encourage communities to act as extended families, providing children with a sense of security and permanence that institutional care often lacks. ## Models of Family-Based Orphan Care **Kinship care**, where relatives or extended family take in orphaned children, has proven effective, especially in preserving the child’s connection to their heritage and culture. In other cases, **foster care programs** enable non-related families to open their homes to orphans, giving them a chance to experience family life. Long-term guardianship and adoption are also common pathways, with adoption providing the opportunity for children to become a permanent part of a family. Each of these models highlights the value of a child-centered, holistic approach to care. ## The Church and Faith-Based Organizations in Orphan Care Faith-based organizations have a longstanding role in orphan care, often leading the charge in establishing community-focused, family-centered care models. Many churches view orphan care as a **mission-driven effort**, aiming to address both the physical and emotional needs of children \[[link](https://thesignatry.com/blog/the-churchs-role-in-global-orphan-care/)\]. These organizations offer vital resources, from financial support to volunteer caregivers, and have established innovative programs that inspire hope. Many success stories in orphan care have roots in faith-driven missions, with countless children finding homes and communities through such initiatives. ## Challenges Facing Global Orphan Care Efforts While the global orphan care movement has made great strides, it faces significant obstacles. Financial constraints often limit the resources available for fostering and adoption programs. Moreover, social stigmas in some cultures make foster care and adoption less accessible, as societal expectations may discourage these practices. In some regions, local laws can further complicate adoption and kinship care, making it challenging for families who want to help. Overcoming these barriers requires both government support and community-level efforts to normalize and champion the idea of family-based care. ## Hope and Healing: Success Stories of Orphan Care In countless communities, [orphan care programs have transformed lives](https://www.hopespromise.com/2021/07/07/orphan-care-you-cant-do-everything-but-you-can-do-something/). For instance, children once confined to institutional care have found families, and with them, a new lease on life. **Volunteer and community-driven programs** have empowered youth to succeed in school, build careers, and give back to their communities. Stories of resilience and healing offer hope and inspiration, demonstrating that every child, no matter their background, has the potential to thrive when given the right support. ## How You Can Make a Difference in Orphan Care The need for compassionate advocates and volunteers in orphan care is ongoing. **Volunteering**, whether through local foster care programs or international advocacy, can make a direct impact. Supporting organizations that focus on family-based care models, contributing financially to orphan care initiatives, or simply spreading awareness can change lives. Advocacy on behalf of orphans and vulnerable children is also essential; raising awareness helps remove social and cultural stigmas, making family-based care a viable option for more children. ## Conclusion: Creating a Future for Every Child Orphan care goes beyond providing shelter—it’s about nurturing hope and fostering a supportive community for every child. As communities, organizations, and individuals come together to support family-based care initiatives, we move closer to a world where all children have the opportunity to grow up in loving, stable environments. Through our collective actions, we can help ensure that every child experiences the love and support they need to build a brighter future. Now is the time to step up, spread the word, and make a difference in the lives of millions of orphaned children across the globe. To explore more stories, resources, and information that can guide you on your journey, we invite you to visit our main blog page at [Hope’s Promise Blog](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/). Whether you’re an expectant parent, an adoptive family, or someone interested in supporting vulnerable children, our articles can provide the information and encouragement you need. ![author avatar](https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/79b37f42d237c8264aac3a979ee7c613ab76cba0d2f15529dacc3d9ccac7b31e?s=300&d=mm&r=g) Hope's Promise [See Full Bio](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) [ ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/author/hopespromise/) **Categories:** Blog **Tags:** Orphan Care, Orphans --- ## Pages ### [Home](https://www.hopespromise.com/) **Published:** May 24, 2017 **Author:** Andrew Dodson **Content:** # Empowering *Children* to Thrive-One Family at a Time Strengthening children and families through foster care, adoption, global orphan care, and pregnancy services. ![badge](http://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge") ## Family is God’s design for every child. 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[ Learn More ](https://www.hopespromise.com/global-orphan-care/) --- ### [Career Opportunities](https://www.hopespromise.com/careers/) **Published:** May 6, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** ![badge](http://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge") # Career Opportunities ### **Foster Care Caseworker (Full-Time)** Location: Castle Rock, CO (some travel required within Colorado’s Front Range) Schedule: 40 hours per week | Some schedule flexibility; requires occasional evening/weekend availability Salary: The starting salary for this position is $58,000. Click [***HERE***](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/Foster-Care-Caseworker-Job-Board-Posting-7-1-25.pdf) for the full job description. --- ### [Food Festival](https://www.hopespromise.com/food-festival/) **Published:** May 14, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** ![#image_title](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/2022-Food-Festival-signage-4-scaled.png "2022 Food Festival signage 4") Thursday, September 24, 2026 | 6:00 pm – 8:30 pm | Ferguson Showroom | 1880 W. Oxford Ave., Englewood, CO 80110 EVENT DESCRIPTION ## 2026 Hope’s Promise Food Festival Thank you for your interest in the Hope’s Promise Food Festival. We are so excited for you to join us this year. This is going to be the best Food Festival yet! This event will feature delicious food creations from some of your favorite local restaurants, plus wine and beer vendors. There will also be a silent auction and live cooking demonstrations. Join us for a great event benefiting Hope’s Promise’s three, life-changing programs: foster care, adoption, and orphan care. ### Proceeds will: - Train and support for foster families - Provide temporary housing for women experiencing an unexpected pregnancy - Empower families so we can serve more children through our orphan care programs in Kenya, Zimbabwe, Nepal, and Vietnam - Provide lifetime counseling services for birth families and adoptive families. ### EVENT DETAILS: **Must be 21 to attend**. You can purchase individual tickets at $60 each or a group of 10 tickets for $500. Each ticket purchased includes two drink tickets and unlimited fun! ## Event Registration ## See how *you* can get involved ![Buy a Ticket](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Buy-a-Ticket.svg "Buy a Ticket") ### Buy a Ticket Each ticket purchased includes two drink tickets and unlimited fun! [ Purchase Tickets! ](https://handbid.app.link/BXrBrmEfw5b) ![Become a Sponsor](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Become-a-Sponsor.svg "Become a Sponsor") ### [ Be a Sponsor ](https://hopes-promise.givecloud.co/food-festival-sponsor "Be a Sponsor") Your participation is integral in making this a successful event. [ Become a Sponsor ](https://events.handbid.com/auctions/2026-hopes-promise-food-festival/sponsorships) ![Silent Auction](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Silent-Auction.svg "Silent Auction") ### Silent Auction Can’t be with us at the event? Support us through our silent auction. Bid on Silent Auction- COMING SOON! Support Hope’s Promise ## BE A FOOD FESTIVAL SPONSOR ### Presenting Sponsor- $10,000 The Presenting Sponsor will have a strong presence at the event representing their business, with their logo attached to all event logos, marketing, and communication. Also Includes: - Opportunity to speak during our short event program - Company logo on all event logos, marketing, and communication - 10 complimentary tickets to the Food Festival - MC “thank you” during event ### Hospitality Sponsor- $5,000 The hospitality sponsors will have a strong presence at the event representing their business. 5-10 volunteers from your business or organization will be in charge of a variety of event tasks such as managing the silent auction area, walking around the event checking on guests, managing our open-air photo booth, serving drinks at drink stations, taking our trash as needed, etc. Volunteers will need to be available on Thursday, September 24th from 5:00 pm – 9:00 pm. As an added bonus, volunteers will also have time to “shop” our silent auction and taste some of the amazing food at our Food Festival. This event is an absolute blast! Also Includes: - Free entry for up to 10 volunteer participants - Company name on custom nametags - Company logo on Hope’s Promise website - Company logo on sponsor signage at the event - MC “thank you” during event ### Passport Sponsor $3,000 The passport is a card all guests will receive upon arrival. We include questions to see how well guests know Hope’s Promise. The answer card is turned in at the end of the night for a chance at an amazing prize. Your logo will appear at the top of the card as the passport sponsor. This is prime logo placement as the passport is at every guest’s fingertips. Also Includes: - 2 event tickets - Company logo on Hope’s Promise website - Company logo on sponsor signage at the event - MC “thank you” during event ### Welcome Table Sponsor $2,000 All guests will register upon arrival and check-out upon departure, where your logo will be present on the table and computers. Also Includes: - 2 event tickets - Company logo on Hope’s Promise website - Company logo on sponsor signage at the event - MC “thank you” during event ### Drink Ticket Sponsor $2,000 Description: All guests will receive two drink tickets for the evening. Your logo will appear on the drink tickets. Also Includes: - 2 event tickets - Company logo on Hope’s Promise website - Company logo on sponsor signage at the event - MC “thank you” during event ### Silent Auction Sponsor $2,000 Your company logo will be present in multiple spots throughout the silent auction area stating “Silent Auction Presented By (your company name)”. Also Includes: - 2 event tickets - Company logo on Hope’s Promise website - Company logo on sponsor signage at the event - MC “thank you” during event --- ### [Connection Trips](https://www.hopespromise.com/global-orphan-care/trips/) **Published:** May 7, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** CONNECTION TRIPS # See the *impact* firsthand Come experience the Hope’s Promise orphan care program! Discover God’s heart for orphaned and vulnerable children and witness firsthand how families make all the difference. Learn, connect, and advocate for the children and families you meet. [ Donate to Connection Trips ](https://www.hopespromise.com/global-orphan-care/trips/#donate) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Orphan-Trips-1.jpg) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Orphan-Trips-2.jpg) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Untitled-design-2025-06-03T132812.232-1.png) ![Untitled design - 2025-06-03T132648.253 (1)](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Untitled-design-2025-06-03T132648.253-1.png "Untitled design - 2025-06-03T132648.253 (1)") ## 2027 KENYA CONNECTION TRIP **Dates:** April 7-18, 2027 **Approximate trip cost**: $3,400\* (dependent on final airfare) **Application Deadline:** October 1, 2026 **Team Size**: 15 If you like working with kids, this is the trip for you! Come alongside Kenyan leaders to host a weeklong day camp for 80 kids in our relative based orphan care program, Kuza, in Mathare Valley, a six square mile slum in Nairobi. Get to know the kids and staff as you help lead the day camp and return home equipped with advocacy stories about specific kids. ![Orphan Trips - 5](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Orphan-Trips-5.jpg "Orphan Trips - 5") ## 2027 ZIMBABWE CONNECTION TRIP **Dates:** May 23-June 3, 2027 **Approximate trip cost**: $4,500\* (dependent on final airfare) **Team Size**: 10 **Application Deadline:** October 15, 2026 If you want to learn about complex, systemic causes of poverty and orphanhood while encouraging those who create networks of support for the most vulnerable, this is the trip for you. Visit Hope’s Promise families’ homes and ministry partner sites such as churches, rehab centers, and economic development projects. Become equipped to advocate for a unique ministry paradigm working to build families’ capacity to care for orphaned children. I was able to be part of a Connection Team to visit and support the work of Hope’s Promise in Vietnam. I highly recommend both supporting their work there and joining a Connection Team if you can. The dedicated caretakers are making life better for children who might otherwise end up in orphanages or worse. We met a lot of beautiful souls! Kristy Q Connection Trip Member ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge") For more information, or to be added to the early invitation list for any of these teams, contact . *\*Trip expenses not covered include items such as visa, immunizations, airport meals/snacks, and child abuse background check.* ## Support our trips ## Donate to a Connection Trip ![Support a Kenya team](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Support-a-Kenya-team.svg "Support a Kenya team") ### Support a Kenya Connection Trip in honor of a team member Enable a team member to experience Kenya’s vibrant culture while seeing firsthand how your support transforms orphaned children’s lives. [ Give Now ](https://form-renderer-app.donorperfect.io/give/hopes-promise/kenya-connection-team-trip) ![Support a Zimbabwe team](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Support-a-Zimbabwe-team.svg "Support a Zimbabwe team") ### Support a Zimbabwe Connection Trip in honor of a team member Sponsor a participant’s visit to Zimbabwe where they’ll build relationships with our local partners and understand unique challenges facing vulnerable children. [ Give Now ](https://form-renderer-app.donorperfect.io/give/hopes-promise/zimbabwe-connection-team-trip) ![Support a Vietnam team member](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Support-a-Vietnam-team-member.svg "Support a Vietnam team member") ### Support a Vietnam Connection Trip in honor of a team member Fund a life-changing journey to Vietnam where your sponsored participant will witness the resilience of children finding hope. [ Give Now ](https://form-renderer-app.donorperfect.io/give/hopes-promise/vietnam-connection-team-trip) --- ### [Impact & Financials](https://www.hopespromise.com/impact/) **Published:** May 9, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge") # Impact & Financials Your generosity fuels every aspect of our mission, allowing us to expand our reach and deepen our impact for children in need both locally and globally. Hope’s Promise maintains the highest standards of financial transparency and stewardship, with regular detailed reporting and audits ensuring your gifts are maximized to transform children’s lives. ## Transparency in Action See how your compassion creates lasting change. [ ![#image_title](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/2025-Annual-Report-1.png "2025 Annual Report 1") ](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/2025-Annual-Report-FINAL.pdf) ### 2025 [ ![2024 Annual Report](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/2024-Annual-Report.png "2024 Annual Report") ](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/2024-Annual-Report-FINAL.pdf) ### 2024 [ ![2023-Annual-Report-232x300](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/2023-Annual-Report-232x300-1.png "2023-Annual-Report-232x300") ](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/2023-Annual-Report-FINAL.pdf) ### 2023 [ ![Annual-Report-ideas-4-232x300](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Annual-Report-ideas-4-232x300-1.png "Annual-Report-ideas-4-232x300") ](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/FINAL-2022-Annual-Report-3.pdf) ### 2022 [ ![2021-Hopes-Promise-Annual-Report-232x300](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/2021-Hopes-Promise-Annual-Report-232x300-1.png "2021-Hopes-Promise-Annual-Report-232x300") ](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/FINAL-2021-Hopes-Promise-Annual-Report.pdf) ### 2021 --- ### [Steps to Become a Foster Parent](https://www.hopespromise.com/foster-care/steps-to-becoming-a-foster-parent/) **Published:** May 8, 2025 **Author:** Louder Agency **Content:** ![Foster Care - 1](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Foster-Care-1-1.jpg "Foster Care - 1") Next Steps # Becoming a *foster parent*. Are you interested in becoming a foster parent? Are you flexible, dependable, tolerant, and open to learning new parenting styles? Then fostering might be right for you! You must be at least 21 years old, able to pass background clearances, and in good physical health. [ Learn More ](#process)## The process of becoming a foster parent. The process of becoming a certified foster parent includes the following steps: 1 ### Attend a Hope’s Promise information meeting This meeting will give you an opportunity to learn more about the foster care system, explore if foster care is right for you, and get your questions answered. 2 ### Attend a pre-application one-on-one meeting Learn about the foster care certification process and explore which children might be the right fit for your family. It’s a chance for us to get to know each other and see how we can best support your journey. 3 ### Submit an application Complete and submit the standardized Colorado foster parent application. 4 ### Attend an orientation meeting At the orientation meeting, you’ll learn to use your online portal for background checks, licensing paperwork, and home study documents, plus get key information about foster care regulations and Hope’s Promise policies. 5 ### Complete state-required pre-certification training Colorado requires that every prospective foster parent complete 27 hours of pre-certification training in addition to other required training, such as CPR and First Aid. 6 ### Complete paperwork and home study assessment Hope’s Promise uses an online platform for convenient paperwork completion and submission. Upload documents to your personalized portal and track progress easily. Once complete, your caseworker will guide you through the home study process, including three interviews and a home safety inspection. 7 ### Become certified You’ll be certified as a Colorado foster parent once you complete three requirements: an approved home study, 27 hours of required training, and CPR/First Aid certification. 8 ### Begin accepting placements of youth needing foster care After becoming a certified foster parent, you can offer children and their families the support they need to heal and grow. ## Start your journey ## Take your *next* step. ![Attend an info session](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Attend-an-info-session.svg "Attend an info session")### Attend an info session Learn more about the foster care system and discover if foster is right for you. [ Learn More ](https://www.hopespromise.com/foster-care/info-sessions/) ![hopes_promise_icon_3](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_icon_3.webp "hopes_promise_icon_3")### Review foster care FAQs Get answers the most frequently asked questions surrounding Foster Care. [ Learn More ](https://www.hopespromise.com/foster-care/#faq) ![Review foster care FAQs](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Review-foster-care-FAQs.svg "Review foster care FAQs")### Download an Application Download and fill out our application for adoption-your journey starts here. [ Download ](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Foster-Care-Application.pdf) --- ### [I Want to Adopt](https://www.hopespromise.com/christian-adoption/) **Published:** May 7, 2025 **Author:** Louder Agency **Content:** ![Christian Adoption - 1](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Christian-Adoption-1.jpg "Christian Adoption - 1") Christian Adoptions in Colorado # Building *forever families* – one child at a time. Begin your adoption journey with local experienced guidance, comprehensive training, and lifelong support. [ Attend an Info Session ](https://www.hopespromise.com/christian-adoption/info-sessions/) [ Request Info ](https://www.hopespromise.com/contact-us/) ![badge](http://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge") ## A *Christ-centered* journey through the adoption process. [ ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Screenshot-2025-05-22-at-11.51.54 AM.png) Play Video ](https://youtu.be/XBT2Gj6-4c0?feature=shared) Christian Adoption Agency ## 35+ Years of helping Colorado families grow through adoption. For over 35 years, thousands of Colorado families have partnered with Hope’s Promise to grow their families through adoption-impacting lives for generations to come. [ Learn More ](https://www.hopespromise.com/about-us/)### Trusted local support, every step of the way. Experience personalized guidance and compassionate support from a local adoption agency you can trust. ### Comprehensive training. Confident parenting. Gain the skills you need to welcome your child with confidence through expert training from our experienced team. ### A partnership where your voice leads. Hope’s Promise comes alongside you, recognizing your family’s uniqueness, to help navigate what’s best-listening, never dictating. ![Christian Adoption - 2](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Christian-Adoption-2.jpg "Christian Adoption - 2") ## Personalized domestic adoption. Every family is unique and so is every domestic adoption story. At Hope’s Promise, we take the time to understand your needs, offering personalized guidance and support. From your first conversation to finalizing your adoption, we tailor every step to help you feel confident, supported, and prepared to welcome your child home. ## Our flexible adoption services. Hope’s Promise offers flexibility in domestic infant adoption, providing families with multiple pathways to grow their family. ### Matching Options: **Hope’s Promise Match:** Connect with expectant parents through Hope’s Promise\* **Out-of-State Agency/Attorney Match:** Work with a licensed child placement agency, consultant, or attorney across the United States to find a match **Designated/Self-Match:** Self-Match with an expectant parent in Colorado or out of state \*In order to keep our waiting pool to a reasonable size so we can provide personalized, high-quality support to each family, applicants are at times placed on a waiting list. Please contact us for more information or to find out about our current wait times. ![Christian Adoption - 3](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Christian-Adoption-3.jpg "Christian Adoption - 3") ## Domestic adoption criteria Understanding the basic criteria is the first step. Our criteria focuses on ensuring that prospective adoptive parents can provide a safe, stable, and loving home. ### Basic requirements for all adoption programs: - Colorado residency - Ages 21-50 - Health insurance coverage - Agreement with marijuana and discipline policies ### Additional requirements for the Hope’s Promise matching program: - Married for minimum of 2 years - No more than 2 children currently in the home - Infertility history of 1 year or more Home Study Services ## Flexible *home study* services. As a licensed home study provider, Hope’s Promise offers flexible, tailored services to meet your unique adoption needs. [ Learn More ](https://www.hopespromise.com/home-study-services/) ![Christian Adoption - 4](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Christian-Adoption-3-1.jpg "Christian Adoption - 4") What to Expect ## Explore the adoption *journey*. 1 ### Initial Inquiry & Consultation Group info meetings and one-on-one consults give you the opportunity to ask questions and receive guidance on next steps-no commitment required. 2 ### Home Study & Approval During your home study, you’ll receive a thorough family assessment including home visits, interviews, paperwork, and education to prepare for your adoption. 3 ### Matching & Placement After matching through our waiting pool, out-of-state agency or attorney, or expectant family designation, we’ll provide placement support to ensure a smooth process for your family. 4 ### Post-Placement Support Personalized support continues post-placement with monthly check-ins, training, and counseling through finalization-and beyond-with guidance and resources whenever you need it. We cannot imagine going through this without Hope’s Promise. Their compassion, empathy, and wisdom in navigating open adoption was invaluable. Sarah P. adoptive parent ## Upcoming info sessions: [ Mar 9 Adoption Information Meeting ### Adoption Information Meeting March 9 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm Join us via Zoom for an information meeting to learn more about our adoption programs. Registration is required. The Zoom login and materials will be emailed to participants the day… ](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/adoption-information-meeting/2026-03-09/) [ Apr 13 Adoption Information Meeting ### Adoption Information Meeting April 13 @ 3:00 pm – 4:00 pm Join us via Zoom for an information meeting to learn more about our adoption programs. Registration is required. The Zoom login and materials will be emailed to participants the day… ](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/adoption-information-meeting/2026-04-13/) [ May 11 Adoption Information Meeting ### Adoption Information Meeting May 11 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm Join us via Zoom for an information meeting to learn more about our adoption programs. Registration is required. The Zoom login and materials will be emailed to participants the day… ](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/adoption-information-meeting/2026-05-11/) [ View All Upcoming Info Sessions ](https://www.hopespromise.com/christian-adoption/info-sessions/) ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge") ## Frequently asked questions ### How long does the domestic adoption process typically take? The timeline for domestic infant adoption varies for each family, but typically averages 2 years from application to placement. Several factors can influence this timeline, including your openness to various situations, the speed of your home study completion, and the preferences of expectant parents. Agency-matched adoptions may have different timelines than self-matched situations. We work closely with each family to provide realistic expectations and support throughout the waiting period. ### How much does adoption cost? Our adoption fees vary based on the amount of services we provide and the expenses incurred. We are committed to transparency in our fee structure. We provide detailed information about costs during your initial consultation and offer guidance on grants, tax credits, and financing options to help make adoption more affordable. ### How are adoptive families selected by birth parents? Birth parents select adoptive families based on profiles that showcase your life, values, home, and reasons for adopting. The selection process works as follows: - Adoptive families create compelling profiles with photos and personal information - Birth parents review profiles that match their preferences - Birth parents select families they’d like to learn more about - If both parties are comfortable, a meeting or call may be arranged - The relationship develops according to everyone’s comfort level Hope’s Promise provides guidance on creating authentic, thoughtful profiles and supports both parties through the matching process to ensure a comfortable connection for everyone involved. ### What support do you provide to birth parents? Hope’s Promise offers comprehensive support to expectant and birth parents, including: - Free, confidential counseling throughout pregnancy and after placement - Assistance with pregnancy-related expenses as permitted by state law - Help creating an adoption plan that meets their needs and wishes - Ongoing support and counseling after placement - Connection to community resources for additional needs - Mediation services for ongoing relationships with adoptive families Our commitment is to ensure birth parents feel respected, supported, and empowered throughout their decision-making process. ### How long does a birth parent have to change their mind in Colorado? Colorado law requires that all relinquishing birth parents receive counseling from a licensed agency. There are two legal relinquishment processes in Colorado. The legal risk period depends on which legal option is utilized. The legal risk period can range from a few days to several weeks depending on the circumstances of the case. This is a voluntary process, and we proceed with each expectant parent when they feel ready. ### Do you facilitate open adoptions? How does Hope’s Promise define open adoption? Yes, most of our domestic placements are open. The degree of openness, however, is mutually agreed upon between the birth and adoptive families. We define open adoption as an adoption where full identifying information has been shared between the birth and adoptive families. They have met and plan to keep in personal contact with one another after the child is placed with the adoptive family and after the birth mother has legally relinquished her rights. Letters and pictures are usually exchanged several times per year. ## Adoption Resources ### Adoption Grants [Adopt A Love Story](https://www.adoptalovestory.com/) [Lifesong for Orphans](https://lifesong.org/adoptionadoption-grants/) [A Child Waits Foundation](http://www.achildwaits.org/) [Show Hope](https://showhope.org/our-work/adoption-aid/apply-for-a-grant/) [Kids for Kyla](https://kidsforkyla.squarespace.com/) [Pathways for Little Feet](https://pathwaysforlittlefeet.org/) [America’s Christian Credit Union](https://www.americaschristiancu.com/personal/loans/adoption-loans.html) [ABBA Fund](https://www.abbafund.org/#panel1-1) [Katelyn’s Fund](https://katelynsfund.org/adoption-grants/criteria-and-guidelines/) [God’s Grace Adoption Ministry](https://ggam.org/) [Gift of Adoption Fund](https://giftofadoption.org/apply-for-a-grant/) [North American Council on Adoptable Children](https://www.nacac.org/help/adoption-assistance/) [Associates Home Loan](https://www.associateshomeloan.com/adoptiongrant/) ### Adoption Tax Credit [IRS Tax Credit and Adoption Assistance](https://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc607) [Bill’s Tax Service](https://centralia-il-taxservice.com/) [Adoption.com Article on Adoption Tax Credit](https://adoption.com/wiki/Adoption_Tax_Credit) [Article on Qualifications for Adoption Tax Credit](https://www.thebalance.com/adoption-tax-credit-3193005) [NACAC Article on Adoption Tax Credit](https://www.nacac.org/help/adoption-tax-credit/) ### Order Your Birth Certificates Online [VitalChek](https://www.vitalchek.com/) [Colorado Birth Certificates](https://www.colorado.gov/pacific/cdphe/birth-certificates) ### Out of State Agency Resources [American Adoptions ](https://www.americanadoptions.com/adopt/national_adoption_agencies) [Adopt Match](https://www.adoptmatch.com/) [ Have more questions? Contact us ](https://www.hopespromise.com/contact-us/)## Next Steps ## Begin your *adoption* journey. ![Attend an info session](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Attend-an-info-session.svg "Attend an info session") ### Attend an info session Learn more about the adoption process and get your questions answered. [ Learn More ](https://www.hopespromise.com/christian-adoption/info-sessions/) ![Request free info](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Request-free-info.svg "Request free info") ### Request information Explore how adoption could change a child’s life and transform your family. [ Learn More ](https://www.hopespromise.com/contact-us/) ![Review foster care FAQs](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Review-foster-care-FAQs.svg "Review foster care FAQs") ### Download an Application Download and fill out our application for adoption-your journey starts here. [ Download ](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/02/Adoption-Application-2025.pdf) --- ### [I'm Pregnant](https://www.hopespromise.com/pregnancy-support-counseling/) **Published:** April 7, 2025 **Author:** Louder Agency **Content:** ![I'm Pregnant - 1](http://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/1.jpg "I'm Pregnant - 1") PREGNANCY COUNSELING AND SUPPORT # Compassionate, *judgment-free* pregnancy support and counseling. Facing an unexpected pregnancy? Access compassionate support and resources to help you explore your options. [ Request Free Info Packet ](http://www.hopespromise.com/pregnancy-support-counseling/request-info/) [ Meet Waiting Families ](http://www.hopespromise.com/meet-families/) Text or call us 24/7 with any questions: Phone: (303) 660-0277 Text: (303) 596-7268 [ Talk to a Counselor ](http://www.hopespromise.com/pregnancy-support-counseling/contact/) ![badge](http://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")## Explore your *options* with confidence. We’re here to support you as you explore options and make important decisions that are right for you. ### Local to Colorado Meet with a counselor in person, wherever you’re most comfortable, to discuss your options and process next steps. ### 24/7 Guidance and Support Count on compassionate support from our experienced staff, with free counseling available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. ### 100% Confidential Rest assured that your story, process, and decisions will always remain completely confidential with Hope’s Promise. ### No judgement. Only options. Decide on the next chapter of your story with non-judgmental guidance and support every step of the way. [ ![](http://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Screenshot-2025-05-22-at-1.23.42 PM.png) Play Video ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mq2acPQ35Gc)## Your choice shapes their tomorrow ## Empowering you to make the best choice for your child. Supporting your journey with compassion. Whatever path you choose-parenting or adoption-we provide the resources you need to succeed. We offer: Free crisis pregnancy counseling services Financial aid for pregnancy-related expenses Assistance with applying for Medicaid if needed Adoption services or help creating a parenting plan, whatever is right for you ![](http://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/2.jpg) ![](http://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/3.jpg) ![Untitled design - 2025-05-22T125824.827 (1)](http://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Untitled-design-2025-05-22T125824.827-1.png "Untitled design - 2025-05-22T125824.827 (1)") Free Info Packet ## Get a free pregnancy options packet. Gain the information you need to make the best decision for your unique life situation. In this packet, you’ll find further information about your options and answers to questions that may arise, like: - What are my options? - What types of adoptions are there? - What kind of support is available? [ Get My Free Packet ](http://www.hopespromise.com/pregnancy-support-counseling/request-info/) ![badge](http://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")## Meet our waiting families. Our waiting families are ready to welcome a child and open to developing a healthy open adoption relationship that works for you. [ ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Profile-Photo-1005x585-1.jpeg) ### Greg & Asha ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/meet-families/greg-asha/) [ ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/MainPhoto-1-e1689026685438.jpg) ### Josh & Dannika ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/meet-families/josh-dannika/) [ ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Kelly-Laura-Profile-scaled-e1689372769637-880x1024.jpg) ### Kelly & Laura ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/meet-families/kelly-laura/) [ ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Untitled-design-2025-05-28T154126.617-1.png) ### Anthony & Anne-Margaret ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/meet-families/anthony-anne-margaret/) [ ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/cover-photo-1-e1733186827857-1024x863.jpg) ### Mark & Monica ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/meet-families/mark-monica/) [ ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Profile-Cover-scaled-1-1024x1024.jpg) ### Travis & Rachel ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/meet-families/travis-rachel/) [ ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/DSC_8383-scaled-1-684x1024.jpeg) ### Eddie & Jessica ](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/meet-families/eddie-jessica/)I can barely begin expressing how thankful I am for this organization. I contacted Hope’s Promise when I found myself with an unplanned pregnancy and not in the place I felt I was able to parent. I am so thankful and blessed to be a part of the Hope’s Promise family! Christina L. birth mom ## Frequently Asked Questions ### Can I talk to someone? Yes! We can meet at a place convenient for you or you can come to our office. Call [(303) 660-0277]() to speak with a pregnancy counselor and schedule a free appointment. Trained counselors are on call 24 hours a day to serve you. You can also contact us [here](http://www.hopespromise.com/pregnancy-support-counseling/contact/) or text (303) 596-7268. If you have an after-hours emergency, please contact us by phone or text. ### Do I have to make a decision before I contact you? You do not have to decide about adoption before contacting Hope’s Promise. Our compassionate staff will come to you and will give you accurate information on all your options so you can make the best decision for you and your child. We are here to help you sort out your feelings and make a plan that is right for you. Our counseling services are free of charge and we can also help you with pregnancy related expenses, counseling, and support throughout your pregnancy. ### What if I decide to parent? We understand adoption is not the right choice for everyone. If you choose to parent, we will guide you to community resources for help. By contacting Hope’s Promise, you are under no obligation to pursue adoption. ### What is adoption? Adoption is the legal transfer of parental rights and responsibilities from the birth parents to another individual or couple who is willing to assume them. It is a permanent decision. There are many types of adoption: **Open adoption** allows full identifying information to be shared between the birth family and adoptive family (last names, addresses, and phone numbers). Open adoption varies based on the degree of openness the birth and adoptive parents want but typically involves some level of contact. Most of our domestic adoptions are open. **Semi-open adoption** means identifying information is not shared. Ongoing contact between the birth and adoptive families happens through a third party, such as an adoption agency. **Closed adoption** means that no identifying information is shared between the birth and adoptive families, and they do not plan to meet or have any further contact. ### Do I have to sign a contract to work with Hope’s Promise? Do I need a lawyer? No. We do not believe it is ethical for any agency to request a contract. We are here to serve you and help you make the best decision for you and your child. You do not need a lawyer because Colorado is an “agency state” which means adoption must occur through an adoption agency like Hope’s Promise. We will complete all legal steps necessary for your adoption. However, in the event of unusual or complicated legal issues, Hope’s Promise may also use the services of an attorney. ### Can I see and hold my baby after they are born? Absolutely! Whether you see and hold your baby in the hospital is completely up to you. We will work with the hospital staff to ensure that your wishes are met. ### What services do you provide after my child is placed for adoption? We believe adoption doesn’t end at the hospital. We provide lifetime counseling, referrals, and overall support to you and your family. We also offer a virtual monthly support group for birth mothers as well as several in person events throughout the year. If you have other questions, please give us a call at [(303) 660-0277](tel:3036600277). We are here to support you. If you are pregnant and considering your options, fill out [this form](http://www.hopespromise.com/birthmothercontact/) and one of our counselors will contact you. ### When should I see a doctor? If you are [experiencing early signs of pregnancy](https://www.everydayhealth.com/pregnancy/early-signs-of-pregnancy.aspx), we recommend you schedule an appointment with your doctor or visit a free clinic. At this appointment, they will determine your [due date](http://www.yourduedate.com/), provide [resources for pregnancy, labor and delivery](https://www.marchofdimes.org/pregnancy/pregnancy.aspx), and share important information regarding the [effects of drug and alcohol usage](https://www.marchofdimes.org/pregnancy/alcohol-during-pregnancy.aspx) during pregnancy. You will also be counseled about [proper nutrition](https://www.womenshealth.gov/healthy-weight) and prenatal care. You can also visit a pregnancy center in your area for a free pregnancy test: [Alternatives Pregnancy Center in Denver](https://youhavealternatives.org/) [The Pregnancy Center in Grand Junction](http://pregnancy-center.org/) [Colorado Springs Pregnancy Center](https://cspregnancycenter.com/) [The Alpha Center in Fort Collins](https://www.thealphacenter.org/) [The Resource Center for Pregnancy in Greeley](http://tests4greeley.com/) [Lighthouse in Gunnison ](https://lighthousegunnison.org/) [Marisol Health Denver](https://marisolhealth.com/) ### Can my baby be adopted if I’ve used drugs and/or alcohol? Even if you have used drugs and alcohol, Hope’s Promise can help you make an adoption plan for your unborn child. We have many [waiting families](http://www.hopespromise.com/meet-families/) who are ready to parent a child who may have been affected by drugs and/or alcohol. ### How do I know if becoming a parent is right for me? This is a personal choice. We can help. Contact us at [303-660-0277](tel:3036600277) to begin free options counseling. In the meantime, the article [Is Parenthood for you?](http://www.babycenter.com/0_is-parenthood-for-you_7169.bc) raises great questions for you to consider. ### What if I am considering abortion? Before you choose abortion, please get accurate information on the medical procedures and long term physical and emotional effects. We would love to help you consider the options of parenting or adoption instead of abortion. Call us at [303-660-0277 ](tel:3036600277)for a free counseling appointment. ### I don’t have medical insurance; can you help me? Yes. If you do not have medical insurance we can help you submit a Medicaid application. If you are not eligible for Medicaid, and if you make an adoption plan, your medical expenses can be paid by the adoptive parents. ### Can you help me with financial assistance? Yes. In Colorado, we can help with pregnancy related expenses. [ Have more questions? Contact us ](http://www.hopespromise.com/contact-us/)## don’t go through this alone ## Take your *next* step. ![Talk to a counselor](http://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Talk-to-a-counselor.svg "Talk to a counselor")### Talk to a counselor Talk with an experienced counselor who is here to help. [ Learn More ](http://www.hopespromise.com/pregnancy-support-counseling/contact/) ![Request free info](http://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Request-free-info.svg "Request free info")### Request free info Learn more about your options, and discover what’s best for you. [ Learn More ](http://www.hopespromise.com/pregnancy-support-counseling/request-info/) ![Meet waiting families](http://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Meet-waiting-families.svg "Meet waiting families")### Meet waiting families Meet our incredible families ready to build their family through adoption. [ Learn More ](http://www.hopespromise.com/waiting-families/) --- ### [Christian Foster Care](https://www.hopespromise.com/christian-foster-care/) **Published:** June 3, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")# Christian Foster Care: *Answering* the Call As Christians, we are called to care for those in need, especially children who need safe, loving homes. Hope’s Promise partners with local churches and Christian families to support foster care efforts in Colorado, putting faith into action by serving vulnerable children in our community. *“Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress…”* – James 1:27 ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Foster-Care-1-1.jpg) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Facts-Statistics-1.jpg)## Why Choose Hope’s Promise Hope’s Promise stands apart as a faith-centered organization that understands the unique perspectives of Christian foster families. When you partner with us, you gain: ### Faith-Aligned Support Our team shares your Christian values and understands the importance of nurturing both physical and spiritual needs ### Local Focus Our deep roots in Colorado mean we understand the specific needs and resources of our community ### Church Partnerships We actively collaborate with local churches to create a comprehensive support system for foster families ## Why Christian Foster Care Matters Every day in Colorado, an average of ten children enter the foster care system. These children need temporary homes where they can experience stability, compassion, and God’s love during difficult transitions. By opening your home as a Christian foster family, you become the hands and feet of Christ to a child in need. Foster care is not just about providing shelter-it’s about reflecting God’s love and faithfulness to children who have experienced loss, uncertainty, and sometimes trauma. Your home can be a place of healing and hope. ![Home Study Services - 2](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Home-Study-Services-2.jpg "Home Study Services - 2") Our Support ## How We *Support* You At Hope’s Promise, we provide holistic resources for the entire fostering journey. ### Practical Support Our lending closet offers clothing, shoes, diapers, and essentials for children of all ages ### Community Connection Fellowship with other Christian families walking the foster care journey ### Prayer Support A network of churches and individuals committed to praying for foster families and children ### Faith-Based Resources Materials to help you nurture the spiritual development of children in your care ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")## Ways Your *Church* Can Get Involved ![Home 2](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Home-2-1.jpg "Home 2")### Host an Information Session We are called to care for the most vulnerable among us. You can help by hosting an informational session on the urgent foster care needs in your community. ![Orphan Care Tabs - 3](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Orphan-Care-Tabs-3.jpg "Orphan Care Tabs - 3")### Organize Donation Drives Our lending closet is always in need of donations. Every donation-big or small-makes a difference. Host a drive at your church today! ![home-3](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/home-3.jpg "home-3")### Create Support Teams Foster families in your congregation are stepping up to care for vulnerable children-you can step up to support them. Form dedicated Care Teams to wrap around these families with practical help and encouragement. ![Untitled design - 2025-06-03T111459.055 (1)](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Untitled-design-2025-06-03T111459.055-1.png "Untitled design - 2025-06-03T111459.055 (1)")### Pray Prayer is powerful-and our foster children and families need it now more than ever. As a church, you can commit to regularly lifting up those walking through the foster care journey. ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")## Frequently Asked Questions ### Is foster care right for my family? Prayerfully consider how God might be calling your family to serve. Not everyone is called to foster, but everyone can support the foster care community in some way. ### What if I get too attached to the children? Attachment is not just natural-it’s necessary for a child’s healing. Though separation can be painful, providing love and stability, even temporarily, makes an eternal difference in a child’s life. ### How can I balance fostering with my other responsibilities? The body of Christ works together. Your church family and our Hope’s Promise community are here to support you with practical help, respite care, and prayer. [ Have more questions? Contact us ](https://www.hopespromise.com/contact-us/) Christian Foster Care ## Take the Next Step in Faith *“Whoever welcomes one of these little children in my name welcomes me.”* – Mark 9:37 [ Learn More ](https://www.hopespromise.com/contact/) --- ### [2026 Golf Tournament](https://www.hopespromise.com/2026-golf-tournament/) **Published:** May 14, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** ![golf-7](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/golf-7.png "golf-7") Tuesday, July 21st | 8:00 AM | Arrowhead Golf Course | 10850 Sundown Trail, Littleton, CO 80125 EVENT DESCRIPTION ## 2026 Hope’s Promise Golf Tournament We are so excited about the 2026 Hope’s Promise Golf Tournament sponsored by Plum Creek Church. We’ve got some exciting things in store for you. Bring your family, friends, coworkers, neighbors!! Come **golf *fore* good** with us!!! ### Proceeds go directly to: - Train and support foster families - Provide temporary housing for women experiencing an unexpected pregnancy - Care for more children in our orphan care programs in Kenya, Zimbabwe, Nepal, and Vietnam - Provide lifetime counseling services for birth families and adoptive families ### Schedule 7:00am – Golfer registration & warm up 8:00am – Shotgun Start 1:30pm – Awards Luncheon & Auction ## Event Registration ## See how *you* can get involved ![Register to Golf](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Register-to-Golf.svg "Register to Golf") ### Register to Golf It’s time to grab all your friends and help Hope’s Promise to make this the biggest and best golf tournament YET! [ Register your Foursome ](https://form-renderer-app.donorperfect.io/give/hopes-promise/2026-golfer-registration) ![Become a Sponsor](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Become-a-Sponsor.svg "Become a Sponsor") ### Become a Sponsor Your participation is integral in making this a successful event. Would you consider joining us? [ Sponsor Now ](https://form-renderer-app.donorperfect.io/give/hopes-promise/2026-golf-tournament) ![Untitled design - 2025-05-14T154905.586 (1)](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Untitled-design-2025-05-14T154905.586-1.png "Untitled design - 2025-05-14T154905.586 (1)") Support Hope’s Promise ## BE A SPONSOR Are you interested in sponsoring the 2025 Hope’s Promise Golf Tournament? We have two golf tournament sponsorship opportunities: Hole Sponsor ONLY and Hole Sponsor WITH a Foursome. Your participation is integral in making this a successful event. Would you consider joining us? ### HOLE SPONSOR (ONLY): $1,500 - Signage at your assigned hole - Opportunity for staff presence and promotional material at the hole - Logo on all golf promotional material and digital marketing ### HOLE SPONSOR WITH A FOURSOME: $2,500 - Signage at your assigned hole - Opportunity for staff presence and promotional material at the hole - Logo on all golf promotional material and digital marketing - Special mention at the awards luncheon - A foursome! ### APPAREL SPONSOR: $5,000 - Signage at the tournament and specifically the apparel tent - Opportunity for staff presence and promotional material - Logo on all golf promotional material and digital marketing - Special mention at the awards luncheon - A foursome! --- ### [Meet Waiting Families](https://www.hopespromise.com/meet-families/) **Published:** May 6, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")# Meet families waiting to adopt! We help bring families together and give every child their best story. [ ![Greg & Asha](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Profile-Photo-1005x585-1.jpeg) ### Greg & Asha ](https://www.hopespromise.com/meet-families/greg-asha/) [ ![Josh & Dannika](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/MainPhoto-1-e1689026685438.jpg) ### Josh & Dannika ](https://www.hopespromise.com/meet-families/josh-dannika/) [ ![Kelly & Laura](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Kelly-Laura-Profile-scaled-e1689372769637.jpg) ### Kelly & Laura ](https://www.hopespromise.com/meet-families/kelly-laura/) [ ![Anthony & Anne-Margaret](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Untitled-design-2025-05-28T154126.617-1.png) ### Anthony & Anne-Margaret ](https://www.hopespromise.com/meet-families/anthony-anne-margaret/) [ ![Mark & Monica](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/cover-photo-1-e1733186827857-scaled.jpg) ### Mark & Monica ](https://www.hopespromise.com/meet-families/mark-monica/) [ ![Travis & Rachel](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Profile-Cover-scaled-1.jpg) ### Travis & Rachel ](https://www.hopespromise.com/meet-families/travis-rachel/) [ ![Eddie & Jessica](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/DSC_8383-scaled-1.jpeg) ### Eddie & Jessica ](https://www.hopespromise.com/meet-families/eddie-jessica/) I can barely begin expressing how thankful I am for this organization. I contacted Hope’s Promise when I found myself with an unplanned pregnancy and not in the place I felt I was able to parent. I am so thankful and blessed to be a part of the Hope’s Promise family! Christina L. birth mom ## Still Have Questions? Read through our adoption and pregnancy FAQs, or call us today! [ Pregnancy FAQs ](https://www.hopespromise.com/pregnancy-support-counseling/#faq) [ Adoption FAQs ](https://www.hopespromise.com/christian-adoption/#faq) --- ### [Contact Us](https://www.hopespromise.com/contact/) **Published:** May 24, 2017 **Author:** Andrew Dodson **Content:** ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")# Contact Us "\*" indicates required fields Name\*Address Street Address Address Line 2 City State / Province / Region ZIP / Postal Code Email\* PhonePreferred Method of Contact\* Phone Email What's your reason for getting in touch?\*I want to adopt a childI am pregnantI want to learn more about becoming a foster parentI want to learn more about Orphan Care ProgramsI would like some general info about Hope's PromiseInterested in volunteering or career opportunitiesRequesting Info Packet for adoptionOtherMessage\*NameThis field is for validation purposes and should be left unchanged. Send Message Δ ## Our Locations **Hope’s Promise Main Office** 1585 S. Perry Street, Ste. E Castle Rock, CO 80104 **Office Hours:** 8:30-4:30pm M-Th Staff works remotely on Friday **Hope’s Promise Main Office** [303-660-0277](tel:303-660-0277)**Fort Collins Office** [970-263-7771](tel:970-263-7771)**Grand Junction Office** [970-263-7771](tel:970-263-7771)**Colorado Springs Office** [303-660-0277](tel:303-660-0277) --- ### [Get Involved](https://www.hopespromise.com/get-involved/) **Published:** April 4, 2025 **Author:** Louder Agency **Content:** ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge") # Get Involved Transform lives and be part of something great by joining the Hope’s Promise community. Whether you give your time, resources, or voice, there’s a meaningful way for you to help create brighter futures for vulnerable children and families. [ ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Untitled-design-2025-06-09T125150.351-1.png)### Become a Family Champion A Family Champion is a monthly giver who upholds, advocates, supports, and speaks up for orphaned and vulnerable children to receive what they need most: God’s love expressed through family. ](https://www.hopespromise.com/family-champion/ "Become a Family Champion") [ ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Untitled-design-2025-05-23T153332.645-1.png)### Church Partnerships Gather your church or small group to embrace God’s heart for hope and healing by caring for children and families worldwide. ](https://www.hopespromise.com/church-partnerships/ "Church Partnerships") [ ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Untitled-design-2025-06-04T111057.344-1.png)### Community Partnerships Hope’s Promise offers many Community Partnership opportunities for individuals, businesses, and organizations with a heart for children who are dear to God’s heart. ](https://www.hopespromise.com/community-partnerships/ "Community Partnerships") [ ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Untitled-design-2025-06-04T111529.973-1.png)### Connection Trips Come experience the Hope’s Promise orphan care program! Discover God’s heart for orphaned and vulnerable children and witness firsthand how families make all the difference. ](https://www.hopespromise.com/global-orphan-care/trips/ "Connection Trips") [ ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Blog-entry-event-pictures-15.jpg)### Become a Volunteer Hope’s Helpers are the heart of Hope’s Promise-dedicated volunteers who give their time, talents, and compassion to support children and families in Colorado and around the world. From organizing donation drives and assisting at events to providing administrative support and sharing their skills, Hope’s Helpers make our mission possible. ](https://www.hopespromise.com/hopes-helpers-volunteer/ "Become a Volunteer") [ ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/02/JULY-SOCIAL-MEDIA-POSTS.jpg)### Fill a Hope Pack Make a direct impact by filling a Hope Pack – a thoughtfully assembled bag of essential items for children in our global orphan care program. ](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/02/Copy-of-Fill-a-Hope-Pack-3.pdf "Fill a Hope Pack") [ ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Untitled-design-2025-06-04T111317.353-1.png)### All Ways to Give Supporting Hope’s Promise’s mission to serve children and families goes beyond traditional donations. ](https://www.hopespromise.com/give/ "All Ways to Give") --- ### [Volunteer](https://www.hopespromise.com/hopes-helpers-volunteer/) **Published:** April 14, 2026 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Content:** ![Untitled design (7)](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Untitled-design-7.jpg "Untitled design (7)") Hope’s Helpers # You are invited to be a *volunteer*. We invite you to partner with us as we care for orphaned and vulnerable children – and inspire those around you to do the same. [ Download Volunteer Application ](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/1.-Simple-Volunteer-Application-2026-fillable.pdf) [ Connect with Our Team ](https://www.hopespromise.com/contact/) ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge") ## Come alongside us and *partner* with us and our mission. Hope’s Promise believes God designed families as the best place for children to grow and thrive. We are working around the world to strengthen families through ethical, Christ-centered foster care, adoption, and global orphan care. Our adoption and foster care programs serve children and families in Colorado and our global orphan care programs are in Kenya, Nepal, Vietnam, and Zimbabwe . ## Partner With Us ## Ways you can *volunteer* with Hope’s Promise We would not be able to impact children and families around the world without volunteers coming alongside us and partnering with us in our mission. If you’ve reached out in the past about volunteering, we’re grateful for your patience as we worked to create a comprehensive program with the capacity to support our volunteers well. That time has arrived! ![Access a lifetime of support](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Access-a-lifetime-of-support.svg "Access a lifetime of support")### Project Volunteer Project Volunteers assist with specific hands-on projects that directly benefit Hope’s Promise and the families we serve. These opportunities are flexible and perfect for individuals or groups looking to make an impact through tangible, short-term initiatives. **Requirements:** - Complete a simple volunteer application - Participate in designated projects as your schedule allows ![Make a donation](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Make-a-donation.svg "Make a donation")### Core Volunteer Core Volunteers are highly trained team members who work in our office or directly on behalf of Hope’s Promise. These volunteers may interact with the children and families we serve and may have access to confidential information. This role requires a deeper commitment and comprehensive preparation. **Requirements:** - Complete a thorough volunteer application - Pass background checks - Attend an agency orientation - Commit to regular, ongoing service ![Volunteer](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Volunteer.svg "Volunteer")### Event Volunteer Event Volunteers help make our fundraising events, community gatherings, and special programs run smoothly. From set-up to check-in to clean-up, event volunteers ensure our participants have a positive experience. **Requirements:** - Complete a simple volunteer application - Commit to specific event dates and times ![Attend an info session](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Attend-an-info-session.svg "Attend an info session")### Ambassador Volunteer Ambassador Volunteers are our most experienced and trusted representatives who speak at events, engage with donors, and advocate for Hope’s Promise in the community. These volunteers are typically board members or long-time supporters who embody our mission and values. **Requirements:** - Complete a thorough volunteer application - Pass background checks - Attend an agency orientation - Complete specialized training in public speaking and organizational representation - Demonstrated history of support for Hope’s Promise Hope’s Helpers ## Join the mission Every child deserves a family, and every family deserves support. Whether you have a few hours or a long-term commitment, there’s a place for you here. Fill out the application below and email it to volunteer@hopespromise.com. [ Become a Volunteer ](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/1.-Simple-Volunteer-Application-2026-fillable.pdf) --- ### [Our Team](https://www.hopespromise.com/our-team/) **Published:** May 6, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** ![Untitled design - 2025-05-29T114049.622 (1)](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Untitled-design-2025-05-29T114049.622-1.png "Untitled design - 2025-05-29T114049.622 (1)") Hope’s Promise ## Meet Our Team Meet the amazing team that helps guide you through the journeys of an unplanned pregnancy, adoption, and/or orphan care. ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Staff-signatures-1.jpg)### Beth Woods Executive Director ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Rachel-Bates-1.png)### Rachel Bates Director of Foster Care and Adoption ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Colleen-Briggs-1.png)### Colleen Briggs Director of Orphan Care ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/4.jpg)### Kaye Ferguson Director of Operations ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/5.jpg)### Stephanie Krug Director of Marketing and Events ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/3-1.jpg)### Julie Hicks Adoption Placement Supervisor ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/24.jpg)### Liz Melia International Adoption Program Coordinator ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/22.jpg)### Jennifer Watson Grand Junction Caseworker ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/7.jpg)### Krystle Miller Foster Care Placement Supervisor ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/16.jpg)### Callie Ketner Foster/Adoption Caseworker ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/CleanShot-2025-08-12-at-13.04.12@2x.png)### Ashley Hatter Foster Care Certification Worker ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/13.jpg)### Penny Taylor Donor Relations Coordinator ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/27.jpg)### Hannah Crouse Orphan Care Program Manager ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/26.jpg)### Jonna Tellinghuisen Bookkeeper ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/25.jpg)### Kate Nichols Office Manager ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/15.jpg)### Sara Larson Office Administrator ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/23.jpg)### Ashlee Kluth Home Study Caseworker ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/23.jpg)### Katherine Jordan Home Study Caseworker ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/23.jpg)### Sarita Enyeart Home Study Caseworker ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/23.jpg)### Rayna Oertli Foster Care Caseworker ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/20.jpg)### Kim Anh Nguyen Vietnam Country Coordinator ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/19.jpg)### Lydia Neshangwe Zimbabwe Co-Country Coordinator ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/17.jpg)### Paul Neshangwe Zimbabwe Co-Country Coordinator ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/21.jpg)### Prakash Nepal Co-Country Coordinator ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Staff-signatures.jpg)### Sunita Nepal Co-Country Coordinator ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Edith-Karau-1.png)### Edith Karau Kenya Co-Country Coordinator ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Bishop-Jepson-Karau-1.png)### Bishop Jepson Karau Kenya Co-Country Coordinator ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/18.jpg)### Steve Kariithi Kenya Program Director --- ### [Foster Care](https://www.hopespromise.com/foster-care/) **Published:** April 7, 2025 **Author:** Louder Agency **Content:** Foster Care in Colorado # Providing love, stability, and *hope* for children in need. From initial training to ongoing support, we’re here to help you make a lasting difference in a child’s life. [ Attend an Info Session ](http://www.hopespromise.com/foster-care/info-sessions/) [ Request Info ](http://www.hopespromise.com/contact-us/) The Need in Our Community ## Colorado’s *children* are waiting ![ellipse](http://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/ellipse.png "ellipse") 10 children enter foster care daily in Colorado ## And ![ellipse](http://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/ellipse.png "ellipse") 60% wait 2 years to be reunited or placed in a permanent home Every day in Colorado, children enter foster care needing safe, trauma-informed homes while their biological families heal. As a foster parent, you’ll provide crucial stability in your community while supporting reunification efforts. Your compassion creates ripples of change that transform lives right in your neighborhood. ![badge](http://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")## No one should face life’s *challenges* alone. [ ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_7.webp) Play Video ](https://youtu.be/K0_pRUmkSyg?si=6r4xjvVRe149TMYN)## Transform a child’s life. As a foster parent, you can play a life-changing role in a child’s journey. Whether they stay with you for days, months, or years, your consistent love helps them grow and flourish-creating an impact that lasts long after they leave your home. ## Embrace the heart of reunification. As a foster parent, you have the privilege of pouring into not only a child but also their biological parents-encouraging them as they work toward stability and healing. Your support can change the trajectory of a child’s life-a family’s life. ## Build a stronger community. By opening your home to a child in need, you’re strengthening your community and breaking cycles of trauma. You become part of a network of caring individuals committed to children’s wellbeing. Christian Foster Care Agency ## Comprehensive support grounded in Christian values Answer the call to provide love, stability, and hope for children in need. We’ll equip and support you with faith-centered training and guidance every step of the way. ### Dedicated case management Our caseworkers maintain intentionally small caseloads to provide individualized attention to each foster family. No rushed meetings or overlooked concerns-just reliable support when you need it most. ### 24/7 Emergency support We understand that challenges don’t always arise during business hours. That’s why we maintain a 24/7 emergency support to ensure you never face a crisis alone. ### Professional guidance We offer the guidance, resources, and training needed to ensure both the child and foster family thrive. With the right support, foster parents can step into this life-changing role with confidence-giving children the stability, healing, and love they deserve. ![Untitled design - 2025-06-03T163042.239 (1)](http://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Untitled-design-2025-06-03T163042.239-1.png "Untitled design - 2025-06-03T163042.239 (1)")### Foster care lending closet Learn about opportunities to give and receive through our lending closet. [ Learn More ](http://www.hopespromise.com/foster-care/lending-closet/) ![Foster Care 4](http://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Foster-Care-4.jpg "Foster Care 4")### Colorado foster care statistics Understand the facts and statistics behind foster care in the United States. [ Learn More ](http://www.hopespromise.com/foster-care/facts-and-statistics/) ![hopes_promise_4](http://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_4.webp "hopes_promise_4")### Steps to become a foster parent Review the steps to becoming a certified foster parent. [ Learn More ](http://www.hopespromise.com/foster-care/steps-to-becoming-a-foster-parent/) ![Foster Care - 5.1](http://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Untitled-design-1.jpg "Foster Care - 5.1") Program Criteria ## Do I qualify to be a foster parent? Please review the requirements for our foster care program: Be at least 21 years old Successfully pass a background check Complete state-required training Receive an approved home study Have adequate living space for a child Demonstrate financial stability Provide references and participate in interviews We have been a foster family with Hope’s Promise since the beginning of the program. Everyone that works there does what they do with excellence and it’s obvious they are passionate about it! We have loved their compassionate care for our family, their comprehensive support and training, and how they walk alongside us through every aspect of placement-before, during, and after. Cherie R. foster parent ## Upcoming info sessions [ Nov 17 Foster Care Information Meeting ### Foster Care Information Meeting November 17 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm Join us via Zoom for an information meeting to learn more about the foster care system, explore if foster care is right for you, and get your questions answered. No… ](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/foster-care-information-meeting-november-2025/2025-11-17/) [ Dec 15 Foster Care Information Meeting ### Foster Care Information Meeting December 15 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm Join us via Zoom for an information meeting to learn more about the foster care system, explore if foster care is right for you, and get your questions answered. No… ](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/foster-care-information-meeting-november-2025/2025-12-15/) [ Jan 19 Foster Care Information Meeting ### Foster Care Information Meeting January 19 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm Join us via Zoom for an information meeting to learn more about the foster care system, explore if foster care is right for you, and get your questions answered. No… ](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/foster-care-information-meeting-november-2025/2026-01-19/) [ View All Upcoming Info Sessions ](http://www.hopespromise.com/foster-care/info-sessions/)## Your journey to becoming a foster parent starts here. ![badge](http://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")## Frequently asked questions ### What is the age range of children needing foster care placements? Children in foster care range between the ages of birth to 18 years. The greatest need is for children ages 8+ and for sibling groups. ### How long will a child stay with me? Foster care placements range from emergency/short-term (a few days to weeks), respite care (temporary relief for other foster parents), to long-term placements that may last months or years. ### How long does the approval process take? The process typically takes 4-6 months from initial inquiry to approval, including training, home study, background checks, and preparation. Our team will guide you through each step of this journey. ### Will I receive financial support? Yes, foster parents receive a monthly stipend to help cover the costs of caring for a child. However, supplemental income is required. This is not payment for being a foster parent but reimbursement for expenses like food, clothing, and activities. The foster care stipend cannot be a primary source of income. ### Can I foster if I work full-time? Yes! Many foster parents work full-time. You’ll need to arrange appropriate childcare, just as you would for biological children. We can help connect you with resources for childcare assistance. ### How will fostering affect my own children? Fostering can be a rewarding experience for your entire family, teaching compassion and social responsibility. We provide support to help all family members adjust, including your biological children. We recommend open conversations about fostering before beginning the process. [ Have more questions? Contact us ](http://www.hopespromise.com/contact-us/)## Next Steps ## Begin your *foster care* journey. Take the first step toward providing a loving, stable home for a child in need. ![Attend an info session](http://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Attend-an-info-session.svg "Attend an info session")### Attend an info session Learn more about the foster care process and get your questions answered. [ Learn More ](http://www.hopespromise.com/foster-care/info-sessions/) ![Request free info](http://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Request-free-info.svg "Request free info")### Request information Explore how foster care could change a child’s life and transform your family forever. [ Learn More ](http://www.hopespromise.com/contact-us/) --- ### [Global Orphan Care](https://www.hopespromise.com/global-orphan-care/) **Published:** April 7, 2025 **Author:** Louder Agency **Content:** GLOBAL ORPHAN CARE # Transforming *lives* of children and families around the world. At Hope’s Promise, we want the foundation of every child’s story to be family. [ Become a Family Champion ](https://www.hopespromise.com/family-champion/) [ Join a Connection Trip ](https://www.hopespromise.com/global-orphan-care/trips/) ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")## Family is God’s design for *every* child God designed families as the best place for children to grow and thrive. Family provides a foundation of love, security, and support. It is a place for mending wounded hearts and showing a child that they are valuable, worthy, and belong. [ ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Screenshot-2025-05-21-at-1.56.21 PM.png) Play Video ](https://www.youtube-nocookie.com/embed/h5Spi0Yu2Ro) OUR UNIQUE MODEL OF CARE ## We place and support orphaned and vulnerable children with loving families – with relatives or non-relative caregivers – around the world. Our approach to global orphan care is built on four foundational pillars. ![Emotional Healing](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Emotional-Healing.svg "Emotional Healing")### Emotional Healing Providing stability and love through family connections ![Cultural Preservation](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Cultural-Preservation.svg "Cultural Preservation")### Cultural Preservation Keeping children within their own communities and countries ![Long-Term Support](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Long-Term-Support.svg "Long-Term Support")### Long-Term Support Embedding sustainable care in local churches and community organizations ![Holistic Development](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Holistic-Development.svg "Holistic Development")### Holistic Development Nurturing physical, emotional, social, and spiritual growth of children and families A new way to make a difference ## Child Sponsorship Re-Imagined Research reveals that traditional child sponsorship models, in which a child forms a relationship with a distant donor, can sometimes unintentionally hinder an orphaned child’s ability to bond with their own caregivers. Hope’s Promise takes a different approach: an intentional, behind-the-scenes investment that strengthens families to provide lasting care, without shifting a child’s focus to an external sponsor. Traditional Child Sponsorship Hope’s Promise Model Support for the child Direct financial aid from a distant donor Administered through partnership with local church Who gets the credit Donor’s role and involvement take center stage Child credits provision to their parents and local community Emotional attachment Child may form emotional dependence on donor Strengthens trust and attachment within the family Cultural connection Distracts a child from the value of their own culture Emphasizes importance of child’s own culture and community Holistic development Focuses only on child’s immediate needs (education, food, healthcare) Promotes physical, emotional, social, and spiritual wellbeing of child and family Community investment Limited integration with local churches and organizations Embedded in local churches and community networks ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge") OUR MODEL OF IMPACT ## A sustainable, community-driven approach [ Local Leadership ](#) [ Caregiver Empowerment ](#) [ Church Partnership ](#) [ Community Collaboration ](#) Local Leadership ![Orphan Care Tabs - 1](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/bb-plugin/cache/Orphan-Care-Tabs-1-landscape-d80e664221487794c4a62d06b84427f4-lwxo12kefqnb.jpg "Orphan Care Tabs - 1")#### Local Leadership Indigenous Country Coordinators lead our programs, ensuring culturally-appropriate care that respects local traditions while addressing each community’s unique challenges. Caregiver Empowerment ![Untitled design - 2025-06-11T102642.323 (1)](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/bb-plugin/cache/Untitled-design-2025-06-11T102642.323-1-landscape-55d9dc01d387bf2cf22c0dddb9dc611c-83kqyxietdgc.png "Untitled design - 2025-06-11T102642.323 (1)")#### Caregiver Empowerment We train and support local caregivers to strengthen family capacity. Through education and resources, we help families build resilience and develop the skills needed for long-term success. Church Partnership ![Untitled design - 2025-06-03T114146.738 (1)](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/bb-plugin/cache/Untitled-design-2025-06-03T114146.738-1-landscape-295597a06b09906a378f786a4f425c1a-rjk30fg5upeo.png "Untitled design - 2025-06-03T114146.738 (1)")#### Church Partnership Our work is deeply embedded in local churches as lifelong pillars of support for children and families. These faith communities provide ongoing spiritual nurture and create networks of care that remain long after our initial involvement. Community Collaboration ![Untitled design - 2025-06-03T113849.591 (1)](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/bb-plugin/cache/Untitled-design-2025-06-03T113849.591-1-landscape-7d216a85533542a9ee0a852a2696a48c-yd9apbxkz3jn.png "Untitled design - 2025-06-03T113849.591 (1)")#### Community Collaboration We partner with existing community resources to provide holistic support. By connecting families with local services and organizations, we create sustainable systems of care that address their full spectrum of needs. ![Orphan Care - 4](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Orphan-Care-4.jpg "Orphan Care - 4") BECOME A FAMILY CHAMPION ## Make a difference every month Make a RECURRING GIFT to become a Hope’s Promise Family Champion, someone who upholds, advocates, supports, and speaks up for orphaned and vulnerable children to receive what they need most: God’s love expressed through family. Show off your support! Join our Family Champion program at Hope’s Promise and receive a [FREE water bottle](https://www.hopespromise.com/family-champion/#water-bottle) as our thank-you gift. [ Learn More ](https://www.hopespromise.com/family-champion/) ONE BY ONE ## The *impact* adds up ![ellipse](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/ellipse.png "ellipse") 23 years of global family-based orphan care ![ellipse](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/ellipse.png "ellipse") 548 children raised in families since 2002 ![ellipse](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/ellipse.png "ellipse") 412 children currently supported in families ## Where We Serve ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_24.webp)### Kenya Most of Hope’s Promise Kenya’s children started their lives in Mathare Valley, where half a million people subsist in six square miles of abject poverty and orphaned children constitute a high proportion of the population. ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_23.webp)### Vietnam Due to economic reforms, Vietnam has quickly developed from one of the poorest countries in the world to a low-middle income country. However, ethnic minority tribes, and especially orphaned children, often struggle to survive in remote mountainous areas, located far from basic services such as medical care. ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_22.webp)### Nepal In Nepal, one of the least developed nations in the world, many children lose their parents to death or incapacitation due to the ravages of poverty. Orphans in Nepal are especially vulnerable to child labor, trafficking, and child marriage. ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_21.webp)### Zimbabwe Over three decades of economic hardship have resulted in over 90% unemployment. Much of the population lives below the poverty line, and about half of children no longer attend school. When we think about care for orphans of the world, there are not enough places like Hope’s Promise in America or even the world. Wow! We have The International Headquarters of Hope’s Promise right here in Castle Rock. So many children’s lives have been changed by what they do. Dave M. Hope’s Promise Family Champion ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")## Frequently Asked Questions ### Why are children orphaned? KENYA: Most of Hope’s Promise Kenya’s children started their lives in Mathare Valley, where half a million people subsist in six square miles of abject poverty. Orphaned children, especially vulnerable to abuse, neglect, starvation, inadequate sanitation, lack of education, illness, and hopelessness, constitute a high proportion of the slum’s population. NEPAL: In Nepal, one of the least developed nations in the world, many children lose their parents to death or incapacitation due to the ravages of poverty. Of Nepal’s total population of 28.5 million, an estimated one million children are orphaned and approximately 25,000 live in orphanages. Orphans in Nepal are especially vulnerable to child labor, trafficking, and child marriage. VIETNAM: Although living in a middle-income country with a growing economy, Vietnam’s ethnic minority tribes often struggle to survive in remote mountainous areas, located far from basic services such as medical care. Children are more likely to become orphaned, drop out of school to work at very young ages, and less likely to receive adequate adult supervision. ZIMBABWE: Over three decades of economic hardship have resulted in over 90% unemployment. Much of the population lives below the poverty line, and about half of children no longer attend school. ### How are children and their families selected to be a part of this program? Hope’s Promise serves children who are single or double orphaned (one or both parents deceased) or who have been abandoned or neglected by one or both birth parents. We place and support orphaned and vulnerable children in families with biological relatives when possible and non-relatives when needed. ### How long will Hope’s Promise children live with their families? Our kids don’t “age-out.” Hope’s Promise supports each child to grow and flourish in his or her family until they are able to live independently. ### How can I support Hope’s Promise orphan care? Give a [one-time gift](https://form-renderer-app.donorperfect.io/give/hopes-promise/give-now) or become a [Family Champion](https://form-renderer-app.donorperfect.io/give/hopes-promise/family-champions) by creating a recurring pledge. Also consider other options on our [Get involved](https://www.hopespromise.com/get-involved/) page, like going on a Connection Trip to visit one of our international ministries or advocating for Hope’s Promise through your church or business. ### How often will I receive updates from Hope’s Promise? You’ll receive two comprehensive impact reports each year, keeping you informed about the difference your support is making. ### When I give to Hope’s Promise, how is my gift used? For Hope’s Promise children cared for by non-relatives, your partnership helps with children’s expenses such as food, medicine, clothing, education, and extra-curricular activities, and indirect expenses related to childcare such as rent and utilities for the home, transportation, and a small compensation for the parents. For Hope’s Promise children cared for by relatives, your partnership assists primarily with education costs and sometimes living and/or emergency expenses as needed. Additionally, our in-country staff connect caregivers to community resources such as economic development projects and counseling to build the family’s capacity. ### Can I meet Hope’s Promise families? Hope’s Promise periodically hosts [Connection Team trips](https://www.hopespromise.com/global-orphan-care/trips/) to the countries where we serve. Come with us to meet the families you are impacting. ### Can I send gifts to Hope’s Promise families? Please email with any further questions. [ Have more questions? Contact us ](https://www.hopespromise.com/contact-us/)## Next Steps ## Ways to get involved ![Join a Connection Trip](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Join-a-Connection-Trip.svg "Join a Connection Trip")### Join a Connection Trip Come along to see the impact firsthand [ Learn More ](https://www.hopespromise.com/global-orphan-care/trips/) ![Pray](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Pray.svg "Pray")### Pray Cover these children in love and protection [ Learn More ](mailto:info@hopespromise.com?subject=I%20would%20like%20to%20be%20added%20to%20your%20prayer%20team) ![Spread the Word](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Spread-the-Word.svg "Spread the Word")### Spread the Word Every story shared is another chance at hope [ Learn More ](https://www.hopespromise.com/community-partnerships/) ![Make a donation](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Make-a-donation.svg "Make a donation")### Donate Provide financial support that transforms lives [ Learn More ](https://form-renderer-app.donorperfect.io/give/hopes-promise/give-now) --- ### [Reviews](https://www.hopespromise.com/reviews/) **Published:** May 9, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")# Reviews Help Hope’s Promise by leaving us a review on Google and/or Facebook. ## Google Reviews April O. I cannot say enough wonderful things about Hope’s Promise! Before connecting with them, I was beyond frustrated trying to figure out how to begin the foster/adopt journey. I felt completely uneducated about the process because, unfortunately, there just aren’t enough resources out there to guide families in the right direction — even Google couldn’t answer my questions. From the very first moment we connected with Hope’s Promise, everything changed. Every single one of our questions was answered with patience and clarity. The staff is absolutely amazing — many of them have been with this agency for years, and most have personally fostered and adopted children themselves. That depth of experience is so inspirational and gave us so much peace and confidence. What makes this organization even more special is their heart for Christ. Hope’s Promise is a faith-led agency, and being able to connect with them on that level has been such a blessing. Even though we are not licensed yet (but soon!), I can honestly say I have not felt stressed throughout this process, despite all the many steps involved. That peace only comes from being surrounded by such a supportive, knowledgeable, and faith-driven team. If you are considering fostering or adopting, I wholeheartedly recommend Hope’s Promise. This is more than just an agency — it’s a family, and they truly walk alongside you every step of the way. read moreread less 9/19/2025 Stacy H. Hope’s Promise is doing life changing work and the people who work there have such passion for what they do. They are serving others in need of foster, orphan and adoption care with grace, compassion and love. What an honor it is to support this wonderful organization. read moreread less 3/08/2025 Amy E. Hope’s Promise is such a wonderful agency. The staff is there to help you through your adoption journey. They are so supportive, communicative, and truly care about you and your family. When they say they will walk with you through this process they truly do! I cannot recommend Hope’s Promise enough for those looking to grow their family through adoption. read moreread less 3/06/2025 Pita B. I cannot say enough wonderful things about this organization. The truth is in the name—the hope that they provide for God’s children both near and far is beautiful and resounding. Not only do they diligently serve Gods most vulnerable children, but they also equip fellow believers to do the same and to advocate effectively for those whom they serve. Their concern and love for the people is genuine and the way that they thoughtfully consider behavioral and psychological effects on them as a result of their service is refreshing and commendable. It has been an honor and a joy to be connected with Hope’s Promise and I highly, highly recommend to all of my friends and family to consider supporting their mission or working with them directly. read moreread less 2/18/2025 Nicole F. It has been such a blessing to partner with Hope’s Promise over the past few years! Their commitment, care, integrity, and dedication to not just their orphan care, adoption, and foster programs in general but also to every individual they come across is what makes their work so essential today! read moreread less 2/11/2025 Dave M. One of the best! Solid organization. Doing what it can. Making a difference. Family has been to Africa with Hope’s Promise 3 times. Life changing. Great work. No better place your resources can go. read moreread less 3/05/2022 Anna T. I began working with Hopes Promise 14 years ago, as a 16 year old, dealing with an unplanned pregnancy. I worked closely with them throughout my pregnancy and they helped me not only find the family for my birth daughter, but have been involved in my life ever since. From graduation, to marriage to giving birth to 2 more babies, Hopes Promise has come along side me and always cheered me on. They’ve involved me in so many healing facets, I was able to fully and confidently move forward with life after placing my birth daughter. She and I have a wonderful relationship, she is fully aware of where she comes from and who was involved. I wouldn’t be the woman I am today without Hope’s Promise. Even more than 11 years after my birth daughter was placed, Hopes Promise has counseled and prayed for and with me. A blessing from God this company is. In fact, my birth daughter’s middle name that I was able to give her is Hope. You won’t regret choosing them and many prayers to you as you walk through their doors. read moreread less 3/03/2022 Anna K. We had a wonderful experience with Hope’s Promise. We worked with an amazing social worker when we adopted our son. They were supportive, the training program for parents was strong and the support for birth mothers was really fantastic. The organization operates with professionalism and sensitivity. Life changing. I mean looking back it was the most important decision we ever made. read moreread less 3/03/2022 Dave C. When we think about care for orphans of the world, there are not enough places like Hope’s Promise in America or even the world. Wow! We have The International Headquarters of Hope’s Promise right here in Castle Rock. So many children’s lives have been changed by what they do. We love you, Hopes Promise. God bless you! read moreread less 3/03/2022 Tara P. What a blessing and honor it was to work with Hope’s Promise on our adoption journey. It was clear from the beginning that they have an ethical, balanced approach to adoption. They take excellent care of birth families, and ensure hopeful adoptive families have the education they need to make informed, ethical decisions around their adoption. I always felt like I had people I could call who would be honest and open with me, answer the hard questions and help us on our journey. Unfortunately there are so many things wrong happening in the adoption space, and it was a relief to us to work with an agency we knew were transparent and ethical, especially in their work with birth moms. In the end, we were blessed with an incredible adoption story, and I am so glad Hope’s Promise was on the journey with us. read moreread less 2/24/2022 Allison F. We are so honored to have had the opportunity to work with Hope’s Promise. From the time we attended an information meeting to the time our son’s adoption finalized, it was over two years, and every step of the way we felt supported and cared for. We always tell people that Hope’s Promise is wonderful because they are committed to operating an ethical business that is thorough and above reproach while also ministering to the hearts of their clients in a compassionate and personal way. They seek to honor and support each aspect of the adoption triad…the adoptee, the birth family, and the adoptive family. Each staff member we interacted with was professional, knowledgeable, kind, and communicative. We are forever grateful that someone told us about Hope’s Promise and cannot recommend them enough. read moreread less 10/25/2021 Hannah S. I can’t explain just how incredible Hope’s Promise has been to our family! They feel like family! I have no idea how we would have gone through the adoption process without them! read moreread less 10/14/2021 Lori Y. Hope’s Promise gave us excellent guidance and support during our domestic infant adoption journey. They were kind and sensitive, very responsive, and helped us navigate difficult situations very smoothly. And we have the most amazing son because of this journey! We are grateful to our caseworker Liz and all the wonderful people at Hope’s Promise that helped us become parents – we’d certainly recommend working with them. read moreread less 2/26/2021 Brenda R. Hope’s Promise is Amazing! Two months ago my daughter gave birth. She was faced with a huge decision. We were put in touch with Jennifer at Hope’s Promise through a local agency. My daughter first spoke to Jennifer to see what options there were for adoption. Jennifer in turn sent her information, as well as answering her questions. I had a few questions myself, Jennifer sent me links to the videos on You Tube. These videos were amazing! Those videos showed the perspective of the birth parents. Adoption was a better fit for those birth parents. It was nice to see real perspectives an not something scripted. Hope’s Promise website has a ton of information. Jennifer answered all of the tough questions. Adoption is one of the most difficult decisions! Hope’s Promise will help you through all of the tough questions. read moreread less 2/15/2021 Doug H. My wife and I adopted all 3 of our children through Hopes Promise. We were attracted to Hope’s Promise by their Christian values and positive experiences of other people we knew who had adopted through Hope’s Promise. The staff was absolutely amazing at explaining the process to us and walking us through everything step by step. We also love how they counsel and support the birth families. All three birth mothers of our children were supported during and after the placement. All three birth mothers continue to stay in touch with Hope’s Promise and typically attend the birth mothers tea that is hosted each year. After adopting our children we then became involved in the Orphan Care program. My wife traveled to Vietnam on a connection team trip and I traveled to Nepal on a connection team trip. It was amazing to see how the children were thriving in the homes supported by Hope’s Promise. We continue to support Hope’s Promise Orphan Ministry program and look forward to seeing the great work Hope’s Promise will do in the future! read moreread less 2/06/2021 Becky C. Hopes Promise made all the difference in our lives when my daughter experienced an unplanned pregnancy at age 17. Hopes Promise came along side us as my daughter made an adoption plan for her son. 14 years later, we are still involved in my birth-grandson’s life as my daughter chose an open adoption. I have also traveled with Hopes Promise to Nepal and Vietnam and observed firsthand how they care for orphans in several countries around the world. Hopes Promise truly has the welfare of vulnerable children as their mission, along with the desire that every child have the opportunity to grow up in a nurturing and stable family. And with the recent opening of their foster care program, more local children will benefit from their caring and expertise. I highly recommend Hopes Promise and their ministries of foster care, adoption, and orphan care to anyone that has a heart to preserve the well-being of vulnerable children both here and internationally. read moreread less 1/26/2021 Sara G. To everyone at Hope’s Promise, Thank you so very much for being with us every step of the way on our journey towards building our family. We have been so delighted in our experience with Hope’s Promise in terms of professionalism, communication, and the honoring of the process at each new phase. Thank you for your deep love for the children you serve and your commitment to each member of the adoption picture. We are so grateful to have found you and are grateful that you will be part of our lives for the years to come. Sincerely, Sara and Matt G read moreread less 1/22/2021 rachel m. I was adopted when I was 4 months old, through Hope’s Promise back in 1996. Twenty-three years later, I had the most incredible opportunity to join HP on one of the connections team trips to Vietnam (my home country) back in November. A a fellow adoptee and participant through HP, I highly recommend anyone who has a heart for orphans and mission to consider what Hope’s Promise has to offer. Forever grateful for the Lord’s hand and the heartbeat and support of this nonprofit as it’s had a valuable and life changing impact on my life. read moreread less 1/22/2021 Jennifer B. I am affiliated with Hopes Promise through the orphan care side where my husband and I support children in Vietnam and Kenya. I have also had the pleasure of visiting Kenya in 2017 and doing a virtual visit in 2020. I could not rave more highly about this organization – they always prioritize the children’s whole self – physical, spiritual, and intellectual – and are careful to empower the children and their employees in THEIR OWN country, never trying to be the “American hero” like so many do. Yet they still make the sponsors feel involved and important. I am so thankful for this organization! read moreread less 1/20/2021 Joann B. As a participant in the mission opportunities that Hope’s Promise offers, I would highly recommend anyone who has a heart for mission in another country consider what they have to offer. All participants are well prepared with extensive training in the culture they are about to enter, expectations are made clear, guidance, support and spiritual development are all part of the preparation. Not only that, preparation for re-entry back into our country is an important part of the experience. I guarantee that a mission trip with Hope’s Promise will change your life and your spiritual journey in ways you can’t imagine. Joann Briggs read moreread less 1/19/2021 Julia K. Our case manager was such a blessing to our family. We were matched with our baby girl in 2019 and finalized our adoption in 2020. I appreciate how Hope’s Promise supports birth moms through the whole process and helps them work through the emotions tied with adoption. This support has helped us build a strong relationship with our daughter’s birth parents. We would highly recommend Hope’s Promise! read moreread less 1/19/2021 Christina E. 5 stars is not enough! I can barley begin expressing how thankful I am for this organization. I contacted Hope’s Promise when I found myself with an unplanned pregnancy and not in the place I felt I was able to parent. My caseworker (along with God) helped me though the thought processes and overwhelming feelings I was going though. I am so very impressed with how they don’t just give up on the birth mom after the child is placed. They have a heart to help the birth mom heal. There is continued support though a monthly birth moms group. I am now married and my husband and I are now sponsoring a young man though their orphan care side and we have also looked into becoming foster parents though them. I could go on and on about this organization. I am so thankful and blessed to be a part of the Hope’s Promise family! read moreread less 1/12/2021 Ashley M. It was such an incredible honor to sit, as a Birth Mother of almost 14 years, with the team at Hope’s Promise. Their dedication for post placement care is so powerful and was something that I only dreamed of having. Hope’s Promise truly cares about education, ethics and bringing the relationships back to adoption! Thank you, Hope’s Promise. Ashley Mitchell, President Knee to Knee, LLC and Birth Mother read moreread less 10/09/2019 anne b. Hope’s Promise is the most professional, “on top of every detail” agency we’ve had the pleasure of working with. (And we worked with a number of them.) We are now parents to a beautiful baby girl, thanks to this agency’s vigilance and hard work. It seems like everyone who works there has either adopted children of their own, or are adopted themselves. There is no question that is off limits or too small for them. Thank you, Hope’s Promise!!! read moreread less 5/09/2019 [ Read More Reviews ](https://search.google.com/local/reviews?placeid=ChIJYecbyz2YbIcRdpyG22qzwuE) [ Write a Review ](https://www.google.com/search?hl=en-CA&gl=ca&q=Hope%27s+Promise,+1585+S+Perry+St+suite+e,+Castle+Rock,+CO+80104,+United+States&ludocid=16267762075546590326&lsig=AB86z5U1l7pkjEwebBFqqqWP-xAB#lrd=0x876c983dcb1be761:0xe1c2b36adb869c76,3,,,)## Facebook Reviews Verona M. ![positive review](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/plugins/wp-review-slider-pro/public/partials/imgs/positive-min.png) We adopted our boy through Hope’s Promise. Everyone on the team was extremely knowledgeable, professional and empathetic as we navigated this process. Julie is an amazing support that kept us both sane and informed , every step of the way. I could not recommend them more. Thank you for all your love & support read moreread less 5/28/2024 Keith M. ![positive review](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/plugins/wp-review-slider-pro/public/partials/imgs/positive-min.png) Love, Love, Love Hope’s Promise and their ministry! I believe in what they do in as they serve others in the areas of international orphan care, foster care, and adoption. Incredible people with an incredible heart! read moreread less 12/02/2023 Krishna V. ![positive review](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/plugins/wp-review-slider-pro/public/partials/imgs/positive-min.png) Mr George Robert has really helped me in trading and making a lot of money for the support of my business, I highly recommend him to everyone in this page to also get advise from him on how to make money on Forex Trading. Thanks to George Robert for helping me and my family trade, I got my withdrawal (cash out) yesterday. You’re the best trader I’ve ever experience myself. 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Thanks to you all for loving and caring for children and families well!!!! read moreread less 3/03/2022 Lynn M. ![positive review](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/plugins/wp-review-slider-pro/public/partials/imgs/positive-min.png) Hope’s Promise is a group of compassionate individuals with a huge heart for children, especially those left behind by disease, parents’ choices, and other upheavals. The put their all into helping these kiddos in ways that go beyond a bed and a meal — they work hard to ensure a decent, hope-filled future for the children. They are amazingly awesome at Hope’s Promise. read moreread less 3/03/2022 Allison F. ![positive review](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/plugins/wp-review-slider-pro/public/partials/imgs/positive-min.png) We are so honored to have had the opportunity to work with Hope’s Promise. From the time we attended an information meeting to the time our son’s adoption finalized, it was over two years, and every step of the way we felt supported and cared for. We always tell people that Hope’s Promise is wonderful because they are committed to operating an ethical business that is thorough and above reproach while also ministering to the hearts of their clients in a compassionate and personal way. They seek to honor and support each aspect of the adoption triad…the adoptee, the birth family, and the adoptive family. Each staff member we interacted with was professional, knowledgeable, kind, and communicative. We are forever grateful that someone told us about Hope’s Promise and cannot recommend them enough. read moreread less 10/24/2021 Christina L. ![positive review](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/plugins/wp-review-slider-pro/public/partials/imgs/positive-min.png) 5 stars is not enough! I can barley begin expressing how thankful I am for this organization. I contacted Hope’s Promise when I found myself with an unplanned pregnancy and not in the place I felt I was able to parent. My caseworker (along with God) helped me though the thought processes and overwhelming feelings I was going though. I am so very impressed with how they don’t just give up on the birth mom after the child is placed. They have a heart to help the birth mom heal. There is continued support though a monthly birth moms group. I am now married and my husband and I are now sponsoring a young man though their orphan care side and we have also looked into becoming foster parents though them. I could go on and on about this organization. I am so thankful and blessed to be a part of the Hope’s Promise family! read moreread less 3/12/2021 Danny M. ![positive review](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/plugins/wp-review-slider-pro/public/partials/imgs/positive-min.png) This organization is leading the way in orphan and foster care. They have skilled professionals who genuinely care about all involed in caring for children and their families. read moreread less 1/30/2021 Stacey L. ![positive review](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/plugins/wp-review-slider-pro/public/partials/imgs/positive-min.png) Hope’s Promise is a wonderful organization. They help so many children all over the world. My husband and I have attended their annual fundraiser for the last three years. We have such a wonderful time. Beth Woods is such an amazing leader. read moreread less 1/23/2021 [ Read More Reviews ](https://www.facebook.com/hopes.promise/reviews/?view_public_for=549305085147170&ref=page_internal) [ Write a Review ](https://www.facebook.com/hopes.promise/reviews/?view_public_for=549305085147170&ref=page_internal) --- ### [Test Page](https://www.hopespromise.com/test-page-2/) **Published:** June 26, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** ![hopes_promise_10](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_10.webp "hopes_promise_10") FOSTER CARE AGENCY IN COLORADO # Clear pregnancy *support* and counseling services title goes here Discover the difference you can make through Foster Care in Colorado [ Request Free Info Packet ](#) [ Talk to a Counselor ](https://www.hopespromise.com/contact-us/) ![hopes_promise_25](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_25.webp "hopes_promise_25") Championing Families to Care ## Connection trips title here Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit. 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With this steadfast goal and the help of generous donors, Hope’s Promise plans to expand and serve more children-continuing our ministry into the next decade and beyond. ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Untitled-design-2025-05-29T111522.022-1.png) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/about-4-1.png)Beth Woods, Hope’s Promise Executive Director Our History ## Changing the world’s story one child at a time. By serving women and men in crisis pregnancy, bringing children home through adoption, and caring for orphaned and vulnerable children globally, we change the world’s story one child at a time. In 1987, founder Paula Freeman adopted a little girl named Hope from India. The adoption process was challenging, but it inspired Paula to make a heartfelt promise to her daughter: she would help make it easier for other children to find loving families. Three years later, Paula kept that promise by founding Hope’s Promise in 1990. Since then, we’ve been connecting families through domestic and inter-country adoptions while supporting expectant parents with compassion as they navigate unplanned pregnancies. As Executive Director of Hope’s Promise, Paula traveled to orphanages all over the world. Realizing many of these children could never be adopted, she developed our orphan care program to provide humanitarian aid to children in their birth countries. Over the years, various homes have been established in parts of Africa, Nepal, and Vietnam. Indigenous pastors often act as house parents, providing a long-term family for orphaned and vulnerable children. Paula retired as Executive Director in 2014. She continues to advocate for children and adoptive families. To connect with Paula, [visit her website](https://paulasfreeman.com/). Beth Woods, an adoptive parent herself, assumed the role of Executive Director. Previously, Beth has served Hope’s Promise as a caseworker and Director of Adoptions. Under Beth’s leadership, Hope’s Promise continues to facilitate domestic adoption and provide family-based care to orphaned children in their homeland. In addition, in 2020 Hope’s Promise launched a foster care program to provide children living in Colorado with safe and stable foster homes while biological families work towards reunification. ## Get to know Hope’s Promise [ ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Screenshot-2025-06-03-at-2.20.29 PM.png) Play Video ](https://youtu.be/deyLpvK2voQ) Professional Memberships and Affiliations ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/CAFO_Icon_Gold.png) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_38.webp) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/NCAF-01-300x79-1.jpg) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_40.webp) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Adopt-Match-Approved-Partner.png) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_37.webp) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Christian-Childrens-Charities.png) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/CFC-seal.jpg) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/candid-seal-platinum-2025-150x150-1.png) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/soe-labels_ASSOCIATE-MEMBER-1-e1592929735533.png) Get in Touch ## We would love to share more about the ministry of Hope’s Promise with you. 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We’ll cover what it means to be a foster parent, the licensing process, available support/resources, and answer any questions you have. ## Foster Care Training & info Sessions ## Upcoming Training & Info Sessions [ Jul 21 Foster Care Information Meeting ### Foster Care Information Meeting July 21 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm Join us via Zoom for an information meeting to learn more about the foster care system, explore if foster care is right for you, and get your questions answered. No… ](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/foster-care-information-meeting/) [ Aug 18 Foster Care Information Meeting ### Foster Care Information Meeting August 18 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm Join us via Zoom for an information meeting to learn more about the foster care system, explore if foster care is right for you, and get your questions answered. 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From support groups to trainings to fundraising events–we’ve got it all. ## All Events ## Upcoming Training & Events [ Jul 7 Foster and Adoptive Parent Support Group ### Foster & Adoptive Parent Support Group July 7 @ 7:00 am – 8:30 pm Please click the link below for more information or to register for this FREE event: Foster & Adoptive Parent Support Group ](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/foster-adoptive-parent-support-group/2025-07-07/) [ Jul 10 Adoption Information Meeting ### Adoption Information Meeting July 10 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm Join us via Zoom for an information meeting to learn more about our adoption programs. Registration is required. The Zoom login and materials will be emailed to participants the day… ](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/adoption-information-meeting/) [ Jul 17 Birth Mother Support Group ### Birth Mother Support Group July 17 @ 6:30 pm – 8:30 pm Please email julie@hopespromise.com for more information. ](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/birth-mother-support-group-2/2025-07-17/) [ View All Trainings and Events ](https://www.hopespromise.com/events/) --- ### [Newsletter Sign-Up Thank You](https://www.hopespromise.com/newsletter-sign-up-thank-you/) **Published:** January 27, 2024 **Author:** Andrew Dodson **Content:** ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")# Thank You Thank you for signing up for our newsletter. Stay tuned for the latest updates and stories of hope. --- ### [Home Study Services](https://www.hopespromise.com/home-study-services/) **Published:** May 7, 2025 **Author:** Louder Agency **Content:** ![Home Study Services - 1](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Home-Study-Services-1.jpg "Home Study Services - 1") Home Study Services # Your *first step* toward building your family. A home study is a critical first step in every adoption journey. At Hope’s Promise, we provide comprehensive, compassionate home study services for families living in Colorado and pursuing various paths to adoption. You can use our home study services even if you’re not planning to adopt through Hope’s Promise. [ Attend an Info Session ](https://www.hopespromise.com/christian-adoption/info-sessions/) [ Request Info ](https://www.hopespromise.com/contact-us/) ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")## 35+ Years of trusted *adoption* expertise. Since 1990, Hope’s Promise has been a leading authority in adoption services throughout Colorado. Our decades of experience and commitment to excellence have made us one of the most trusted names in adoption home studies. Our seasoned team has successfully guided thousands of families through this important process with compassion, integrity, and thorough attention to detail. ## What is a home study? A home study is a detailed assessment of your family and home environment, required by law for all adoptions. If you live in Colorado and want to adopt, you are required to complete a home study through a Colorado licensed child placement agency. This process helps determine your readiness to provide a safe, nurturing home for a child. At Hope’s Promise, we view the home study not as a hurdle, but as valuable preparation for the adoption journey ahead. ## Why choose Hope’s Promise for your home study? What truly sets Hope’s Promise apart is our unique combination of extensive experience and personalized support: - **Established Authority:** For over 35 years, we’ve been Colorado’s trusted adoption experts - **Faith-Based Perspective:** We offer optional faith-integrated services for Christian families - **Comprehensive Education:** Beyond completing paperwork, we provide in-depth preparation that truly readies you for adoption realities - **Personalized Approach:** We tailor our guidance to your unique family situation and adoption goals - **Ongoing Support Network:** Our relationship doesn’t end with approval-access support groups, resources, and guidance throughout your journey - **Accessibility:** Our team remains available to answer questions whenever you need assistance - **Wide Acceptance:** Our thorough, professional home studies are respected and accepted by agencies and courts nationwide ## What is the home study timeline? Most families can expect the home study process to take approximately 3-5 months from initial application to final approval. This timeline can vary based on how quickly you complete required paperwork, scheduling of home visits, and any unique circumstances of your adoption plan. ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")## Our home study services include: ### Comprehensive Documentation - Background checks and clearances - Health statements - Financial verification - Employment verification - Personal references - Autobiographical statements ### In-Home Visits - Home safety assessment - Individual and family interviews - Discussion of parenting philosophies - Evaluation of family dynamics ### Education and Preparation - Required adoption education - Resources for specific adoption paths - Training on attachment and bonding - Support for adoption-specific challenges ### Final Report Preparation - Professional written assessment - Comprehensive family profile - Approval documentation for your chosen adoption path ## Take Your Next Step ## Explore your *path* forward ![Talk to a counselor](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Talk-to-a-counselor.svg "Talk to a counselor")### Connect With Our Team We’re here to walk alongside you every step of the way. [ Contact Us ](https://www.hopespromise.com/contact/) ![Review foster care FAQs](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Review-foster-care-FAQs.svg "Review foster care FAQs")### Download an Application Download and fill out our application for adoption-your journey starts here. [ Download ](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Adoption-Application-2025-1.pdf) --- ### [Lending Closet](https://www.hopespromise.com/foster-care/lending-closet/) **Published:** May 8, 2025 **Author:** Louder Agency **Content:** ![Lending Closet - 1](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Lending-Closet-1.jpg "Lending Closet - 1") Foster Care Resources in Colorado # Foster care *lending* closet. We supply essential items free of charge to foster, adoptive, and kinship families throughout Colorado’s Front Range, giving every child what they need to feel cared for. [ Donate ](mailto:cofostercloset@gmail.com?subject=Make%20a%20Donation) [ Submit a Request ](mailto:cofostercloset@gmail.com?subject=Request%20Items)## A community coming *together*. We’re a community-run lending closet for Colorado families opening their homes to children in need. With ten children entering foster care daily, often with just the clothes on their backs, our lending closet provides immediate essentials-gently used and new clothing, shoes, and coats-to foster, adoptive, and kinship families. Depending on our current inventory, we also provide diapers, wipes, formula, bedding, small equipment, and accessories. As children grow, families can return again and again, making us partners for their entire journey, not just day one. ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")## How it works Three simple steps: 1 ### Request Email us with the specific sizes and gender of clothing you need. 2 ### Schedule We’ll arrange an appointment for you to visit the closet with one of our volunteers, or if you prefer, our team can prepare a package for pickup. 3 ### Receive For each request, we aim to provide 7-10 days’ worth of clothing, based on our current inventory. [ Submit a Request ](mailto:cofostercloset@gmail.com?subject=Request%20Items) How to Donate ## Join our efforts and donate. Your gently used items give new hope to families in our community. We welcome new or gently used clothing from newborn to children’s sizes 14-16. Donation drop off’s can be scheduled by emailing . Have questions about donating other items? Please email us-we’re happy to discuss your potential contribution. ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/lending-closet-1.png) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/lending-closet-1-1.png) Make a Difference ## Other ways to make a *difference*. There are many ways to make a difference in the lives of foster families. ### Fill specific needs Contact us for our current “greatest needs” list or contribute through our online registry. ### Gift cards Donate Target or Walmart gift cards to help us fill empty bins when specific sizes are needed. ### Community drive Organize a collection drive in your neighborhood, workplace, or faith community. ### Volunteer Volunteer to help sort donations, prepare packages, or assist during shopping appointments. ## lending closet opportunities ## Take your *next* step. ![Request items](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Request-items.svg "Request items")### Request items Request items from the Foster Care Lending Closet by emailing our team. [ Submit Your Request ](mailto:cofostercloset@gmail.com?subject=Request%20Items) ![Make a donation](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Make-a-donation.svg "Make a donation")### Make a donation Reach out to our team with questions about donating your new or gently used items. [ Email Us ](mailto:cofostercloset@gmail.com?subject=Make%20a%20Donation) ![Volunteer](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Volunteer.svg "Volunteer")### Volunteer Reach out to our team to get involved with the Lending Closet program. [ Email Us ](mailto:cofostercloset@gmail.com?subject=Vounteer) ![Shop the registry](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Shop-the-registry.svg "Shop the registry")### Shop the registry Fill specific needs for the Lending Closet by visiting our online registry. [ View Registry ](https://www.amazon.com/registries/gl/guest-view/3C12AMXLASLMO) --- ### [Ways to Give](https://www.hopespromise.com/give/) **Published:** May 9, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** ![ways to give (1)](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/ways-to-give-1.png "ways to give (1)") Your Generosity Changes Lives # Every gift, no matter the size, creates *ripples* of hope Your partnership with Hope’s Promise transforms the lives of vulnerable children across the globe. Whether through a one-time donation, monthly commitment, or through creative giving, your generosity creates pathways to loving families and bright futures for children who might otherwise grow up without the care they desperately need. [ Support Families Monthly ](https://form-renderer-app.donorperfect.io/give/hopes-promise/family-champions) [ Other Ways to Give ](https://www.hopespromise.com/give/#give) ![Untitled design - 2025-06-03T115328.498 (1)](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Untitled-design-2025-06-03T115328.498-1.png "Untitled design - 2025-06-03T115328.498 (1)")### Make a one-time gift Make an immediate impact with a one-time gift that directly supports vulnerable children and families in need right now. [ Give Now ](https://form-renderer-app.donorperfect.io/give/hopes-promise/give-now) ![Untitled design - 2025-06-03T115240.466 (1)](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Untitled-design-2025-06-03T115240.466-1.png "Untitled design - 2025-06-03T115240.466 (1)")### Make a Monthly gift Discover the profound impact that comes from consistently championing vulnerable children with both your heart and your monthly partnership. [ Give Now ](https://form-renderer-app.donorperfect.io/give/hopes-promise/family-champions) ![Untitled design - 2025-06-03T115112.439 (1)](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Untitled-design-2025-06-03T115112.439-1.png "Untitled design - 2025-06-03T115112.439 (1)")### Creative Giving Explore unique giving opportunities like donating stocks, planned giving, or organizing fundraising events that turn your passions into support. [ Other Way to Give ](https://www.hopespromise.com/give/#give) ![Untitled design - 2025-06-03T114921.467 (1)](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Untitled-design-2025-06-03T114921.467-1.png "Untitled design - 2025-06-03T114921.467 (1)") Monthly Giving ## Join Our Family of Champions Your monthly gift, no matter the size, creates stability for children who need it most. By becoming a Family Champion, you join a dedicated community of supporters who understand that consistent support leads to transformative outcomes. Ready to make a lasting difference? Join our Family Champions program today. [ Support Families Monthly ](https://form-renderer-app.donorperfect.io/give/hopes-promise/family-champions) [ Learn More ](https://www.hopespromise.com/family-champion/)My husband Mark and I became family champions for Hope’s Promise in 2010, and it’s been one of our most fulfilling commitments. Through regular updates, we’ve witnessed firsthand how monthly donations touch every corner of their ministry. As a board member, I’ve gained deeper insight into how consistent monthly giving provides the foundation Hope’s Promise needs for strategic planning and sustainable growth. Beth S. Hope’s Promise Family Champion since 2010 ## Creative Ways to Give Supporting Hope’s Promise’s mission to serve children and families goes beyond traditional donations. Explore these creative giving options that can make a significant impact while potentially providing tax and financial benefits for you. ### Donor-Advised Funds If you have a Donor-Advised Fund: - Recommend a grant to Hope’s Promise - Simplify your charitable giving - Support our programs with pre-tax dollars you’ve already set aside ### Workplace Giving Multiply your impact through your employer: - Participate in corporate matching gift programs - Set up automatic payroll deductions - Organize workplace fundraisers - Ask about your company’s Corporate Social Responsibility initiatives ### Colorado Tax Refund Colorado residents can: - Donate all or part of your state tax refund to Hope’s Promise - Support our work through the Voluntary Contribution Program - Make a difference without spending “new” money ### Appreciated Securities Donating stocks, bonds, or mutual funds that have increased in value can provide a double tax benefit: - Avoid capital gains tax on the appreciation - Receive a charitable deduction for the full market value - Support children and families with a gift that may exceed what you could give in cash ### Qualified Charitable Distributions (QCDs) If you’re 70½ or older with an IRA: - Direct up to $100,000 annually from your IRA to Hope’s Promise - Satisfy your Required Minimum Distribution (RMD) - Exclude the distribution from your taxable income - Make a significant impact without affecting your cash flow ### Legacy Giving One of the simplest ways to leave a lasting legacy: - Include Hope’s Promise in your will or living trust - Designate a specific amount, a percentage of your estate, or remainder of your estate - Maintain control of your assets during your lifetime - Potentially reduce estate taxes - Ensure your values continue to support children finding loving families for generations ### Additional Legacy Giving Options Additional legacy giving options include: - Naming Hope’s Promise as a beneficiary of your retirement accounts or life insurance - Establishing a charitable gift annuity or charitable remainder trust - Creating a charitable lead trust ### In-Kind Donations Support our work with goods and services: - Professional expertise - Special event auction items - Event sponsorships - Needed supplies for families and programs - Contact us to discuss current needs ### Create Your Own Fundraiser Leverage your creativity and network: - Host a fundraising event - Launch a birthday or special occasion fundraiser - Organize a community challenge - Run, bike, or swim for Hope’s Promise ### Grocery Rewards Programs ### Safeway Community Giving Cards Turn your grocery shopping into support for children: - Use a Safeway [Community Giving Card](https://www.safeway.com/community-giving.html) when shopping - Safeway donates a percentage of your purchases to Hope’s Promise - Cost-free way to support our mission - Simple way to make a difference through routine activities ### Grocery Rewards Programs ### King Soopers Neighborhood Reward Program Support Hope’s Promise every time you shop for groceries: - Link your King Soopers loyalty card to Hope’s Promise - Shop as you normally would - King Soopers donates a percentage of your purchases to our programs - No additional cost to you - Your everyday shopping becomes a way to help children and families *Note: While this information is provided to help you consider your giving options, please consult with your financial advisor or tax professional for specific advice related to your situation.* Professional Memberships and Affiliations ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/CAFO_Icon_Gold.png) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_38.webp) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/NCAF-01-300x79-1.jpg) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_40.webp) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Adopt-Match-Approved-Partner.png) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_37.webp) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Christian-Childrens-Charities.png) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/CFC-seal.jpg) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/candid-seal-platinum-2025-150x150-1.png) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/soe-labels_ASSOCIATE-MEMBER-1-e1592929735533.png) --- ### [Family Champion](https://www.hopespromise.com/family-champion/) **Published:** April 12, 2025 **Author:** Louder Agency **Content:** ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/SoHo-brothers-1.jpg) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Family-Champion-2.jpg) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Family-Champion-3.jpg) MAKE A MONTHLY GIFT # Become a family champion and *transform* lives When you commit to monthly giving, you become more than a donor – you become a Family Champion. Your generosity helps provide children with what they need most: God’s love expressed through family. Your role goes beyond a single donation – you’re making a commitment to consistently uphold, advocate for, and speak up for children who deserve the security and love of family. [ Become A Family Champion ](https://form-renderer-app.donorperfect.io/give/hopes-promise/family-champions) Your consistent support creates lasting change ## When families thrive, society heals When you join our Family Champion monthly giving program, your recurring donation ensures children find stability in loving homes. ![Family Champion - 4](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Family-Champion-4.jpg "Family Champion - 4") ![Family Champion - 5](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Family-Champion-5.jpg "Family Champion - 5") ![Family Champion - 6](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Family-Champion-6.jpg "Family Champion - 6") ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")## Become a Family Champion and help us serve *families* in the US and around the world. Each contribution builds a foundation for vulnerable children to flourish-creating ripples of hope in Colorado and around the world. Your generosity today means brighter tomorrows for children who need it most. ![Global Orphan Care program](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Global-Orphan-Care-program.svg "Global Orphan Care program")**For as little as $25 a month**, you can help provide quality educational opportunities for a child, giving them access to books, school supplies, and learning resources they need to develop their potential and build a brighter future. ![life-changing options counseling](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/life-changing-options-counseling.svg "life-changing options counseling")**For as little as $50 a month**, you can provide life-changing options counseling for expectant parents facing difficult decisions, offering them compassionate guidance, accurate information, and emotional support when they need it most. [ Give Monthly ](https://form-renderer-app.donorperfect.io/give/hopes-promise/family-champions) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/family-champion-1.png) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Family-Champion-8.jpg) The Power of Monthly Giving ## As a Family Champion, your ongoing support allows Hope’s Promise to: ### Respond Quickly Your generous giving creates immediate stability for children at their most vulnerable moment-when they first enter our program and need safety, comfort, and reassurance. ### Plan Effectively Your faithful support empowers Hope’s Promise to address critical needs in our communities, providing essential resources that strengthen families in crisis before they reach a breaking point. ### Invest Strategically Your partnership fuels our growth, allowing us to reach more children who desperately need the love and stability only a family can provide. ### Build Sustainably Your consistent commitment strengthens our foundation, ensuring children receive continuous care throughout their entire journey with Hope’s Promise-from crisis to healing to thriving. [ Give Monthly ](https://form-renderer-app.donorperfect.io/give/hopes-promise/family-champions) Supporting Families around the world ## Your gifts in *action* Every day, your generosity transforms lives across the globe. From providing safe families for orphaned children in Africa and Asia to supporting foster and adoptive families in Colorado, your faithful giving creates ripples of hope that cross oceans and borders. When you partner with Hope’s Promise, you’re not just donating funds-you’re helping write new stories of healing, belonging, and potential for vulnerable children and families worldwide. - **Colorado, USA** - **Kenya** - **Zimbabwe** - **Vietnam** - **Nepal** Every Gift Makes a Difference Join us in making a difference today. No matter the size, your contribution helps transform lives and strengthen families in our community and globally. ![ellipse_light](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/ellipse_light.webp "ellipse_light") $50 Supplies a month of nutritious meals for a child in our Orphan Care program ![ellipse_light](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/ellipse_light.webp "ellipse_light") $100 Provide essential infant supplies for a new mother, including diapers, formula, and baby clothes ![ellipse_light](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/ellipse_light.webp "ellipse_light") $250 Equips a new foster family with training resources and ongoing support services ## Real stories of *impact* “Becoming a Family Champion was one of the best decisions we’ve made. Knowing our monthly gift helps provide stability for children who need it most gives us incredible joy.” The Johnson Family Family Champions since 2019 Professional Memberships and Affiliations ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/CAFO_Icon_Gold.png) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_38.webp) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/NCAF-01-300x79-1.jpg) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_40.webp) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Adopt-Match-Approved-Partner.png) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_37.webp) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Christian-Childrens-Charities.png) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/CFC-seal.jpg) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/candid-seal-platinum-2025-150x150-1.png) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/soe-labels_ASSOCIATE-MEMBER-1-e1592929735533.png) ![hopes_promise_bottle](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_bottle.webp "hopes_promise_bottle") Special Offer ## Get a free water bottle by joining the Family Champion progam Show off your support! Join our Family Champion program at Hope’s Promise and receive a FREE water bottle as our thank-you gift. As a Family Champion, you’ll support vital programs that help families thrive while enjoying updates on the impact of your generosity. Sign up today to get your bottle and become part of our mission to create stronger families and brighter futures. Become a Family Champion ## Don’t miss this opportunity to join our efforts as a Family Champion Join us in making a lasting difference in the lives of children and families in Colorado and around the world. As a Family Champion, you’ll be part of a dedicated network of monthly givers who advocate to strengthen families, provide essential resources, and create pathways to success for children. [ Become a Family Champion ](https://form-renderer-app.donorperfect.io/give/hopes-promise/family-champions) --- ### [Facts & Statistics](https://www.hopespromise.com/foster-care/facts-and-statistics/) **Published:** May 8, 2025 **Author:** Louder Agency **Content:** ![Facts & Statistics - 1](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Facts-Statistics-1.jpg "Facts & Statistics - 1") Foster Care Statistics # Foster care facts and *statistics*. Behind every statistic in foster care is a child with dreams, fears, and infinite potential. While the numbers below reflect a system in crisis, they also represent thousands of opportunities for caring adults to step forward and make a profound difference. ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")Foster Care (also known as out-of-home care) is a temporary service provided by states for children who cannot live with their families. Children in foster care may live with relatives or with unrelated foster parents. Foster care can also refer to placement settings such as group homes, residential care facilities, emergency shelters, and supervised independent living. In 2024 there were over **118,362** referrals made to child welfare agencies in Colorado. More than **3,655,730** were made throughout the United States in 2023. According to the [most recent federal data](https://acf.gov/archive/media/press/2024/new-data-shows-consistent-decrease-children-foster-care), there are currently more than **368,000** children in foster care in the United States. The most common reasons for entering foster care include: - Neglect 62% - Parental Substance Use 38% - Physical Abuse 13% 46% of foster care placements end with reunification and 27% end with adoption. The Crisis ## Too many children in Colorado don’t have a safe place to call *home*. In July of 2020 there were 4,502 children in out-of-home care in Colorado and only 2,372 certified foster or kinship families. ![ellipse](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/ellipse.png "ellipse") 4,502 Children in Foster Care ## and only ![ellipse](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/ellipse.png "ellipse") 2,372 Certified Foster Homes In 2023, there were 15,590 young adults across the country that left the child welfare system due to aging out. A survey done by the National Youth Advocate Program showed more than 1/3 of foster youth who leave the system in Colorado are homeless by age 21. ## In 2022, the *average age* of a child in foster care was 8. More than half were under 10 years old and 27% were teenagers. 18,534 kids aged out of the foster care system The average youth in foster care spent nearly 2 years in the system. Approximately 13% of children in foster care spent 3-4 years in the system. 7% spent 5 or more years in foster care. More than 64,560 children nationally, whose mothers’ and fathers’ parental rights had been legally terminated, were waiting to be adopted. ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Facts-Statistics-2.jpg) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Facts-Statistics-3.jpg) Get Started ## Join One of Our Foster Care Info Sessions Join one of our info session to get answers, hear real stories, and explore how you can make a difference in a child’s life. [ Attend an Info Session ](https://www.hopespromise.com/foster-care/info-sessions/) --- ### [Community Partnerships](https://www.hopespromise.com/community-partnerships/) **Published:** May 16, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** ![community partnerships (1)](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/community-partnerships-1.png "community partnerships (1)") Community Partnerships # You are invited to be a *commmunity* partner. Hope’s Promise offers many Community Partnership opportunities for individuals, businesses, and organizations with a heart for children who are dear to God’s heart. [ Download Info Packet ](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Community-Partner-handout.pdf) [ Connect with Our Team ](https://www.hopespromise.com/contact/) ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")## Come alongside us and *partner* with us and our mission. Hope’s Promise believes God designed families as the best place for children to grow and thrive. We are working around the world to strengthen families through ethical, Christ-centered foster care, adoption, and global orphan care. Our adoption and foster care programs serve children and families in Colorado and our global orphan care programs serve in Kenya, Nepal, Vietnam, and Zimbabwe. ## Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. ## Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 (NIV) ## Partner With Us ## Ways you can *partner* with Hope’s Promise We would not be able to impact children and families around the world without churches coming alongside us. ![Act](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Act.svg "Act")### Act - Design a service project to benefit children and families of Hope’s Promise - Give financially through event sponsorships or make a recurring donation ![Connect](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Connect.svg "Connect")### Connect - Talk to a Hope’s Promise U.S. or international staff person - Attend our fundraising events - Attend our monthly information meetings or support groups - Go on a Connection Trip to see our orphan care programs in person in Kenya, Nepal, Vietnam, or Zimbabwe. ![Learn](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Learn.svg "Learn")### Learn - Receive a monthly ministry and prayer update designed for church partners - Visit our website and watch videos about foster care, adoption, and global orphan care ## Program-specific opportunities ### Foster Care - Support a local foster family by providing help with laundry, transportation, or babysitting - Serve at a Hope’s Promise quarterly foster family events by running kids crafts, games, or providing food or gifts - Help stock the Hope’s Promise foster family meal freezer (25-30 frozen meals and frozen cookie dough needed quarterly) ### Adoption - Provide a meal for our monthly birth mother support group (third Thursday of the month) - Help plan our annual event: Birth Mother Coffee & Connection - Donate items for birth mom hospital baskets - Donate a grocery store gift card for moms in need ### Orphan Care - Go on a connection team trip to Kenya, Nepal, Vietnam, or Zimbabwe and see our Orphan Care programs first-hand - Write letters of encouragement to international caregivers in Kenya, Zimbabwe, Nepal, or Vietnam - Host a supply drive for an upcoming Connection Team Trip - Join our monthly prayer group Community Partnerships ## Reach out to our staff to find out how to be a partner Hope’s Promise offers many partnership opportunities for community partners with a heart for children who are dear to God’s heart. Get involved now! [ Become a Partner ](https://www.hopespromise.com/contact/) --- ### [Thank You - Request Info](https://www.hopespromise.com/pregnancy-support-counseling/request-info/thank-you/) **Published:** May 6, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")# Thank You Thank you for contacting us. One of our team members will respond to your shortly to answer your questions. In the meantime download our free information packet below. [ Download Information Packet ](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Birth-Family-Info-Packet.pdf) --- ### [Request Free Information](https://www.hopespromise.com/pregnancy-support-counseling/request-info/) **Published:** May 6, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")# Request Free Information If you are pregnant and considering adoption fill out the form below and we’ll answer any questions you may have. Your free information packet will also be available to download upon submission of the form. "\*" indicates required fields Name\* First Last PhoneEmail\* Due DateAgeNearest Location\*Denver Metro and Northern ColoradoGrand Junction and Western SlopeColorado Springs, Pueblo and Southeastern ColoradoPreferred Method of Contact Text Phone Call Email Leave a Voicemail No Preference How did you hear about us?\*Doctor/HospitalFamily/FriendCrisis Pregnancy CenterInternet SearchOtherMessage Submit Δ --- ### [Church Partnerships](https://www.hopespromise.com/church-partnerships/) **Published:** May 14, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** ![Church partnerships (1)](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Church-partnerships-1.png "Church partnerships (1)") Church Partnerships # You are invited to be a *church* partner. We invite you to partner with us to equip and empower your church community to fulfill the biblical mandate to care for orphaned and vulnerable children. [ Download Info Packet ](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/church-partner-2.pdf) [ Connect with Our Team ](https://www.hopespromise.com/contact/) ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")## Come alongside us and *partner* with us and our mission. Hope’s Promise believes God designed families as the best place for children to grow and thrive. We are working around the world to strengthen families through ethical, Christ-centered foster care, adoption, and global orphan care. Our adoption and foster care programs serve children and families in Colorado and our global orphan care programs are in Kenya, Nepal, Vietnam, and Zimbabwe . ## Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. ## Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 (NIV) ## Partner With Us ## Ways you can *partner* with Hope’s Promise We would not be able to impact children and families around the world without churches coming alongside us and partnering with us and our mission. ![Act](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Act.svg "Act")### Act - Design a service project to benefit children and families of Hope’s Promise - Give financially through event sponsorships or make a recurring donation ![Connect](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Connect.svg "Connect")### Connect - Talk to a Hope’s Promise U.S. or international staff person - Attend our fundraising events - Attend our monthly information meetings or support groups - Go on a Connection Trip to see our orphan care programs in person in Kenya, Nepal, Vietnam, or Zimbabwe. ![Learn](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Learn.svg "Learn")### Learn - Receive a monthly ministry and prayer update designed for church partners - Visit our website and watch videos about foster care, adoption, and global orphan care Church Partnerships ## Reach out to our staff to find out how to be a partner Hope’s Promise offers many partnership opportunities for churches with a heart for children who are dear to God’s heart. Get involved now! [ Become a Partner ](https://www.hopespromise.com/contact/) --- ### [Foster to Adopt](https://www.hopespromise.com/foster-care/foster-to-adopt/) **Published:** May 8, 2025 **Author:** Louder Agency **Content:** Foster to Adopt in Coloraod # Foster to adopt: building *forever* families Did you know there are currently over 400 children and teens in Colorado who are waiting for an adoptive family? [ Attend an Info Session ](https://www.hopespromise.com/foster-care/info-sessions/) [ Request Info ](https://www.hopespromise.com/contact-us/) ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")## Creating connections that last a *lifetime*. Every child deserves the stability and love of a permanent family. While many families begin their adoption journey dreaming of infants, hundreds of wonderful children of all ages are waiting for someone to call “family.” The average age of these waiting children is 13 years old. ### Who are the children waiting? These children and teens have often experienced difficult circumstances, including trauma from abuse or neglect. Yet with the right family support, consistent love, and access to resources, they can heal, thrive, and reach their full potential. The most successful adoptive families approach parenting with: - Flexibility and patience - Willingness to learn specialized parenting techniques - Openness to ongoing education and support - Understanding of trauma-informed care ![hopes_promise_5](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_5.webp "hopes_promise_5") Colorado Children in Foster Care ## Meet Colorado’s waiting children Put faces to these statistics by visiting: - [The Colorado Heart Gallery](https://www.coheartgallery.org/) – Browse photos and stories of children waiting for families - [Raise the Future](https://www.raisethefuture.org/) – Find answers to frequently asked questions and learn about additional waiting children ## The foster to adopt process To adopt through the foster care system in Colorado, you’ll first become certified as a foster parent. This process includes: 1 ### Initial Requirements - Be at least 21 years old - Pass comprehensive background checks - Complete a home study assessment 2 ### Education and Training - Complete 27 hours of specialized pre-service training - Obtain CPR and first aid certification - Participate in ongoing education opportunities 3 ### Matching and Placement - Work with agencies to identify potential matches - Begin visitation and relationship building - Move toward placement and eventual adoption [ Steps to Become a Foster Parent ](https://www.hopespromise.com/foster-care/steps-to-becoming-a-foster-parent/) OUR MISSION PRE-HEADER ## How Hope’s Promise can help If you’ve identified a waiting child or teen you would like to adopt, Hope’s Promise provides comprehensive support throughout your journey: Complete home study services Foster care certification assistance Ongoing education and resources Support through the adoption process and beyond **Who can foster to adopt?** We welcome diverse families, including: singles or couples; no family size restrictions; no infertility requirements. Previous experience in caring for youth with unique needs is required. Additional state requirements also apply. ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_17.webp) ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_16.webp)## Take your *next* step. ![hopes_promise_icon_4](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_icon_4.webp "hopes_promise_icon_4")### Attend an info session Ipsum quis auctor cubilia ac element litora dis sed odio sceleris ultrices. [ Learn More ](https://www.hopespromise.com/foster-care/info-sessions/) ![hopes_promise_icon_3](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/hopes_promise_icon_3.webp "hopes_promise_icon_3")### [ Meet waiting children ](https://www.coheartgallery.org/ "Meet waiting children") Ipsum quis auctor cubilia ac element litora dis sed odio sceleris ultrices. [ Learn More ](https://www.hopespromise.com/meet-families/) --- ### [Terms and Conditions](https://www.hopespromise.com/terms-conditions/) **Published:** January 27, 2024 **Author:** Andrew Dodson **Content:** ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")# Terms and Conditions By visiting hopespromise.com, you accept and agree with the terms and conditions set forth in this notice. Any references to Hopes Promise (HP) in this document also applies to HP. **Personal Information** Hopes Promise respects your privacy. Our website may log IP addresses and browser types, but we do not link those IP addresses to any personal information. This means that a user’s session may be tracked but their identity remains anonymous. You can freely browse the HP website without entering any personal information and, therefore, remain anonymous during your visit. However, some areas of our website may collect personal information when joining the email list and/or donating to HP. Information obtained will be used for purposes related to the mission and vision of HP. **Secure Information** Credit card information will be processed through DonorPerfect payments services. This service operates on a secure PCI compliant server and complies with credit card regulations for real-time credit card processing. **General Disclaimer** This website is provided by HP on an “as is” and “as available” basis. HP does not make representations or warranties of any kind, expressed or implied, as to the operation of this site or the information, content, or materials included on this site. To the full extent permissible by applicable law, HP disclaims all warranties, express or implied, including but not limited to, implied warranties of merchantability and fitness for a particular purpose. You expressly agree that your use of this site is at your sole risk. 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For permission, you may contact us. **Policy Changes** HP reserves the right to make changes to our site, policies, and these terms and conditions at any time. --- ### [Talk to a Counselor](https://www.hopespromise.com/pregnancy-support-counseling/contact/) **Published:** May 6, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")# Talk to a Counselor Please fill out the form below to speak to one of our counselors. For immediate assistance you can also call, text, or email at: Phone: [(303) 660-0277]() | Text: [(303) 596-7268]() Email Us: "\*" indicates required fields Name\* First Last Email\* PhoneHow can we help?EmailThis field is for validation purposes and should be left unchanged. Submit Δ --- ### [Privacy Policy](https://www.hopespromise.com/privacy-policy/) **Published:** March 3, 2023 **Author:** Andrew Dodson **Content:** ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")# Privacy Policy Hopes Promise (HP) has created this Privacy Policy to explain why we collect certain information and how we will protect your personal privacy within our Web site. The following discloses our information gathering and dissemination practices for the Web site located at the URL hopespromise.com. To fully understand your rights, we ask that you read this Privacy Policy as well as our Terms of Use. HP reserves the right at any time and without notice to change this Privacy Policy simply by posting such changes on our Site. Any such change will be effective immediately upon posting. **Because we want to demonstrate our commitment to your privacy, this Privacy Policy notifies you of:** 1. What personally identifiable information we collect through the Site; 2. Who collects such information; 3. How the information is used; 4. With whom your information may be shared; 5. What choices you have regarding collection, use, and distribution of your information. All questions regarding this statement should be directed to HP. **What Information We Collect and How We Use That Information:** Our registration forms require users to give us contact information that may include first and last name, e-mail address, address, phone number, and similar information. We do not store sensitive information from our visitors, such as credit card or social security numbers. **Internet Protocol (IP) Address:** We collect an IP address from all visitors to our Site. An IP address is a number that is automatically assigned to your computer when you use the Internet. 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Please read the privacy statements on all such sites, as their policies may be different from ours. **Contacting the Web Site:** If you have any questions about this Privacy Policy, the practices of this website, or your dealings with HP, you can contact us. **Blog Subscription** Sign up to be notified about new blog posts by email.Name Email\* --- ### [Thank You - Contact](https://www.hopespromise.com/contact/thank-you/) **Published:** May 6, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")# Thank You Thank you for contacting us. One of our team members will respond to you shortly. --- ### [Thank You - Talk to a Counselor](https://www.hopespromise.com/pregnancy-support-counseling/contact/thank-you/) **Published:** May 6, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** ![badge](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/badge.png "badge")# Thank You Thank you for contacting Hope’s Promise. We understand that reaching out takes courage, and we want you to know that you’re not alone. A compassionate counselor from our team will be in touch with you very soon to discuss how we can support you. We’re here to listen without judgment and provide the resources you need. If you need immediate assistance before we connect, please text our 24/7 support line at [303-596-7268](tel:303-596-7268). --- ### [Test Page](https://www.hopespromise.com/test-page/) **Published:** April 27, 2025 **Author:** Louder Agency --- ## Families ### [Anthony & Anne-Margaret](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/meet-families/anthony-anne-margaret/) **Published:** May 16, 2025 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Content:** Hello! First off, we just want to express our sincere respect and heart-felt gratitude to you for making the courageous commitment to have this baby. By giving the gift of life to this child, you are also making someone’s dream of becoming a family come true. There is only so much we can control in this life, but it is what we do in the face of the unexpected that speaks volumes about who we are. So, thank you for making this choice, and we hope to get to meet you. We are a couple who truly love life and are best friends. After 16 years of marriage, our relationship is incredibly strong and we are so ready to become parents! As partners in life and business, we have each experienced pretty significant struggles, but embrace every challenge as an opportunity to grow and deepen our love and trust in God. With every unexpected twist and turn, we firmly believe that if we can look deeply enough, there is always a blessing. As Anne-Margaret’s brother, niece and cousin are all adopted, it has always been in our hearts to adopt at least one of our children. Rather than get discouraged when we faced infertility, we shifted our focus to building our business and cultivating a diverse community of chosen family. We have always shared a deep knowing that we would be parents together and were encouraged by our friends and family to stay strong and keep the faith. Time and time again we would hear: *“You two are going to make incredible parents!”* And after years of being unsuccessful with getting pregnant, we knew it was time to start our family through adoption. Although we will never experience pregnancy, we can only imagine what a time of change this is for you. Our desire with this video is for you to get to know us and receive the assurance that this baby will be loved, accepted and nurtured into his/her most beautiful self! We are all here on this planet for a reason. As parents, we believe it is our purpose to support our children with a strong foundation so they feel the confidence and love they need to succeed on whatever path they choose. With Gratitude, --- ### [Travis & Rachel](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/meet-families/travis-rachel/) **Published:** May 16, 2025 **Author:** Kaye Ferguson **Content:** Hello, We are sure that right now you have a lot of emotions going on and are not quite sure how to feel. We want you to know that we cannot even imagine the thoughts and feelings that are going on in your mind and heart. We know we have never met you, but we pray for you and the baby every day. Our names are Travis and Rachel and we have been married for almost 10 years. Travis is a chef and in the Air Force Reserves. In his family he grew up in, he has a sister and both his parents. Travis loves sports, outdoor activities, and wood working. Rachel is a wedding planner at a venue in the mountains. Rachel grew up as an only child with both of her parents. Rachel loves outdoor activities, gardening, cooking, and reading. We have a lot of fun together doing all these activities together. Rachel grew up as a Colorado Native and briefly moved to Kansas, where she met Travis. After falling in love and getting engaged, on a vacation in the Colorado mountains, we moved back to Colorado from Kansas. We have both been blessed to have 100% support and excitement for our adoption journey. Our family and friends are so excited for us to welcome a child into our family. Both of our families are going to be very involved with the day care plans we have. Although Rachel hopes to stay home for some time while the child is young, both our moms are willing to drop everything to come help care for the child. We also know that this child is going to be so spoiled and fawned over! No one can wait for there to be a little one in our home! We have learned so much about the benefit of the child knowing their birth family and we hope to keep an open and healthy level of communication throughout the child’s life. They can only be blessed by more love! We continue to think about and pray for you daily. --- ### [Charlie & Erica](https://www.hopespromise.com/blog/meet-families/charlie-erica/) **Published:** August 25, 2025 **Author:** Kaye Ferguson **Content:** ![](https://www.hopespromise.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/image-888x1024.png "image | Hope's Promise") --- ## Venues ### [Journey Church](https://www.hopespromise.com/venue/journey-church/) **Published:** November 19, 2025 **Author:** Stephanie Krug --- ### [Hope's Promise](https://www.hopespromise.com/venue/hopes-promise/) **Published:** November 19, 2025 **Author:** Stephanie Krug --- ### [Philip S. Miller Park](https://www.hopespromise.com/venue/philip-s-miller-park/) **Published:** November 4, 2025 **Author:** Stephanie Krug --- ### [Ferguson Appliance Showroom](https://www.hopespromise.com/venue/ferguson-appliance-showroom/) **Published:** August 12, 2025 **Author:** Stephanie Krug --- ### [Virtual](https://www.hopespromise.com/venue/virtual/) **Published:** June 4, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman --- ### [In person - TBD](https://www.hopespromise.com/venue/in-person-tbd/) **Published:** May 13, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman --- ### [Arrowhead Golf Course](https://www.hopespromise.com/venue/arrowhead-golf-course/) **Published:** May 13, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman --- ### [Picnic at the Park](https://www.hopespromise.com/venue/picnic-at-the-park/) **Published:** May 13, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman --- ### [KidzGym Parker](https://www.hopespromise.com/venue/kidzgym-parker/) **Published:** April 9, 2026 **Author:** Stephanie Krug --- ### [Holy Name Catholic Parish](https://www.hopespromise.com/venue/holy-name-catholic-parish/) **Published:** June 17, 2026 **Author:** Stephanie Krug --- ## Organizers ### [Chris Thurman](https://www.hopespromise.com/organizer/chris-thurman/) **Published:** May 28, 2025 **Author:** Andrew Dodson --- ## Events ### [Hope's Promise Food Festival](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/hopes-promise-food-festival/) **Published:** August 12, 2025 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Content:** Join us for an evening of food from some of Colorado’s top restaurants, beverages that will make your tastebuds sing, and a silent auction that will knock your socks off. All proceeds directly benefit our three, life-changing programs: foster care, adoption, and global orphan care. --- ### [Step Up for Foster Kids](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/step-up-for-foster-kids/) **Published:** November 4, 2025 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Content:** [Hope’s Promise](http://www.hopespromise.com) and [UMPS Care](https://umpscare.com/) present **Step Up for Foster Kids**! Take on an exhilarating family-friendly climb while making a real difference for children in foster care. Every step you take helps create awareness of the healing that happens when foster youth are given the opportunity to grow up in a safe and stable family and the ability to pursue college to build a brighter future. - Show up any time between 9 am and 11 am - Check in with Hope’s Promise and UMPS Care at the bottom of the incline - Step Up for Foster Kids by making the climb up the incline - Help create awareness by sharing with others Get a little pre-Thanksgiving calorie burn for a great cause! Help us know how many people to expect by registering for the event! --- ### [Hope's Promise Family Picnic](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/hopes-promise-family-picnic-2/) **Published:** July 8, 2026 **Author:** Stephanie Krug --- ### [Foster & Adoptive Parent Support Group](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/foster-adoptive-parent-support-group-2-2/2026-07-06/) **Published:** July 6, 2026 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** Please click the link below for more information or to register for this FREE event: **Event Categories:** Foster and Adoptive Parent Support Group --- ### [Gospel of Life Workshop](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/gospel-of-life-workshop/) **Published:** June 17, 2026 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Content:** Presented by Catholic Charities Archdiocese of Denver, with Hope’s Promise and Springs of Love. Join us for an inspiring and informative evening rooted in the Gospel of Life, including dynamic conversations about the Colorado foster care system. You don’t want to miss this event! Register [***HERE.***](https://forms.cloud.microsoft/Pages/ResponsePage.aspx?id=uEIYyj91C0iveAoNuR3dVL9hEJ4kf1NCkdfKSGgOpvtUMzNWQTRRWlhFN1ZNQTRQRU8yODEySVlINC4u) --- ### [KidzGym Play Day](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/kidzgym-play-day/) **Published:** April 9, 2026 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Content:** Get ready to move and groove! 🎉 All HP foster families are invited to bring their kids — foster and biological — dressed in their favorite athleisure fits for a FREE-for-all open play bash at Kidz Gym in Parker! Don’t forget to work up an appetite — a food truck will be there too! **Event Categories:** Foster and Adoptive Family Event --- ### [Hope's Promise Golf Tournament](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/hopes-promise-golf-tournament/) **Published:** May 13, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** We are so excited about the 2026 Hope’s Promise Golf Tournament sponsored by Plum Creek Church. We’ve got some exciting things in store for you. Bring your family, friends, coworkers, neighbors!! Come **golf *fore* good** with us and support our three life-changing programs: foster care, adoption, and global orphan care! **Event Categories:** Fundraiser --- ### [Foster & Adoptive Parent Support Group](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/foster-adoptive-parent-support-group-2/2025-12-01/) **Published:** October 29, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** Please click the link below for more information or to register for this FREE event: **Event Categories:** Foster and Adoptive Parent Support Group --- ### [Core Training Series: Foster Care & Adoption VIRTUAL #2](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/core-training-series-foster-care-adoption-virtual-2/2026-02-11/) **Published:** November 19, 2025 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Event Categories:** Core Training Series --- ### [Reindeer Games: Foster Family Christmas Party](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/reindeer-games-for-foster-families/) **Published:** December 3, 2025 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Content:** Dash on over for an afternoon of festive fun, laughter, and holiday cheer! We’ll have games, treats, and plenty of jolly activities to celebrate the season together. Whether you’re as competitive as Rudolph or as playful as Prancer, there’s something for everyone. Bring your whole herd and let’s make some merry memories together. --- ### [Core Training Series: Foster Care Fundamentals](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/core-training-series-foster-care-fundamentals/2026-01-23/) **Published:** November 19, 2025 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Event Categories:** Core Training Series --- ### [Adoption Training for Professionals](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/adoption-training-for-professionals-2/2026-01-22/) **Published:** November 11, 2025 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Content:** This is a training for professionals who interact with women experiencing a crisis or unintended pregnancy. We discuss the history of adoption, current adoption practices, adoption laws, open adoption, and options counseling for expectant women. **Event Categories:** Adoption Training for Professionals --- ### [Core Training Series: Foster Care VIRTUAL #4](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/core-training-series-foster-care-virtual-4/2026-02-25/) **Published:** November 20, 2025 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Event Categories:** Core Training Series --- ### [Core Training Series: Foster Care & Adoption VIRTUAL #3](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/core-training-series-foster-care-adoption-virtual-3/2026-02-18/) **Published:** November 20, 2025 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Event Categories:** Core Training Series --- ### [Core Training Series: Foster Care & Adoption VIRTUAL #1](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/core-training-series-foster-care-adoption-virtual-1-2/2026-02-04/) **Published:** November 19, 2025 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Event Categories:** Core Training Series --- ### [Core Training Series: Foster Care & Adoption Foundations](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/core-training-series-foster-care-adoption-foundations/2026-01-30/) **Published:** November 19, 2025 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Event Categories:** Core Training Series --- ### [Foster & Adoptive Parent Support Group](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/foster-adoptive-parent-support-group/2025-07-07/) **Published:** June 4, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** Please click the link below for more information or to register for this FREE event: **Event Categories:** Foster and Adoptive Parent Support Group --- ### [Foster Care Information Meeting](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/foster-care-information-meeting-november-2025/2025-11-17/) **Published:** June 26, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** Join us via Zoom for an information meeting to learn more about the foster care system, explore if foster care is right for you, and get your questions answered. No commitment is required if you attend. Registration is required. The Zoom login information will be emailed to participants on the morning of the scheduled presentation. Please call [(303) 660-0277]() for more information. **Event Categories:** Foster Care Information Meeting, Information Meetings, Virtual Experience --- ### [Adoption Information Meeting](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/adoption-information-meeting-4-2/) **Published:** October 29, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** Join us via Zoom for an information meeting to learn more about our adoption programs. Registration is required. The Zoom login and materials will be emailed to participants the day before the scheduled presentation. Please call [(303) 660-0277]() for more information. **Event Categories:** Adoption Information Meeting, Information Meetings, Virtual Experience --- ### [Birth Mother Support Group](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/birth-mother-support-group/2025-12-18/) **Published:** May 13, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** Please email for more information. **Event Categories:** Birth Mother Support Group --- ### [Adoption Information Meeting](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/adoption-information-meeting/2025-11-06/) **Published:** October 7, 2025 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Content:** Join us via Zoom for an information meeting to learn more about our adoption programs. Registration is required. The Zoom login and materials will be emailed to participants the day before the scheduled presentation. Please call [(303) 660-0277]() for more information. **Event Categories:** Adoption Information Meeting, Information Meetings, Virtual Experience --- ### [Adoption Information Meeting](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/adoption-information-meeting-4/) **Published:** June 4, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** Join us via Zoom for an information meeting to learn more about our adoption programs. Registration is required. The Zoom login and materials will be emailed to participants the day before the scheduled presentation. Please call [(303) 660-0277]() for more information. **Event Categories:** Adoption Information Meeting, Information Meetings, Virtual Experience --- ### [Foster Care Core Training- Fall 2025](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/foster-care-core-training-fall-2025/) **Published:** May 13, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** Thank you for your interest in the Foster Care Core Training. The training schedule is as follows: - Foster Care Core Training (in person): Sep. 12, 1pm to 5 pm - Foundations Core Training (in person): Sep. 19th, 8 am to 5 pm - Zoom Session 1: Sep 24, 6 pm to 8:30 pm - Zoom Session 2: Oct. 1, 6 pm to 8:30 pm - Zoom Session 3: Oct. 8, 6 pm to 8:30 pm - Zoom Session 4: Oct 15, 6 pm to 8:30 pm Please register by emailing [Sara@hopespromise.com.](mailto:Sara@hopespromise.com) **Event Categories:** Foster and Adoptive Parent Support Group, Training --- ### [Adoption Core Training- Fall 2025](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/adoption-core-training-fall-2025-2/) **Published:** September 10, 2025 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Content:** Thank you for your interest in the Adoption Core Training. The training schedule is as follows: - Foundations Core Training (in person): Sep. 19th, 8 am to 5 pm - Zoom Session 1: Sep 24, 6 pm to 8:30 pm - Zoom Session 2: Oct. 1, 6 pm to 8:30 pm - Zoom Session 3: Oct. 8, 6 pm to 8:30 pm Please register by emailing [Sara@hopespromise.com.](mailto:Sara@hopespromise.com) **Event Categories:** Foster and Adoptive Parent Support Group, Training --- ### [Kenya Connection Trip](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/kenya-connection-trip-2/) **Published:** August 19, 2025 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Content:** Please email for more information. **Event Categories:** Connection Trips --- ### [Zimbabwe Connection Trip](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/zimbabwe-connection-trip/) **Published:** August 19, 2025 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Content:** Please email for more information. **Event Categories:** Connection Trips --- ### [Hope's Promise Family Picnic](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/hopes-promise-family-picnic/) **Published:** July 3, 2025 **Author:** Stephanie Krug **Content:** Join us for a day of fun, food, and connection as we celebrate our amazing community of adoptive families, foster families, and family champions. Please register using the following steps: - Click the “Register Now” button below. - Click the date “August 16th” on the calendar. - Click on the “11:00” Start time. - Click “Next”. - Add the details of your Family. - Click “Schedule Event” again to complete your registration. **Event Categories:** Family Picnic --- ### [Adoption Information Meeting](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/adoption-information-meeting-2025-07-10/) **Published:** June 4, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** Join us via Zoom for an information meeting to learn more about our adoption programs. Registration is required. The Zoom login and materials will be emailed to participants the day before the scheduled presentation. Please call [(303) 660-0277]() for more information. **Event Categories:** Adoption Information Meeting, Virtual Experience --- ### [Vietnam Connection Trip](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/vietnam-connection-trip/) **Published:** June 19, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** Please email for more information. **Event Categories:** Connection Trips --- ### [Kenya Connection Trip](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/kenya-connection-trip/) **Published:** June 19, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** Please email for more information. **Event Categories:** Connection Trips --- ### [Foster Care Information Meeting](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/foster-care-information-meeting/) **Published:** June 4, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** Join us via Zoom for an information meeting to learn more about the foster care system, explore if foster care is right for you, and get your questions answered. No commitment is required if you attend. Registration is required. The Zoom login information will be emailed to participants on the morning of the scheduled presentation. Please call [(303) 660-0277]() for more information. **Event Categories:** Foster Care Information Meeting, Information Meetings, Virtual Experience --- ### [Adoption Information Meeting](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/adoption-information-meeting-2/) **Published:** June 4, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** Join us via Zoom for an information meeting to learn more about our adoption programs. Registration is required. The Zoom login and materials will be emailed to participants the day before the scheduled presentation. Please call [(303) 660-0277]() for more information. **Event Categories:** Adoption Information Meeting, Information Meetings, Virtual Experience --- ### [Foster Care Information Meeting](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/foster-care-information-meeting-2/) **Published:** June 4, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** Join us via Zoom for an information meeting to learn more about the foster care system, explore if foster care is right for you, and get your questions answered. No commitment is required if you attend. Registration is required. The Zoom login information will be emailed to participants on the morning of the scheduled presentation. Please call [(303) 660-0277]() for more information. **Event Categories:** Foster Care Information Meeting, Information Meetings, Virtual Experience --- ### [Adoption Information Meeting](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/adoption-information-meeting-3/) **Published:** June 4, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** Join us via Zoom for an information meeting to learn more about our adoption programs. Registration is required. The Zoom login and materials will be emailed to participants the day before the scheduled presentation. Please call [(303) 660-0277]() for more information. **Event Categories:** Adoption Information Meeting, Information Meetings, Virtual Experience --- ### [Foster Care Information Meeting](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/foster-care-information-meeting-3/) **Published:** June 4, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** Join us via Zoom for an information meeting to learn more about the foster care system, explore if foster care is right for you, and get your questions answered. No commitment is required if you attend. Registration is required. The Zoom login information will be emailed to participants on the morning of the scheduled presentation. Please call [(303) 660-0277]() for more information. **Event Categories:** Foster Care Information Meeting, Information Meetings, Virtual Experience --- ### [Foster Care Information Meeting](https://www.hopespromise.com/event/foster-care-information-meeting-4/) **Published:** June 4, 2025 **Author:** Kristen Thurman **Content:** Join us via Zoom for an information meeting to learn more about the foster care system, explore if foster care is right for you, and get your questions answered. No commitment is required if you attend. Registration is required. The Zoom login information will be emailed to participants on the morning of the scheduled presentation. 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